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Lesley_Roberta
05-22-2012, 07:24 PM
I am flustered, been thinking of it a lot today (along with other things).

Some of my friends are on my Facebook, some not. Some thus likely SHOULD know sooooooomething of my reality (unless they are dense enough to hide uranium up the butt safely). But I am able to email all of those not on Facebook.

It's just that I am basically not finding some of their actions all that fun. And it is likely because they haven't had the red herring slapped up the side of their head and been told to knock it off.

Your friend Leslie is not bloody well here damn it, my name is Lesley, say it slowly so you hear and feel the difference, add Roberta if it helps. I AM A GIRL in any way worth mention as I see it. I'm sorry if I am not wearing a skirt yet to help remind you I am Lesley not Leslie.

But I'm working on it (the skirt).

I was at the game last night (role game paper n pencil type and funny shaped dice). My character (Joan d'Arc a cleric) has just suffered a bad result from something mysterious that has reduced all her stats drastically. Her 7 Intelligence score (which is sadly the same as being a high school drop out), has been reduced to 3 (which makes her currently something of an idiot).
It's called role gaming for a reason dummies. The numbers are a guide to tell you their strengths and weaknesses. The idea is you try to act those out to some extent (although no human can really actually mimic an 18 Intelligence score, Stephen Hawking would be lucky to rate a 16, maybe a 17 on a good day.

So I was attempting to portray my cleric as a 17 year old girl, in plate armour and wielding a mace and shield, and a devout warrior of Saint Margaret (made her up), but currently possessing no real common sense or real critical thinking skills.

And all I get was annoyed looks. Maybe we should throw him down a well.
They play these role games sometimes as if all they were playing was a video game, and they tend to ignore anything they can, and tend to focus on nothing but kill kill kill. Typical male behaviour too.

I'm doing my best to enjoy about the only outlet I have, and they are doing their best to be miserable about anything I do. And it is just one example after another, that as they see it, role game character don't need names, and don't need genders, they just need numbers and so long as they are all put in the combat stats, because Charisma doesn't really do anything. My PC only has a 9 stat which in normal jargon makes her no better than a 6 on the scale most would normally know. It wouldn't matter if she was an 18 or put another way you'd call her an 11 and the best woman you'd ever seen.

Not sure how I'd word the email.

Guys, this is important to me, it's time I said it as blunt as possible and in terms only and idiot couldn't understand.

I AM A GIRL AND EXPECT TO BE TREATED AS ONE!!

It's not my fault I am stuck inside Leslie's very not female body. It's not my fault you always her Leslie's voice when I speak.

I will not be playing male characters if I don't wish to. Not in this game or the next design will play or the next. If this PC dies, there is no reason to expect me to not play a female character.

I am transgender, look it up, don't wait for a punch line. Transgender, not gay, not weird, not Rocky horror picture show, just transgender. If you can't handle that it is NOT my problem to solve!!

Yeah something like that I think.

If they can't cope, well I have enough hells in my life, I don't have room for more.

I'd like some thoughts on this. Anyone is welcome.

CloserthanthisGG
05-22-2012, 09:40 PM
Advice.

Find a new gaming group. A non-hack-n=slash one in which you can actually role play instead of just kill kill kill.

You were playing your reduced stats. If they don't get that, then they aren't true table top gamers. This ain't no video game.

Or look into LARP because you actually get to dress up as a girl and you actually get to go and role play your character's motives and stuff instead of just battles all the time. Best part for me is always the costumes. No brainer!

But you get to interact as your character would.

Ever done LARP? Most well known game is Vampire, the Masquerade and I'm not sure how into Vampires and Werewolves you are, but you can play a human slave if you want. I prefer it over table-top because if you get a big good group you have to have multiple GM's (called ST's, StoryTellers) because with 30people walking around in costume, you have as many story lines as you have people, pretty much, and they're all happening at once.

Add:
I wouldn't go the mass email approach with hack-n-slashers. If they are like the folks I've played with, they're just going to take it as a joke, no matter how simply you say it in the email.

If you feel they must know, I would do it on a one on one basis starting with the one you know most closely... But that's just me.

Add again:
"And all I get was annoyed looks. Maybe we should throw him down a well." Okay just had to say, but if you were accurately playing a 3 INT Very well I personally would probably want to throw you down a well, dearie. LOL But I would have said "HER" instead of him. Hahah...

Simply Joslyn
05-22-2012, 11:11 PM
Quite the way of putting it you lost me with all the numbers though I've never know the people to get into table top games and I was a bit offended by the high school drop out comment but atleast my GED showed me to surpass 98% of graduating seniors so thats enough for me. I do believe you have the right words selected niceness gets you no where in games and if they can't handle who you are then phooey to them, it may not be the best way to go but its the way I would do it, but I'm a console behind the mic gamer so its all beyond me.

CloserthanthisGG
05-22-2012, 11:15 PM
Yeah! Phooey to them! I like Phoooey. It's a good word. :)

whowhatwhen
05-22-2012, 11:34 PM
It sounds like you're playing with the wrong people. (read: assholes)

I can't help you with the RP stuff though, my only experience with that sort of thing is WoW which I use as a distraction and don't RP in.
:)

CloserthanthisGG
05-22-2012, 11:41 PM
Bluh. WoW. Relationships have ended over WoW. Mine, namely. More than one. I can't bear the thought that it's an escape and that my love is trying to escape me in it. After the first three relationships ended over MMORPGs, I decided it's a dealbreaker. Can't date or marry someone who plays because regardless of the truth, I will always think I am being "escaped" when it is played.

Lesley_Roberta
05-23-2012, 09:17 AM
LARP has meant to me Vampires and social misfits that are solo gamers that need it to be all about them. Sadly I knew an extreme adequate example.

But otherwise you make a good observation, gotta be dressed correctly.

The guys, I have known some for decades. Maybe it is because they know Leslie so well that they can't NOT see Leslie. They're old friends that SHOULD understand, but I have lost two people that were ostensibly close friends that turned out to be hidden examples of people you can't count on when it really counts. Failed the kidney test basically. Kidney test a term I invented. Would a person offer you a spare kidney to save your life? Try see how many friends you know that would actually do that. It's eye opening. You can't ask them though, you need to ponder it in secret. It hammers home how sometimes we call people friends when in fact they are really 'acquaintances'.

It's not an offense to be just an acquaintance. Everyone on this forum is one. One of you though has gone a lot further, and that person already knows who I refer to.

I might need a new group. But the thing is we cycle out the person running the game every 6 weeks. I run a game of my own in about 12-14 weeks give or take inevitabe delays. Nice thing about being the person running the game, you get to act out all the non player characters (females included). And the role play is as much as I can make it when in charge.