How do you picture yourself when your in your grand years?

[Kerigirl2009]

This may have been asked before? How do you picture yourself when you reach an age where you can just reflect on your life and just who you are? I guess I am wondering if you picture your retirement years being referred to as a woman or as an older man who crossdresses and still keeps secrets.

I guess when I picture myself in my grand years or even great grand years I see myself presenting more as a woman. I can picture myself always as a woman wearing cute older lady clothes and all my stuff neatly in my purse. I can see myself in the backyard sith a sundress of sorts and a large hat providing shade while I work on a garden, watching the grandkids play in the yard or at the lake, making lunch for the grandkids. This seems like what I want to be more then the grumpy grandfather bickering in the garage about the damn weather.

I have some memories of most of the women usually with a smile on their face and typically the men with a look of disgust or unhappy with something that did not go right that day. I don't want to be that grumpy guy.

I have a very difficult time picturing me as an old man sitting on a bench feeding the birds or what have you, I don't ever see me as an older man, what does this mean for me, I am not sure. I think I want to be the happy older lady.

how about you????

[STACY B]

I agree an if you look around at the older ladys they can get away with alot more cuz alot of your friends are not around an whos going to say something mean to an ol lady ? Genders kinda almost merge in later life, Look at older couples an compare they dress an look alot alike .

[DCChris]

Out of the closet
I turned back to look around
And saw my whole life


my haiku ode to old age

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Keri, I'm just short of 70yrs.old and about 65yrs. of crossdressing.
Things are pretty much the same for the last 20yrs
The girls are married with ther own familys and I'm retired 3+yrs. now.

I dress two or three hours in the morning and in the evening my
wife knows but just don't want to see it.

With my vast collection of clothes and shoes I can dress in any style or mode
that suits me in the moment

Life is good and I'm happy.
I'm not ready for support stockings and orthopedic shoes yet and don't need a walker either.

[Simply Joslyn]

Not sure if I could do the whole old lady gambit much rather be an old man sitting in my garage polishing a classic car and watching the world change before my eyes, plus I always enjoyed listening to the chronicles of old men who had seen the years go by, old ladies are to kind to really speak of some of the more tragic things that happened in the past

[Barbara Ella]

As i look out on the grand years........Wait, cant look backward, I am looking at them right now... O crap. What did I do wrong. I have no memories other than male ones. I am still too young in crossdressing years to have any. I still have wild oats to sow. Places to get out to see. THings to do in a dress. Hikes to take in heels. Business to take care of in a bra. Worlds to see in a wig. parades to attend in panties. A wide wonderful world to experience as a woman.

No time to think about them, too damn much to do. See ya.

Barbara

[sissystephanie]

Well, I thought I would still be married to my darling wife. But she passed away 7 years ago so now it is me alone! Except of course for my 2 wonderful children, 3 grandchildren and 2 in-laws!

But since I live alone I can pretty much dress as I please, and I do almost every day. So my life in the grand years (I will be 80 in 3 weeks) is still pretty good!! Just wish I still had my lovely wife!!

[Kelly DeWinter]

I want that makeup ! Anything that will make me last a 1000 years is worth it . Ohhhhhhh Wait . You did say grand ? Right ?!?!?!?

[Launa]

I see myself living as a man in front of grand kids but outside of that it will be 50/50 man/woman.
Oh and a heck of a lot more salon visits than I'm doing now.

[kimdl93]

I see myself spending the majority of my time as a dignified and hopefully still active mature woman.

[Roberta Lynn]

OK,Let me see. A grand is 1000 right? so I'm 65 that means my grand years will start in another 935 years. Hmmmm, I know medical science is making great strides in extending life. I just don't think I'll be around for my 'grand' years. Since I'll probably be cremated I picture myself as just being dust in the wind.:D

Alright seriously, Did I tell you I'm 65? We start forgetting things around this age.
Look at my avatar. That's how I picture myself. That's me at a conference last year. I was having a great time. I never felt more comfortable as Roberta. I only wish I had achieved this level of comfort with myself 35 years ago.

No matter. That's all water under the bridge. As far as crossdressing goes these are the best years of my life..............So far.



Hey Kelly, I was typing this while you were posting, Thanks a lot:sad:
Or great minds think alike:^5:

[Sandra1746]

I think I'm already here. Could things get better, sure; but then again things could be a lot worse. I'm happily retired and as long as I'm healthy and can stay active that's good.

I dress regularly, mostly around home but my wife and I went out to lunch today with me in fem jeans and a fem top. Nothing obvious unless you looked closely; nobody did. I enjoy life and if that is the definition of "grand years" I guess I have arrived. The main point is to enjoy life in the present.

Hugs,
Sandra1746

[Marguarite]

The old man "growns" come more and more often.
When I'm dressed i feel younger and find myself smiling more often.
Maybe we have all found a fountain of youth.

[Kerigirl2009]

I love all of your replies. Blue Orchid you made me laugh, Roberta you did too! Kim I am with you I am thinking respectable older lady for sure, Barbara you have quite a list of things to do but they have to be fun right.
These where just a few that stuck out to me and I can wait to be getting up in my years seeing as I am only 41 now or in womens age 39 as we start counting backwards after 40 right. LOL

[Renee W]

I'm hoping that when I reach the retirement years (about 2030), that CDing will have become universally accepted by society so that I can go anywhere dressed any way I please. At that time I will have the pleasure of knowing that I am one of the pioneers, having been doing it for 60 years by that time.

On a lighter note, do you think they'll start making Depends with lace trim and in cute colors by then?

[Sarah-J]

Had I been asked this a year ago, I probably would have answered with something like: I’ll be that scrawny old grouchy guy in the small house on the finely manicured corner lot sitting in his rickety old rocking chair inside his screened porch yelling at them dang whipper-snappers to stay offa the lawn! And, kidding aside, I don't envision that as being all that far off the mark, either. :eek:

However, after this past month, my very first with this alter-ego, I would very much like to have the polish, hair (read: wig) and makeup down to nearly second nature and acquire at least some modicum of fashion sense to where I can endeavor to pull off the look of a mature lady of refinement. Yeah, good luck with that, I know!

I have just under a quarter century before I start dipping my toes into my seventh decade on this planet, so I may have some time to pick a few things up here and there. There’s still a lot that can happen between then and now. I’m actually kind of looking forward to it. :D

[NathalieX66]

Probably being full time in a tropical, or coastal town as an artist doing showings. P-Town, Newport, Savannah, KW, Charlotte Amalie USVI work fine for me.
I need to keep mind sharp from getting dementia/Alzheimers (...not really avoidable, but hey!) .

[noeleena]

Hi,

in 64, The last 5 years have so far been the best of my life, joined womens groups have so many friends spend time with them & no its not a old peoples last ditch effort of life far from it, lots to do & haveing friends to do it with, its what you do with your life & how, is the key .....

...noeleena...

[Empress Lainie]

I'm 77 my "old age" will start maybe when I'm 90! Seriously, since my transition to fulltime female at 72 these have been the best years of my life in every way. I feel like 27, not 77. I can work and have up to 88hrs in a week, just finished a 64hr week. I can dance for hours without a break, even dance during the disco music on the band break.

And I have my 35yr old SO and my 76 yr old bff with me too!

When I was younger I absolutely hated the idea of being an "old man">Never will be, but maybe an "old woman." I get taken for in my 50's by everyone I ask. Probably shouldn't disillusion them with the facts!

[linda allen]

This may have been asked before? How do you picture yourself when you reach an age where you can just reflect on your life and just who you are? I guess I am wondering if you picture your retirement years being referred to as a woman or as an older man who crossdresses and still keeps secrets.

I guess when I picture myself in my grand years or even great grand years I see myself presenting more as a woman. I can picture myself always as a woman wearing cute older lady clothes and all my stuff neatly in my purse. I can see myself in the backyard sith a sundress of sorts and a large hat providing shade while I work on a garden, watching the grandkids play in the yard or at the lake, making lunch for the grandkids. This seems like what I want to be more then the grumpy grandfather bickering in the garage about the damn weather.

I have some memories of most of the women usually with a smile on their face and typically the men with a look of disgust or unhappy with something that did not go right that day. I don't want to be that grumpy guy.

I have a very difficult time picturing me as an old man sitting on a bench feeding the birds or what have you, I don't ever see me as an older man, what does this mean for me, I am not sure. I think I want to be the happy older lady.

how about you????
Well, obviously, you are pretty young and haven't contemplated the future. I suppose I was like you at a young age.

You have two options; getting old, and the other one, not getting old. Getting old is the better option.

How you live and how you feel in your older years is up to you. You can enjoy life or sit around and wish you were younger. My choice is to enjoy life. I prepared well and although I'm not wealthy by any means, I have no debt and a decent retirement income. I can do many of the things I want to but not all of them.

As for the crossdressing part of your question, I live as a male. I've recently begun underdressing in public and around my wife. I would like to dress more around my wife but I have no desire to live as a female or dress in public around people I know.

[daviolin]

You got that right girl. I guess I am already in my grand years. 63 and not counting. I do feel much younger when dressed as a woman. And I like that. My wife is getting more tolerable of Daviolin latley and thats a good thing also. So I hope I can reflect on my younger days as young woman comming of age. Daviolin

[Kerigirl2009]

I do worry about dementia, alzheimers hitting me and I am just hoping that if that does happen that I can live as the woman I know I am. but I guess that will be up to the people taking care of me. Praying that I never get either.
As far as living life, I feel I am doing the best that I can with the restrictions that I impose upon myself to keep the peace. But with that said, I really want to go further.
I still like the answers that people are giving and I hope to be as active as the next woman when I get to that retirement age in say about 30 years. Until then I will just keep exporing my options and see where it takes me. Who knows maybe I will develop a need to present as a man but I highly doubt that will ever happen. (womens intuition?)

Keri

[Tina B.]

Umm, how do I see myself in the grand years, I'm not sure just which years that is? I'm 68, and where I stand, I'm still not there. But in the mean time, I went to shave my legs, and couldn't, just no hair on them anymore. I don't work anymore, and don't get away from the homestead all that much, so I pretty much dress as I please, just about anytime I please, except when going to the doctors, or shopping, or in and out of the hospital, as some of us find ourselves, in the grand years. The rest of the time, I always under dress, if I'm not fully dressed, which I am most days. I've been known to dress for days on end without interruption, and I have a wife that after 35 years of encouraging me to dress more, does not mind, now that I do.
All in all, it's been the best time of my dressing life, but I'm still in the closet, and have no plans to ever change that. And I just can't wait for those grand years to start!
Tina B.

[Marleena]

Lol @ grumpy old men syndrome Keri.:D

I retired early so I guess I'm in my grand years. Too bad I missed so much of my younger years but I'm making up for lost time. I still dress a bit trashy at times for my age cuz it's fun. You know.. real short skirts and heels. Only in the house though because I don't want to make a spectacle of myself.:heehee:

So I prefer to be the hip grandma type trying to keep up with fashion and all that. I think we should all just defy age anyways. There are some older celebrities that still rock the younger look. As an old man I look the part, as a girl I can knock a few years off.

[Wendae]

I'm in my 70's now and wish I had been able to dress more when I was younger. Thank God for make-up it sure helps make me feel and look younger and softer. When the make-up fails to make a difference I will probably become one of those old men feeding the birds and squirrels.

[Julia_in_Pa]

I'm 45 and and transitioned to full time in 2006.
My biological family does not have longevity included in their life plan.
My father died of cancer at 49 as well as my sister at 44.
My other sister is a breast cancer survivor.
I have no children and no direct contact with m family due to transition.
I'm intersexed and have some biology that causes issues with my health.
My SO also has some health issues that will most likely cause her a shortened life.

Life is overrated.
Since I was very young I haven't been a big fan of life on this earth.

I figure I'll die in my fifties of natural causes while still looking really really attractive.



Julia

[Nikki A.]

Probably dead by the time I can retire.
If not I hope that I can stay healthy and be mentally sharp and living on my own. That said I do hope that I will allow myself to dress as I please,either full femme or drab or somewhere in between. As it is now I do alot more of mixed apperance on my off days, studs in both ears, androgenous to slightly femm clothes in color or cut and sometimes a little makeup or polish but still looking drab in first look.
It seems when you get older,you either don't care what others think and society kinda allows for some eccentricities lol. Besides make-up works wonders at making you look younger.

[ArleneRaquel]

I plan to be an elegant old dame.:o:o

[Cheryl T]

If I ever begin dressing like my grandmother, or looking like her then I hope someone puts me out of my misery....LOL.

[Karren H]

More wrinkly and not so grand..... Especially since they axed our retiree medical at work....

[Vickie_CDTV]

Speaking as someone in their 30s, the way things are going I'll be happy if I just have the bare basics to survive 35 years from now. If I can look nice for my age and dress occasionally, that would just be a bonus.

[Kate Simmons]

Easy really. I have purple hair in a bun, sitting in my rocking chair knitting and rocking. Cat and dog optional.;) :)

[Kerigirl2009]

Wow, so many negative comments all of a sudden about being old. Except for a few of you. the outlook looks bleak, I am going to go fill my glass now as it is half full right now.
I guess I can picture myself with a smile on my face when I am at the grand age, and by grand age I am talking about grandchildren. Which could happen anytime I guess as my oldest is now 17, but hopefully he is smart enough to wait until he is married.
I do however hopw that I am presenting as a woman when that time comes simply because I just cant picture me as an old man with nothing but wrinkles and sore bones.
Oh and I am amazed by some of you who say what age you are and I look at you and say to myself "no way" I would have never guessed!!! You all seem so young and lively when your posting here.
I have something to look forward too in a few more years. But wow time flies..

[Kaz]

I am pretty old but have no intention to retire or die... I also have no desire to think about how I handle my CDing when I am zimmer-framed and in need of bodily care...

I am hopeful that I will deal with all this accordingly, but 'not just yet'... What pre-planning I have done is that I will end my days with a male body, wearing whatever I need/have to.. but in my head.. I will have a lifetime of memories to draw on (if I can access them)... and provided I can still operate a computer (in whatever guise it might appers... tablet?), I'll be fine! No need to CD... it's all in my head and on my hard drive! I actually don't want to be an old lady any more than being an old man...

[NathalieX66]

More wrinkly and not so grand..... Especially since they axed our retiree medical at work....

Hopefully Medicare will still be intact, as long as Rep. Paul Ryan doesn't find a way to kill it outright.

I plan on living my golden years as an artist somewhere on a coastal or tropical town, with this this side of me very much a part of it.......though at what extent, I don't know yet.

[Debb]

I have a lot of trouble picturing myself as "old" anything ... I'm 50 now, and at 70, I want to be out hiking the badlands of North Dakota, or the north shore of Lake Superior ... just like I'll be doing later this summer. I guess that's how I picture myself, hiking, camping, taking photos; you can be a woman or a man to do that stuff, and I guess I'd rather be a woman.

Sounds rather non-committal doesn't it?

[JohnH]

I see myself in my golden years presenting myself visually as a woman, while sounding like a man when I talk or sing. If I'm like my grandfathers I will live to be at least 92 years of age and my dad is still alive at the age of almost 91, and my mother is 86 years of age and goes all over town.

John

[suchacutie]

Ok, so here I am with Tina just turning 6 years old and my biological body eligible for Social Security next year. At this cusp, here are my thoughts:

1) I think that Tina is the best thing that has ever happened to keep me aware of my "looks". I see so many older men walking around half bent over, hair streaming from every viewable oriface, facial skin a complete disaster, and a wardrobe that would make Goodwill blush. Because of Tina none of that will happen!!!

2) I lost weight (and continue to do so). I have not been in such good health in 20 years! Once can't have a firm butt, a small waist, and a good overall figure without acting in a healthy way. Another plus for Tina.

3) Tina has helped my male side to understand my spouse so much more! It just gets better and better and Tina is her gf! Another plus.

4) The last thing that comes to mind atm is that I now work as a male 50-60 hours per week. Carve that up between my genders and I'm surely going to have a lot more time for Tina, especially when you add in the fact that I'm just too tired some nights to think about transformation.

Overall, this growing older stuff may not be for wimps, but I can't see how it is going to be anything but a plus!!!!

Bring it on!

[diannecourtney]

You know the advantage of "grand years" is you can crossdress to your body style and actually recover 30 or 40 years and live it without remorse and poise exactly how you dress. Ta Ta!

[Contessa]

Hi Kerigirl

I'm going to wait for you to get close to my age. Then we'll go sit on the bench in the park like two sisters. Wearing a hat might be okay too cause as a guy I don't like them except for the boler. If any of you other girls would like to sit on the bench with us we'll have to find a park with really big benches. I'll need to get a bigger purse so we can have some lunch while we watch the kids and birds.

Tess

[Stephanie47]

Well, having been retired for four plus years and signing up for Medicare this year, I guess I'm in the 'grumpy old men' period of life. Life is what you make of it. I do not wear granny dresses. I wear stylish clothing for a 'mature' woman. I think what I wear would also look good on a woman twenty years my junior. I do not and never will look like some teenager with a short mini dress or skirt.

You'll find you have the same concerns younger cross dressers have. Being older does not mean your wife will finally accept your cross dressing. Will the grandkids and great-grands stop coming over because their mom's and dad's think you're a pervert or confused?

Being almost sixty five with a working wife enables me to be en femme more often. I fear her being retired also, because it will cut into en femme time. Being sixty-five does not mean grandma Stephanie is baking cookies in heels and a dress and an apron with the kiddies.

Better be realistic about it! Being grandpa means taking kids to the zoo and ice cream. Being grandma means reading a good book and drinking coffee while sitting on a swing set in the back yard.