too weird for Craigslist

[Stacy Wilderness]

I went on Craigslist today and purely on a whim
posted a t4m personals under misc romance -
the heading was "Crossdresser looking to go bowling"
I thought it was hilarious, and in the text I described
how I just wanted to go out with a guy and meet
and bowl a couple games, and if we had a good time we
could go out on a real date this weekend. I posted a
couple pictures to show that while I'm not passable,
I look kind of nice so OK it's 5 o'clock and I check my
responses - and exactly zero men responded -none
I was stunned - not even one pervert or weirdo or
anyone wanted anything to do with me -I'm just way
to weird for them-so I attached a screenshot of the
posting - if you want to know what
is too weird for the guys on Craigslist, this is it.....

[RADER]

I guess you are not the one sent from above to save man kind. LOL sorry I just had a moment
of relapsed.
Rader

[Tara D. Rose]

Maybe you should have posted T looking for men to hang at the local city park to look at little girls while they play on the merry go round, you may have gotten more responses. No one seems real anymore on this site. Do you have some pretty heels, and if so ,,what color are they?

Tara

[whowhatwhen]

^^^ What?

OP:
The men trolling the craigslist personals are likely looking for a place to park the weinermobile for the night and aren't looking to put in any effort when there are TONS of other guys literally giving it away.
Take it as a compliment, you're too good for craigslist. :)

[KateSpade83]

Craisglist t4m is usually cross-dressers or tg's cruising for sex with men. Some are even prostitutes, especially if you look at the asian Craigslist ladyboys, - which can be very beautiful.

If you're not passable and you look like a guy in a dress no man will ever take you out for a treat.

[ColleenCD]

Stacey,

Craigslist can be hit or miss...or Mrs.:) You may be fishing in the wrong pond. I recommend you check the area of the twin cities that caters to those more open minded and less discriminative. If you can't find a date there, then maybe consider Kraze at Fremont Street in Las Vegas. It's a Drag Queen themed bowling alley in the news on USAToday Online today. Hey, at least you get to go bowling.

Lucky strikes!

Colleen

[oliviarub]

you should be happy none of the craigslist creeps replied.

[sterling12]

It's become a favored "Hunting Ground" for Serial Killers, Drifters, Dudes lookin' for A Crib, Dudes lookin' for their Cougar Momma, and people seeking out "unique experiences." (Translation, something sexual that you would never believe is physically possible.)

So, although it's only a small step below the "Reputable Dating Websites," if your not interested in being raped and left for dead in A Corn Field; you probably oughta stay away from there!

Here's a Novel Idea. Get a Hobby, get an interest that involves PEOPLE who don't have an Agenda. Find new friends, and acquaintances from within that group. From Friendship, we can sometimes build LOVE. Now that's a logical, thought-out Plan. A lot of people these days don't seem to do Logical, or thought-out. But, just thought I would mention it. Who Knows? Maybe your one of the unusual ones who wants to learn and have some control of your life.

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Organza]

I met my wife through Craigslist :) During the fifteen months I was available I scanned about 60,000 headlines and probably read 1000 ads until I met the wonderful, brilliant woman I married. I also met some great people through Match.com and a few other sites (not eHarmony -- it's no good for intelligent people). I became interested in her because she mentioned Carlos Kleiber, Saul Bellow, and Glenn Gould -- kind of intriguing for a 20-year-old. Unfortunately I think the Craigslist personal ads have degenerated in the three years since we met.
Lisa

[WifeofWrenchette]

Same here. I met my husband through Craigslist, but that was 6 years ago and from what I've heard it's mostly "bots" on there now and the occasional serial killer.

[Stacy Wilderness]

sigh.... we are talking about going bowling aren't we?

Seriously if you think any site that is attracting admirers
is somehow safer than any other site that is attracting
admirers I would disagree with you - there are some extremely
sick and abusive men who are attracted to cross dressers
and they are quite happy in lulling you into a false sense of
security thinking your dating site is somehow safer -it isn't
trust me - but raising the bar - making the man aware that
you want to meet meet him in a public place and that you
will not be going home with him does give one some protection,
if you are comfortable being dressed as a woman in public, and I am.
If I really felt threatened in the bowling alley, I'd go in the
womans restroom, take my cell phone out of my purse and
call 911 -if he followed me into the bathroom, I'd scream
my fool head off -but seriously - don't you think this scenario
is pretty far removed from reality-don't you think you're
being pretty paranoid to suggest I'm going to be raped
in a bowling alley
and isn't bowling a hobby?
as far as for your holier-than-thou attitude, I attend a
gay church and dress up and go every Sunday, I am a musician
and am playing in a park this Sunday with my band, I am
volunteering my photoshop skills for a group that is
working against an anti-gay marriage amendment,
I attend a trans support group, I was seeing a
psychiatrist (until I couldn't afford it any more)
I go to a museum meetup group in drag, I am a writer,
a poet, a photographer, an artist, a musician,
an ex-pilot, an ex-scuba diver, ex-hang glider pilot,
ex-skier, ex-wind surfer, I've performed stilt
walking and juggling in amateur circuses, I
mean you're telling me to get a hobby?
do you have any idea how absurd that pearl
of pretentious wisdom is? seriously?

I'm lonely -I'm broke, I'm alone, because of who I
feel I am I want to be with a man, I can't help that
it's who I am - I really, really wish I did not have
to go around like some freak wearing womans
clothing and wanting and needing to be in a relationship
with a man, but there really is nothing I can do about
that, except try to be as safe as I can - a post op woman
friend of mine who had far more experience before she turned
18 than I will ever have in my entire life gave me this advice,
and as opposed to your advice, this is good advice -
every man will beat you, and if he beats you once and you
let it happen, he'll beat you again, you have to stand up for
yourself and do whatever it takes to protect yourself and
make sure it never happens again

or I suppose you could sit home alone for the rest of your life

[Babeba]

When did you post this? How many hours did you give it? Seriously it can take more time than that sometimes to get responses. I've gone on an online dating site and it really was hit or miss both times. I definitely met some interesting people - but it was really not something I would say was an instant gratification process. (mind you, I also posted pictures which were neither photo edited or put me at my best looks wise but did show me having fun and every single person I met was surprised that I was as good looking in person as I am. Turns out the standard is to take photos specifically for online dating sites, from certain angles, that make you look as thin as possible, makeup required.

[Beth Mays]

OUCH!
Stepping on toes hurts!

[Julia_in_Pa]

Just be careful and be prepared to take his life if necessary. :)


Julia

[KristyPa]

Craigslist works good, you just have to weed out the dips. Place another ad and request a pic on their part for a response back from you.
You also have to understand the limited number of men who would want to take someone like us out in public. Oh please don't everyone slam me for saying that!

[Nicole Erin]

CL is the ghetto of the Internet.
Do not feel bad that no one replied to your ad. Also, if you are really wanting some creep on CL to contact you - post your ad in the "casual encounters" section. You will get responses yes, but the likelyhood of any of the guys being anything but creeps is slim to none.

If you have looked at the other T4M postings, you notice some of them look to pass really well or are at least hooker looking. That is cause they are either fake ads or hookers. I don't know why hookers post on there, I mean if a guy is so damned broke that he has to cruise that crappy site for a date, he probably could not afford a date with an escort anyways.

Best to stay off CL. anyone who has used it will tell you it is bad news for trying to date.

Typical CL ads (reading them between the lines) -

W4M - I am a BBW with 4 kids and no time to date. I want a guy who is not a loser who has a good job and doesn't mind playing "daddy" to my four brats and he better understand I am not gonna put out anytime soon. (photo of human matress)

W4M (V2) - I am a fat pathetic old lady who just got out of an abusive relationship and I am resorting to CL to hope that some guy might want to date me. (photo of mother Theresa's twin)

M4T - I am 18, have terminal acne, and have always been curious about dating a transsexual. (photo of some goofy guy who is fat)

M4T (V2) - I want it sucked right now and then I kick you out of my house without so much as a "thanks". (photo of some hairy dude with terminal toenail fungus)

T4M - (pretty ones) I am a walking sperm bank and am looking for a sugar daddy who can pay for my silicone, STD meds, SRS, doesn't mind that I have a drug problem, and will take me to my probation officer once a week. (photo of a good looking TS except for the stretch marks on her hips cause she got silicone injected too often too soon)

Just have a look thru the ads in those sections, it is scary. I tried the CL thing before and it is bad news. it might as well be called jerryspringerdating dot com

EDIT - I forgot the most important part - many of the men posting on CL are "new to town" or just in town on business and are staying at the hotel by the airport.

[Carmen]

Stacey,

Craigslist can be hit or miss...or Mrs.:) You may be fishing in the wrong pond. I recommend you check the area of the twin cities that caters to those more open minded and less discriminative. If you can't find a date there, then maybe consider Kraze at Fremont Street in Las Vegas. It's a Drag Queen themed bowling alley in the news on USAToday Online today. Hey, at least you get to go bowling.



Hi Colleen...actually it is called 'Drink-n-Drag'. I was there last week and had a good time. A very nice place. THe other place is called 'Krave' in the LV 'Fruit Loop' zone.

[WifeofWrenchette]

LOL Nicole. Good descriptions there!