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Barbara Ella
05-09-2012, 09:01 PM
last week I went out in a dress and gassed the car and drove around. Did not have a purse, and accessories, so Monday i bought a purse, clutch, wristwatch, bracelet to have them available in the future, as i do plan to go out some.

Today I had no intention, but with wife at work, one thing led to another, and i got fully dressed. Purple pullover and black maxi skirt with full accessories. Thought I would just cruise the mall, maybe stop and walk around parking lot.

Well....I did that, then parked at the Bergner's store, at the entrance to women's clothes. Walked in and began brousing the section. No one said a thing. I was at several racks with other women standing right across from me, looking at the clothes, and even making eye contact as we broused. Spent about 25 minutes wandering, and left.

Drove to other end and parked at the entrance to the women's section at Macy's. walked in and began wandering. Much more crowded here, had women and children around me continuously. Never a second glance, but lots of eye contact and smiles. Found a black blouse that was perfect. Had to have it, so I took it to the service desk. Lovely young woman processed my purchase, chatted with me, and showed no recognition, from no more than 2 ft away. I talked in the best female voice I could muster, never having practiced. She smiled, firmly placed the change in my hand and told me to have a good day. Very professional.

I can see now i will need to carry cash, as I do not know the reaction if I used my male credit card. Any experiences to share? Walmart just instituted a policy of matching ID to credit card.

I have a lovely new blouse that I bought out dressed as a woman. Talked with an SA, and mingled with a large number of women, up close and personal. Was i made, most likely yes. Did they react, no. It felt so good. i will follow up with a picture of my outing, and the purchases in the wardrobe forum, Just had to share my second outing.

Barbara

Rachel Renee
05-09-2012, 09:50 PM
Wow Barbara, that's awesome! How on Earth did I miss the story about the first outing???

Way to go!!!:D

Bree Wagner
05-09-2012, 09:54 PM
It's a bit of a rush, isn't it Barbara?

I've used my credit card at Macy's and there was no issue. They just swiped it and I had the same professional reaction you got. I would guess it's pretty rare that they even look at the name.

It was worse when I was travelling and broke my camera by dropping it. I had already dressed up to go out, so I had stopped at sears to pick up a replacement since they had the best price. I handed them my card and the SA asked for my address and phone number. I thought "what the heck" I'm not going to say I changed my mind and run away. I gave her my address and she said "Oh are you so-and so" (I forgot the name she used) It must have been whoever lived in the house before me. At that point I chickened out a bit and said "Uh-huh". I then headed over to the pickup section and grabbed the camera under that name. The world didn't end but if faced with it again I'd at least say "I'm Bree". This incident was before my wife and I came up with the name.

Anyways, I'm thrilled you had a good experience. Keep it up!

-Bree

Marleena
05-09-2012, 10:09 PM
This deserves two atta girls! So atta girl, atta girl!:)

You are so hooked now!:D

Cynthia Anne
05-09-2012, 10:49 PM
Way to go Barbara! There's no stopping you now! Hugs!

Claire Cook
05-10-2012, 04:44 AM
Hi Barbara,

So glad to see posts like these -- more kudos! I assure you that it doesn't get old -- just better and better! Even though I've been out and about quite a bit, every time just adds to my confidence and comfort level. Oh -- about the credit cards. I have one in Claire's name, but if I'm asked for ID, I'll just get one of my other ones and my driver's license. Never had a problem with that -- although once I was asked if it was my husband's card! Goes along with my ideas about "passing" and being read -- if they can appreciate a guy who is comfortable in women's clothes, so much the better.

Kaz
05-10-2012, 05:21 AM
Hi Barbara,

WOW! Good on you. Doesn't it feel just awesome! I am still scared sh****ss when I do it but these moments come when you just have to. And such a great response... So I guess you will be doing more of this from now on?

BTW you will never know if you 'passed' or not... but does it matter? It worked and you did it!

kimdl93
05-10-2012, 11:00 AM
Great day, Barbara! I especially liked your comment about smiles and eye contact. I think the best thing we can do to establish rapport is to look other people in the eye. If we do otherwise, we appear either secretive or ashamed. Glad you had a successful and positive second outing!

SANDRA MICHELLE
05-10-2012, 11:33 AM
Way to go! I used my credit card yesterday to buy a pair of shoes and all my cards say, "ask for ID", in the signature line. I pulled out my DL and showed her the proof. I have a card that says "Sandra Michelle" but it still needs verification cause I don't sign anything that I don't have to. I signed the receipt, Sandra Michelle.

Miriam-J
05-10-2012, 02:39 PM
Nicely done, Barbara. No sidekick or anyone else. Sounds like you really had a great time, and it must not have been as nerve-wracking as feared.

Enjoy the buzz!

Miriam

VeronicaMoonlit
05-10-2012, 03:54 PM
Well....I did that, then parked at the Bergner's store, at the entrance to women's clothes....
Drove to other end and parked at the entrance to the women's section at Macy's.

Eastland?



I can see now i will need to carry cash, as I do not know the reaction if I used my male credit card. Any experiences to share? Walmart just instituted a policy of matching ID to credit card.

Nah. Just as long as the name matches and the face is recognizably you without makeup you shouldn't have any issues. There's also debit cards.


It felt so good. i will follow up with a picture of my outing, and the purchases in the wardrobe forum, Just had to share my second outing.

Barbara

Glad you had fun, the first time I ever got asked if I wanted to use the dressing room en-homme was at the Eastland Macy's...course it was Famous Barr then. I prefer Von Maur (or Bergners) for the department store makeup, their counters are more fully staffed.

Veronica

VickysBFF
05-10-2012, 06:14 PM
I can see now i will need to carry cash, as I do not know the reaction if I used my male credit card. Any experiences to share?

Hi Barbara: I don't know how vigilant they are in Illinois but here in SoCal I have been out dressed and had to show my male ID along with my card and no one even blinked. All they care about is that the names match on the ID and card. Twice, though, I was told that my husband had to be there to use his card! Wow, did that make me feel good!
Both times my wife came over and informed them that I was there and you should have seen the look on their faces! Priceless!