Still questioning people's acceptance?

[Danika140]

I just went to the store to pick up a few items for dinner dressed en femme in very obvious women's clothes and no make up. I'm not trying to pass as a woman, I am just being comfortable expressing me. right now, the only male items on my body is my watch and belt. I wear only women's clothes now wherever I go.

Well I went about the store without a care in the world, but still aware of the looks I was getting, which only brought a smile to my face that I was gaining so much attention! When I went up to the cashier to pay for my items, she was curious enough to know why I was wearing women's clothes. I boldly and confidently told her that I am TS and wearing what feels natural. She then asked me if I was planning on becoming a woman? I told her I was but for now I am learning how to be a woman before I become a woman. Without batting an eye, she said how awesome it is for people having the courage to be themselves. The cashier and another girl about my age in line then offered to help me learn the ways of womanhood!

To say the least, it was a very rewarding experience that skyrocketed my confidence!

[MelissaLynnSilver]

that's wonderful I'm basically at that point where i don't care what everyone thinks of me and I just go out and express myself the way i feel comfortable

[Inna]

Kudos to you and the gals at the store. Courage is the proper word, together with unstoppable urge to be true self for once. I not only praise you on your valor but also with taste in shoes, NINE WEST isn't it?

[Launa]

All I can say is wow! Its funny how we get those looks from people and yet we might not know if they are positive or negative until we have a chance to talk to them.

[Danika140]

Yep I bought them at the Nine West in Clearwater, Fl and wore them out of the store. Almost busted my ass but it was a great feeling being encouraged and not judged. Those are the heels I wore with the dress in my profile picture as well when I went clubbing with my friend.

[Badtranny]

Congratulations.

Stay strong, there will be a-holes, but don't resist, just let it wash over you like a cold wind. Then grab your friends to get warm again.

[Nicole Erin]

Soon you will get to a point when people don't even question it. Maybe you will "pass" or maybe not but as you gain confidence, people just kind of take you as you are. Once in a while you get someone curious though.

Anyone with any decency is not going to mind you being who you are. As badtranny said - once in a while you will run into some prick but that goes for anyone.

Sounds to me like you are pretty much there. Good job on that :)

[docrobbysherry]

Yep I bought them at the Nine West in Clearwater, Fl and wore them out of the store. Almost busted my ass but it was a great feeling being encouraged and not judged. Those are the heels I wore with the dress in my profile picture as well when I went clubbing with my friend.
U seem to be in a wonderful place, Danika! But, don't fool yourself. People ALWAYS JUDGE u! Even if it's not done consciously. The point is presenting yourself in a way that people understand u r no threat and r in fact a reasonable and decent person! Which it sounds like u r and u do! Keep up the good work! You're not only helping yourself, you're helping make the world a better place!

[Krististeph]

Oh HELL Yes! I'm impressed- good for you, and thank you for representing! lady-balls of steel! :-)

[Danika140]

Very good point! I forget that even though people just smile and treat me as just another person, they could be thinking something completely different than what their actions suggest. I know that I say I never judge people but I catch myself thinking negatively or positively about someone I see all the time even though I don't verbalize what I am thinking. It's my hope and belief that we will be widely accepted within the next few generations, and that acceptance starts with us now.

Thing is personally, I spent six years in the Air Force fighting other people's battles and worry about everyone else because of my job that I didn't really "live" much. Now that I am out of the service, it's time I take care of #1 and make myself happy no matter what. I gained a lot of self confidence through what I've been through and I only hope to help others gain the same confidence I've built up myself.

[Inna]

As you point, judgment is inevitable, everyone does it, it comes naturally as an assessment, "friend or foe", but see for your self there is one great tool of disarmament, and that is a warm smile!
Even when you look at someone in negative light, something mesmerizing changes when they put on this wonderful smile at you, observe and you will soon discover that even the most stark and cold looks turn to warm and fuzzy smiles when faced with this weapon of love!

[Badtranny]

when faced with this weapon of love!

Inna you're such a beautiful warm and fuzzy ...nut

I have been faced with a weapon of love several times and I agree, it did make me smile. ;-)

[jennifer24]

I was also in that mode when I 1st started going out, do I pass or not, worried to death what people would say, now I really dont care what might be said, long as I am happy I dont care what others think, guess its just a phase most of us go thu.

[STACY B]

Thats great ,, Just be yourself an it will be OK ,, I think there are more nice people than mean people out there . So dont worry I do the same as you ,, Your true self will shine threw . It alwayz does ,,If your a nice person they will know !