why is it

[lori m crawford]

i have been thanking about gg an us as cds an i wood like to know why we dress women dont like dresses-bras - girdles -high heels-doing ther hire-pantyhose makeup so if it is so bad to for a women to do it that they dont wont to why is it we will or wont to dress as one what is it i know it is in you i have ben dressing for 50yrs an like it an see some of it but wen i wont to look good as a man i can but wen i do i wish i was doing it as a women do you feel the same way like wen your wife-girl frind does get dressed up an all time she is doing it are you thinking i whish that was me i do i gess i eveny what women can do an dont do to look good yes they dont no more but my mom started doing that an she maid me dresses good wen we went out an i told her she had to i was not going with my brother my help me cd an she maid me the women in me

[kimdl93]

If I understand your question, I suspect that we, as CDrs, are more enthusiastic about dressing up and doing make up because we've lived so much of our lives wishing we could... GGs, on the other hand, have a lifetime of experience - its routine for them.

[ColleenA]

Lori,
So often in their day-to-day lives, women choose clothing options that are basically unisex - shorts or jeans, a t-shirt, sneakers or flipflops. When running to the store to pick up a few items for dinner, why would they want to take the extra time to get into something nice? In 2012, what woman wants to dress like June Cleaver when working around the house? Something merely functional will do quite fine, thank you. (Which reminds me of a favorite joke: How can you spot the cross-dresser in a group of women? She's the one wearing a dress.)

But while women may say they don't like wearing dresses, bras, girdles, high heels and pantyhose or doing their hair or having to apply makeup, most will still do it on occasion. There are various reasons for this: they want to look their best in certain settings, they like having the opportunity to reflect (or perk up) their inner mood, they want to utilize the full range of options available to them (they aren't socially restricted to a narrow set of clothing choices as men are, although I expect few of them consider it from that view).

Now, when I want to feel womanly, will it be enough put on (besides the requisite bra and panties) a pink Eeyore t-shirt and Capri pants instead of a SF Giants t-shirt and plain denim jeans? Well, that is a step in the right direction, but if I have the choice of something more overtly feminine, I generally will go for it. When I want to express this inner part of me - which I don't get to do as much as I'd like - I want to be sure to do it as fully as I can. And that means things like skirts and dresses, heels, and tops that reveal bra straps.

And yes, when my SO would get dolled up, I envied her being able to do it with no one giving it a second thought. Given my utter inability to pass, the only way I could entertain the notion of going out in *anything* from my wardrobe, let alone my best dress, is if I do it in the middle of the night and just drive around the neighborhood.

[outhiking]

I don't present as a woman, it's strictly private, but I know that my wife feels a lot of pressure when she dresses up. Maybe some women fear the judgement of others? I also guess that for us there's some pleasure in the taboo of crossdressing, but as someone else said, for women its routine.

BTW - "Which reminds me of a favorite joke: How can you spot the cross-dresser in a group of women? She's the one wearing a dress." LOL

[Marie GG]

"Which reminds me of a favorite joke: How can you spot the cross-dresser in a group of women? She's the one wearing a dress."
:rofl: I like that one !

In my opinion it is that it is a normal every day task.
I remember when I was younger and wanted to shave my legs for the first time and my mother warned me it wasn't all it was cracked up to because once you start you pretty much end up doing it forever. I didn't care I was too excited, now it is just something I have to do to get ready. Same with my make up, I feel I look better with it, but it took so much less time to get ready before I had to use it.

What makes a woman a woman? Is it her hair and make up, her clothes or shoes, her breasts? Or is it her attitude, her feelings, or the things she does for her friends and family?
A woman is more that her pretty outer-shell.

[docrobbysherry]

I dress every 2 weeks or so. And, it's usually a big production affair! If I had to dress EVERY DAY would I go overboard like that? Not a chance! Would u?

[jillleanne]

Gee, let's see now, get up in the morning, put on the coffee, make the breakfasts, get the kids out of bed, make sure they are dressed properly, get their lunches ready , clean up the mess in the kitchen everyone else left for me, tell hubby his daily duties for the day, take some crap from him until he leaves for work, shove the kids out the door for school, hit the bathroom and get dressed casually for work, fight traffic for 45 minutes getting to work, spend eight hours listening to a pri**k of a boss shit on the staff daily, do shopping chores during my lunch hour, fighttraffic for 45 minutes getting home, pick up the one kid that has a doctors appointment at 4:30 today, off to the doctors to wait until 5:30, home at 6pm. Get the dinner ready, get the kids into homework, bathed, and off to bed, put in a load of laundry, ask hubby to retrieve the trash can at the curb for the third time, vaccuum, do the dishes, watch 30 minutes of television, and head to bed to repeat the day again for the next 3,600 days to come. Hmmmmmm, seems to me the wife in the household would have lot's of spare time on her hands to do something nice for herself like dress up in a nice dress, heels and hose and romance the slob on the couch with the bag of potato chips I bought today. Beats me!

[RADER]

I believe that Society is either getting lazy or just un-fashioned.
Girls today just do not dress up unless it is a special occasion.
And they are not alone.
Look at the old black and white movies, the men always had a shirt and tie on,
With a suit coat, the girls always wore a dress or a skirt and top.
Very few wore pants, and if they did, it was dressy type.
So it is not just the girls that do not dress up today.
The only men in a suit are office/business type, and the girls the same.
Rader

[Silentpartner GG SO]

jilleanne I am so with you on that one - you have put the average woman's life into a nutshell.

[Babeba]

Pretty much no-one wears pantyhose anymore, TBH. Unless you're in Britain, then it's worn underneath shorts. Girdles are even less common, outside of bedroom lingerie sets. (People with the knowledge of how to attach stockings ON to girdles are even more rare, IMO... the number of times I've had to help some poor schmuck at a hallowe'en party... okay, it was once. But one time too many, if you ask me!) Heels get worn all the time, but the height seems to be inversely proportionate to the distance the wearer intends to walk in them.

One of my favourite items of clothing is this polka-dotted dress I own, made out of a nice (relatively thick) jersey blend. It's long sleeved (meaning I won't freeze indoors without a cardigan), it's black and white, it's got a defined waistline just under the triangles that support the chest. On a not-cold day I can just get away with shoving it on, I don't need to worry about finding a bra even. The only thing I need to worry about with it is whether or not a skirt is practical that day, or am I going to end up showing off my underwear by accident? It's long enough that the answer is usually 'no.' I don't have to worry about clashing with anything, I think only one or two of my sweaters wouldn't go with it. I think my neckline is pretty enough without digging through the jewellery stash on a casual day. Therefore, because it takes the same effort to pull on as a T-shirt and I don't have to worry about finding let alone pulling on bottoms, finding socks, and tying up shoes (yay ballet flats!) it is the ULTIMATE lazy day apparel. :D

[ColleenA]

Jilleanne - that was terrific! I especially loved "romance the slob on the couch with the bag of potato chips" - because he is going to notice and comment on the one thing you didn't do. :doh:

[outhiking]

jilleanne I am so with you on that one - you have put the average woman's life into a nutshell.

Oh my gosh...you just described me...I am a housewife ;-)

[Barbara Ella]

My analogy is precisely what many have said here. Women are women 24/7, so Friday, or Saturday night occupies only about 4 or 5 hours out of a week, what, some 168 hours. For the CD. dressing, the time we dress is totally Friday night, so we are dressing for a good time out. I feel as dressing occupies more of our time, we often adopt a more casual style.

So, when I see all the beautiful women here I see Friday or Saturday night coming to the fore, and I love it.

Barbara

[Tina B.]

Lori, it's just like when you where a kid, it's always more fun to do what you want to do, rater than do what you must do. For part timers, it's much more of a game, for women, it's a daily routine, that can get tiresome.
Tina B.

[jillleanne]

Jilleanne - that was terrific! I especially loved "romance the slob on the couch with the bag of potato chips" - because he is going to notice and comment on the one thing you didn't do. :doh:
OMG, I completely overlooked the fact he would comment on something the gg didn't do right in his eyes. lmao

[jillleanne]

Oh my gosh...you just described me...I am a housewife ;-)

DEFINITION: Housewife = (noun) one who spends their entire life catering to/supporting others whereby the 'others' have no intelligent recognitve abilities to support themselves throughout a twenty-four hour period without immenant failure.