Spirit of a woman?

[Kate Simmons]

This was kind of touched on in my other thread but I wanted to get more specific in this one. When you are en femme do you have a different dominating spirit or attidude than you do as a guy? What are your intentions and what do you like to do en femme? I know the standards, going to the store, going out driving, going to the mall, going to VS, going to the MAC counter, etc. but once you've "been there, done that" what's next? I personally can't be one to just sit there looking pretty I have to do stuff, dynamic stuff, active stuff. One of the ways I got that out was by going out there to dance and strut my stuff at the club. There is also the more reserved caring, loving,
compassionate side which I enjoy as well. A true woman always makes her feelings known, however, be assured of that.

CDing itself can take on a life of it's own if left unbridled but you can hold the reins and have fun at the same time. In my way of thinking what good is getting in touch with the feelings, if we cannot utilize them and express them? I know everyone may not be as expressive as I am but how do you express the spirit of being a woman and how does that make you feel? :)

[Lorileah]

I can see what you are saying. I don't believe that there are "girl" things and "guy" things in general. In my mind I am the same person either way I dress. There are things that require (or push toward) wearing certain clothing. Walking around the roof cleaning gutters is best not done in a short skirt (or even short shorts in my experience). So on a day to day basis, a shirt and slacks (or shorts in the summer) cover most routine things (including shopping for me). But when I do dress up I don't want to watch TV (I could do that nude). I want to be out and be seen. And when I dress it usually is dressy, so staying home seems silly to me. Am I different? Probably some because I am now noticed where as a guy I could be wall paper. And when I am noticed I am more gregarious. Most other things do not change. I am not more compassionate or less aggressive. I don't get better taste in clothes food or movies. I have noted that over the last few years I have become more calm but I don't know if it is the clothing or that I finally figured out that being mad and angry all the time doesn't get you anywhere. (Probably the most blatant for me is that when I am dressed I am not more maternal, I dislike spoiled rude loud children just as much as normal).

So the one thing that does change (and I think it is what yo are saying) is I like to be out having fun when I am dressed. If I want to be a bump on a log, I will stay home in my daily clothes

[Cheryl T]

Yes, I believe that I do have a different spirit and attitude when dressed. I'm more compliant, more accommodating and in general just more friendly.
As to what I like to do...well, I've done all the "usual" things, the mall, the movies, restaurants and even a week long vacation, but mostly I just like to do anything.
This past Saturday my wife and I spent the day cleaning the house and I was folding laundry, vacuuming and other things, then we just went out and took a walk around the neighborhood. I was casually dressed (see pic) and just enjoyed the day as the weather was lovely and it was nice just being me.

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[Kimberlyfaye]

I find I'm a lot more feminine and I dance and enjoy myself a lot more too. I definately feel like there is a woman inside who is let out when I'm dressed. I make little feminine movements and gestures too. My thought process and what goes on inside my head feels like I'm a different person too. Although sometimes I do the same movements amd have the same thoughts when in guy mode, which makes me wonder if the female part of me is stronger than the male. I am constantly having to pull my female self away from shops or she will spend my money lol.

[Kaz]

Another interesting thread subject Kate! You are good at this.

I have been thinking about this a lot over the past few days (meaning most of my life!)... seriously, we change and develop and all that jazz... I have reached a point where it is not just about dressing... I can psyche into Kaz mode in male attire... BUT when fully dressed (make-up, hair, etc..) Kaz takes over fully! And then I do find it increasingly hard to do my routine man-based stuff...

Over the past many years I have spent a lot of time in hotel rooms in various stages/phases of CD. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I have traditionally been able to combine working at my PC with dressing. Increasingly, if fully transformed, I can't function in the same way... I am different.

Reading this through, it sounds like I have a mental disorder! Seriously, I think I am on a spectrum and flex up and down depending on mood etc.. Dressing alters my mood because of how I feel about things. But my mood also dictates my dressing... I have no dress days... just don't want to go there.

But to do sustained male activity these days (mending roofs, extreme gardening, car maintenance, etc) I need to not dress and to psyche myself into male mode... I don't have to do the same to get into Kaz mode... and the moral of the story is?

[Kate Simmons]

You are well on your way (if not there already) to becoming a full spectrum person Kaz. I've been developing this for some time now and as you can run the full gamut of the spectrum pretty much at will. The womanly spirit part comes into play when my maternal instincts get activated, which these days is more often than not. The fact that I have a female soul doesn't matter as I can be either/or as needed. While I have lived 24/7 en femme, I still have things to experience with regard to getting into the true spirit of womanhood. While I pretty much have the theory down, actually doing it is another experience in itself, the regular physical processes notwithstanding. Can one actually fulfill the role of a woman without actually being one? I'm about to embark on that grand adventure in a very short time. To which I will say to myself:'Hold onto your butt Deary, it could turn out to be a really wild ride." ;):)

[Joanna Maguire]

I live as a woman these days in retirement Those who know me Say I look and act like a real woman.
When I was a lot younger. I acted completely different in drab. But in public as a girly/woman I acted or played the role of a girl in the way I walked talked and gestured. Hand and face gestures as girls and women all do are a a big part of being a CD in public and being seen as a GG and not a boy in a dress. I have been a CD /now live as a woman for over 60 years Have been diagnosed as a TS because of hormone imbalances Dressing as a woman Living as woman full time I am a woman in spirit who hated living as a boy/man.I am now the real me.Wish I had been born or lived as a female in all ways from start. But Born a boy My Mother dressed me as a girl I began to love being a girl who my mother named Catherine from 1948 till 1954 ?? My mother hated most men as I still do at 71yrs old.A very small few men despite my being hetrosexual. Yes I have been out on a few dates alone with other CDs most being still in the closet. My wife began to accept my being a CD after she met an old GF of mine at a CD club,CD ball and other CDs wives.
Joanna

[kimdl93]

I try to behave differentlyn based on my mode of dress but I know that i have evolved as aperson as I've allowed myself to express my femininity more openly - regardless of how I'm dressed. Its probably not the dressing itself but rather the fact that I dont have to hide or deny myself...I'm just a happier person.

As others have said I do like to get out when dressed...even if its just a walk around the block or a trip to the grocery. Doing things and mixing with peoplemakes it seem more real, more valid if you will.

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[bobbie c]

to kick in my two cents here.....over the last year or so...i have discovered a huge amount of new energy.lost weight and now have two wardrobes.is it the inner voice that starts the process or the clothes or simply the fact that i am accepting who and what i am....with open arms. i am,as my wife has said a two for one.... lol. my mood surely changes as i dress and yes i much prefer expressing myself by being a bit less reserved. like to go out to dance mainly at friendly clubs, and "flitter " around...i more fun as she as told me....so i personally am in the enjoy it and embrace it mode...it makes me happy, amuses my great wife and frankly the feeling is good. i do find myself being a bit more fem when in guy mode...oh well at my age...its mine to do as i wish.....hugs ....great thread......and kaz...i get it!!