in the genes or coincidence

[bobbie anne]

I am 66 and been dressing for 50 years. 4 years ago I found out I had 2 step brothers. The younger than me one died about 6 years ago. I have met my older step brother and hit if off right away. He is very straight forward and told me the younger brother liked to wear dresses and lingerie. So now I am thinking is this something passed along from our father or just coincidence that two of us dress up.Your thoughts on this. Bobbie Anne

[suzy1]

Who knows? But it’s a hell of a coincidence.

I subject for research perhaps?

[DonnaT]

I'm on the genes side of the debate.

[Marleena]

Add me to the genes believers.:)

[ArleneRaquel]

I believe that it is in the genes.

[arbon]

If they are step brothers how are they blood related to you?

[kimdl93]

We can only speculate until somebody identifies the CD gene!

[Nikki A.]

I'd say it's in the genes.
Of course Karen won't agree, she hates genes especially the denim ones.

[Kate Simmons]

The only way to tell the difference between a male chromosome and a female chromosome is to pull down it's genes.Case closed.:)

[Barbara Ella]

I believe in the genes, and the influence of hormones in the womb. Interesting to know if mother or father are the connection. Often wonder if my brothers are/were into this, but not gonna ask...lol

Barbara

[suchacutie]

It may be in the genes, but the question is: whose?

Yes, it could be in our genes. That's certainly possible.

On the other hand, it could be in our mother's genes, and that could be the reason that our minds didn't get fully rewritten into the mail "book".

It's clear the research has only begun.

tina

[Cherry Lynn]

If they are step brothers how are they blood related to you?
From the post I would say they had the same father but different mothers.

[Sophie_C]

Nature or nurture, count me in with the rest.

[nvlady]

I have reason to believe it came from my father.
I often wonder if my brother is a sister.

[girltoy]

If they are step brothers how are they blood related to you?
^^ This.


From the post I would say they had the same father but different mothers.
Step-brothers would imply that the father married the mother, who had the two boys, but the father (and Bobbie Anne) is not biologically tied in to the brothers. If it did come from the father, it would have to be something learned, not something genetically passed on.

(Half brothers would be if they shared 1 parent but not the other, as in the case of same father and different mothers or vice versa)

[Bernadina]

We were women in a previous life?

Can anyone disprove that theory?

[Cherry Lynn]

Step-brothers would imply that the father married the mother, who had the two boys, but the father (and Bobbie Anne) is not biologically tied in to the brothers. If it did come from the father, it would have to be something learned, not something genetically passed on.

(Half brothers would be if they shared 1 parent but not the other, as in the case of same father and different mothers or vice versa)[/QUOTE]
You are right, guess I had a blonde moment, which is nothing new lately.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Well now Bernadina prove the previous life , then we'll worry about the theory later in the next one.

...noeleena...

[bobbie anne]

I am 66 and been dressing for 50 years. 4 years ago I found out I had 2 step brothers. The younger than me one died about 6 years ago. I have met my older step brother and hit if off right away. He is very straight forward and told me the younger brother liked to wear dresses and lingerie. So now I am thinking is this something passed along from our father or just coincidence that two of us dress up.Your thoughts on this. Bobbie Anne

I will clarify PASSED ALONG FROM OUR FATHER means we all had the same father

[arbon]

It would not surprise me if there is a genetic element. And at least for Transsexuals there is in fact some evidence that it may be genetic (http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/7689007.stm).

I know of one family with three siblings - one gay, one a male to female transsexual, and one a female to male transsexual.

Another transsexual male to female friend of mine has a brother that is a crossdresser.

[Foxglove]

We were women in a previous life?

Can anyone disprove that theory?

No, but neither can anyone prove it. So, very sorry, Bernadina, that makes it a useless theory. Anyway, in my last life I was a dog.

Best wishes, Annabelle

[Cheryl T]

I am 66 and been dressing for 50 years. 4 years ago I found out I had 2 step brothers. The younger than me one died about 6 years ago. I have met my older step brother and hit if off right away. He is very straight forward and told me the younger brother liked to wear dresses and lingerie. So now I am thinking is this something passed along from our father or just coincidence that two of us dress up.Your thoughts on this. Bobbie Anne

I'm of the opinion that it is genetic in some fashion. I have 3 male cousins on my father's side that are all gay....and then there's me. Has to be something in the "pool"....

[Miriam-J]

We were women in a previous life?

Can anyone disprove that theory?
Actually we were macho men in a previous life, and this is the universe's way of balancing things out.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Bobbie, I think that my crossdressing came from my mother when she dressed me
in a little white receiving gown to bring me home from the hospital when I
was born 69.5years ago
I've been dressing for about 65years now.

[sometimes_miss]

As about 2.5% of all males regularly crossdress, it's not unusual at all to sometimes find more than one in a family. Coincidence is often mistaken for miracles of all sorts. If you know 100 men, it's very likely that one of them is also a crossdresser, whether you know it or not.

[GingerLeigh]

Baby I was born this way! Blame (or thank) your genes. Your femininity is permanently etched into your genetic makeup! Yay!

Ginger

[ELIZABETH46]

i am on the genes side too.
i have four sisters and three brothers, 8 in total !!, ha ha , and i am the only one in the family with "gene issues".
but then again, i am the only one with brothers up and down on the birth latter. so, maybe the two brothers "took" too much genes from mother and left very little for me ( HA HA HA ) so i am what i am.
so..... i know all about my sisters panties !!! ( hell with the genes !!)

[Tina B.]

Since as far as I know, I'm the only one in my family that is not real macho, so I'm going with the hormone theory, I figure it's as good an answer as any others I've seen.
Tina B.

[NicoleScott]

I'll believe it's in the genes when that gene is identified. Until then, coincidence.

[JenniferR771]

We are not all gay. I did some online research and a professor named Ray Blanchard of Toronto has done a lot of research on the causes of homosexuality. Twins have the same genetics, yet only about 50 percent of gay men that have a twin find that he is gay. So partially genetic partially...unknown. Twins share the same womb and same mother's hormones also. And similar upbringing. But obviously it is present from birth.

Also it has been known for years that...the more older brothers you have...the greater is the chance that you will be gay. This is determined by birth order--not something that happens later in your life.

I am not sure how, or if, this applies to TS or CD.

And yes I have an older brother--he is 17 months older than me. And younger brother--5 years younger--normal as far as I know.

[KerryLynn]

I am 66 and been dressing for 50 years. 4 years ago I found out I had 2 step brothers. The younger than me one died about 6 years ago. I have met my older step brother and hit if off right away. He is very straight forward and told me the younger brother liked to wear dresses and lingerie. So now I am thinking is this something passed along from our father or just coincidence that two of us dress up.Your thoughts on this. Bobbie Anne

With step brothers it would be a coincidence, since they aren't genitally related to you as half brothers would be. Now in my case my father was, even though he wasnt part of my life after the age of 3 I did find out about him dressing years later, after I had been well on my way. So As far as the genetic part of the debate I'm on that side.

[KellyJameson]

Perhaps crossdressing is a conflict between what you are and what nature wants you to be with nature defined as the expression of reproduction with men and women coming together for sex to sustain life. (heterosexual sex) so the mind is than split between the ancient instinctual drives that must continue if life is going to sustain itself and the true expression of self born from the continuing movement of evolution to higher and higher expressions and forms of complexity.

Where you stand in relationship to instinctual drives (nature/heterosexual sex/reproduction) will shape your crossdressing which is a deeper expression of the self that was predestined by genetics and the prenatal environment born from the movement of evolution that is than acted on by the social environment (nurture)

CD/TG is the expression of human beings becoming less instinctual with automatic programmed behavior allowing them to break free from the rigid roles that instinctual behavior dictates.

The difference in my mind between CD and TG is the relationship one has with their own sexuality as an expression of instinctual drives.

For me it makes perfect sense that as ones sexual energies dissipate like a form of erosion that leaves uncovered what was buried beneath and hidden from view they discover their true self that nature through sex had prevented them from seeing clearly, puberty acts on and gives expression to that which already was there and the farther you move away from puberty the more you discover it's essence without the distraction of nature (sex)

The conflict is we live in a world where many still subconsciously operate more from instinctual drives than from the higher expressions of self that evolution is making possible.

Everything on the LGBT spectrum is evolution trying to carry us beyond the limits of being just instinctual animals but it is happening in a very irregular way not only between people but also within each person creating evolutionary chaos expressed as conflict between and within people.

I also thing that Autism/Aspergers and much of the behavior that is labelled as mental illness also are evolutionary and as a foundation is slowly built by humanity to support these changes (people) allowing them to survive the pace of change will excelerate increasing the danger that humanity will self destruct from the stressors that evolution is placing on us because we are caught between the past (ancient) and the future ( where evolution is taking us ) expressed as violence between what was (accepted behavior/tradition) and what evolution demands (change).

[Jenny Gurl]

You are definitely born with it, however that works. Gay cousin from aunt, another gay cousin from uncle, I was born a CD. One relative told me my Great Great Grandfather use to take womens underwear from cloths lines. Apparently he was a kleptomaniac, or a CD. :heehee:

[CamilleLeon]

Well I don't know for sure, but I can tell you that both me and my biological brother are crossdressers which is interesting. However, we were both pretty close in age and grew up together so environment or something else could be a factor there too. It's one of those things that you can't really know