How far will you go to be feminine.

[katie_barns]

Being fairly new here this may have been asked before, if so I apologize.

On another site I saw a post that asks; If there was a magic pill that could change you into a woman [GG] would you take it. That site was for Transgender not necessarily CD's. I though it would be interesting to see how people here thought about that.

I am not only CD but consider myself Transgender. [Not transsexual] I waited a little late in life to even consider transitioning, but if I had to do it all over again. It might be a different story

With that said. YES I would take the pill and not even give it a second thought.

[daviolin]

That is a loaded question Kate. In my true feelings yes I would take the pill. But in reality, my wife would be upset. And I do truely love my wife. Daviolin

[Jenniferathome]

Not a chance in hell. Putting on a wig, makeup and a dress is enough for me.

[SallyS]

For real....Laser hair removal....not that I'm that hairy....grow my hair long....like the good 'ol days....grow my nails (which do grow quickly).

Sheer fantasy....be 4 inches shorter and a size 10:D

[Cheryl T]

That is a loaded question Kate. In my true feelings yes I would take the pill. But in reality, my wife would be upset. And I do truely love my wife. Daviolin

This is my reality also. My spouse is so supportive and wonderful I couldn't place her in that position.
She deserves more, more than I give now and more than I could ever give.

[Chardonnay Merlot]

No, I wouldn't. I enjoy me in all my facets. I would never want to eliminate one side to enhance the other.
I embrace the masculine and the feminine for they both make up that beautiful creation known as me.

[Sarasometimes]

I passing on the pill (pun intended). I'm a crossdresser no a transexual. I like being male and the equipment associated with it. Now a pill, that everyone MUST take that makes them not care that I dress like a woman at times, start the distribution now!

[Foxglove]

Where can I get one of those pills?

[kimdl93]

The magic pill question has been asked often. But you asked how far we would go to be feminine. That's a question that doesn't require a magic pill. And we each can answer by noting how far we have actually gone.

In my case the changes have been primarily superficial or cosmetic . I have a fairly nice wardrobe, a couple of good quality wigs, breast forms and shapeware...all aimed at achieving a feminine appearance.

But the real change has been inside. As I've grown more confident in my appearance ive grown more interested in presenting myself as a woman in myevery day life. That's a big change in the way I think from even a couple of years ago. And although I realistically cant really feel the way a woman feels...I feel feminine on the inside to a much greater extent than in the past. I cant say if I'm peeling away a masculine facade to reveal my true self or if inpresenting as feminine I am rewiring my brain in some manner. Either way I am definitely changing.

[EllieOPKS]

Cross dressing gives me the best of both worlds so I would give the pill to someone that wanted the best of one world. :)

[Tina B.]

I too consider myself, as transgendered, not a transsexual, but in a different life, without the wife, kids, and grandkids, I would have taken that pill, I've always said, I would have been happier in one gender, and I'm open to either. But because of all those people I mentioned, I am afraid I will have to pass.
Tina B.

[Marleena]

Knowing what I know now I would have taken it in my teenage age years for sure. Since I have a wife and kids now the answer is no.

I'm lucky to have a wife that understands I'm TG so that helps because I prefer girl mode hands down.

[Andria]

If that "Magic Pill" had a second half to it that would reverse the changes, then yes. I wouldn't hesitate.

[aprilmaeflowers]

If that "Magic Pill" had a second half to it that would reverse the changes, then yes. I wouldn't hesitate.

Talk about getting a Patent...Ehh

[Kimberly Long]

I dressed all my life, I am transgender and live 24/7 as Kimberly for the past 3 years. About 5 years ago I took the pill "HRT treatment" with great results. I am 72 and would like to have the surgery but I know that it is to late in life to do that. I totally love every day of my new life.
I wish you the best
Love Kimberly

[Kate Simmons]

I guess that would depend on what your intentions are and what you are trying to accomplish. Had I been born female, I'd have no choice but I was born male, so have one.:)

[AlanaG]

Knowing what I know now I would have taken it in my teenage age years for sure. Since I have a wife and kids now the answer is no.

I'm lucky to have a wife that understands I'm TG so that helps because I prefer girl mode hands down.

I'm with Marleen. I would have about 40-45 years ago.

[StacyPump]

I enjoy my male side, and I enjoy and love my wife and family, so I do not desire to transition, or present female all of the time. So, the short anser to the question of how far I will go, is that I don't think I will go very, very far to be feminine.

I do sometimes wonder or wish that I had just been born a girl. But, given the reality, and the life I have, and the love I have for those around me, I'll enjoy dressing en femme every now and again, but also enjoy my life and role as a man.

Now, if there were TWO pills, one that could change me into a woman, and another to change me back to a man, I'd keep them both in the cabinet at all times. I don't see this as a contradiction. I am a man, but I am a femmophile. The pill, at least in my fantasy, would just be a more fulfilling way to experience and express my female side.

[janet54]

No!!!!! I like being a cd. I have a loving wife who is my best friend!!!!! And supports me. Helps with dressing and advice.

[Stephanie47]

If I took the pill, I would no longer be a cross dresser! Would I relish being a woman; the clothes, high heels or childbirth, dirty diapers, being paid 77 cents on the dollar as a woman??? Would I become a FTM cross dresser to explore the masculine side of me??

Nothing wrong with being a woman, but, why trade the devil you know for the devil you don't? I'll remain myself and let Stephanie come out and play when she wants.

[Cynthia Anne]

Bring on the pill! I'm the first in line!:D Hugs!

[Bunny Girl Zoe]

Wish there was a magic pill to turn into female as I take it in a flash.

[katie_barns]

Interesting! It seems most wouldn't. Maybe I am more Transsexual than I thought !!!! But like most I would have a hard time doing that to my family. Years ago OH yes!

Thanks for all your responses.

[DeniseNJ]

As many CD's in here I started when I was about 5-6. I guess I was born a CD. I believe the longer you are a CD the farther you wuill go be be feminine. Yes I have thought about over the counter hormones as of late . All I know is I have taken me being feminine more in the last 6 years than ever before. Piercing my ears will be a major step but it is something I will have to do someday.

[Kelly Greene]

I think I will only go as far as I have to. At present it's making time to dress on weekends but in the feature I may go further, one constant is that I don't think I will need SRS but other
than that I just don't know all options are open.

[Barbara Ella]

I would not go so far as to take the pill, family considerations. How far will I go otherwise? As far as crossdressing will take me. Hair elimination, even at my age is something I want to do, tired of the temporary removals.

Barbara

[suchacutie]

No chance! Ok, I'm selfish! I want both of my genders and a loving wife who want to be married to my male side and gf to my female side!

oh...that's what I have :)

Life could not get better!!!!

[STACY B]

Where in the hell did I leave that dam water bottle , Already got the man crap out the way bring on the LADY !!

[Eryn]

Tough choice. Having built up so much of my life that depends upon my current gender I'd say the answer is "no."

If you had asked the question when I was younger and before I built my male life I wouldn't have understood my own gender issues well enough to make a decision and would probably have gone with the default.

[johanna.kitten]

I would, with all military force, occupy the factory making them pills, confiscate them all and down them all down my neck and let nobody else ever get near the production line ever. Having said that, I still have long way to go. Darn.

/Johanna

[Jacqueline Winona]

Permanent change? Not interested, at all. For a few hours? maybe.

[Contessa]

I did take the pill now I am just waiting to see what happens. I hope it isn't too painful I don't like pain.

If the pain gets too unbearable then I am going to the hospital. Maybe I shouldn't have taken the pill till all my questions were answered.

Tess

[ReineD]

I am not only CD but consider myself Transgender. [Not transsexual]

Just to clarify, identity crossdressers are also transgender, as are transsexuals, drag kings, drag queens, genderqueers, etc. "Transgender" is an umbrella term for anyone who transcends their birth gender to any degree, not unlike "human" is an umbrella term for all the ethnic subgroups.

It can be argued that strictly fetishistic crossdressers do not fall under the TG umbrella, since a fetish for items of women's clothing is not dissimilar to having a fetish for other objects/situations such as latex, masks, bondage, poney rides, etc. It can also be argued that once a M2F transsexual has had SRS, she is no longer transgender since she is now a woman.

... and now, back to our regular programming. :)

[TrishM]

Nope. There are two identities in my head, (one male and one female). I need both of them.

[dbweb]

I am ready - enough of the other half already. Being a 60 something hot older gal would be a riot- my wife has a widowed working associate that keeps tellin any who listen about all her new boyfriends, and I am envious- give me that pill

[TheresaLynn]

If it could also change history so I wouldn't have to deal with fam and friends remembering me as male, and give me a female lover, hell yea, bring it on.

[katie_barns]

Just to clarify, identity crossdressers are also transgender, as are transsexuals, drag kings, drag queens, genderqueers, etc. "Transgender" is an umbrella term for anyone who transcends their birth gender to any degree, not unlike "human" is an umbrella term for all the ethnic subgroups.

It can be argued that strictly fetishistic crossdressers do not fall under the TG umbrella, since a fetish for items of women's clothing is not dissimilar to having a fetish for other objects/situations such as latex, masks, bondage, poney rides, etc. It can also be argued that once a M2F transsexual has had SRS, she is no longer transgender since she is now a woman.



Thanks for the clarification. Yes Transgender is an umbrella term covers a lot of ground. To me Transsexual is someone that wants to go through a transition and actually change sex. I only use the term to clarify that I have no intentions of Transistioning. But your point is valid

[Melissa_59]

I've always thought I was a lesbian in a man's body...

I love my daughters too much to change everything now, and they both love their Dad. Only my oldest knows about my CD'ing, and she prefers that I don't when she's around. She's 29 though and in college again and lives 1000 miles away from me, so I still have a lot of "me" time (my youngest is married and living even farther away).

I will admit that if such a "magic pill" existed, I would be sorely tempted.

Melissa

[terrianncd]

If there was a pill, i would take it.

[ArleneRaquel]

I would gladly take the pill.

[Badtranny]

I've always thought I was a lesbian in a man's body...

If I never hear this term again it will be too soon.

[Melissa_59]

If I never hear this term again it will be too soon.

It was a joke. Sorry to have offended you.

[Badtranny]

It was a joke. Sorry to have offended you.

I know it was a joke Melissa and it's nothing personal but that little nugget is one of the very few things that I find terribly offensive. Not to me personally (because I'm not interested in VaJJ's whatsoever), but what does that even mean? Why do men think that is soooo funny? How does a straight man become a lesbian? Does he wish to be homosexual in some way? Is a straight woman a gay man trapped in a woman's body?

I hear straight dudes say this all the time, even guys I work with regurgitate this ridiculous little gem on occasion. The last time one of my friends said it with a huge grin (like he invented it) I just told him that if he really felt that way I could give him the name of a good surgeon. "Oh c'mon you know what I'm saying, I like women get it?" Yeah, I get it, you're a douchebag.

I know it's not meant to be offensive and frankly I don't know why it bothers me. Lord knows I've offended so many people it's practically a hobby.

[Sallee]

Yes if it would shorten me a few inches and make all the other necessary changes. And if I could turn it of and on Sallee today Steve tomorrow. Now that would be cool

[Barbara Jo]

It has been said that how far on goes in the TG world often depends on oportunty as well as intent.
One can have all the intent and desire but, it you also do no have much oportunity, you will not go as far as you may like.
Oportunity can mean many things from a feminine body and face to finacial independance, support of others, etc.
How many of us would gladly live as a female if we could pass easily without much makup and be finacially secure while feminizing ones self as far as possible?

[lori m crawford]

as for as me i am retird now an thinking about it i have no one no famley not a frind that wood care so i dont know what is stoping me but me

[Simply Joslyn]

Sure why not, so far my life has been a long line of dissapointments to change like that and leave it all behind would have no effect on me really, but take me down a foot or so and I'm in, now if there was a pill to turn back sure as hell will load up on both of them. Sorry if thats depressive I would miss my current self but I think I'd enjoy myself alot more by doing so.

[Annie M]

I'll take that pill and never look back.

[Kristy_Iowa_CD]

Knowing what I know now I would have taken it in my teenage age years for sure. Since I have a wife and kids now the answer is no.
Ditto

Permanent change? Not interested, at all.
And Ditto.

If this magic pill had been offered to me years ago, before I met my wife, before I became a father, I would have taken it in a heartbeat. There are still times that I wrestle with myself on where I fall on the whole "trans-scale". Sometimes I do feel like I should have different plumbing down there and when I was younger I was convinced that I should have been born with a vagina.

At this point in my life however, with two small children, I could never end my role as their father. So the answer would be a definite no.

Now if you told me that you also had a second magic pill that could change me back, I would be taking both of those pills from you and also taking a lot of time off work for a vacation to enjoy myself.

[TheresaLynn]

I've always thought I was a lesbian in a man's body...

I have totally felt that way at times.


It was a joke. Sorry to have offended you.

Why would you joke about something like this? It confuses people.


I know it was a joke Melissa and it's nothing personal but that little nugget is one of the very few things that I find terribly offensive. Not to me personally (because I'm not interested in VaJJ's whatsoever), but what does that even mean? Why do men think that is soooo funny? How does a straight man become a lesbian? Does he wish to be homosexual in some way? Is a straight woman a gay man trapped in a woman's body?

I hear straight dudes say this all the time, even guys I work with regurgitate this ridiculous little gem on occasion. The last time one of my friends said it with a huge grin (like he invented it) I just told him that if he really felt that way I could give him the name of a good surgeon. "Oh c'mon you know what I'm saying, I like women get it?" Yeah, I get it, you're a douchebag.

I know it's not meant to be offensive and frankly I don't know why it bothers me. Lord knows I've offended so many people it's practically a hobby.

I'm so totally offended by this I will just leave it at that...

[ReineD]

I know it's not meant to be offensive and frankly I don't know why it bothers me. Lord knows I've offended so many people it's practically a hobby.

I'm putting myself in your shoes when I answer this (sorry :p), but if I had gone through everything you've just gone through (the difficult physical aspect of transition in addition to potentially losing relationships over it), I would be offended when someone else treats it so lightly.

[Melissa_59]

Ok, I said something that was rather cliche (read the thread and the arguments and counter-arguments), just as a lark. I know it's time-worn, and if I'd known for one moment it would elicit such emotional reactions in everyone, I would have kept my big trap shut.

But I didn't. And please, everyone, go on. Ignore my stupid attempt at a joke, and let everything else go, ok? I didn't mean to cause an argument, if I wanted that I'd just stay at work all the time.

I come here to be friendly and fun. I don't come here to cause strife and issues. If I've offended anyone, please forgive me. If others are taking up for me... thank you for your understanding and spirit, but let's just let it all go.

I'll stop posting for awhile, and it will all blow over.

I really didn't mean any harm. I'll stay away for awhile.

Melissa

[prene]

if I was under 20. yes I would take it in a minute.

[ReineD]

I really didn't mean any harm. I'll stay away for awhile.


Melissa, it's OK, you don't have to stay away for awhile. We all say things that are offensive to others sometimes. I've done it, and when they objected I apologized, just like you.

No harm done, we're all human, and the other Melissa has a big heart. :hugs:

[lauraabdl]

The magic pill question has been asked often. But you asked how far we would go to be feminine. That's a question that doesn't require a magic pill. And we each can answer by noting how far we have actually gone.

In my case the changes have been primarily superficial or cosmetic . I have a fairly nice wardrobe, a couple of good quality wigs, breast forms and shapeware...all aimed at achieving a feminine appearance.

But the real change has been inside. As I've grown more confident in my appearance ive grown more interested in presenting myself as a woman in myevery day life. That's a big change in the way I think from even a couple of years ago. And although I realistically cant really feel the way a woman feels...I feel feminine on the inside to a much greater extent than in the past. I cant say if I'm peeling away a masculine facade to reveal my true self or if inpresenting as feminine I am rewiring my brain in some manner. Either way I am definitely changing.

I definetely agree Kim, I am now more than ever quite comfortable with my femme self and wish I had discovered that I could be so happy with my self on the inside as well on the outside by just believing in my self and finally just being me a girl at heart, now on the outside as well.
Laura Lee

[Claire Cook]

Another take on Kristy's reply. I'd look for Alice's Magic Mushroom: "One side would make you grow vaginal, one side would make you grow penal". Then I'd be addicted for the rest of my life! So where did that bloody caterpillar go?

[rocval2001]

If I can be come younger to [51] let's do it

[CarlaWestin]

Hmmm? The old magic pill conundrum. What if I take just 1/2 of the magic transition pill. Would it have no effect?

I would probably take two if given the chance.

[Anna Lorree]

If I took the pill, I would no longer be a cross dresser! Would I relish being a woman; the clothes, high heels or childbirth, dirty diapers, being paid 77 cents on the dollar as a woman??? Would I become a FTM cross dresser to explore the masculine side of me??

Nothing wrong with being a woman, but, why trade the devil you know for the devil you don't? I'll remain myself and let Stephanie come out and play when she wants.

Some of us changed dirty diapers as a man, and I have always been envious of women who are pregnant. I think it would be an amazing wonder to feel a new life grow and move inside of me.

Anna