My simple analogy of being TG/TS

[emmicd]

I always felt I was on the "sidelines" waiting to get in the game. This is how I felt my whole life. I am now working on getting in the game! This is my simple analogy of what it is to be TG/TS.

This is my view, Do you have a simple analogy that describes your own personal feelings of what it is to be TG/TS?

Please feel free to express your own feelings on this.

emmi

[Andie Elisabeth]

Welcome back, emmi.
My analogy is geeky and simple. Being TG/TS is like having somewhat compatible drivers in computer for connected device. To a some level I can function but I can't function as I want and/or am capable, mentally.

[Noemi]

I feel similar to you Emmi. I feel as if I am watching all of them get on with life. Being romantic having children. Not that I am stuck, my life is amazing. I just do not fit in, or will not allow myself to fit in. I am not a man and not a woman. It is complicated.

[Jorja]

This reminds me of a John Fogerty song. Put me in coach I am ready to play. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJZPkEvxboM&feature=related

[Julia_in_Pa]

Yes Emmi,

From the movie The Matrix.

Morpheus is speaking to Neo;

Morpheus: You take the blue pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.


Julia

[Kaitlyn Michele]

Julie, i think you nailed it, of course you mean pink!!!

One analogy i've heard Emmi that may help you is that as people realize over time that their transsexualism is real, and that they feel compelled to transition, they often get caught up in the impossibility of it...its is so daunting and overwhelming that is seems like an unclimable gigantic wall in front of them

and how do climb and unclimbable wall?...and the answer is just like everything else, one step at a time...

[LeaP]

I always felt I was on the "sidelines" waiting to get in the game. This is how I felt my whole life. I am now working on getting in the game! This is my simple analogy of what it is to be TG/TS.

This is my view, Do you have a simple analogy that describes your own personal feelings of what it is to be TG/TS?


A physical being inside a hologram. An orb with many layers, the center of which cannot be seen or reached by anyone else. I don't ever remember not having these two images of myself, though the terms have changed over the years.

[Julia_in_Pa]

Indeed pink Kaitlyn!


Julia


Julie, i think you nailed it, of course you mean pink!!!

One analogy i've heard Emmi that may help you is that as people realize over time that their transsexualism is real, and that they feel compelled to transition, they often get caught up in the impossibility of it...its is so daunting and overwhelming that is seems like an unclimable gigantic wall in front of them

and how do climb and unclimbable wall?...and the answer is just like everything else, one step at a time...

[arbon]

Deciding to transition I think feels kind of like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFntFdEGgws&feature=related

edit - if you want it bad enough you overcome the fear and do it.

[Traci Elizabeth]

Deciding to transition I think feels kind of like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFntFdEGgws&feature=related

edit - if you want it bad enough you overcome the fear and do it.


The YouTube is a good analogy. It's takes a leap of faith when there seems to be no answer or way to proceed forward!

[Aprilrain]

It really becomes quite simple when you're staring at the wrong end of a gun.

[elizabethamy]

It really becomes quite simple when you're staring at the wrong end of a gun.

I could use a little more simplicity and clarity, April, but maybe there's another way to get it?

e.

[Kathryn Martin]

Like almost everyone of us you have been accommodating the world, beginning with your body and all the way to the person on the bus for whom you don't care. How long will it take before the world will have to accommodate you a little for a change. For me it took 56 years. That was my first thought of the process to decide to transiton = I am done accommodating ..... I have paid every due, fulfilled every promise .....


I always felt I was on the "sidelines" waiting to get in the game. This is how I felt my whole life. I am now working on getting in the game! This is my simple analogy of what it is to be TG/TS.

This is my view, Do you have a simple analogy that describes your own personal feelings of what it is to be TG/TS?

Please feel free to express your own feelings on this.

emmi

[Bree-asaurus]

I could use a little more simplicity and clarity, April, but maybe there's another way to get it?

e.

Not everyone gets to that point... but for some of us, that's the kick in the @$$ that really tells us what we have to do. I always HOPE that others don't have to get that far... part of why I like to stay on this forum, share my stories and try to help others where I can - to hopefully keep them from getting that far.

[LeaP]

As the saying goes, no choice, no problem! If you don't like it, you don't have a problem - you have an attitude.

[emmicd]

always a groom, never a bride!

[CharleneT]

This is from left field, it is a (translated) old Russian saying: if there is a doubt, then there's no doubt.

Sorry, mine are a little Zen-ish.

I read this one here, a couple of years ago. I am sorry that I cannot remember who posted it. I've found it helps people who I am trying to explain things to...:

"Suppose the machine that bottles ketchup placed mustard in the bottle once in a while. It's just one of those things that happen with these machines from time to time.

The bottle would be labeled as ketchup and shipped and shelved and bought as ketchup. People who brought it to their table would notice something odd about it. But they would be reassured by the label, dutifully assigned at delivery, that it really was ketchup inside.

Others, would see past the label and understand that this was actually mustard. They would refer to this as mustard and perhaps even remove the label.

The bottle would still resemble a ketchup bottle in the usual ways. But without the label, the true color of the mustard would shine through. People would accept that this was a fine mustard despite its oddly shaped bottle. After becoming familiar with it, there would be no difference at all. It would be mustard.

Over time, as this is noted more and more often, people learned to not pay so much attention to the label and to look to the contents inside before they declare one mustard or ketchup"

[KellyJameson]

I have always felt mentally ill but I was OK with that, it did not make me afraid only curious and I would start every new friendship with a warning that I was excentric to protect myself from the inevitable reaction from others when the dysphoria would leak out.

The mistake was treating gender dysphoria as a sickness because I was looking for a cure to something that is not a sickness so has no cure.

Seeing myself as sick I keep throwing myself into situations trying to cure myself (trying to become normal) because I did not understand the experience of identity dysphoria, I became extremely self conscious around others and still am.

For me there was an anxiety that would come from feeling mentally ill so to escape the anxiety I accepted that I was mentally ill but than became trapped by my acceptance of the label I had placed on myself. The world had taught me that I could not know what is true or false so must be sick.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

I could use a little more simplicity and clarity, April, but maybe there's another way to get it?

e.

well...there are knives, pills, bridges just to name a few...

fwiw, i never got to that point...i admit that i contemplated it once...but looking back it was not a "serious" consideration of any action...it was more wondering if it wouldn't be easier that way....

also 2x fwiw...we are a self selecting group...there are ts women that just went ahead and did their thing....they are not the most likely candidates to spend alot of time on forums like this...

[Aprilrain]

I could use a little more simplicity and clarity, April, but maybe there's another way to get it?


Kaitlyn beat me to it! there are a variety of ways to feel desperate. desperation doesn't have to include attempting suicide or even wanting to die, we al reach a point of no return with this thing and for many that is just the simple realization that we do not want to go to our graves as a man!


I have always felt mentally ill

The world had taught me that I could not know what is true or false so must be sick.

Kelly you're not mentally ill you're just crazy! : P

I still struggle with feeling unable to trust myself even though I know I am a very intuitive person.

[Anna M]

Charlene, I love your mustard in a ketchup bottle analogy! It's still mustard, even if the bottle is the same shape as the one for ketchup, because it's what's inside that counts.

Anna May

[Inna]

LMAO.........................ANALOGY of being Transsexual throughout my life: Apple's i-Pad running WINDOWS 95

[LeaP]

LMAO.........................ANALOGY of being Transsexual throughout my life: Apple's i-Pad running WINDOWS 95

Yes ... though maybe Android would be even more apt ...

[Andie Elisabeth]

LMAO.........................ANALOGY of being Transsexual throughout my life: Apple's i-Pad running WINDOWS 95

IM-totally-not-humble-O if I ever get iPad I'd wanted my command line :D And I'd find my way to get it. Using CPU with Reduced Instruction Set (RISC) instead of CPU with Complete Instruction Set (CISC) is better.

[Rebecca Star]

This is from left field, it is a (translated) old Russian saying: if there is a doubt, then there's no doubt.

Thanks for posting that Charlene, it actually gives me the answer to a business issue I've been pondering for days!