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[Diane Elizabeth]

I am trying to find any literature on how to tell loved ones. Specifically my nephew has two young ones that I see occasionally. They are at a loss on how to present that their uncle is their aunt.

[Melody Moore]

If you are looking for an easy way around this forget it, because there just isn't any.
Just be straight up to them and answer any questions they might have. Some kids
might react badly at first but give them time because they generally come around if
you are good to them and always treat them with the respect of an adult.

I am a parent who told my kids after waiting for them to grow into adults to say anything. And it was the worst mistake I ever made because now they rejected me. Although my nephew did say to me yesterday they will come around in time. Ýou haven't mentioned the ages of these kids which is very relevant because older kids can be more problematic than younger kids.

No one here can give you a quick and simple fix to this problem. You have to tackle it head on if you are going to come out to them at all. And what works for one family may not work for your family. Everyone is different and the reactions can be mixed. It starts with the examples set by the parents. So if Mum & dad have no issue with someone who is trans, then generally the kids don't either. But if the parents are in anyway transphobic, then there is a good chance they will pass that onto the next generation. I have seen this happen already.

If you want to get the best help for your nephew and his wife, then I suggest that you tell them to contact one of the specialist groups like http://www.transparentcy.org, http://www.transparentday.org or the many others that can be found on Google (http://www.google.com/#hl=en&sclient=psy-ab&q=trans+parents&oq=trans+parents). Goodluck.

[Bree-asaurus]

Just be honest and tell them what's going on... also wait and see what other people have to say.

[TerryTerri]

In trying to explain this to others, I have found many have very little understanding of gender and get sexual orientation issues confused. Anyway, I explain to folks that I was born with a birth defect, I was born with the wrong gendered body. This explanation seems to give folks an accurate grasp of the reality that they can wrap their head around.

Perhaps it will help you and Good Luck!

[ReineD]

I found a few resources. You'll have to switch a few things around in this first article, since it is about a FtM parent telling his child, but the explanation would be similar:

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=4536604&page=1#.UBTRFI5ESao

Here are a list of books. You might also want to look at the other resources on this site:

http://www.mermaidsuk.org.uk/New%20Mermaids/books.htm

The advice I read consistently on the internet is that very young children generally are more accepting than teenagers. If a child is older than say 11-13, it might be best to wait until they're adult. But this certainly isn't cast in stone.

[Diane Elizabeth]

I am sorry Melody. I didn't realize my caps were speaking up so loudly. That was from an offline project and was an oversight on my part. I apologize to you ans to all on here. As you said there was no reason for the shouting when I asked for help. I will pass on all info in regards to my quest.

Again I am very sorry.