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DaphneGrey
07-20-2012, 10:53 AM
I have been thinking about this since I posted yesterday in a thread about men.

The last hold out in my comming out was for my childhood friend Mike. We grew up together played in bands together. And have been through thick and thin together. Brothers from another mother.

You should know that Mike iis the quintisential Tourin heavy metal musician. Long hair tattoos the whole nine. He lived the hard core sex drugs and mayhem life style. And still does no more drugs and girls though. He loves sports his wife playing music and riding motorcycles.

I came out to him about a year ago He had asked why I shave my legs and I just opened up and told him the truth. He didnt bat an eye he was upset that it took me so long to trust him but he understood why it did and forgave me right then. Then he helped me come out to his wife who gave me a big hug and was very supportive. We talked alot over the next few days all of it. My fears wants and deepest desires. They met me as Daphne a few times and were quiq to point out how I seemed so comfortable and happy. And they said I was much more fun as a girl than a guy.

For my birthday last summer they sent me a biker jacket a ladies HD tshirt and a pair of boots. The card said be ready for the ride of your life. Mike made plans to pick me up on a Saturday morning. I got dressed in the bike gear and he showed up on his bike. When I went out to greet him he said "there she is" gave me a big hug and said get on the back sweetheart. A playful slap on my but and we were off!. He took me for a long ride down the shore we stopped in a bar had lunch all the time holding my hand or escorting me and being unashamedly seen doting over me as if I was his girlfriend. AND I LOVED EVERY MINUTE ! We ended up back at his house later in the day to a small birthday party of mostly friends of thiers that I.had gotten to know over the years. Who he had all told about me and asked for them to support who I was trying to be.

I was overwhlmed beyond overwhelmed. They were the last people I told and should have been the first. When I asked why he went through such trouble he said it had occured to him that I might have never had a date and a birthday party as a girl.

I LOVE YOU MIKE AND DONNA AND I ALWAYS WILL!

Erin McShea
07-20-2012, 11:02 AM
What a great story! He truly is the deffinition of a great friend.

Marleena
07-20-2012, 11:10 AM
Daphne I think that is one of the best stories I've read about acceptance. The best part was you thought he would have a hard time with knowing. Such a nice surprise for you.:)

kimdl93
07-20-2012, 12:00 PM
Thast so incredible, Daphne. You have some great friends!

RileyEvans
07-20-2012, 12:34 PM
You have some truly wonderful friends. That's an amazing story.

Ashley D.
07-20-2012, 12:48 PM
Wow what a grate birthday gift !

Kaz
07-20-2012, 12:51 PM
Daphne, that is just wonderful... brought tears to my eyes. Life can be amazing when special people perform their miracles...

Tracii G
07-20-2012, 12:54 PM
That is so awesome and we all are very proud of you.
Kudos to Mike for being a true friend no matter what.I like him too and his wife even tho I don't know them.

Rebecca Star
07-20-2012, 12:58 PM
Awesome story Daphne. It's hard to find friends like that these days, so your very fortunate. But I'm guessing you know that already!

:hugs:

Rebecca

Victoria StJohn
07-20-2012, 01:20 PM
What a beautiful story. What's it like to be on Cloud 9? You go girl!!!

KellyJameson
07-20-2012, 01:42 PM
You know that you are loved when you are accepted.

I admire that they have to courage that comes from self acceptance to allow and support your own self acceptance.

You do not really begin living until you reach this point and the only way to do it is to face our fears.

BLUE ORCHID
07-20-2012, 01:44 PM
Hi Daphne, Real friends will understan if they don't than they are not real friends.

DaphneGrey
07-20-2012, 03:12 PM
That day cloud nine was pretty amazing place! It was wonderful just feeling like nothing other than girl with a crush. Ok it was kind of play acting for him I guess. He is married after all and Donna (his wife) Had come up with the idea in the first place. But I wrapped my arms around his waist on his bike and hung on him like a love sick puppy dog all day. He helped me come to terms with who I am. I felt loved and protected and safe and free at the same time. But in the end Donna wanted him back. such is life.

Thanks everyone for all of the wonderful comments. I try not to post these excerps from my life to often. I sometimes feel they are a bit braggadocious. And they certainly dont happen every day. The truth is I have been under a tremendous amount of stress lately and needed to relive a happy memory.

Tara D. Rose
07-20-2012, 03:26 PM
This is a beautiful story. I had to read it two times. I could envision the scenes of it as the story unfolded. I really loved it. We need more people in the world like Mike and family. I can only imagine how great you felt riding with him on the motorcycle. And then the birthday gathering, such a wonderful and moving story. And congratulations at having such a friendship with them, this is awsome. I only have two life long male friends, and I do know that I wouldn't get that same kind of understanding from them. So once again, congratulations on this new step in your life. This is very heartwarming to us all on here. Keep us informed of future talks with Mike and family.
Tara

Marleena
07-20-2012, 03:33 PM
Mike sounds like an awesome friend Daphne. We all need friends like that.:)

Looked at the wrong name on my first reply.. oops.

Jolene Robertson
07-21-2012, 09:04 AM
Daphne,

That is a cool, touching story. Just goes to show what a true friend is. I'm happy for you.

Hugs
Jolene

PretzelGirl
07-21-2012, 09:54 AM
I have to admit, I am welling up a bit. Daphne, that is what best friends are like and he may be just a bit more. Don't ever stop telling stories like this. All of the good and the bad should be told as it all impacts us.

Leslie Langford
07-21-2012, 11:41 AM
Sounds like a wonderful and totally unexpected reaction and experience, Daphne!

They say that a friend helps you move, and that a true friend helps you move a body. It's pretty evident that Mike falls into that second category. ;) It also goes to prove yet again that you can't judge a book by its cover - especially when it comes to the way people dress and present themselves in terms of their public "persona". But then again, as CDer's we already knew that, right? :heehee:

bridget thronton
07-21-2012, 05:53 PM
And true friend knows who are and likes you anyways

DanaR
07-21-2012, 10:34 PM
That is beyond awesome! Thanks for sharing with us.

DaphneGrey
07-24-2012, 04:51 PM
Thanks all for reading and allowing me to share a very special memory :) I need to smile these days. :)

Leah Lynn
07-24-2012, 06:50 PM
You are so blessed! Thank so much for sharing such a wonderful event. Stress will pass because you are loved!

Bootsiegalore
07-24-2012, 07:02 PM
very awesome story. I am glad your friends were so overwhelmingly accepting!

stacycoral
07-24-2012, 07:03 PM
Daphne I think that is one of the best stories I've read about acceptance. The best part was you thought he would have a hard time with knowing. Such a nice surprise for you.:)

I agree with Marleena, such a great story, if everyone could have it that way, would we all be so happy, Hugs.

TeriAnn
07-24-2012, 07:18 PM
That is what you call true friends to the end. That is a great story it is nice to know that there are people out there that still give a hoot about others feelings.