My medical doctor and my situation

[emmicd]

I have been crossdressing regularly underneath my male clothing now with full femme attire incuding dress and pantyhose so I found it difficult making appointments to see my doctor. I need to dress underneath. It makes me feel complete. I was afraid to go to my doctor because of this.

Therefore I started seeing a new doctor versed in transgender issues at Callen Lorde. She is very understanding and accepts my crossdressing also.

She did tell me though I still need to see my other doctor and should be honest with him.

She also needs copies of my medical records so I have no choice but to let him know of my transgender issues.

Today I went to his office. I spoke to his receptionist and told her I needed a form to fill out to have copies of my records sent to the doctor I am currently seeing but let her know I will still be seeing him but I have to update my file with respect to my situation. I gave her a printout of the medical condition of transgender from my medical insurance website.

So now when I visit him there will be no more secrets and I will go crossdressed underneath my male clothing and not be afraid.

How did you discuss this matter with your doctor?

emmi

[Frances]

Emmi,

You are losing me here with the crossdressing talk. I discussed the need to be a woman physically with my doctor, not to dress in pantyhose. I wear jeans and t-shirts 99% of the time. Are you sure this is not just about crossdressing and not feeling guilty about it? HRT will kill the thrill you know.

[emmicd]

if you know gender identity dressing is part of it. i am identified as female since the age of 5. i have wanted to die because of this. the dressing is my only way of reinforcing who i am. if i don't dress i die. simple as that. i am tg and ts and i need to be honest with all in my life. i am not a cd. i tried to minimize my condition hoping i was a cd but it is much more complicated then that and if i don't eventually transition i will most certainly lose my fight to be who i really am which is a tg female.

emmi

[Kelly DeWinter]

Emmie, I have to agree with Frances, your post is a bit confusing. Who you tell or don't tell is up to you. Your doctor is obligated by etics to keep anything you discuss cofidential. One of the hardest things for some one who is transgendered to do is to become confident of who they are during the transitional process. The general category TG refers to anyone who is identified as CD/TG etc. TS is another term that is rapidly becoming seen as an umbrella term for those who have started, are part way thru or have completed the chemical or surgical process to becoming as physicaly feamle as possible . Please bear in mind my understanding of these terms may differ from others. At no time will you Die from not being able to dress or crossdress. If you find yourself in distress, seeing a counselor who specializes in Gender Identity Disorders to help you cope. Keep us posted, we are here to support you as well as possible.

[Lorileah]

I went in for my yearly exam. I sat on the table with the paper gown on. I had pink nail polish on my toes. She said "that's cute" I said "thank you" she said are you transgender? "I said yes" she said "Just be careful and safe" That was it. Then she told me I was overweight, had high blood pressure and high cholesterol. I am still the same weight, have my BP and cholesterol under control and I am still TG. :)

[LeaP]

This is one problem I don't have (positive thought for the day). My physician is post-op.

Lea

[ReneeT]

if you know gender identity dressing is part of it. i am identified as female since the age of 5. i have wanted to die because of this. the dressing is my only way of reinforcing who i am. if i don't dress i die. simple as that. i am tg and ts and i need to be honest with all in my life. i am not a cd. i tried to minimize my condition hoping i was a cd but it is much more complicated then that and if i don't eventually transition i will most certainly lose my fight to be who i really am which is a tg female.

emmi

Emmi, i bet that Frances knows a thing or two about gender identity. Her response is spot on. While I prefer to present in my identified gender, there are times, as I have not completed transition yet, that i must present in male mode. I accept that as part of the process. Yep, hrt will kill any excitement one gets from "dressing"

[Aprilrain]

dont you get hot wearing two sets of clothes? and how ecxatly do you fit a "beautiful dress" under pants without it looking like you have something weird going on with your clothes? I do hope you wear a nighty or PJs to bed and not a dress!

[Frances]

I do hope you wear a nighty or PJs to bed and not a dress!

I sleep naked, which is still congruent with my gender identity, but that's just me.

[Aprilrain]

I sleep naked, which is still congruent with my gender identity, but that's just me.
or naked. hell, she can wear boxers for all i care just dont wear a dress to bed!

[Kathryn Martin]

Emmi,

Your post was quite confusing. While dressing for many can provide some relief, it is for many others a constant reminder of being incomplete. It was like that for me.

I understand the many conflicts you are experiencing, as evidenced by your many posts, yet be aware that these are on the public forum. Everything you say here is accessible to everyone who wants to look. Many of the things you raise are truly valid issues, yet they address very intimate and personal things. They will forever be there and can be read and accessed. Maybe it might be more helpful to raise some of what you have in the closed forum, that provides some privacy and access to those only who are in a similar situation. This is just a suggestion and I am sure you will decide what is best for you.

In regards to your conundrum with your doctor, it seems to me that you are still afraid to confront who you know you are. Dropping off information at your doctors receptionist, in the hope he will read this before you visit next, breaks two of my personal cardinal rules, namely that what I have to say about my self is my message to give and nothing short of a personal letter or a handshake and a look in the eye of listener will do. Secondly, I will not be shaken in the confidence I have in myself as the person I am. If you have any questions about who you are, then things should be left between you and your advisers until in time you have matured into a place of confidence. Neither on this board nor in your doctors office can you find validation for who you are, only inside yourself. We all have gone through the phase where we hoped that someone, anyone could validate and confirm that who we are is ok. If coming from medical advisers it is called "medical justification". For me, it came at a time when it had become completely irrelevant. I understood then that it was the result of who I was not it's beginning point.

Be well and safe

Kathryn

[jackielou]

i go to my doctor underdressed in bra and panties all the time no problems and the nurses know also one even commented on what a nice looking bra i had on

[Frances]

i go to my doctor underdressed in bra and panties all the time no problems and the nurses know also one even commented on what a nice looking bra i had on

And there should not be a problem, but is it sending the message that you are trans? It seems more fetishistic to me. Wearing a bra and panties under a male suit will not win you points with a gender therapist who may give the go-ahead for HRT and SRS. There is a lot of confusion here.

[Stephenie S]

Emmi,

Sweetie, all you ever talk about is the clothes. Please just relax and wear the darned clothes. Really now, you don't need the expense and trauma of transition. You are still gonna have ALL your emotional problems post transition. You will just be $50,000 or so poorer.

Listen carefully, dear. Bras, panty hose, dresses, etc, do not a woman make. Nor do they make anyone feel more like a woman. Women feel like women NAKED!!!

Put on the clothes you want to wear. Open the door. Go out. Enjoy.

You can easily be that slightly eccentric guy who likes to wear women's clothing. And, except for the expense of said clothes, it's free. You will still have your job. You will still have your wife. You will still have your family.

Just wear the darned clothes, Emmi. For goodness sake, hon. Just wear the darned clothes!

Stephie

[Julia_in_Pa]

Emmi,

You verbally tell your doctor that you are transsexual.
Simple and to the point.
No " what if's " No " buts " OK?

Just tell him.



Julia

[ELIZABETH46]

i am with you JACKIELOU, i go to the doctor all in my underwear.
the nurses made no comments wen they see my bra
and the doctor asked me (the first time ) if i was a transgender or if i like sex with another man.
i told him yes to the first, no to the second
and that was that !!!
to me.....my doctor need to know everything about me

[Frances]

I still do not get the bra thing. If it's not to hold breasts or breast forms, what is the bra for?

[jackielou]

francis in my case it is to hold my 44G breast and the panties for comfort and i will never be able to transition but that does not stop me from enjoying the softer side of life i dress male all the time but i love my gowns panties and bras call it what you want to it pleases me so the world can rock on

[Frances]

francis in my case it is to hold my 44G breast and the panties for comfort and i will never be able to transition but that does not stop me from enjoying the softer side of life i dress male all the time but i love my gowns panties and bras call it what you want to it pleases me so the world can rock on

My name is FRANCES, with a E. Francis with an I is a man's name.