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Asako
04-23-2012, 03:24 PM
A lot of has happened since Friday, which is where this starts.

I have been having emotional breakdowns for about the last 3 1/2 weeks, give or take a few days. The last one occurred late Friday night when what I suspect to be some of the last walls came down. It differs from the others in that it took a very dark twist with where my thoughts were. I believe the direction that my thoughts went in is better left undisclosed.

I was an emotional wreckage. Even by Saturday, I couldn't stop shaking and I couldn't stop thinking about where my thoughts had gone. I knew I wasn't in any condition to be at work. In my emotional and no-so-rational state, I drove up to work(5 min drive) to explain in person why I wouldn't be able to make it in that night. I didn't need to explain. My boss could tell just by looking at me that something was majorly wrong. I didn't "come out" to him but I explained about the emotional breakdown and where my thoughts had been sitting. As I did, I practically fell to pieces. As we talked, he gave me a piece of advice: Find something to make the highlight of your day. It doesn't matter what it is. Just find something. For him, it was having his kids up at work with him that day as he was putting up ad stuff for a new deal going on.

Before we talked it out, he assured me that my spot would be covered that night and if I needed more time to recover, he'd make it happen. The rest of Saturday was spent with my best two friends, one of which had attempted suicide(as she put it, she nearly succeeded) in the past and therefore both had a pretty good idea of how I was feeling. They were friends for about a decade before they dated and eventually got married.

With a lot of fishing, jokes, and seeing a good number of my friends, I was able to piece my mind back together. Now, I'm looking forward at going beyond therapy. Why am I wanting to move forward? Because it's all I can do now. I don't ever want to feel like that again.

I called both endo offices in Abilene. One office has a CONFUSING electronic system and the other...well, the other office is the one I'm waiting to call me back since the receptionist forwarded me to the endo's nurse. Well, the nurse wasn't there to pick up so I left a message stating that I was wanting to know if the doctor has experience on hormone treatments with TS and TG. It was the first thing I could think of to say. I was as nervous as eff all. I just hope they call back.

For the record, despite everything that's happened on the roller coaster over the last couple days, I'm doing MUCH better than I was before this.

Julia_in_Pa
04-23-2012, 03:30 PM
Hi Asako,


First off I'm very pleased to hear that overall your doing much better than before.

When I was dealing with alot of issues concerning transition I would run in the mountains and fly fish in the Little Prickly Pear Creek near Helena, Montana where I lived.
I just bought a fishing boat and plan on fishing the lakes for all sorts of fish.

Again I'm happy that your doing better.


Julia

Laurie Ann
04-24-2012, 07:54 AM
Asako,

I have been through the hell you describe I am happy that you have seen a better light. I am not a fisherman but use golf to get that same effect.

Asako
04-25-2012, 01:23 AM
I took time to think about things a bit more before replying.

While searching for endos, there's one question buzzing in my mind. "What can I do to increase the value that I place on my life?" Looking back at my reaction to the realization that my life currently holds so little value to me, I would say that the end result was more of a mental breakdown than an emotional breakdown. I carry no physical scars, injuries, etc. from it but I don't think I'll ever really look at my wrists or life the same way again. I won't give up. I can't give up, not when I haven't gotten to experience myself as me.

I don't know what will happen any more. Yea, I'm scared at times. I still haven't asked my mom if she'd even give me advice or lessons on makeup. Remember when I posted about that and other directions about a month or two ago? In some ways, I'm still holding myself back through fear but it's different since last Friday. Something changed that day. For one, I've gotten off my arse and started calling endo offices. I've come out to my closest friend, who was supportive. Since Saturday, him and his wife have called just to check on me, see how I'm doing, and how I'm dealing with it. What can I say? I have good people in my life and we regard one another as family. Some are blood related and others aren't. That's fine. Bonds are what draw us together.

All I know at this point in time is that I feel like being a little artistic and creative again. Who knows? Maybe I'll share another picture of my work?