Housewife

[janet54]

Are any of you a full time housewife! My wife works I don't. So I have all the household duties.

[ReineD]

I stayed home to raise my kids, and I deeply regret this. After the divorce I found I was disadvantaged since I had not been focusing on the development of marketable job skills, had no personal retirement plan I had been paying into, and my ability to find a job with medical benefits was severely constrained.

Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce, so be sure and keep up your employment marketability.

[Michaelasfun]

I am. I worked my whole life and recently found myself out of work due to outsourcing, so now I vacuum, clean, do laundry, etc. I found that wearing a french maid outfit kind of helps make it fun instead of just so much drudgery, I would recommend it!

[kimdl93]

I work from home and take care of most household chores. But I agree with Reine, its risky to become wholly dependent and not maintain a place in the work force. You never know what may happen.

[Deanna Jeanine]

Well, I guess I'm just a working girl. MY wife's disabilities leave me with 90% of the housework as well as my job, so does that make me a "working housewife" ?

[katie_barns]

I don't know that I agree with the term 'Housewife'. As far as household jobs. It's always been 50 / 50 with my wife. I don't mind cleaning, I love to cook. My wife would rather cut the grass than clean house so we share everything. It's not unusual for her to be outside on the riding mower and me scrubbing the kitchen floor. It works for us.

[janet54]

Thank You for your comments girls. I do have a income. But a I was dressing and not doing anything my wife said to me you want to dress like a woman than you can now do the chores of a woman. It is what it is.

[Cheryl T]

Not presently as we both work. Perhaps in about 3 years when I might be ready to retire I'll be able to assume more of the "housewife" role. We share most every duty so it's not like it would be a drastic change, but I do handle most of the outside work.

[RADER]

Well, I guess I'm just a working girl. MY wife's disabilities leave me with 90% of the housework as well as my job, so does that make me a "working housewife" ?

Ditto Here, I have 100% of the house hold work as well as what would be considering mine end of the chores,
Like yard work and the like. My wife is disabled also.
I always get "dressed" in a dress when I do the floors. I tell my wife that If I am to be a scrub Maid, I might as
well look the part. She finds it humorous.
Rader

[ArleneRaquel]

As I am retired, a widower, and I live alone, I do all of the household chores, almost always dressed enfemme. :)

[Tess]

Well, I guess I'm just a working girl. MY wife's disabilities leave me with 90% of the housework as well as my job, so does that make me a "working housewife" ?

Almost my situation only no job because I'm retired. Otherwise our situation is the same with all the cooking, cleaning, etc part of my daily routine.

[MandyGG]

I don't really know how to take this thread. It sounds almost like the OP is sexualizing the roll of a "housewife" and being a complete submissive. Now if that is what you take of it, good for you. I on the other hand, am a mother of 3. 2 of them in grade school and the 3rd is 1 year old. I would be paid less than we would put out for daycare, so the solution to the problem is me staying home and taking care of the children. Believe me when I say that if your day were filled with dirty diapers, various appointments, and calls from the school, you would in no way sexualize the situation. I would rather work, and have an independence of my own if something were to happen to my husband. But as it stands right now, it isn't in the cards. My day is full of stress, exhaustion, and the constant worry of bills. Oh, how I wish it were filled with maids outfits and which heels look best.

[ArleneRaquel]

During my 33 year marriage I didn't most of the housework and loved being a help.

[Kate Simmons]

I agree with you Mandy. There is definately no "glamour" in being a housewife. Maybe Ideally, if there is nothing else to do like Peg Bundy but most ladies that are stay at home Moms wear a lot of hats and are multi-taskers out of necessity. Hell, I'm just a Grandpa and I get worn out with my Grandsons. if we had to pay a stay at home Mom what she was worth, we wouldn't be able to afford it. Lucky for us guys they are satisfied by caring for and loving the family and guiding the children. The wise husband appreciates this very much.:)

[janet54]

Mandy. In no way did I mean to offend anyone your job at home is VERY hard.You are a wife and a mother. I have no children. Just my wife and me.This works for us.

[Stephanie47]

As a retiree with a working wife, I have assumed many of the household chores and gardening. Of course, this gives me ample opportunity to be en femme as I wash, iron, bake, cook, vacuum and bang on this keyboard. It's only fair that I assume these tasks rather than lounge around the house watching soaps and eating bon bons and reading books. Maybe, I should get a copy of "Shades of Grey?" :)

[Persephone]

Well, I know where Mandy is coming from! I was the homemaker (a term I vastly prefer to housewife, after all, I didn't marry a house) for almost 20 years. I would say that for part of that time I was also doing other work from home, but that sounds like I'm trying to justify myself as doing something "more important" than homemaking and as far as I'm concerned, homemaker was my most important role.

I was responsible for child care, carpool, being the soccer mom, all of the shopping, cooking, laundry, etc., etc. I was our social secretary and a "mom" at my son's private school.

Not just a "school mom," I was part of the in-crowd, the small clique that ran things in our children's grade. So I worked on the magazine drive, the major fund-raising luncheon, fashion show, and silent auction, helped serve the school lunches, carpooled for field trips, helped run the kids carnival, we did it all.

Our little clique did everything together. Four key women (I was one of the central four and, despite androgenous guy clothes, was "one of the girls") and a small cadre of second circle women. We would do all the school stuff and we would usually lunch together, shop together, take care of each other's kids, plan their birthday parties, and on and on and on. It wasn't uncommon to get (or make) a call like, "I'm at such-and-such store and I just found a roasting pan like the one you're looking for and its on sale, do you want me to get it for you?" Back and forth as we supported one another.

Sexy? I have to say that Mandy is right, by the end of the day sex was seldom the thing that was on my mind!

Eventually, when my son was old enough I did make a few stabs at trying to re-enter the job market. I included homemaker as one of my job titles, listed the dates of that "employment," and filled the descriptive paragraph with all of the popular business buzz-words, "planned events, directed operations of," in describing what a homemaker did. I got a lot of interesting comments on that paragraph, but no real job offers. Then again, I must admit that I wasn't trying too hard, after all, I still had laundry to do, dinner to prepare, and cookies to bake.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Shananigans]

Nope. I have always been really career-oriented. I'm pursuing travel CRNA full-speed ahead. I guess my SO wouldn't really have to work while I'm doing the travel bit, but something tells me he would be pursuing his masters degree...or, wherever his career aspirations lead him.

I feel good about getting up, going to the hospital, working hard, helping my coworkers delegate tasks, and being with patients...when I come home, I REALLY enjoy being home. I don't think I take one moment for granted when I'm not working. I respect stay at home parents...I can especially understand when a kid is really young wanting to be home. But, I would be miserable unemployed. I am not very domestic...I'm really good at coordinating people, being observant, and making decisions that other people aren't comfortable making. I think you have to do what makes you happy/what you are good at. One of my biggest fears is becoming disabled. It would be easy for me to retire...but, I have a sneaking suspicion that I would be doing something in healthcare or academia as a supplement to retirement.

Again, you have to do what makes you happy. Being a mother would make me very happy...but, I have also grown up with a mother who worked 12 hour shifts and came home to make me dinner/wash my laundry/help me with homework. Aaaaaaand, she did it without a husband. Plus, being my mother, she kind of set the bar with how I think mothers are supposed to be. Other people are astounded with how my mother got everything done, and judge her for not being at home 24/7. But, she is also really good at delegating tasks and people (I learned it from someone)...we seemed to always have a job and were able to get things done together at the end of the day. So, she kind of raised me with the satisfaction of juggling roles, being hyper-efficient, and taking on huge amounts of responsibility/accountability.

I don't look down at stay at home parents as long as it makes them happy. I DO feel very sorry for the people out there that do not know what makes them happy in life.

Also, I'm not sure who said housewives were sexy. It was probably someone who wasn't a housewife. It was probably the same person that decided maids were sexy. It was PROBABLY the same person that came up with the idea of sexy nurses. There is nothing about my profession that is sexy...even anesthesia is hardly sexy...maybe, you would think anesthesia is sexy if you got off on the thought of someone putting you as close to possible to Death's door without actually killing you (if you can think it, there's a porno for it). Personally, I find all of that terrifying. I also evaluate people very heavily on a personal level in the potential sex partner/SO category...thus, I could never find one profession/job as "sexy." If you tried to sell me on a job being inherently sexy, I would probably not find you very creative which kills my interest in you.

[ReineD]

Four key women (I was one of the central four and, despite androgenous guy clothes, was "one of the girls") and a small cadre of second circle women.

My kids went to a Montessori school when they were younger and there was also a small core of us who did what was necessary, one of them was a dad. Most everyone else had a 9-5 job. He worked as a pilot and was out of town for 3-4 days, followed by 3-4 days off. You know, it never occurred to me that he might have been transgender, but looking back he might well have been. This was almost 20 years ago. He was just a very nice guy!

Our group seldom had lunches and shopping experiences though. This was hard to do with just an hour's block of time, in between balancing school/home/child obligations with pre-schoolers underfoot. :)

[kellycan27]

I wear a lot of hats, housewife included. I have a full time job, take care of the kids, (ages 2 and 5) , the house, laundry, marketing, cooking, and the finances. I am usually the first one up in the morning, and the last to go to bed. Putting in a 14 to 16 hour day for me is not unusual with job and family. Very recently the question of quitting my full time job and becoming a stay at home mom was raised by my husband. I have to say that the idea was somewhat appealing, but after giving it some thought I found myself in a bit of a quandary.

1. I like my job.
2. I spent 5 years in college getting my degrees in accounting, and economics.
3. I worked my way up from accountant to company controller. ( just turned 30)
4. I like the independence that I gained (by being self sufficient before marriage).
5. I get paid very well, and i like the feeling of accomplishment.

On the other side of the coin.

1. I love being a mom.
2. I would like to spend more time with the the children.
3. My quitting would NOT be a financial burden.
4. I would more time for the home and family.
5. I would have more time to pursue some of my other interests.

TBPO I am torn between the two. Part of me says YES!, while part of me isn't sure. The good news is that I don't have to make any quick decisions.:)

kel

[Barbara Ella]

being retired we now have a slightly more equitable distribution of household duties. The only benefit of dressing while doing chores is that I do feel so much more comfortable when dressed, so I think I would do a better job.. Sadly, can't dress when we are together. So, I must do what i can alone while dressed. In no way will i ever approach a home maker, after all, I am still all pretend.

Barbara

[ReineD]

TBPO I am torn between the two. Part of me says YES!, while part of me isn't sure. The good news is that I don't have to make any quick decisions.:)

You didn't ask, but I'll give you my two cents anyway. :p

Don't do it. Keep your job or find a part-time job so you can keep your foot in the door. The kids will grow up eventually and leave. Also, your job does provide you with your own sense of identity, a sense of accomplishment that is not tied to meeting other people's needs, even if it is a partial identity that is balanced with your wife and a mother roles.

I was in the unfortunate position of having lost husband and kids all in the same year and discovered to my dismay that I had no real identity of my own. It is likely this will never happen to you, but it wouldn't hurt to protect against this even by keeping a part-time job.

[MandyGG]

Reine is right, Kel....

I was a hairstylist before having kids. I didn't keep my license up to date. I wanted to return to that profession after 10 years, and was told that to "renew" my license would require me to go back to school and do it all over again. I can't pay off another 10,000 dollar student loan! So, my hairstylist days are over. I have no other skill sets. Nothing else except for hobbies to talk about. No other friends, besides the ones that I met through our kids. Yes, watching kids grow is a rewarding adventure, but that has been proven to be equally rewarding for working parents.

[kellycan27]

Reine & Mandy

I had pretty much established myself before i got involved. I still have my friends, and I am still marketable as far as jobs go, but I agree that working part time would be the better option, and I could do it easily from my home office. even with my full time job I am still doing tax returns, credit counseling, and notary work on the side. I do appreciate the advice, and thanks.

Kel

[Denise69]

[QUOTE=ReineD;2817853]I stayed home to raise my kids, and I deeply regret this. After the divorce I found I was disadvantaged since I had not been focusing on the development of marketable job skills, had no personal retirement plan I had been paying into, and my ability to find a job with medical benefits was severely constrained.

Wow, I would have never guessed that! On the positive side, your kids had their mother to mold, shape and guide them. With the intellignce and warmth you show us here, they were very lucky. Hopefully you're able to use those skill now in the marrketplace.
And I do mean this with the utmost respect. My mother was a stay at home.

[ReineD]

Hopefully you're able to use those skill now in the marrketplace.

I hope so too!! :hugs:

But nowadays it is difficult to find something without the proper credentials behind your name. I do have a lead this week and hopefully this one will pan out. :)

[kellycan27]

My mother is a doctor and my dad was a lawyer and while they did provide very well for me I was basically raised by our housekeeper. My husband is also a doctor and I am a professional as well. I do worry about the kids getting the proper attention, and i do think about all of the times when my parents weren't around while I was growing up. I used to think to myself.. I'd never treat my kids ( if i had any) like this. it's a conundrum for sure.

Kel

[Renee W]

Well, I guess I'm just a working girl. MY wife's disabilities leave me with 90% of the housework as well as my job, so does that make me a "working housewife" ?

I'm in your club, full-time wage earner and full-time househusband due to my wife's MS.

[Babeba]

My mother is a doctor and my dad was a lawyer and while they did provide very well for me I was basically raised by our housekeeper. My husband is also a doctor and I am a professional as well. I do worry about the kids getting the proper attention, and i do think about all of the times when my parents weren't around while I was growing up. I used to think to myself.. I'd never treat my kids ( if i had any) like this. it's a conundrum for sure.

Kel

Kel,

It sounds like you're a perfect person to do freelance consulting? Something where you build up that portfolio of private clients, and perhaps work out a job share style situation with your current employer or another firm? Adding 'small business owner' onto your resume won't hurt, right? It should help the balance a bit as well.

[DeeArel]

You appear to have my ulimate dream come true. I would love to emulate the Donna Reed role.

[Jacqueline Winona]

I could be if I wanted, my wife makes more than enough for both of us, but I couldn't do it. I need to be intellectually challenged like I am with my current job. I'm not saying that being the stereotypical housewife who volunteeers for everything wouldn't be challenging or rewarding, but what I do gives me fuel for the rest of my life and I couldn't live without it. Not that I don't enjoy a break every now and then, especially if I can dress at home.

[MandyGG]

Mandy. In no way did I mean to offend anyone your job at home is VERY hard.You are a wife and a mother. I have no children. Just my wife and me.This works for us.

I shouldn't have gotten so bent out of shape. I should be apologizing to you! At times it is hard being a GG and having others glorify or idolize our day to day lives. I am still learning and getting accustomed to how things happen here, without taking offense. Again, I am sorry!


Maybe, I should get a copy of "Shades of Grey?" :)

Hmm... are you sure you don't already have it? You spelled it right, and the fact that you know what it is..... hmmm.....:devil: LOL!!! (It's not bad, I am on the 2nd one now. :heehee:)

[Alicia Waves]

Most of the time I work perhaps half the hrs my wife does. I'm lucky that I have a very flexible schedule while she is unlucky that she is currently chained to the corporate grind. I really enjoy making her life easier and less stressful by doing as much of the house work as I possibly can, washing, cleaning, grocery shopping and preparing meals, so that when she comes home she is able to relax and not have to deal with that stuff.

[Persephone]

I was the homemaker for almost 20 years... as far as I'm concerned, homemaker was my most important role.

Just for the record, and maybe to help Kelly in her decision, before I decided to become a full-time homemaker I had completed a doctorate and, after working in middle and upper management for others, as well as having been a university faculty member, was running my own company which I had built from the ground up to a significant size staff and a client list of Fortune 500 companies. I had been the President of the regional trade association as well as other professional organizations. I was fairly popular on the profession's lecture circuit, had been quoted in professional newsletters and publications as well as in Newsweek and Fortune, and so on. I was a definite suit wearing, hard driving Type A personality.

But no-one ever puts "he was good at work" on a tombstone, instead you often see some variation on "loving spouse and parent." I'm glad that I changed my life and I still view homemaker as my finest title.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[MandyGG]

Just for the record, and maybe to help Kelly in her decision, before I decided to become a full-time homemaker I had completed a doctorate and, after working in middle and upper management for others, as well as having been a university faculty member, was running my own company which I had built from the ground up to a significant size staff and a client list of Fortune 500 companies. I had been the President of the regional trade association as well as other professional organizations. I was fairly popular on the profession's lecture circuit, had been quoted in professional newsletters and publications as well as in Newsweek and Fortune, and so on. I was a definite suit wearing, hard driving Type A personality.

But no-one ever puts "he was good at work" on a tombstone, instead you often see some variation on "loving spouse and parent." I'm glad that I changed my life and I still view homemaker as my finest title.

Hugs,
Persephone.

I want to be you when I grow up!!! What an amazing life you have led.... and you still have so much more to live!!

[Kali]

In a traditional worldview, I fill the role of "housewife." I work from home (self-employed with a very flexible schedule) and my wife works in an office (and travels at least one week a month) so the household chores fall to me because I have the time to do them and they don't interefere with "us" time that way. My kids are grown and my wife never had any so I'm just taking care of a two person household.

I also do all the cooking, since my wife believes that the microwave is a critical part of the meal preperation process. ;)

We joke that I'm doing the Dona Reed thing, but I don't own a set of pearls, and while I'm almost always dressed, I don't go as far as the 50's style "look perfect for your husband" appearance on a daily basis. I did, however, figure out that if you are cooking and cleaning while wearing a nice dress, an apron is a requirement. :)

[kristinacd55]

I basically have been, but will be back on the school bus starting next week. I do enjoy being the housewife for sure, it's brought me closer to my daughters which is the best! :)

[SallyS]

For the past five years I've worked from home (yipeeeee!!!). However, my SO works full-time, somewhere else. I do try and do a bit of housework, but I have to say I'm a bi C#*P at it:D

I just can't reach the standards my wife expects....she's just too good at doing the housework, organizing the kids, doing the home accounts and working full-time.

I'm happy to admit, that either in male or female mode....I'm rubbish at it!!!

[daviolin]

I get to be housewife three times a week. My wife works a part time job on thoughs three days. I love dressing and doing the house work. And my wife loves the fact that I help with the household chores. Today is laundry day. Daviolin

[sue1965]

During my marriage, we shared most of the duties till I was injured at work and home full time. At that point, I did 90% of the house hold duties and was dressed till just before our boys would return home from school.

[Tina B.]

I'm another full time homemaker, since I've retired, and the wife still works, and has limited ability's, do to age related handicaps. So I do most of the house work, and cooking around here. Clothes and gender don't make it sexy, but if you have to do it, you might as well do it in femme.
Tina B.

[Roxie X]

My wife and I have shared everything. Working both nights early morning etc. to make sure one of us is here for our kids, now they are ready to move on, age wise, we are looking to work 9-5. I am the one at home most so do cooking and washing but not cleaning, just hoover. I always do that job badly, stripped varnish of chairs once, much the amusement of the family, used wrong product.
But I would recommend it to anybody.

:kiss:

[Sarasometimes]

Mandy have you checked out public vocational schools? I got my license in NJ that way and started at a high end salon. The cost then was about a $1000 and they often have both evening and day classes. It was quite interesting being a 35 year old male in an aotherwise all famale high school cosmetology class. I think i was a father figure. Hope this is an answer.


Reine is right, Kel....

I was a hairstylist before having kids. I didn't keep my license up to date. I wanted to return to that profession after 10 years, and was told that to "renew" my license would require me to go back to school and do it all over again. I can't pay off another 10,000 dollar student loan! So, my hairstylist days are over. I have no other skill sets. Nothing else except for hobbies to talk about. No other friends, besides the ones that I met through our kids. Yes, watching kids grow is a rewarding adventure, but that has been proven to be equally rewarding for working parents.

[Claire Cook]

Geez, I missed this post before starting my own on a similar subject (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?172987-I-think-I’m-becoming-a-housewife!&highlight=). I meant mine in a lighter vein, and certainly all of us who had working moms can appreciate where everyone is coming from here. I'm just glad I can do more to help Sue out, but I still wonder if those of us who do housework dressed aren't guilty of some sort of gender stereotype.

[Shananigans]

Geez, I missed this post before starting my own on a similar subject (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?172987-I-think-I’m-becoming-a-housewife!&highlight=). I meant mine in a lighter vein, and certainly all of us who had working moms can appreciate where everyone is coming from here. I'm just glad I can do more to help Sue out, but I still wonder if those of us who do housework dressed aren't guilty of some sort of gender stereotype.

I have never understood this aspect of CDing. Mainly, because the idea of my "good" clothes getting sweaty and smelling like cleaning products grosses me out. However, I'm all for whatever motivates people to actually clean. So, if dressing like a girl and cleaning because you are kind of sexist works for you...go for it...at least you're getting something done. But, just don't dress up like a pig and mess up the place to live up to whatever other stereotypes you enjoy lol. I think you are on to something... Lol I saw that people on this forum liked dressing up and cleaning/cooking...and, I will admit I was exploiting my SO's CDing a little bit when I tried to sell him on the idea. But, my SO's a pretty smart cookie too and saw right through my plan. But, my SO is more domestic than I am. He doesn't dress up to clean, but he holds down the fort well. In the end, it's a team effort to keep our ship running though.

[DonniDarkness]

Househusband....Homemaker....sure i am those, but Housewife is reserved for her when she needs a break from being Primary Caretaker...jus' sayin

Shan your not the only GG who has tried that!...

... she's all "Le sigh...(blink blink)..."....

...and im all "whats wrong?"....

...and shes all "Wish my GF, would come over and put away laundry"

....and then im all "Le facepalm"

But your right Shan the context of the OP header is pretty sexist, guys are homemakers too. But i crossdress and im a househusband so, cleaning just gives me something to do while im wearing my heels or just crossdressed in general. I do it because it keeps me busy and on my feet, and not because i have a sexist view on household chores. Just thought id share because your post made giggle to myself......

-Donni-

[ReineD]

So, if dressing like a girl and cleaning because you are kind of sexist works for you...go for it...at least you're getting something done. But, just don't dress up like a pig and mess up the place to live up to whatever other stereotypes you enjoy lol. I think you are on to something... Lol

Had I been eating or drinking something while reading this, I would have choked on it from laughter. LOL

[Anne2345]

I have never understood this aspect of CDing. Mainly, because the idea of my "good" clothes getting sweaty and smelling like cleaning products grosses me out. However, I'm all for whatever motivates people to actually clean. So, if dressing like a girl and cleaning because you are kind of sexist works for you...go for it...at least you're getting something done. But, just don't dress up like a pig and mess up the place to live up to whatever other stereotypes you enjoy lol. I think you are on to something... Lol I saw that people on this forum liked dressing up and cleaning/cooking...and, I will admit I was exploiting my SO's CDing a little bit when I tried to sell him on the idea. But, my SO's a pretty smart cookie too and saw right through my plan. But, my SO is more domestic than I am. He doesn't dress up to clean, but he holds down the fort well. In the end, it's a team effort to keep our ship running though.

Brilliant post!!! Very well said!!! And the bottom line is just exactly that - it is a team effort to keep the ship sailing.

[karren G]

:)My wife works and now im the house wife as unemployed i tend do all the house work i can for her - but i am dressed female 90% of the time now so it has it's upside:heehee:

[Organza]

I don't really know how to take this thread. It sounds almost like the OP is sexualizing the roll of a "housewife" and being a complete submissive. Now if that is what you take of it, good for you. I on the other hand, am a mother of 3. 2 of them in grade school and the 3rd is 1 year old. I would be paid less than we would put out for daycare, so the solution to the problem is me staying home and taking care of the children. Believe me when I say that if your day were filled with dirty diapers, various appointments, and calls from the school, you would in no way sexualize the situation. I would rather work, and have an independence of my own if something were to happen to my husband. But as it stands right now, it isn't in the cards. My day is full of stress, exhaustion, and the constant worry of bills. Oh, how I wish it were filled with maids outfits and which heels look best.
I am in no way minimizing Mandy's difficulties when I say that it's possible to experience housework both ways. I'm a single parent half the time, I work two jobs, and I do almost all the housework because my 23-year-old wife, though her heart is giving, just doesn't know how and doesn't really want to learn yet. My work pressures are so great that I spent most of my dress time at my computer, but I love to cook in a dress when the occasion comes up. I got a lovely apron on eBay to protect my silk. Vacuuming and laundry are more fun in the New Look as well. Of course Mandy has smaller kids and she has them full-time -- very different.
Lisa


I have never understood this aspect of CDing. Mainly, because the idea of my "good" clothes getting sweaty and smelling like cleaning products grosses me out. However, I'm all for whatever motivates people to actually clean. So, if dressing like a girl and cleaning because you are kind of sexist works for you...go for it...at least you're getting something done. But, just don't dress up like a pig and mess up the place to live up to whatever other stereotypes you enjoy lol. I think you are on to something... Lol I saw that people on this forum liked dressing up and cleaning/cooking...and, I will admit I was exploiting my SO's CDing a little bit when I tried to sell him on the idea. But, my SO's a pretty smart cookie too and saw right through my plan. But, my SO is more domestic than I am. He doesn't dress up to clean, but he holds down the fort well. In the end, it's a team effort to keep our ship running though.
Oh this is very amusing. My wife and I did this for a couple of months after we first met. I wore dresses and did absolutely everything for her and I LOVED it. That was probably the happiest I've ever been. She was the one who eventually grew tired of it because she wanted to be "dominated."
Lisa

[Claire Cook]

I have never understood this aspect of CDing. Mainly, because the idea of my "good" clothes getting sweaty and smelling like cleaning products grosses me out. However, I'm all for whatever motivates people to actually clean. So, if dressing like a girl and cleaning because you are kind of sexist works for you...go for it...at least you're getting something done. But, just don't dress up like a pig and mess up the place to live up to whatever other stereotypes you enjoy lol. I think you are on to something... Lol I saw that people on this forum liked dressing up and cleaning/cooking...and, I will admit I was exploiting my SO's CDing a little bit when I tried to sell him on the idea. But, my SO's a pretty smart cookie too and saw right through my plan. But, my SO is more domestic than I am. He doesn't dress up to clean, but he holds down the fort well. In the end, it's a team effort to keep our ship running though.

Hi Shannon! Thanks for the reply. Hey, for me it's old jeans, a old sleeveless top, flip-flops and whatever else you'd wear when cleaning (well I do put some makeup on). (Gawd, how do people vacuum and dust in heels and a dress, Mrs. Cleaver aside!) No, I'm not being exploited -- just doing my bit for the team. There IS something though .. for some reason I find a sweaty bra very sexy....

As to the stereotype, maybe that is the female part of me .. no more than the clothes, mannerisms, and desire to express my real self. In that case maybe it's ironic that all of our CD tendencies may be based in gender stereotypes!

Take care girl, it's good to hear from you!

Claire

[Gocaps14]

I am in a similar situation and find it pretty difficult. My wife can pretty much only do laundry. I work 2 jobs and run a very small business. - guess life is what you make of it.

[JenniferR771]

That reminds me--gotta go do the dishes.

[ELIZABETH46]

i have done the cleaning around the house all my life.
as a young boy with my oldest sister we "clean" house all dressed up on her panties and skirts.
as an adult i allways enjoy cleaning and have everything in order.
today my wife let me clean in just panties, bra and a blouse.
what more can a girl ask for !!

[kellycan27]

After much soul searching, and many conversations with my husband and a few others I have decided to pull the plug on my full time employment and work part time from home, which would allow me the freedom to spend more time with our children and pursue some of my other interests. I gave my employer 4 weeks notice and agreed to train my replacement as well as to be available to consult with should she need my help. I won't be starting from scratch as I already have a clientele for income tax, book keeping and credit counseling classes. I have to admit that I was a bit nervous when I decided to to leave my employer and go out on my own, but since I told him a calm has come over me that is turning into the excitement of starting a new adventure and being once more independent and self reliant as far as my business interests go. How hard can this be in comparison to transitioning? :heehee: May 31st will actually be my last day. I have already turned in my company car ( the lease was up), handed over my files to my replacement, and I am basically just sitting here twiddling my thumbs waiting for the start of this new adventure. Wish me luck!

Kel

[JenniferR771]

Way to go, Kel. you will love self-employment. The freedom is so nice. Doing things your own way is wonderful. Start early, work late--you will do fine.

[ReineD]

That's great, Kel! Good luck and enjoy! :hugs:

[urmila11]

that is one of the condition on which my wife consented for my dressing. When i am fully dressed(i.e., when kids r away) i will be taking care of the house as a housewife. I do the kitchen work,cleaning, washing and even making the beds. She is trying to persuade me to change job, which permits to to work from home, so that she can take up a full time job, for which i am yet to agree

[Amber Anderson]

It sounds like a dream come true

[Marie-Elise]

How hard can this be in comparison to transitioning?

I'm sorry, I thought you were a GG. Really? You were not born female? I'm serious.

[Lesley_Roberta]

Myself, I get tired of hearing the common politically correct reply, housewife is sexist either can do housework.

Yeah sure that mindset is accurate in 2012, it was NOT the world Leslie was raised in though and he's not interested in apologising for his upbringing.

Mom was a classic housewife. Mom also laments not working.

My son has never seen a daycare. Just happens his father from being disabled was always present.

Leslie ended up gravitating to the role of housewife or housekeeper if you wish, partly from being the only neat freak in the house and partly because the day is long and if house work is all you CAN do, it's generally what you end up doing to kill time. He was never really happy with it.

Irks me a bit that my wife likely would make a typical man just fine. She has no wish to switch though.

My wife has too much in common with Al Bundy and annoyingly I am too much Peg.

I'm always whining about something. Something connected to housework. Something connected to my husband errr wife I mean. She's heard this before eh

Housework is just housework. If you are single, you get the pleasure of ALL of it of course.

[PretzelGirl]

Good luck with the change Kel! Balancing kids and a part time job is no picnic either. I hope you enjoy it!

To the OP, I just can't ever say I want to do housework. I do a lot because I have to but if I could do none, you wouldn't have to tell me twice. It is work, plain and simple and it tends to be thankless which is what it makes it more of a chore. Work needs something to fulfill you like thanks or challenges. If you get nothing, it makes a day pretty dreary.

[Rebecca Star]

Oh, how I wish it were filled with maids outfits and which heels look best.

Being a mum and taking care of children I don't doubt is a challenge at times but I'm sure it has its rewards too.

My take on the OP question was just as it read and within the context of this forum, "Male to Female Crossdressing". Given that it's likely a high % of posts will contain something about CDing be this maid outfits, heels etc...etc and possibly fantasies about being a "housewife" may also fall into this category too.

I don't think there was any sexist disrespect in it.

[kellycan27]

Make no mistake.. For me it's not about prancing around in my favorite frock and cleaning up after people. I love my job, and the Independence gained from being self sufficient. I make very good money, and have good benefits including company car, health insurance and expense account. I spent 5 years in college full time including summer school to get my degrees in accounting and economics and worked my way up from accountant to company controller in about 7 years. This is about our children and doing what I think best for them. Some may think it's sexist for the man to work and the woman to stay home cook,clean, and take care of the kids, but For us it's more a matter of practicality. When we first started discussing the possibility of my being a stay at home mom it wasn't because he thought i should, it was because I was working my full time job, working part time with my outside clientele plus keeping kids and home in order. In the end the decision was completely mine to make, and I made the decision that I thought was right.

Kel

[ReineD]

Kel ... I hope he kicks in to help too? The house and kids are not just your responsibility? :)

[kellycan27]

Kel ... I hope he kicks in to help too? The house and kids are not just your responsibility? :)

He does. I work mornings and he works swing. He has the kids in the am. and I have them in the afternoon. And.. he picks up, does the breakfast dishes and takes care of the dogs. I am actually quite proud of him. He went from single to married to
taking in and caring for 2 kids that are under 6 years old. Plus he helps me around the house on the weekends. He also ( when he's home) keeps the kids occupied when I am working in my home office. There is no division of who should do what, but rather who has the time or opportunity. I will have more time in the future, so it will just be easier on me.. and him. TBPO we could if I so desired afford a full time housekeeper and or nanny, but taking care of my family is something that I have always wanted to do. Who knows.. maybe in a couple of years I just might hire that full time housekeeper. :heehee:

Kel

[MandyGG]

Being a mum and taking care of children I don't doubt is a challenge at times but I'm sure it has its rewards too.

My take on the OP question was just as it read and within the context of this forum, "Male to Female Crossdressing". Given that it's likely a high % of posts will contain something about CDing be this maid outfits, heels etc...etc and possibly fantasies about being a "housewife" may also fall into this category too.

I don't think there was any sexist disrespect in it.

The OP and I discussed it the day of the posts and we worked it all through. She is a sweetie and I take no offense to it anymore. :)