A little more "Out"?

[Stephanie-L]

Today I had my first full session with my new electrologist, who seems great by the way, and we started talking about what I do for a living, the usual small talk stuff. I told her I am a Nurse Anesthetist, and she said, "Oh, I have a friend who does that", so of course I asked who it was. It turns out I have worked with her friend in the past and still do occasionally, and I said, yes, I have known her for years. My electrologist knows I am a trans-woman, but I am not out at work yet. So, I can see it as possible that she would mention to her friend, "Oh, I had a collegue of yours on the table the other day" and potentially "out" me to her. I failed to mention that I was being somewhat stealth at this point, so there really isn't any inhibition on her, except for professional privacy ethics, which I have no idea of for her job. Anyway, I started thinking about it on the way home, and decided that it doesn't really matter if the folks at work find out. I have changed my look significantly over the past six months, and I am sure there are some questions about that, so this would just confirm a few suspicions. When I started this journey about a year ago, I decided that I wasn't going to announce myself until I have to, but if anyone asks, I am not going to lie. So, we shall see what happens. Actually it is kind of a relief not to worry so much any more:)...........Stephanie

[AllieSF]

I know exactly what you mean. My electrologist is totally accepting of my other side, though I do go in guy mode for each session. We have become very good friends and have gone out several, times in guy and en femme to the theater, ballet and dinner alone and with a few of her girl friends. I made it a point to tell her that since you know so many people and so do I, please keep this side of me private. She said that she understands that because most of her clients both men and women do not want anyone else to know that they are getting hair removal at an electrologist. I can understand why a few would not want that information to get out, but still don't know why most are that way. So, I would guess that most electrologists keep your name pretty confidential. I would recommend that you let her know your concerns just to be on the safe side. She does deal with all kinds of people from straight guys who hate their facial hair, or back hair or chest hair, to older, younger and and in between women, as well as the whole gamut of the TG spectrum.

[Sandra1746]

As you get further into your transition it is going to become obvious to your co-workers that "something is changing". They are after all medical professionals and they are likely to notice the changes. The more your "secret" gets out in little pieces the easier it will be when it is too big to hide. Besides, sooner or later it will come out and then you will discover it wasn't as big and scary as you thought it would be.

Good luck and don't make things scarier than they need to be,
Sandra1746

[Badtranny]

When I started this journey about a year ago, I decided that I wasn't going to announce myself until I have to, but if anyone asks, I am not going to lie. So, we shall see what happens. Actually it is kind of a relief not to worry so much any more

Yes freedom is very liberating. I think you see now that you were always free, you just wouldn't push the door open. Congratulations on the push and please hold fast to this new courage. Be honest about who you are and you will experience a measure of self respect that has likely been eluding you for a lifetime.

...and Allie, she is MY electrologist! ;-)

[Diane Elizabeth]

The electrolysises I have encountered maintain a level of proffesional confidentialality that they do not say who their clients are.

[CharleneT]

I applaud you relaxing, it is an important moment for all of us ;) It is also important to be ready for that moment when the "news" breaks. Especially at work, I would avoid letting that be by chance.

It is a relief ... and your life will be easier once your transition is out - simply because you can just be you :) :) :)

[JLynn17]

i know for me i found a friend at work let her know and she was always like dont worry you can trust me I wont tell anyone, but I told her go ahead and let every one know that or find some one who is a big gossip and tell them (word spreads fast in a bar/diner) but pretty much my make up and nail polish, shaved legs, and shorts that may be a lil too short and tight for a boy and excessive amounts of pink shirts may have gave me away long before... er either way its great to be free