21century

[Inna]

As I laughingly observe the world, I come to a conclusion that 21st century had become a very confusing stage, especially for CrossDressers. This is not to say that 20 century was any better. As I have gone through my own stages of growth, through crossdressing experience which had freed my spirit and allowed deeper introspect, I had experienced comfort in attire of strictly hyper feminine style and character. Now as I have grown to embrace entire truth about my self I still remain deeply rooted it the whole of TransGender community. I have often been called out on my simple girly attire and made aware that I was doing it wrong, where is your skirt, dress, heels, etc! LOL

As I go about life, shopping and being out in the open, I see more and more woman, weather young girls or grown mature women, tend to wear for comfort and ease and even away from old standards of femininity into the realm of drab and antifashion.

As I observe this I cant stop thinking that crossdressers get harder and harder time fitting in wearing the feminine couture amongst flip flaps, shorts, and Ts. Women wear less and less of clothing and are after comfort abandoning presentation except for night life and work.

I have not gotten my self to flip flap 21st century standard yet, but definitely have gone from ultra high fashion couture, to the comforts of drab.

[ReineD]

As I go about life, shopping and being out in the open, I see more and more woman, weather young girls or grown mature women, tend to wear for comfort and ease and even away from old standards of femininity into the realm of drab and antifashion.

As I observe this I cant stop thinking that crossdressers get harder and harder time fitting in wearing the feminine couture amongst flip flaps, shorts, and Ts. Women wear less and less of clothing and are after comfort abandoning presentation except for night life and work.

This is very true. The gender gap has narrowed considerably in several areas: the workplace, the gender roles taken on at home, and also the presentation.

BUT ... :D there is an area where the gender gap is as wide as ever. Men and women still fundamentally want different things. Women want domesticity and faithfulness once they're ready to have kids, while men want to have as much sex as they possibly can. :)

Back to the CDers though, I've seen pics of the younger CDers and they dress like the GGs their age. It doesn't look as if they're interested in the ultra feminine fashions like some of the older CDers, I think they consider these styles too old-fashioned.

[DebbieL]

As I laughingly observe the world, I come to a conclusion that 21st century had become a very confusing stage, especially for CrossDressers. This is not to say that 20 century was any better.

Look at how far we have come in the 20th century. In the 1900s, a woman could not even show her ankles in public, men wore the fashionable shoes, the figure showing clothes, and the finer fabrics. Women mostly wore woven cotton blouses and wool skirts, even in the summer-time. In the 1920s, the war was over, the 1918 flu had killed a huge number of additional men, and women had to compete very aggressively for the available able-bodied men. As a result, the skirts go shorter, the heels got higher, and the fabrics got lighter and cooler. Even so, the shape was less pronounced, Gibson girl corsets had given way to loose fitting bras - more like bikinis, and thin cotton panties. Women were given the vote, and booze was illegal, which made it a very lucrative business for criminals who were often respected even more that the police.

In the 1940s, women became a critical part of the war effort, and more lost their lives working in the munitions factories than on the battlefield. By the end of the wore, able bodied men were again in short supply, and women had to give up their jobs in the factories so that the veterans could work. Rosie the riveter gave way to soap opera and TV shows like Donna Reed, June Cleaver, and Ozzie & Harriet Nelson. Television created the "Nuclear Family", one mother, one father, 2-3 kids, and no extended family. It was great for television production budgets, but not so good for women. New mothers, trying to live up to the Nuclear Family ideal, often suffered from depression, made worse by the lack of adult support from the parents and in-laws and the benefits of the extended family.

SRS went from the mutilation of Christine Jorgensen - more of a castration and partial inversion, with no attempt to create anything like a functional clitoris to the modern SRS complete with a deep vaginal cavity and very sensitive clitoris.

Women's fashions began to change again in the 1960s. Jackie Kennedy introduced us to the first minidresses and mini-skirts. Even those were long compared to how short they would get by the height of the Vietnam war in 1968, when men were being killed at alarming rates, and those who came back alive often came back crippled physically and/or emotionally.

It was about the end of that period, as Richard Nixon was being elected, that girls in schools everywhere asked to have a vote on whether they could wear pants to school. In exchange, the boys could wear shorts in the spring and the fall. The votes were tight, but the resolutions passed, usually in October or November when it was cold. When spring came around, boys who tried to wear shorts were often violently attacked by the jocks - often at the direct order of the athletic coaches. The goal of the president's council on physical fitness was to prepare students to become soldiers as quickly as possible. Coaches didn't want boy going "nelly" - so effeminite "sissy" boys were often beaten violently and repeatedly to keep everyone in their masculine "uniforms" - and make sure that they were ready, willing, and able to be good soldiers.

The fashion of pants quickly moved to all of the girls, and styles began to include fashionable pants as well as skirts, and eventually pants got baggier and looser. Women started looking more like men. Meanwhile, the Beatles, and later the Rolling Stones and other bands started growing hair and wearing tighter pants. On stage, gender roles were blending. But in real life, there were still horrible consequences for boys who showed even the slightest amount of femininity. The consequences were often violent, and sometimes even fatal. Teen suicide rates went up. Meanwhile, drugs became more popular, and parties featured more and more drugs. Many feminine boys, transgenders, and others would go to the parties and get extremely loaded, often to the point of getting danger.


]As I have gone through my own stages of growth, through crossdressing experience which had freed my spirit and allowed deeper introspect, I had experienced comfort in attire of strictly hyper feminine style and character. Now as I have grown to embrace entire truth about my self I still remain deeply rooted it the whole of TransGender community. I have often been called out on my simple girly attire and made aware that I was doing it wrong, where is your skirt, dress, heels, etc! LOL[QUOTE]

Part of the trick for a transsexual, who ultimately wants to live full time as a girl, is to go be able to "Blend in". You don't want to be the most beautiful woman in the room, or the club or the shopping center. that gets you notice, which means people want to look closer, which means you are more likely to get read.

For the occiasional cross-dresser, there is the fantasy of being beautiful, desired, wanted. They dress like the women they have always dreamed of having, and do everything they can to look as feminine and sexy as possible. If that means wearaing a shorter skirt, shiny blouse, and creating some cleavage to show off, and showing more leg than most women would in public places, so much the better.

[QUOTE]As I go about life, shopping and being out in the open, I see more and more woman, weather young girls or grown mature women, tend to wear for comfort and ease and even away from old standards of femininity into the realm of drab and antifashion.

Recently, there was a song about the tom-boy who wears t-shirts and compares herself to the cheer-leader. It has repopularized female grunge. Fortunately, there is a broad range of fashion and we're seeing more depth and breadth. At the same time, a really well put together outfit can draw too much attention.



As I observe this I cant stop thinking that crossdressers get harder and harder time fitting in wearing the feminine couture amongst flip flaps, shorts, and Ts. Women wear less and less of clothing and are after comfort abandoning presentation
except for night life and work.

It's true. But again, the cross-dresser just wants to be pretty on her own terms. Transsexuals need to be able to live and act like a woman at all times, and ultimately want to be able to do it full time.



I have not gotten my self to flip flap 21st century standard yet, but definitely have gone from ultra high fashion couture, to the comforts of drab.

[max]

while men want to have as much sex as they possibly can. :)


Men want all sorts of different things. How do you have the position to make a declaration on what all men want?

[ReineD]

Men want all sorts of different things. How do you have the position to make a declaration on what all men want?

It was a joke, based on stereotypes. I've been watching some Mad Men episodes lately. :p

[MC-lite]

BUT ... :D there is an area where the gender gap is as wide as ever. Men and women still fundamentally want different things. Women want domesticity and faithfulness once they're ready to have kids, while men want to have as much sex as they possibly can. :)

This is one of those statements said in jest that rings true. I see it in just about -every- man I observe. I'm not saying that it's a bad thing; it's just the way it is. :)

[Eryn]

It was a joke, based on stereotypes. I've been watching some Mad Men episodes lately. :p

There is a germ of truth in it, though. I've pondered if the waning reproductive imperative might be responsible for the number of CDers who become more active in their 50s or later. We've passed on our DNA, we're not such slaves to our testosterone, and we no longer feel such a strong need to impress our mates with our utter manliness.

[Kate Simmons]

Once we go to the other side of the "fence", we tend to wander back the other way sometimes, which leads me to believe that psychologically men and women aren't really that much different after all.:battingeyelashes::)