litlejohn
04-16-2012, 08:06 AM
Haven't posted anything in a long while, busy with kids and work.
I've have been fortunate to have a SO who allows me to dress at home and she seemed fine with it at first. Then a couple weeks ago I could tell she wasn't happy with it.( plus she told me so).
After many conversations we have come to find out she is over the fantasy part of it and it is a turn off for her romanticly. Fair enough. I also was in the bad habit of telling her " you know what i want to do". This was very unfair to both of us, because she didn't know. I now give her more detail of how long I would like to dress and to what extent, make-up and nails or just a skirt for awhile. Now we plan our time together as a couple instead of having to guess what the other is wanting to do.
We had a great weekend, a few drinks and a movie at home Friday, out for dinner with daughter and her SO, then home for a movie. Then lastnight she was the one to dress in a sexy night gown she hadn't worn in years, some intimate time together ( short back rub). Then my turn to get dressed-up Wig, makeup,nails short dress and heels for the rest of the evening together.
We all say that communication is the most important thing we can do. Never has anything truer been said. Best of luck to all.
I've have been fortunate to have a SO who allows me to dress at home and she seemed fine with it at first. Then a couple weeks ago I could tell she wasn't happy with it.( plus she told me so).
After many conversations we have come to find out she is over the fantasy part of it and it is a turn off for her romanticly. Fair enough. I also was in the bad habit of telling her " you know what i want to do". This was very unfair to both of us, because she didn't know. I now give her more detail of how long I would like to dress and to what extent, make-up and nails or just a skirt for awhile. Now we plan our time together as a couple instead of having to guess what the other is wanting to do.
We had a great weekend, a few drinks and a movie at home Friday, out for dinner with daughter and her SO, then home for a movie. Then lastnight she was the one to dress in a sexy night gown she hadn't worn in years, some intimate time together ( short back rub). Then my turn to get dressed-up Wig, makeup,nails short dress and heels for the rest of the evening together.
We all say that communication is the most important thing we can do. Never has anything truer been said. Best of luck to all.