Updates at the Allen Household

[linda allen]

Rather than continue to tack on to these posts:

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?170479-Changes-at-the-Allen-Household&highlight=

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?177637-Shopping-Fun-at-JC-Pennys&highlight=

I'm just going to start a new thread with updates.

We're back from our out of state trip. No dressing other than panties and a bra a couple days. No boobs.

While we were gone, my necklace and low heeled pumps came in. We unpacked, I took a shower and shaved (it was a long trip), then started trying on my new skirts and blouses. I put on the pumps and necklace. My wife took a look, smiled and said "Next thing, you're going to want a wig and you'll be going out competing in drag shows." I assured her that I wouldn't.

The next afternoon, we were "cuddling" in the bed. I was wearing my panties, stretch shorts, bra, plain blouse, and my swimsuit pad "boobs". The talk turned to the boobs and she said I could probably get some at (the local adult store). I told her I could get some on line. She said "Just make sure they aren't bigger than mine." I'm going to order a pair as soon as the Breast Form Store opens (on the west coast). "C" cup.

After a while she said she was afraid I would go outside and embarass her. I assured her I wouldn't. She said I might forget that I was wearing a skirt or boobs and answer the door. I said I wouldn't. She said "I guess we could always say it was your sister." I said "Or my halloween costume." She said "That would work. We should get you a wig and take you out on halloween. You'll have practice walking in heels." (I'm getting better at steering the conversation. :heehee: )

So that's where it stands today. I'm waiting for the boob store to open.

[ronda]

kep up the good work you wil get there keep in mind that a supporting wife is a needed to move foward so make sure you take care of her first and always let her know how much she is loved Hugs Ronda

[Claire Cook]

kep up the good work you wil get there keep in mind that a supporting wife is a needed to move foward so make sure you take care of her first and always let her know how much she is loved Hugs Ronda

Ronda's advice is good! If I have anything to add, it would be to take it slow, and let her take the lead. My experience in the past is that our relationship transcended my cd'ing. It's taken 40+ years to get to where we are now (e.g. some of my recent posts) .. well worth the wait!

[linda allen]

I tell her several times a day how much I love her.

[kimdl93]

Linda, the patient and open approach has clearly worked with your wife. Once the forms are in I suspect the wig will soon follow. Perhaps you should ask your wife for advice in picking a wig out, and some help and practice with make up.

[linda allen]

Linda, the patient and open approach has clearly worked with your wife. Once the forms are in I suspect the wig will soon follow. Perhaps you should ask your wife for advice in picking a wig out, and some help and practice with make up.

That's my plan with the wig. She seldom wears makeup but the last time she was putting some on I was watching her and she asked if I wanted some. We were heading out so I declined. She'll come around, especially if we go out on halloween.

[bridget thronton]

Progress is progress - is nice you a both growing

[Beverley Sims]

"Merrily we roll along"
Love the progress.
NICE and SLOW...
Go for it Linda.:)

[diannecourtney]

If that is your true avatar, why would you buy forms you've got a lovely lady shape without them. Your hair length looks, so natural. Obviously this girls is very envious and can understand the patience of the wife.

[Joan_CD]

Fantastic! Please keep updating your progress! Your posts are so much fun to read!
:)

[Kelli Ca]

Awesome strike while the iron is hot, keep us posted

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Linda, Just rember the ball is in her court now don't push too hard or you could loose it all.

[Cynthia Anne]

That's great Linda! I've enjoyed following your storys thus far! I hope things continue going smoothly for you!

[heatherdress]

Great. But go slow and don't make her uncomfortable. Make this process fun and keep her involved as much as she wants to be. My wife urged me to CD, step by step, because she realized how much I enjoyed it. She acutally initiated my CDing by challenging me to buy my first pair of high heels because she realized I enjoyed her in her heels so much. Maybe you can do special things for her while dressed (cleaning chores, neck rubs, massages). Give her small gifts, wrapped with care, when you dress. A card, note or poem works. Maybe she would enjoy matching heels or matching PJs. If she is not threatened, she will look forward to your CD growth and become part of it. Just do not forget about the person she fell in love with.

[linda allen]

If that is your true avatar, why would you buy forms you've got a lovely lady shape without them. Your hair length looks, so natural. Obviously this girls is very envious and can understand the patience of the wife.
It's my "true avitar", but in the photo I am wearing home made forms and the hair is "photo enhanced" (I copied a wig from the Internet and pasted it onto my head).

The photo is several years old.

[linda allen]

Great. But go slow and don't make her uncomfortable. Make this process fun and keep her involved as much as she wants to be. My wife urged me to CD, step by step, because she realized how much I enjoyed it. She acutally initiated my CDing by challenging me to buy my first pair of high heels because she realized I enjoyed her in her heels so much. Maybe you can do special things for her while dressed (cleaning chores, neck rubs, massages). Give her small gifts, wrapped with care, when you dress. A card, note or poem works. Maybe she would enjoy matching heels or matching PJs. If she is not threatened, she will look forward to your CD growth and become part of it. Just do not forget about the person she fell in love with.

I have been a changed person since I started dressing around her and with her knowledge and acceptance. I do the laundry ( I used to just throw the clothes in, now I fold them and put them away), I often cook, do the dishes, and I help with the housecleaning. If you've been following the story, we've been shopping together and she gets as much as I do.

I feel much nicer wearing panties and a bra just underdressing. I have more patience with others, I tend to join in conversations with her and her friends, etc. I really like the "new" me and I really love my wife for her understanding.

[linda allen]

Boobs are on order. The size chart recommended size 10 but they suggested I might want to go with size 12 (there is no size 11). I ordered the size 10. I think my wife will be more accepting if I don't present as a porn star. Also, without hip and butt padding, I think the smaller boobs will look more natural.

Of course, I'm now counting the days until they get here! :D

[kimdl93]

Congratulations, Linda! This is a big step and a positive one for both of you!

I think you made the right choice, size wise. I ordered my first set of forms based on the recommendations on the Trukare website - based on band length and cup size...they ended up being ginormous! I backed off from an ASY 10 to an ASY 6 which I felt was more appropriate for my stature.

[Joan_CD]

Way to go Linda!!!!!! :)

[linda allen]

My boobs have been ordered and are on their way. Last night I was wearing my swimsuit pad boobs and a sack dress as my wife and I were sitting across from each other at the kitchen table eating steamed crabs. After a while she says to me (smiling) "Are your boobies getting in the way of your eating?" I said "No, are yours?" She said "No, but I've had years of practice, yours are new."

I love her! :)

[Joan_CD]

LOL. You know Linda, it sounds like she actually likes this and not just tolerates it!

[linda allen]

LOL. You know Linda, it sounds like she actually likes this and not just tolerates it!

I'm beginning to think so. :D

So now it's normal and accepted for me to have "boobs" and wear female clothing and jewelry around the house.

It's killing me waiting for my new boobs to get here. They mailed them so the tracking isn't as good as UPS or FedX. All I know is they left WA on Sunday. My experience with USPS tracking is that I'll have the package before the next update.

[kimdl93]

Linda, it certainly does sound as though your wife is adjusting well. Have you talked with her about this lately? It would be interesting to hear her perspective and perhaps learn how it has changed over time.

[Beverley Sims]

Linda you are making fantastic progress.
Remember stay slow and low it is only six days since you started this thread.
I know the others are older and progress has been good.
I am just trying to temper your enthusiasm a little bit.:)
Its terrible the wait for boobs isn't it? Must be all of t h r e e days.

[linda allen]

Linda, it certainly does sound as though your wife is adjusting well. Have you talked with her about this lately? It would be interesting to hear her perspective and perhaps learn how it has changed over time.
I'm just going with the flow. And I'm trying to keep it in check so as not to "upset the cart". No serious talking.

Sometimes there are hints that she is hesitant, other times, she has fun with it. Most of the time, she seems to be having fun with it.

There's someone coming over at 10:00 Am to check our dehumidifier, etc. today. Before she left this morning she said to me (with a smile on her face) "Don't be answering the door wearing your skirt and fake boobies."

[deebra]

Linda you might remind her if you fully dress including wig, makeup, jewelry, boobs, etc. you'll pass much easier in public than dressing heavy on the androgenist side or half to three-quarters as a woman, so why not suggest to her that you try dressing fully and see what she thinks.

[linda allen]

My new boobs are listed on the USPS website as "Out for delivery"! :heehee:

I can't wait. I hope the postman handles them with care! :D

[Joan_CD]

Handle with care and no fondling! :)

[kimdl93]

I'm anxious for them to arrive too!!!!

[linda allen]

Well, they were delivered a few minutes ago. I haven't taken them out of the plastic yet, I just stuck them in my bra! http://www.easyfreesmileys.com/smileys/free-sexy-smileys-941.gif

I'm happy with the size and weight. Like I said, I want to look "normal", not like a porn star. And I want to keep wearing my Ahh Bras.

So my wife will be home from the nail salon in an hour or so. We'll see if she notices! :devil:

[Joan_CD]

Cool! Let us know how she reacts!

[linda allen]

OK, update:

I put the boobs into my bra (but didn't go through the "stick on" process. I had on a simple blouse that she had given me when I first started dressing around her, a tan skort, and my new flats. When she got home I got up and greeted her as usual. She looked at me and said "You getting ready to go someplace?" I said no, this is just the blouse you gave me. She grabbed my boob and made a funny face (remember I have been wearing swimsuit pads for boobs). She said "What did you do add more pads?" I said "No." She said "Are those your new boobies?" I said "Yes."

She felt them and squeezed them a bit, then we ate lunch.

After lunch we laid down fo our customary cuddle and/or nap. She played with my boobs and then snuggled up against them. After a while we started "fooling around". She took them out and placed them on top of hers. She commented on how heavy they were and said they would make her a "G" cup (probably an "H" actually). She asked how much they cost and I answered "Less than your plane ticket (to visit her sister at the end of the month)."

Anyway, I eventually put them back in my bra, we fooled around some more and ...................... (fill in the blank). :heehee:

Later, we got up got dressed mowed the lawn and showered. After my shower I put my boobs back on. She said "You're really proud of those boobies, aren't you?"

So, I guess the bottom line is, she seems to accept them and is even having fun with them. She does seem worried that someone will be in our house and see all my skirts and now my boobs in the closet. I might have to put the door back on.

So now I need a wig! :battingeyelashes:

[Joan_CD]

WOW! That's great! All that's left is the wig, makeup and pierced ears! I can see the two ladies out together shopping by Xmas! :)

[Joan_CD]

So Linda, what's the latest? Inquiring minds want to know!!!!! :)

[linda allen]

So Linda, what's the latest? Inquiring minds want to know!!!!! :)

The latest - I now have two small holes in my head that I didn't have before. Yep I got my ears pierced. :heehee:

Of course I have to wear these silly little balls for a month, then studs for six months, but it's way better than the clip ons that hurt my ears and came in very few styles.

My wife went with me and picked out the earrings. She got a pair for herself as well.

She did make a comment later that she was afraid I was "turning into a woman". I assured her that I was not, that I just liked to dress up as one. I think that's a sign to hold off on the wig for a while.

[Joan_CD]

Good thinking. Congrats!

[Chickhe]

My advice... definately do halloween. Do a couples costume and go somewhere fun. But, take some time off to show her that you are still the same person and you are not about to make a huge lifestyle change. In my case, I never explained anything...I just do it and its works well for me... any talk of me turning too a woman gets her a sideways glance and a disbelieving '...I don't think so!'. Although I have my personal thoughts, decided CDing is just a fun activity...I want to keep it that way, for her and I.