New housemate, should I mention my alter ego?

[Kimberlyfaye]

I'm hoping to get some opinions on this if that's ok.

Here's the background.

We have a new housemate here and I'm not sure whether I should tell her about my dressing. I have told two others including the landlord and they have seen me dressed too. I don't know if the third person knows but chances are the landlord may have mentioned it to them. Not that I mind. I don't generally dress around the house other than when I go out. Even then I'm nervous about walking through the house. Usually I keep it to my room.

Anyway, the new girl is around 20 something and despite the fact I don't wander around the house dressed I don't want to be going out and bump into her and have her find out that way. I'm also not sure if she might know already as she is a relative of the one who I'm not sure knows. And the landlord might have told her when she moved in anyway.
Should I mention it?
Thanks Girls.

Mikayla x

[Noel Chimes]

Perhaps a "get to know you" conversation would be in order. For instance make a fresh pot of tea and as she comes by ask her to join you. Start with general subjects and slowly go to more specific things. Hopefully you can get a feel of where her position is on different subjects.

[Jamie24]

If the landlord and the other housemates know, I would approach the subject in an indirect manner. Let her know, in an informative and light way that you wish to be honest with her, that you have personal needs, that will not effect her, but that she may see you in dressed. That you keep this to yourself as much as possible, and that you would appreciate her desecration.

[Karren H]

I'd go tell her... And wear something cute when you do...

[kimdl93]

I would think its going to have to happen sooner or later. As you've noted, the others are aware and have seen you. So, the subject is bound to come up. And besides, what else can you do? Would you stay in hiding?

[Kimberlyfaye]

You're right Kim. It will come up sooner or later. To be honest I am thinking I want to just be up front and tell her. It will give me the opportunity to actually "come out" to someone as I've never really done it on my terms. I like the idea of just sitting down with a cup of tea and discussing things with her. I also like the idea of doing it en femme despite how nervous I would be :-P

And hey, I may actually make a new GG friend who is open minded and likes it :-)

Thank you for your opinions girls
x

[Alice B]

Of course you should tell her. The others know and have no problem, so why should she?

[JenniferR771]

Dip your toe in the water of truth gradually. Sit down with the tea and mention that you like to wear a dress at times. If she doesn't go into shock--reveal more.

[Tina B.]

Why not, if everybody else in the house already knows, then why try to keep a secret, find away to let her know, with out making a big deal about it. If the landlord already knows, what have you got to lose. And like Karren said, something cute, will always help make your point!
Tina B.

[Lorileah]

Sometimes we answer our own questions.


I don't wander around the house dressed I don't want to be going out and bump into her and have her find out that way.


Then you have two choices, tell her ahead of time or don't ever bump into her

[Debra Russell]

I'd go tell her... And wear something cute when you do...

My sentiments exactly:battingeyelashes:......................... .Debra

[aly01]

Go tell her so when you do run into her it won't be as awkward.

[Vanessa Storrs]

If others in the household know of your crossdressing don't think that she will not know too. Tell her when you have a chance, tell her immediately if you think any of her stuff might fit you.

[Stephanie47]

I would make the assumption the new housemate was told by the landlord. Any sensible young woman would be asking about her potential housemates. I would think there is an inherent risk for the landlord not to divulge general knowledge he has and the other housemate has. The landlord has been accepting. The young woman may have a moral objection to cross dressers. Or she may have no problem with it. If the woman is related to someone already living there, I would think she ran through the list of who lives there and how the person acts. I would not run up to her and proclaim "Hi, I'm the resident cross dresser." I would work it into the conversation as a matter of established fact.

[Kimberlyfaye]

As you said Stephanie, she does know already. She was told by the landlord. Which is fair enough as she should know about her housemates. I still want to sit down with her and have a chat. Find out how she feels about it. I have already spoken to her, just in general and she seems very nice. She never mentioned anything so either she doesn't care or she didn't want to bring it up in case it was an awkward point of conversation. I doubt anything would fit me Vanessa as she is shorter and much more feminine in shape than I am lols.

Anyway I have to thank you all again for your replies.

[Cynthia Anne]

I think your idea of still having a chat with her is good! Feel her out! Perhaps she will become a good freind you can share with! Hugs!

[Cheryl T]

After you've had a chance to talk to her and get to know her a little I think it would be best to bring it up.
Since you do go out dressed and there is certainly a chance that she would see you that way it would be good for her to know ahead of time.

[docrobbysherry]

Mikayla, of course u should tell her. But, doing so dressed, when u don't normally walk around the house that way may not be a good idea for 2 reasons.

It's presumptious of u and it may be difficult to arrange for just a simple, casual, first chat with her!

[Julia_in_Pa]

To not tell her of you would be inviting disaster.

[Kimberlyfaye]

Thank you girls. She knows. The landlord told her, which he has the right to do. I've spoken to him already. Anyway now the focus switches on to how I should talk to her. I think I will just bring it up in conversation. I am going to tell her it wont affect her as I keep it private. So that if I am going out I will try to be discreet unless she is totally accepting of me as Jamie has stated.

If she is intrigued by my 'hobby' and asks more about it or to see Mikayla, then I will dress :-) But I doubt that will happen.

Hugs x