Where do you go when you go out???

[GinaM]

I'm curious what safe places you all go to when you're out as a woman? I'm VERY new to getting outside and mostly go to hotels and to get gas and simply drive around. I LOVE being outside though when I leave the house but I'm obviously nervous about being attacked so I try going to places that would have less testosterone and teenages.

Do you have go-to places where you can just walk around and be your other self???

[Nicole Brown]

Hi Gina,

As a girl who has been going out for quite a few years, I can honestly say that I go anywhere I want and do whatever I please. Now, that being said, let me refine that by also saying that I don't go anywhere I wouldn't go in male mode, except the ladies room. I regularly go shopping, run errands, go to lunch and meet my friends as Nicole. I also go to the movies, to theater, to restaurants and for long walks en femme.
In other words, just about anywhere....

[Kate Simmons]

Sometimes I go to the homes of my TG friends, sometimes they come here. We sometimes decide to go on an outing.I had previously gone to TG Org. meetings en femme and participated in those. I had gone shopping many times previously en femme but it failed to give me any kind of "thrill". Mostly I go the the local LGBT resort club on the weekend to socialize with my friends and dance. This way I make a positive use of my feminine energies.:battingeyelashes::)

[NathalieX66]

Everywhere,except in my home town.
mind you, I don't do this every day.....

[carhill2mn]

Personally, I go nearly anywhere that I need to go. One "safe" place is a grocery store. You can wander around doing your shopping and virtually no one will pay any attention to you (unless your manner of dress draws attention).

[cathie pantyhose]

shamefully I dont yet although I will take drives on the mountain country roads now.

[lingerieLiz]

Better where not to go. DO NOT WALK LATE AT NIGHT OR IN DARK PLACES! First it is dangerious. Second if the police see you they will wonder who, what, why. Go where women would feel comfortable going. Yes long drives are great, but at two in the morning the police are looking for drunk drivers and if you look like a woman driving alone they will check it out.

[sonna]

i havent had any problems going to the mall or department stores or any were else for that fact
its nice to be your other self out and about

[Michaelasfun]

I've only started going out the past couple of months; usually on errands like the gas station or food shopping. Made it to the mall once and shopped the stores, bought a couple items at Penney's and that went smooth so that was encouraging for me. Like Carole said, dressing for the occasion is important, i.e. don't wear an evening gown if you're going to the dump :)

[Stephanie47]

I would not pass. My outing have been limited to strolling in the early evening, especially when it's dark and raining. I love an umbrella shielding my face. I've made trips to return library books and mail letters. I have got into stores on Halloween and interacted with 'humans.' Basically, I am not psychologically prepared for any negative remarks or worse.

[Ashlynn Marie]

I'm curious what safe places you all go to when you're out as a woman? I'm VERY new to getting outside and mostly go to hotels and to get gas and simply drive around. I LOVE being outside though when I leave the house but I'm obviously nervous about being attacked so I try going to places that would have less testosterone and teenages.

Do you have go-to places where you can just walk around and be your other self???

How so you do hotels? Do to show up en-femme? I am usually worried about check in, etc. Femme name vs paying with credit card in guy name, reservations,etc. Would love to be woman at check-in etc. More of a thrill. What do you do?

[reflections-of]

The area I live in has a high population of homosexuals. I believe it has the second highest population after San Francisco. So it easy for my girlfriend and I to find place to venture off too. There are local clubs and restaurants that are very CD/TG friendly, plus it is not uncommon to see someone of this way of life out and about.

- Stephanie

[GinaM]

How so you do hotels? Do to show up en-femme? I am usually worried about check in, etc. Femme name vs paying with credit card in guy name, reservations,etc. Would love to be woman at check-in etc. More of a thrill. What do you do?

I just check in as a man and then go to my room and change and go back out. I have yet to walk in the front door and typically go out the back. The other time it was really late about 2am and I did walk thru the hotel lobby which was exciting for sure and someone asked if everything was ok. I just shook my head "yes" and waved to him.

This past time I didn't stay at a hotel I just drove to one and walked around. They had a patio where I sat down for a few and pretended to text someone. Pretty exciting for sure.

[cyndigurl45]

I go to work, shopping, friends houses, out to diner, what do you do?

[Krististeph]

Bicycling- even though i am quite exposed, I am almost always moving, and therefore harder to see and scrutinize. I don't try to pass mind you, but I have rather unisex clothing on albeit leaning to the feminine side. Never had a word said to me, despite 50% of my riding is suburban streets.

I also like my back yard, although it is in view of a few of the neighbors-- fast growing shrubs are helping.

Finally- on long driving trips for work, I have a small stash of stuff I can change into- and light makeup. Fun! Daytime is not as good as nighttime, I'd love to get a vehicle that sits up higher than most, or at least higher than my small SUV, with tinted windows and a big gas tank. Fun to play around, with little chance of interaction.

[Jackiefl]

I or we my wife go every were a couple girls would go,movies,mall,dinner,shopping and even amusement parks such as disney. i always dress as to what surroundings we are in and hold my head up and smile a lot and be confident.

[Linda Stockings]

I used to get out much more. When younger, it seemed so easy to blend as long as I didn't go really overboard with makeup, heels, etc. Anyway, I used to go to: 1. the post office and check my mail, 2. fill my car with gas, especially self service, 2. walk through an office building that had minimal security, dressed as elegantly for business as I could - walking up one hallway, changing floors, then back down another, and carrying a heavy briefcase as an excuse for why I couldn't walk gracefully in 4 inch "business" pumps, acting like I had an important business meeting, 3. the public library, 4. the grocery store, 5. a nice department store, especially when I had already built up the courage to buy a few things, 6. a fabric store (but the SA's may be bored and check you out, CLOSELY (albeit politely). I sat in the back of one, at one of their big sewing tables (store almost deserted) and paged through lots of pattern books, admiring the styles, and hoping to look like I could have actually made a fancy dress or skirt suit. They clearly didn't buy the act, walked by close and checked me over, then left me to relax. It was actually nice! Hope some of this helps in ideas. Be calm, confident, and safe, Linda

[StarrOfDelite]

I go most anywhere in New York City. Still cannot do "the walk" in high heels like a real Manhattanite woman :-) Back home in western PA and northeastern OH I make sure I'm dressed like a real woman in jeans, shorts, capris, comfortable shoes like sneakers and thongs and boots, not like I'm dressed up for a country club lawn party or the midnight fetish party, and that pretty much enables me to go most anywhere. I like to bicycle and hike, go shopping, and go to the local GLBT bars. Single women don't go to bars and attract scrutiny and attention if they do, so I stay away from regular bars unless I'm accompanied by another person. I actively date men, and I find that a tall man makes the best item of camouflage almost anywhere!

[gailgirl9]

If you pass, going to the mall is great. Many stores do not have anyone minding the dressing rooms, so if you are concerned about a 1-1 interaction, you can avoid it. Over time, things went so well for me that I can now talk to the sales girls and have them help me with their opinions on various outfits. What fun!

[Frédérique]

I'm curious what safe places you all go to when you're out as a woman? I'm VERY new to getting outside and mostly go to hotels and to get gas and simply drive around. I LOVE being outside though when I leave the house but I'm obviously nervous about being attacked so I try going to places that would have less testosterone and teenages. Do you have go-to places where you can just walk around and be your other self?

I just like to go for a drive (if I can afford the gas), and go someplace I can walk around undisturbed. Here in Kansas there is plenty of room to roam (much like the buffalos once did), so there is little danger of being attacked. I often drive to Wichita and go to the art museum – since I am a self-declared work of art, I feel completely at home there! Failing that, I drive out into the vast prairie, come to rest in the middle of nowhere, and then walk around, letting the incessant winds blow my skirt. This is almost a religious experience, where you can feel humbled and invigorated at the same time. I also go out at night to look at the stars and contemplate my existence – it helps to be dressed appropriately for such meaningful excursions!
:battingeyelashes:

[GinaM]

The issue I will have with blending in is that I only like to wear very high heels and nylons and a short dress. I do like the idea of wearing a business suit though as that would allow me to still wear the nylons and high heels for sure. I just would need something a bit shorter. I do like going out at night though as I feel I can dress more provocatively.

[katie_barns]

I go shopping. Even window shopping. Believe it or not public places are the best. Yes it takes some guts and being comfortable but you are usually safer in public places like a mall, shopping center, and restaurants. I avoid parks, walking trails and places where I could get in trouble by those looking for trouble. Coffee shops, especially in gay areas, are usually great.

[Cheryl T]

At first it was really scary and we only went to the diner near our Tri-Ess meeting with others after the meeting. Then I began going out with some of the girls to the malls and movies, now I go just about anywhere. I've been to A.C. and the casinos, all over New England on a driving vacation, most every mall in Central/Southern NJ and Eastern Pa.
A few weeks ago my wife and I were doing spring cleaning and we just went and took a walk about the neighborhood in the afternoon.
Confidence and dressing for what you are doing is all it takes.

[tonidouglas]

so far a gg friend and I just go shopping she wants me to go to coffee and be more out and about. She has more faith in the way i look than I do haha. Next trip we are going shopping and probably dinner at someplace like Friday's

[ArleneRaquel]

I go shopping, dinning,to the bank, to church everywhere dressed as a female, it's really a fantastic way to live. I'm thinking of going to a new optician this week dressed feminine. :) I even took the trash out dressed enfemme, and NO I'm NOT the trash !:devil:

[Bree Wagner]

Shopping is certainly the biggest draw. I'm always on the lookout for what I might be wearing on my next trip out! Just about anywhere can work, from thrift stores to malls. You can always scout places in drab and get a good impression of what it might be like if you were out dressed.

Good luck Gina!

-Bree