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Dear Ladies

I had some questions that I want to somewhat clear up if you can help me. Please forgive my ignorance on the matter.
My first question is to the ladies that are thinking about moving forward on SRS,how or what made you finally decide this was the next step in your journey?
The other question is for those of you that have already done the SRS and have established a life, Is it what you expected and has it change anything from before as far as emotions,feelings toward intimacy and intimacy itself and your perspective on life in general compared to before SRS? Thank you so much for your time and thoughts.

Godspeed to all of you
Thera

[Aprilrain]

I am planing on having SRS after the first of the year. Many things have factored in to my decision but ultimately I just know its right for me. I mean what the hell else am I gunna do with the dangler!

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Aprilrain, you are a sweetheart, thank you for sharing...the dangler- too funny:heehee: I wish you the best of luck in your venture.

Thera

[MC-lite]

I really have no choice but to move towards SRS. For me, it's closure. I don't have a "dangler" (as April put it. :) ) I was born without one.
For me, it's a matter of moving from physiologically genderless to female. (A place where I truly feel comfortable.)

[Bree-asaurus]

It's my next step, but I have to wait until I have the money for it.

I've known for a while (basically between accepting that I'm transsexual and realizing that I had to transition) that I am going to get SRS. It's just something I know I need to do. I've tried to see if I could get into a mindset where I could go without SRS and I can't stay with that feeling for long... I just don't feel comfortable with what I have and it isn't a part of me so it's gotta GO!

I don't think I can ever feel anywhere near complete until after I get SRS.

[Sophora]

It's my next step, but I have to wait until I have the money for it.

I've known for a while (basically between accepting that I'm transsexual and realizing that I had to transition) that I am going to get SRS. It's just something I know I need to do. I've tried to see if I could get into a mindset where I could go without SRS and I can't stay with that feeling for long... I just don't feel comfortable with what I have and it isn't a part of me so it's gotta GO!

I don't think I can ever feel anywhere near complete until after I get SRS.

This is my thinking. I need money for the surgery, however it is my ultimate goal. I look at the mirror and see that and it really does not belong there.

[Jorja]

I had SRS just a little over 20 years ago. Is it everything I expected? Yes, and so much more than I ever knew possible. I opened up afterwards. I became a successful business woman and was married to a wonderful man until he passed on a few years ago. Now I play the cougar with all those cute young guys ;). SRS is not a cure. It only makes you feel congruent with the image of what is in your mind. I still have to mow the lawn, take out the garbage, and pay my bills (unless I can talk someone else into it :)).

[Stephanie-L]

As others have said, I decided on it because it feels right. I don't have any great hatred of my dangly bits, but no real love either, but having SRS seems to be somehow, just a logical progression for me, and the part I need for completion..................Stephanie

[Rianna Humble]

I fall into the first category. It was an easy decision for me, after decades of pretending my birth defect didn't exist, I need to have Gender Confirmation Surgery to complete the task of making me whole. My biggest problem is that I need to drop 2 or 3 dress sizes at least before I can be considered a viable candidate.

[noeleena]

Hi.

If your talking about transition , then no i did not , i did have surgery , not because of as many would say they are transexual. again im not,

Being intersexed puts my self in an other place, surgery allows my self to carry on liveing as both male / female yet accepted in to the womens ranks in a more positive way than i could have before.

What has changed , im accepted as a person who is different, & really its not about male or female or male / female.

Im still the same as iv allways been yet many changes have taken place over the last 17 years.

My real difference has been im seen as a normal female / woman by both male & female. For my self being intersexed has ment because of how im wired or programed i my thinking is in line with who i am. im both happy & content in who i am as a person ,

I went through a lot of issues for most of my life & this did not come about because of being intersexed or a mix of male /female wireing, it was because of my self as a person who did not like how i looked dont really think thats changed much no confindence lacked self esteem did not get on with people hated being around men. have dislexa major ^ abused at school & did not learn .still have most of those issues i just skirted around them.

Today im very different im a very strong woman very confident in who i am get on well with people in front of 1000.s of people a very public person & involved with many groups & women only groups as well.

& my profile is world wide.just use my name on the net,

My main change has come about because i was able to express my self in a way i was not able to for 54 years of my 64 years of life, & the neat thing has been as a female / woman.This of cause started 17 years ago. A little different as youll no dought think.

...noeleena...

[Cassi3]

SRS is my next step. Circumstances forced me to stop HRT, shortly after beginning, otherwise, SRS would of been accomplished by now. Basically starting somewhat over. HRT will start again for me in September. As for my decision to have SRS, it was easy to decide. I always knew and felt I should of been a female. Just ignored it.

[LisaMallon]

Yes that is my final goal, lots of steps to go through first of course .. lots. But that would be my ideal.

Hah, just had a wicked thought. Maybe the process should be reversed. Instead of dressing, electrolysis, hormones, etc, etc ... SRS it should be SRS first .. then you are really committed.
Whoops I am a girl, better sort out the other stuff real fast....lol.

Therapist: "well you are a transsexual .. and your surgery is next week, organise some time off from work"

[Aprilrain]

Therapist: "well you are a transsexual .. and your surgery is next week, organise some time off from work"

I realize your being funny but can you imagine how disastrous it would be if this were how it really worked? I have met people here who said they had been "diagnosed" TS by, IMO, some quack and yet they still were not and perhaps never will be ready to transition.

[LeaP]

My first question is to the ladies that are thinking about moving forward on SRS,how or what made you finally decide this was the next step in your journey?

It took me a while following this thread to figure out why I didn't like the question. It's that I don't think of transition in terms of SRS. I don't exclude it, either - at all. It's just that transition is an all-in proposition to me. Being, living, presenting, working as a woman. Plus several physical changes. SRS is an important one, but only one step of many.

The focus on SRS in the question seems like a variation of the "sex change" focus to which most non-transsexuals immediately jump. I've never thought in terms of "having a sex change." My thoughts are of living as a woman, of living who I am. The process in therapy has never included the notion or any discussion of sex change, either. It has been about inner gender sense, conflicts and suppression, and depression

SRS is not my next step. Hormones, dealing with serious relationship fallout, committing, and planning are next steps.

[Julia_in_Pa]

I've been transitioned for five and a half years now and have not yet had SRS.
I originally had Dr. Suporn ready to take care of the matter but did not pull the trigger.
As of late the issue of surgery has been entering my conscious mind again and I have been seriously considering it.



Julia

[Kathryn Martin]

The decision to have SRS for me was simply a congruence issue. I just had SRS one months ago and am still convalescing. For the first time in my life I feel whole. We will see what the future will bring, but I know already it will be all good.

[Paula_56]

As was a latch-key kid and started cross-dressing in the 3rd grade. One day I cam home and there was an issued of Life magazine and in it was a story about Christine Jorgensen. I can still remember the pounding of my heart, I knew right there and then. Then came life... denial, gulit, shame, anxiety, but all along thru all the turmoil, I knew what I wanted and needed. I was just a coward

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My beloved Ladies
Thank you for sharing your life stories with me. Some of you have had a heavy cross to carry and continue to carry it and my heart goes out to all of you. I want to wish all of you peace of mind on your journey and the strengh to continue wherever your journey leads.

Godspeed to all of you wonderful and beautiful people
Thera