How to restart the urge to crossdress

[Katie83]

I haven't crossdressed for a few months now. Not because i've not had the opportunity or the time or even the clothes. I've got all of those. But i've just not felt like doing it. I've not felt the need to do it.
Trouble is that i am now starting to miss Katie. This evening i have put on a pair of leggings, a bra, a nice cosy jumper and a pair of heels to see if that re-kindles my desire to shave my body again and spend an hour putting make up on and just have a girly time.
So far if has not really worked.:sad:
Has anyone got any advice on how to get back on track?

[Princess_Andria]

HIya hun i went through a similar thing a year or so back, liek you i had plenty of opportunity to do but there was no drive there. Like all hoobies or interests we go in & out of things, it will come back properly sooner or later. Just do what you enjoy for the moment and katie will soon strike you & the urge will be so strong you wont know what to do with it :P lol As for advice i would just say go online, look at pictures of your favourite types clothes or make up etc maybe read my blog ;) haha but seriously the urge will come back in time. Sorry i couldnt be more of help hun x

[Karren H]

I've had some time where it went away and I've forced myself.... Took a couple days off one time and stayed enfemme for 48 hours straight. That did the trick... Lately I haven't had the urge but then again I don't really care if I goes away or not.

[Cheryl T]

Well, if you are in a jumper, leggings and such....you've got the spirit.
As for shaving....I can't see that I could ever go back to being hairy again. I just adore being smooth and hair free.
I have had periods in my life that were free of dressing for no particular reason and periods where I purged and denied all this. Then I realized that no matter what I did, no matter how long the lull, this is part of me and it's not going away.
Now I just embrace it and enjoy having all of me here.

[Michaelasfun]

Try taking a bubblebath. Light a few candles around the tub, pick up some floral scented bathgel and cover yourself with it and soak. Does the trick for me ;)

[ArleneRaquel]

This isn't much of an answer but one day the desire will just return. During my long marriage I rarely dressed female, but very shortly after my wife died the urge just grew and grew. If it's mean to return it will. Best wishes Kathie no matter what the future brings.

[kimdl93]

If you miss 'Katie ' just push yourself to get dresses and made up one time. Then find something fun to do..go out. Often if you do something and have a good time it helps reinforce the desire to do it again.

[STACY B]

GEES ,,,,,, The things I do for all you LADYS ????????? Well here it goes ,, First go to the mall an find a bench,,, An just sit there,,,, Then get up an go look at heels,,an the go to VICTORIA SECRETE ,, An then go an find a bench an just sit there if you can ?

[Kathi Lake]

Don't work for it. Just let it be. If you force it, is it still genuine?

Kathi

[Kate Simmons]

The only advice I have Hon is to just relax, be yourself and have fun.:)

[JohnH]

If you don't feel like crossdressing, I say don't push it. If the desire is there it happens. Otherwise there are a ton of other hobbies you can get into.

I tell you if I were not transgendered I would be like most men - content to be their male selves. It would be a lot easier on me if I weren't transgendered.

John

[Kaz]

Yeah... I guess many of us have been through these phases... they usually pass... BUT... this sounds odd in that you want to feel the need and you don't... For me there are two ways to look at it... a) let it run its course... it will return or b) immerse yourself in your feminine self... do the full monty... once there... it will rekindle...

I am away from home at the moment in full Kaz mode. I have been out for a bit dressed and it is very late here... and I need to be bright as a button tomorrow at work... but I don't want to get out of Kaz mode... I am her at the moment and it is brilliant! Full immersion... very powerful!

[daviolin]

I'm usually always on track. If I get in a slump,(which isn't very often). I pick up a fashion mag and just go girly. Daviolin

[TxKimberly]

Purge. Throw away all of your stuff so that it would cost you a fortune to get it all back, and suddenly the desire will return.

[Lori B]

Purge. Throw away all of your stuff so that it would cost you a fortune to get it all back, and suddenly the desire will return.....lol.....yup...that usually does it!:heehee:

[Beverley Sims]

The urge? It comes and goes without any assistance.
Try abstaining for three months and "the urge" wil be back with a vengance.

[Kaz]

Purge. Throw away all of your stuff so that it would cost you a fortune to get it all back, and suddenly the desire will return.

Oh Yes!!!! This always works!

[KimberlyJean]

I have gone through long periods where I didn't really have the desire to dress and didn't. But when it comes back it usually comes back in spades. Stacy is right, seeing a sexy woman in a great outfit normally makes me want to dress up.

[Simply Joslyn]

Sometimes it gets in your head to push it all away, I know I've purged about 3 times and its not all to nice when the feeling comes back so I've created a few care packages hidden around just in case but like most said they've gone long times without the urge I've gone a year or two before and then something like a beautiful girl or one of those packages flips the switch and it all comes back, not sure if that helps or why it happens like that but like the reason we all really go there in the first place its mostly a mystery

[JohnH]

Purge. Throw away all of your stuff so that it would cost you a fortune to get it all back, and suddenly the desire will return.

I a true Scotsman (or Scotswoman?) would never waste anything! That's why I never purged!

John

[NathalieX66]

I purged, and did a 9 year hiatus......at the end discovered that I was the same person I always was, minus the clothes I tossed.

[Diane Smith]

The urge waxes and wanes with me, but one thing that helps keep me on an even keel is having standing appointments to get my nails and hair done, and visiting the tattoo studio. Even if it's an "off" week, I always dress for these appointments, and I find that helps mitigate the wild swings in mood when I go from having the desire every day into the dry periods. On average I have one of these "mandatory" outings every week.

- Diane

[Jacqueline Winona]

It's all good, Katie, when you're ready to dress it will all come back to you. Until then, it sounds like you're happy as you are, so just live in the moment and enjoy being the "other" you.

[Robyn0716]

Me 2 - I had a 12 year break. And now it is back even stronger

[Barbara Ella]

Just go b the old saying. If it feels good do it. Likewise, if it hurts don' do it. When it feels good again, you will do it. Sister, will you do it. But what do I know, in my 7 months the longest dry spell was last week.

Barbara

[Sarah Doepner]

Ball players often have slumps and spend too much time thinking about things. If this is something that is natural for you to do, let the game come on it's own. Buy a new top or a skirt. Try it on and start seeing what else you have in the closet that it will go with. That usually gets me started as I try to find new challenges in something I'd normally be doing anyway.

[Nichola]

I can only really speak for myself, but when I get like that I just don't dress. Maybe don't force things, give it some time then see how you feel:)

[Claire Cook]

Others have said it for me -- do what you are comfortable with. We are all different, and what works for one doesn't necessarily work for someone else (we sometimes forget that here!) As I posted yesterday, I went on a long dry spell, but i don't see that happening again!

[CINDYO]

live and let live, stop analyzing and questioning. Just be enjoy everyday as it unfolds. If you have a wife i am sure she will be happy.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Katie, Remember What goes around comes around.

[Gayle]

Nothing unusual I would say. It's rare for the urge to go away permanently. Last year I did not do dressup much and worse stopped going out socially. I'm dressing again now but I have probably burnt my bridges socially.

[Tina B.]

I don't understand, I've never had the desire to dress, if I didn't have a desire. Seems to me if you miss it that much, you have the desire, maybe not the energy. If I miss Tina, I just go in and put her on, with out over thinking about how I feel, and the next time I just can't wait. But when the desire is just not there at all, I go out and enjoy man stuff, Tina will still be there in the closet waiting patiently until the desire returns, and it always returns.
Tina B.

[Deanna Jeanine]

You have that right girlfriend. Last time I let Dee "commit suicide" it cost me over $1500 of clothes, shoes, cosmetics, etc. And the wost part, most of what I had bought was on sale marked down 50%. Now I'm starting over as well. Does the madness ever end?

Purge. Throw away all of your stuff so that it would cost you a fortune to get it all back, and suddenly the desire will return.

[KayleahDee]

I can tell you in my point of view, the urge to crossdress can come & go at any given time of year. The pictures that recently posted this week on flickr were the first ones I posted in five months. I get too depressed at times due to me being long-term unemployed, financially screwed and no tg's to physically hang out with in my area. Being around folks like us does dull the pain of reality through my eyes.

[docrobbysherry]

I think you're going about this 180 degrees backwards, Katie! If u REALLY want the urge back u must STOP EVERYTHING TO DO WITH DRESSING! Don't visit here. Pack your stuff in boxes. Don't even THINK about shopping for Katie!

Do anything and everything else your guy side does! Try THAT for as long as u can and, like it or not, I expect Katie will be back!

Works for me!

[Contessa]

Do what TxKimberly says first then do what Stacy B said I think that those two would work for me. Of course do them both in the same day and you can get the stuff you purged after you purchase the heels you were looking at. Yes you better do it to or I'm going to tell that you are on this forum and you are not dressing like you are supposed to do.

Tess

[Bree-asaurus]

Sit back in a quite room. Relax. Focus on nothing.

What do you want to do?

Do it.

[Jenniferpl]

Give it time. It will return. It always does.

[Rebecca W.]

Dear Katie,
I have supressed my dressing for several months myself and you know how I got Rebecca back? I was stressed out and I took a nice hot bath and I shaved my legs. I was doing it in the back of mind for bike riding, but deep inside I needed my inner girl to come back out. I went shopping two days later and just bought the basics, panties and pantyhose. This morning I got up at 3:00am and I painted my toe nails a metalic pink.:battingeyelashes: I am now ready to get some shoes and a dress. I run hot and cold on the dressing thinking that it is not the right thing to do for a man, but deep down I will always have my Rebecca when I need her. It sure beats medication or high blood pressure to relieve my stress, and I look and feel great! Katie, in the past when you went out dressed for the first time, I saw a real woman emerge from you and you looked beautiful dressed as a woman. It is more than putting on a dress, it is about letting Katie express herself.

Try just taking a hot bath and shave your legs, Katie will come back when she is ready. Nylons are my weakness and you cannot wear them without shaving.:o
The day after I shaved my legs, I found a tick crawling up my leg and I would have never seen it with hairy legs! Smooth and tick free.

Take care Katie and show a picture of your next outing as Katie. She is there, just waiting for you to let her express herself.

Rebecca:)

[Celeste]

Going to the mall always increases my desire,looking at all the great looking girls,checking all the nice clothes.Usually after getting home I'm ready to dress or at least have tons of new ideas about new things to try.How about going on a shopping trip and finding that irresistible item you can't not buy.

[April_Ligeia]

I haven't crossdressed for a few months now. Not because i've not had the opportunity or the time or even the clothes. I've got all of those. But i've just not felt like doing it. I've not felt the need to do it.
Trouble is that i am now starting to miss Katie. This evening i have put on a pair of leggings, a bra, a nice cosy jumper and a pair of heels to see if that re-kindles my desire to shave my body again and spend an hour putting make up on and just have a girly time.
So far if has not really worked.:sad:
Has anyone got any advice on how to get back on track?


I don't always want to shave my whole body either because it is a lot of work, especially if you haven't done it for months. Sometimes when work gets crazy sometimes I don't wear makeup for weeks at a time, but I always keep my toenails painted and wear various degrees of women's clothes at home. I also always wear feminine pajamas to bed.