GinaMarie
07-25-2012, 06:51 AM
I knew someday I would get to see somebody for my gender issues, and Tuesday afternoon I did. I can summarize what I feel is relevant to this post or include everything here (which I most likely will not get to).
I felt I needed to make a list of topics to discuss for the appointment, so that I wouldn't forget what I am there for. I was complemented for the creation of my list, though I flunked English 100 (twice, sadly). What happens when you don't remember what to discuss?
One week before my 21st birthday, I had my first visit with a psychiatrist regarding other issues as well as my those with my sexuality. The majority of my appointment focused on my ongoing stress with the death of my father last year, my < 2.0 GPA in college, medical matters, and whatever is happening at home, i.e. the family bugging me when something is unfinished. I mentioned that deadlines are coming up on my birthday which add to my anxiety. And I knew one thing would happen-- I'd ask my mom to join me, as she is the only person who would understand what I'm going through; she also drove me 19 miles in about 40 minutes there anyway.
I was able to get over to my second-most stressful part and the other reason I was there to begin with-- obviously, my gender issues. I appreciated that she was sensitive about it, which made me feel not so bad about being there. I brought up that my mom said I was supposedly in this "phase," when I decided that I wanted to grow out my hair and developed the habit of shaving my legs while concealing it from my brother and his girlfriend who, most importantly, cannot know the real reasons why I'm seeing a psychiatrist. I explained that I do wear women's clothing, and that I am not gay or bisexual, but I did tell her I do CD-- that I only came out to my mom and got into the "avoiding confrontation and fallout with the unaccepting" situation. It was self-explanatory.
I feel I am making progress with continuing to get through my situations without letting them bring me down, but the gender problem is by far my most challenging issue. Now that I realize it, the psychiatrist I was referred to, she doesn't really "specialize" in gender issues but somewhere down the road I may find myself seeing one for that purpose. For now, what matters in my appointments is my own well-being. My main priority in these visits: stress management. Anything about my gender issues may come up in the future for the primary topic of the appointment. I just don't know when. It's at least a way of coming to terms with my inner self.
I felt I needed to make a list of topics to discuss for the appointment, so that I wouldn't forget what I am there for. I was complemented for the creation of my list, though I flunked English 100 (twice, sadly). What happens when you don't remember what to discuss?
One week before my 21st birthday, I had my first visit with a psychiatrist regarding other issues as well as my those with my sexuality. The majority of my appointment focused on my ongoing stress with the death of my father last year, my < 2.0 GPA in college, medical matters, and whatever is happening at home, i.e. the family bugging me when something is unfinished. I mentioned that deadlines are coming up on my birthday which add to my anxiety. And I knew one thing would happen-- I'd ask my mom to join me, as she is the only person who would understand what I'm going through; she also drove me 19 miles in about 40 minutes there anyway.
I was able to get over to my second-most stressful part and the other reason I was there to begin with-- obviously, my gender issues. I appreciated that she was sensitive about it, which made me feel not so bad about being there. I brought up that my mom said I was supposedly in this "phase," when I decided that I wanted to grow out my hair and developed the habit of shaving my legs while concealing it from my brother and his girlfriend who, most importantly, cannot know the real reasons why I'm seeing a psychiatrist. I explained that I do wear women's clothing, and that I am not gay or bisexual, but I did tell her I do CD-- that I only came out to my mom and got into the "avoiding confrontation and fallout with the unaccepting" situation. It was self-explanatory.
I feel I am making progress with continuing to get through my situations without letting them bring me down, but the gender problem is by far my most challenging issue. Now that I realize it, the psychiatrist I was referred to, she doesn't really "specialize" in gender issues but somewhere down the road I may find myself seeing one for that purpose. For now, what matters in my appointments is my own well-being. My main priority in these visits: stress management. Anything about my gender issues may come up in the future for the primary topic of the appointment. I just don't know when. It's at least a way of coming to terms with my inner self.