Mid-life crisis glad enough to have did this while I was "young"

[KerryLynn]

While I am realizing I'm starting to get older It seems I'm starting to hit that midlife crisis point, or at least the start of it. I think I understand now why for years I've heard people temporary loosing their mind during this time of their lives, buying cars, motorcycles, and ect. How that the big fears for me arn't getting older, the early signs of this affliction for me is the weight of the things I have lived through and survived where applicable. Then these thoughts lead into ones that remind me I have to live with these memories for many more years to come and that drives me to regress a little bit in "acting my age." Does this make since.

So this brings me to the heart of my midlife crisis paradigm shift.
While the men I've seen on TV and the few who had the money to do it were able to buy cars and motorcycles to recapture that fading youth I'm more or less broke, lol, so what do I do? I go up to my employer and explain to them how I'm a transgendered and I wanted to know if I could dress as a woman at work. To which they tell me that, they have no problem with it so long as I maintain the dress code.

So after this I have gotten my hair cut hit a couple of yard sales, and bought over 100$ worth of clothes for about $15 when it was all said and done.

So Midlife crisis effects.
1. Came out to my job so I can dress as a woman, If I can do it at work, I can do it around town.
2. Shopping therapy!!!!
3. A light and airy short haircut inspired by one of the current Japanese style..
4. 1st pair of breast forms
5. And a 4 foot tall Garfield and Heathcliff. ((Each worth 50$+ but I paid 1$ for the pair Love yardsales))

I'm glad I did this at this point in my life. Because this is one I wont mind remembering 20 years from now.

Kerry Lynn

[SherriePall]

Kerry Lynn -- Was it really that simple at work? Do you work for a large corporation with a policy already in place. Anyway, good luck to you. And what a killing you made at those yard sales.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Kerry, That's a great story hope that all goes well on the job it sounds as though that you are living your dreams.

[RADER]

Kerry Lynn;
You are a lucky person. Trying that with my boss would have been Suicide.
I was a Carpenter For-Man, for large housing projects, Later on I was building
Round stairs. I could not See me doing that in a skirt.
Now about your Crisis; Have you gotten a request for an AARP card?
That is when you start to feel your age is creeping up on you. LOL
Rader

[Sandra1746]

Mid life crises (note the plural form) are a recurrent event. The trick is to enjoy them, make them affordable and survivable, and move on. I have had several and I have survived; evidence of which is I'm still here.

CD for me is less of a MLC but part of a persona-fulfillment. You may find that to be the case too. In any case it sounds like you are doing well with your CD-journey. It may be a passing phase MLC or transition more into a permanent part of your life. In any case I wish you all the best. Enjoy your new, and expanded, personality.

Hugs and good luck,
Sandra1746

[Barbara Ella]

Keri, Congratulations on addressing your MLC. Your employer sounds very good, but please be very careful about how you dress, and how they may interpret their dress code. management changes can alter the interpretation and leava you out in the cold with nowhere to go. Wishing you all the best girl.

Barbara

[paulinescotlandcd]

A mid life crisis at 33? You are way too young for that.

[KerryLynn]

Thanks all for your encouragement and words of caution, It's easier to dress at work when you live in a state where gender identity is protected under the discrimination laws. I work for a call center doing market research, customer satisfaction surveys. So its a big company that I work for but the people I work for make it feel small because they remember everyone's name. And never make you feel like your a number. :)
I hope this doesn't get worse. Because sometimes I sit here and go. Life is good and thats when it goes to shit lol.
Kerry :)

[KerryLynn]

A mid life crisis at 33? You are way too young for that.

I don't think its a matter of how long you've lived for mid-life crises, but what you lived through. Of course I could be wrong either way I'm feeling old :P

[kimdl93]

Maybe what you're experiencing isn't a mid life crisis. Perhaps you've reached a point in life through the combination of maturation and experience, where you realize that you only live once...so why not live the way you want. It took most of us much longer to reach this point...and I know that I personally regret not coming out sooner.

[Frédérique]

It seems I'm starting to hit that midlife crisis point, or at least the start of it. I think I understand now why for years I've heard people temporary loosing their mind during this time of their lives, buying cars, motorcycles, and etc. How that the big fears for me aren't getting older, the early signs of this affliction for me is the weight of the things I have lived through and survived where applicable. Then these thoughts lead into ones that remind me I have to live with these memories for many more years to come and that drives me to regress a little bit in "acting my age."

I’ve been fortunate to avoid a mid-life crisis. I always seem to find something new to try, or maybe something to look into a little more deeply, so I feel youthful all the time. I really believe that crossdressing obviates aging by keeping the mind young and flexible – just allowing your “self” to play is the key to living, IMHO…

I dress younger than my age, but my choice of clothing is a direct representation of how I feel, and not a denial of sorts. “Acting my age” is out of the question, in fact this is a mistake that many people make – acting one’s age just hastens the inevitable, and makes life into a test of endurance. Wouldn’t it be better to enjoy life while you can, AS you can, and not compartmentalize it into early, middle, and late stages? Better to be eternally youthful in the mind, I think…

The end will surely come, but so what? I’m going to enjoy myself, and die giggling… :heehee: