Finally ran into someone I know on chat.

[Deidra Cowen]

Last night I was having a bit of fun camming and chatting on yahoo. A guy that knew IMed me and started a conversation. (this was the first person from my guy life that I have run into online or in person) He and his wife are friends of mine and we have all gone out to dinner on double dates, attended parties and all that while I was in guy mode.

I was very careful with him...did not chat too much. But I did find it funny that he had a pic that was at least 10 years old and him being 30 pounds lighter in that pic. He also claimed he was single which I know he was not! He is married to a very beautiful and nice woman.

Anyway he did not in anyway seem to catch on to me...I was tempted to call him by his name and ask about his wife...but decided to just play it cool and get off of the IM with him.

It was an interesting experince. Showed how badly people lie on the net...and the fact that supposely straight guys are interested in us CD/Tgirls.

[Sophia Rearen]

That's a classic. Way to stay composed.

[christina9000]

Diedre im glad you took the high road and was discreet


i guess we all have our little secrets, however some of us are more close minded than others.

I for one consider myself staight but think your picture is just sexy.

so its confusing I guess. :angel:

[JoAnnDallas]

I had a person IM me the other day. Saw my profile and wanted to talk to me. All I know is that he is married and is a firefighter. I asked him right up front if he understood that I am a CD and what a CDing is. He said yes he knew. I then asked if he was a CD and he hesitated then said no. I then asked why did you IM me and he said he was curious. I may very well end up putting him on the Ignore List, but right now I am wondering if he has CD tendencies and is reaching out or not. Werid part is he lives right here in the Dallas area.

He may just be curious like your friend. How did you know it was a friend of yours, by his online name or did you look up his profile?

[paulaN]

Id say you did the right thing, you played it cool very cool.

[gennee]

That was smart of you not to ID yourself.


Gennee:)

[Deidra Cowen]

Thanks girls...yeap playing it cool was prob the thing to do since I am still in the closet!

JoannePlano, I knew it was him right away going by his profile. Before I chat with anyone I look at their profile first.

[kathy gg]

Hey Diedra

I think you handled yourself very well.

What a jerk though huh? Do you think you will still feel the same about him as a friend now that you know he has wandering eyes. Not even thinking about the cd/tg slant...just knowing that he is 'looking'?

I dont' know if this is a girl thing, but I would find it very hard to be friends with someone I know is possibly looking to cheat or at least give that impression online. I jsut dont' get it , why do people stay married if they are not happy? that always blows my mind....


kathy in canada

[Shannon]

Excellent way to handle the situation, Deidra. As tempting as it might have been to play some mind games with him, the risks would be too high.

And is does serve as another example of the kind of potential deception that is our there...on the net, personal ads, etc.

[sandra_lag]

I´m really thrilled about finding someone who knows me as a man, I think I will be clocked at first sight... But on other hand I think "he (or she) is looking for CD or CDing information...he´s like me"... but it scares me