Tranny????

[Krazee]

I live quite a bit of my life being en-femme, and always have shaved legs, painted toes etc. Also I apparently carry myself with a feminine gait.

My fella always calls me his little tranny, which I really like. Do you all find the term tranny offensive, or am I looking into this way too much?

[Laura912]

Some will. Some will not. Does it really matter?

[Karren H]

offensive and duragatory .......

[kimdl93]

I really don't care for the term, but if it's used as a term of endearment, then I guees I'd be OK with it.

[Rebecca Star]

offensive and duragatory .......

Nothing different to calling someone a "Tranny" (which is widely used in the p#rn industry), to the derogative name calling gay people get.

[Kate Simmons]

I dunno, kind of makes a big difference when you are talking about crossdressers or cars.:heehee::)

[Debi]

I kind of like the term myself. 'Transvestite' seems so formal and I refer to myself as a Tranny - I don't find it in the least bit Derogatory.

[RADER]

To some it is a bad word, others no so bad. Myself, I do not use the word tranny, as I find
it has a degrading sense about it.
Rader

[daviolin]

I personally don't care for the term. I like T-girl. Daviolin

[audreyinalbany]

not a fan of 'tranny'

[Lorileah]

My uncle called my aunt "The old woman" for years. He said it as a term of endearment but still. I know men who call their GF's "my B*tch". I don't care if they mean well it isn't nice. You want to give your SO a nickname seems that sweetie or honey or something works better. Tranny in the general world isn't offensive to them, but then again calling people things 40-50-60 years ago in everyday language was normal too until the people who were being called the name rectified it. It is offensive.

[KellyJameson]

For me it depends on who is using the word and their feelings and or opinion of me.

I have friends who are black and they call me "N....r" all the time and I take it has a compliment because they are including me within their circle but I still do not use the word toward them because of the ugly history behind the word.

There are many similarities between the N and T word because each has been used to subjugate, demean and intimidate with every intention of breaking the persons will and sense of their own value as a human being in relationship to other human beings.

Your fella seems to care about you so is not being disrespectful or demeaning but uses the word as a term of endearment.

I have been fortunate that a stranger has never thrown the word at me as an insult because I would find it hurtful not because of the word but because of the implications behind the word (their reason for using it)

Words are extremely powerful symbols that can enter our minds below our awareness and like an infection we become infected by anothers hate driven ignorance that than threatens to fester inside us as self loathing, leaving us feeling worthless and inadequate. Those adults who have suffered child abuse done with words and who have healed from the effects understand this.

Words by themselves would mean nothing if they did not threaten to harm us and some people are much more vulnerable to being hurt by words than others, we build our opinion of ourself out of words so what you believe you are and become.

This is why it is so important to set boundaries which are rules that govern anothers behavior for your own protection but each person must decide what they need from others to be safe and to than reciprocate in protecting others from themselves by asking them what they need in return.

Words can heal or they can harm but it is unique to each person.

[Lola14U]

Im not sure i would like to be called Tranny-- Just my opinion.

[Marcia Blue]

Just my 2 cents. I think the use of "Tranny" in the US has a bad vibe to it. While across the pond it does not. I could be wrong, maybe the members from the UK and such, can shed a little light.

[Melissa Rose]

I do not like the term; however, the context in which it is used makes a big difference to me. I would prefer if it went away.

[Karinsamatha]

I don't care for the term myself, but to each there own. Just me.

[NathalieX66]

Tranny.
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[Karinsamatha]

Tranny.
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Now that's what I call a Tranny! :D

[Starr]

As long as it is used with out hate or trying to be mean you can call me anything you want, tranny, tgirl, sissy, etc.. but please don't call me "SIR"

[whowhatwhen]

but please don't call me "SIR"

Sorry, I couldn't resist...
:)

[Sandy Michaels]

it's the same way i feel about "sissy" if my BF/GF, sister, or partner call me that with endearment it's ok. i like it because they use it with love. if a jerk uses it in an offensive manner, he's going to get knocked out. my loved ones have always been there for me and never stop supporting me. it's no longer about what you say, it's how you say it, at least where i live it is.

[Sallee]

Would U prefer he call you something different? If you like it Its fine

[JohnH]

I live quite a bit of my life being en-femme, and always have shaved legs, painted toes etc. Also I apparently carry myself with a feminine gait.

My fella always calls me his little tranny, which I really like. Do you all find the term tranny offensive, or am I looking into this way too much?

My mother calls me everyday. I have your attributes and in addition I have a developing feminine figure due to M2F HRT so now my wife calls me "Momma's Little Drag Queen".

Now that's more objectionable than to simply be called a tranny. But the worst term is to be called a sissy.

John

[sissystephanie]

A real Tranny is usually found in a car or truck!! To me the term is very insulting. I am a crossdresser and a male, but nothing more! So don't call me any of those "pet" names!

[Joann Smith]

Tranny.
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Not cool .......I think she over did her makeup a bit.

[Mythic]

Tranny.
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Made me lol. Anyway It depends on how the word is used I guess?

[Annaliese2010]

I like that term & see nothing offensive by it though I suppose some might.

[dragdoll]

I'm not bothered by it all. What does bother me is someone who is not a trans person or has any association to crossdressers/transgender community telling me I can't use the word to describe myself or another CDer who is ok with the term.

[Contessa]

I would rather anyone use the word to recognize me than the f word for being gay. I don't prefer either word and will not use them. Nor do I use the n word to describe another person. The words are just that they are just words so they can't change me by calling me that. Tranny sounds like you're trying to religate someone into something sexual. As this is not about my sexuality I see no need to use the word to explain me. I would rather be called a gurl/girl but since I would not have any control over this I would pay it no attention. Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.

Tess

[Kathy4ever]

It sounds to me it is being used in a positive way of enderment. It also may be taken a negative context. If you like it then it's okay. my neighbor has said a couple times i'm the neighborhood transvestite. She was joking of course but i would say they were used on different levels. Mine not as positive but I was okay with it. I don't let others bother me anymore. I am what I am.

[LeaP]

Not a favorite word of mine. I've become used to its casual (and well-meant) use among friends, but was recently reminded, in reading a hostile article, how vicious it can be when used by others.

[mcvste]

It's not a word that I like either.
-Lara

[Marlana]

When I hear anyone use the word "tanny", i always seem to hear a little disgust/disrespect. I think a lot of people think of a really fem gay male when using that word. So for me, it's a negative word. Just my opinion.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Krazee, That's not something that I like to be called it just sounds so ugly.

[linda allen]

I find the word "tranny" to be a bit offensive, but if used as a term of endearment (my cute little tranny), I suppose it would be OK.

My wife has recently determined that I am a "crossdresser". One night as we were playing around, out of the blue she said "You're a crossdresser. You wear women's cloths, that makes you a crossdresser."

I didn't know what to say so I said nothing. She hasn't used the term again.

Now if she called me a "cute little bitch", I would probably like that. :battingeyelashes:

[Cheryl T]

I don't care for the term myself. Too many connotations specific to the porn industry so it sounds degrading to me.
If anything I prefer to be called transgendered.

[Foxglove]

Just about any word can be offensive or inoffensive or neutral, depending on how it's used--i.e., depending on what emotional content it's given. Call a woman a "dog" and she probably won't like it. Tell a guy he's a bit of a "dog" and he'll probably be flattered. I don't know how many times I've called my son a "pig", and he's always flattered because he's proud of the amount of food he can eat. It all depends.

[Jorja]

I don't care for the term but it is what it is, a word. Now you all know how African-Americans feel when the "N" word is used. It matters as to how the word Tranny is being used. In this case it is a term of endearment which makes it OK. However, I would encourage the person not to call me Tranny and find another way of expressing themselves.

[LeaP]

There's a corny phrase I like that describes epithets and swearing: "It's counterfeit currency for a bankrupt vocabulary."

Damn catchy, too.

[MelanieB]

To some it is a bad word, others no so bad. Myself, I do not use the word tranny, as I find
it has a degrading sense about it.
Rader

Agree with you here Rader

I have never liked the words Transvestite or Tranny in relation to myself as they seem to me to conjure up ideas of the seedier side of things

For me Ive always been a Crossdresser and there I'll remain

[suchacutie]

What two people call each other privately is only between them.

What we say in public should be said with an understanding of the lay of the land. It's called tact, and until we know someone well (or are in a public setting) it would seem best to use more generally accepted terminology.

tina

[Debi]

Just my 2 cents. I think the use of "Tranny" in the US has a bad vibe to it. While across the pond it does not. I could be wrong, maybe the members from the UK and such, can shed a little light.

I think you are absolutely right! It seems strange to me that so many people have an issue with the word and can only think that it must be a cultural thing. Tranny sounds sort of cute to a Brit's ears (not that I want to talk for all of the UK sisters on here you understand) and lots of us refer to each other as such.
Trasgender, Transvestite etc all seems a bit formal to me.
When I feel that I want to dress, I always let my wife know that tonight is 'Tranny night'.

[carhill2mn]

I have never liked the word "tranny".

[toni_62]

"Sticks and stone may break my bones, but names will never hurt me." Or maybe this one "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." I don't consider Tranny a bad name. There are worse things to be called.

[Sophie_C]

Honestly, it's all context, and in that context, it sounds like he's just being playful, maybe a little teasing. No big deal.

[Maddie22]

Words are extremely powerful symbols that can enter our minds below our awareness and like an infection we become infected by anothers hate driven ignorance that than threatens to fester inside us as self loathing, leaving us feeling worthless and inadequate. Those adults who have suffered child abuse done with words and who have healed from the effects understand this.

Words by themselves would mean nothing if they did not threaten to harm us and some people are much more vulnerable to being hurt by words than others, we build our opinion of ourself out of words so what you believe you are and become.



I couldn't agree with these statements more!

I find Tranny, Shim, ******* and Transvestite to be all very offensive. I think these words have been used in the butt of jokes about people who work in the sex industry that are TG or TS.

If I'm going to be called something, I'd rather be called transgender or TG personally (I use TG as the umbrella term, while I know some don't).




Now if she called me a "cute little bitch", I would probably like that. :battingeyelashes:

I would have no problem being called a cute little bitch! I've been called princess before, and I'm somewhat flattered by it, but put off too.

[Beverley Sims]

The only tranny I like is my transistor radio.:)

[linda allen]

I don't care for the term myself. Too many connotations specific to the porn industry so it sounds degrading to me.
If anything I prefer to be called transgendered.

That's fine for those who are. Many of us are not transgendered, just crossdressers. I fit into that group.

[NicoleScott]

........am I looking into this way too much?

You can be offended. Or not. It's your choice.

I don't like the double standard of being OK for some to use words (like N- or T-words) but not others. I don't buy the argument: I use the word as a term of endearment but you use it in a derogatory way, so I can use it and you can't. Bull.

[glynnis]

I am a crosdresser so I must be a transvestite.I dont have a problem with the word unless used as an insult.

[Mistybtm]

I am a crosdresser so I must be a transvestite.I dont have a problem with the word unless used as an insult.

I could not have said it any better

[Mickitv]

I like being called a tgirl and other names are just rude.

[Frédérique]

Do you all find the term tranny offensive, or am I looking into this way too much?

I call myself a transvestite, which, in my mind, is a VERY serious MtF crossdresser, so I enjoy being called a tranny very much. If it's OK for the U.K., it's OK for me. Some people look askance, or down, at the term, attaching antiquated meanings to it. Americans, I find, dislike being called trannies very much, so I decided to do my own thing, namely NOT do what everyone else does – this is an art form, and it extends to all terminology the crossdresser may encounter. The word crossdresser is all-encompassing term (as I have pointed out in another thread), so, even though I detest distinctions, I would rather be seen as a tranny and not as a crossdresser per se – to me, transvestites are merely accomplished MtF crossdressers, i.e. been there, done that. Tranny is a warm, fuzzy term, if you ask me…
:battingeyelashes:

[leotard fan]

only about 8 friends know i am a crossdresser. they never call me tranny, but if they do, they will not do it in a offensive away, or like an insult... and if they call me tranny, i will just smile very happy, because i know they will do it for fun...

[leotard fan]

i like this picture... a big hug to you all!

[Dawna Ellen Bays]

I don't mind "tranny" or "transvestite." I prefer "CD," "TV," or "T-Girl." I think I prefer the term "TV" over "CD," actually. I DON'T like "sissy" (which I think is a COMPLETELY different type of person, and I don't fall under that particular umbrella), and I don't like "drag queen," unless you're going for a certain type of look. I also don't care for the term "gender dysfunctional" as an umbrella term for anyone who has ever tried on a pair of panties or had a dream where their hair was in pigtails...

[LeaP]

Some people look askance, or down, at the term, attaching antiquated meanings to it.

Nothing antiquated about the negative connotations, as Googling the term will confirm. After the Wikipedia entry, it's all porn.