Is there anyone here like me?

[glmogo]

I'm 24 years old and I'm a pretty typical masculine guy, although I've had bisexual fantasies for many years. Anyways, just recently within the past few months or so I've been turned onto the world of femdom, feminization, cuckold, and humiliation porn, and now I can't get enough of it. I've tried wearing panties and I absolutely love it. I told my girlfriend that I have a fantasy of dressing up as a woman and she's surprisingly okay with it. My question is, is this unusual? From my understanding it seems most of you have felt the urge to dress your entire lives. Is there anyone out there like me, where it developed later in life? If so, did it stay as a sort of recreational sexual activity? Or develop into something more?

[docrobbysherry]

Ha ha! Sorry, Glmogo! I'm chuckling about your, "--started dressing late in life", remark! I think your perception may be clouded by your advanced age!

To answer your questions: I started dressing at 50+. It was a BIG sexual turn on for me then. 15+ years later, it may or may not be moving on to something else. But, it's STILL a turn on!

Try not to confuse these things in your mind: Your gender. Fetishes. And, your sexual orientation! They r actually different things. Some folks try to mix them together!

[JenniferR771]

You...are absolutely normal. And lucky to have a appreciative girlfriend. Now don't freak her out by going overboard. Crossdressers tend to escalate...and that scares their partners.

[Lorileah]

At 24 everything is a turn on :) But you are not usual at all. Part of trying to figure out who you are and "what" you are involves certain fantasies, especially for this "hobby". Some are just fetishes, some are an attempt to reconcile the need (the Force me part takes the pressure off of you while you enjoy the clothing because you didn't have a choice). Whatever it is just enjoy it. It isn't bad or wrong. It may not develop any further, it may change to something different (spider man outfits?), it may just go away.

I would guess many on here went through similar phases, especially the older members who were told it HAD to be a perversion and then tried to live out the perversion that they thought was supposed to go with the dressing.

Personally I know I did. (a little bit is still there :))

[Millie]

Hi glmogo
I've been bisexual all my life and have cross dressing for as long as I can remember. I've only recently told others about my crossdressing and surprisingly its been accepted. The bisexual thingy is still my little secret. Don't know if my SO and others are ready for that, especially my children. I have always been facsinated about wearing women's clothing and felt nothing is wrong with doing so. There are plenty of women who wear men's clothing so what's wrong with men wearing women's clothing. If it makes you feel good do it. Love Millie

[Karren H]

Nobody is exactly like anyone else though we like to wear the same type of clothes..

[GeGe]

Hi glmogo
I've been bisexual all my life and have cross dressing for as long as I can remember. I've only recently told others about my crossdressing and surprisingly its been accepted. The bisexual thingy is still my little secret. Don't know if my SO and others are ready for that, especially my children. I have always been facsinated about wearing women's clothing and felt nothing is wrong with doing so. There are plenty of women who wear men's clothing so what's wrong with men wearing women's clothing. If it makes you feel good do it. Love Millie I culdent agree more thanks for saying that.

[Alice B]

I did not start until I was 64. Sure it is sexual at first, but you out grow that once you accept your need to dress. If your SO is OK with your wanting to dress I can only say go for it and have an open discussion with her. It is the only way to go.

[CamilleLeon]

I felt gender confused for most of growing up, but I did very little crossdressing until college. Sounds like I'm different than you, but welcome to the terrible addictive world of crossdressing

[Vickie_CDTV]

Among crossdressers, yes literally you are normal. Being forced to dress by a dominant GG is a very common fantasy among dressers; as I mentioned in another post, TV fiction involving being forced to dress by a GG (and possibly do other things from the common to the extreme) goes back to at least the 1950s. For some the fantasy goes away, for some it is lifelong.

[Ari333]

the only thing unusual dear is that you admit these urges and act on them. suppressing them would only complicate things, but most masculine guys do just that and suffer the consequences of going completely in the other direction, and end up doing crazy things. yes, I've been there & done that, although I was never overly masculine. from what you relate, your crossdressing may be purely sexual, and thats ok too. my crossdressing started WAY before puberty, so it developed alongside my sexuality. femdom, cuckold and other indulgences are something more than recreational, those are aquired tastes. your gf is a treasure, don't screw it up!

[NathalieX66]

We all go through our experimental stages, it helps us find out who we are gender-wise, and sexual orientation-wise. I've come to realize that my fetishes were a by-product of my need to express as the other gender. They are essentially a part of my creative imagination, not the existential state of being the other gender. .....does this make sense?
Then when I'm presenting as the other gender, I'm not interested in the fetishes. Now they seem like two completely separate things to me.

[AliceMeetsTheWizard]

I definitely don't have the wisdom or knowledge of some of these other members. But I'm about the same age as you, and went/am going through some of those things so I thought I'd chime in.

As far as the forced fem and humiliation porn, I used to watch nothing but that. Unfortunately, (or perhaps fortunately) there seems to be very little CD porn that doesn't expose it in that light. I think it's a combination of porns natural instinct to amp things to the next level and the idea that perhaps (as I think someone else mentioned) for guys like you and I to alleviate some of that "I want to dress this way" by allowing us to fantasize about being "forced" to dress this way. Now that I just admit to liking being dressed this way, watching people basically being "manhandled" (pun intended) doesn't hold as much allure for me.

As for bisexual thoughts, I had these feelings despite never running across a man that I was physically attracted to. It was the idea (partly fed by porn) of being submissive and being "taken" while dressed that got me going. Fortunately, I had a girlfriend at the time who was "experimental" and let's just say role reversal. I don't have bisexual thoughts anymore.

As to the last thing, does it progress into something more? That's kind of up to you and what makes you happy. I will tell you that I just purchased a gaff and breast forms in my course of preparing myself to start venturing out of my house while dressed (something I never thought I'd do).

[amyinhiding]

I've only got a couple years on you, but I can tell my own thoughts and ideas have definitely progressed a lot; people change! I am convinced that gender and sexuality should not be portrayed in black-or-white terms... it's very much a spectrum! and you are free to move about the spectrum however you like.

On another note, you are very lucky to have an understanding girlfriend! Don't take that for granted!!

[Sophie_C]

It's just another fetish, like some people are into being tied up, or liking leather / pvc / etc. Just enjoy yourself and figure things out.

[Beverley Sims]

No! There is no one like you, you are like everyone else, walk slowly and live the dream.

[Barbara Ella]

First, you are a unique individual, and no one will ever be like you. Now, as said, we are all wearing the same brand of clothing, so in that respect you are just like the rest of us....lol

Like Alice, I had no clue about this world until I turned 65, 7 months ago. Is it unusual? Hell yes, and wonderfully so. i would not trade my unusualness for anything in the world right now. I started slow, and am running right now, with wigs and makeup. Not going out, but not holding back, and having fun, fun, fun.

It matters not where it starts, or where it ends. The important fact is that you have fun at all stages in your journey. As you develop over the years (YES, you are a youngster) you will begin to realize where you are going, and why things stick with you, or are left behind. Dont worry about what is going to happen in the future. It is going to happen regardless. I have no clue where I will be in the next 3 - 4 months. I am trying to get to the stable condition of a 65 year old crossdresser who has been doing for the past 50 years....GUESS WHAT? I ain't gonna get there, but that won't stop me from trying. It is traumatic,and stressful on my wife and myself, and it will be stressful on you and your GF. So, make sure what you are dong is resulting in your having fun. If it ain't fun, move on quickly.

Barbara

[RADER]

Just add 41 years, and we will call it even.
Rader

[Courtney_Glenn]

You're not weird at all :) what consenting adults do behind closed doors is all fair game, buddy :)

[glmogo]

As for bisexual thoughts, I had these feelings despite never running across a man that I was physically attracted to.

This sentence stood out to me because I feel the same way. I often fantasize about it but I don't think I've ever caught myself checking out a man. That's very odd to me and I'm not sure what that means.

Thanks everyone for your responses. I have a couple more questions if that's okay

1) how has dressing changed your sex lives? For those who are married, are you submissive to your wives? Or do you just have "normal" sex while dressed as a woman?

2) How has crossdressing changed your SO's view of you? Do they lose respect for you or see you as less of a man? Is it harder now to "be the man" when you have to and put your foot down on certain things? That's one of my main fears, that if I were to go down that road that my girl would see me as some giant sissy. Even though I'm submissive in the bedroom it's a totally different story in other aspects of life.

[Kristy_K]

At 24 you are still learning and trying to understand yourself.

Answers to your questions:

1. I love to be submissive when I could be dress or not dressed. But could also be strong when it was require in life.

2. I have found out that it will depend on your SO's views on what a man should be or the way they should act. Everyone's idea and thoughts are different including the lady's thoughts.

Kristy