So what did your parents do when you told them.

[Sarah27]

I told my mother about 5 years ago over the cellphone on a elevated highway in a city while I was leaving a psychologist. It took a lot of talking and my older brother's explaining to her later that night. My mom is slightly crazy I think. Something strange though is that she told me my biological father whom i've never met was also a crossdresser and that I've always reminded her of him and that's part of the reason for her hatred of the idea of it. My nonbiological father who has been there since I was three she actually told about 6 months ago after telling her even more and that it wasn't actually just about clothes and stuff and that I actually was a girl in my head and that everything that iv'e experienced since my birth has been trying to find a way to fit in and my male persona was a culmination of everything i've been trying to figure out how to fit into and a repression of my true self, I brought down a bunch of my clothes and shoes to show her that it was just normal clothes like jeans shirts and shoes to make me feel like a normal girl every night, she seemed cool with it, then the next day she freaked out on me with my dad and said the most incredibly hurtful things to me, but when I walked out the front door in bare feet and a t shirt in light snow and left she yelled after me and said she wasn't a psychologist and blamed me for having thrown all this stuff on her and they said they didn't know about me like this for the last 27 years while they've been saying horrible things about people like me and making me feel like I do today. So now everyone just pretends it doesn't exist. I apologize for the long post, I write everyyything when i'm drinking, lol.

[Davena Doll]

My dad said "I did not know you where a fagot" and mom just giggled a little bit.

[sometimes_miss]

Dad had passed away nearly 15 years before; mom was taken aback, finding out that I had been sexually abused for seven years when I was a child, and she obviously had no idea. Then again, she didn't really pay any attention to either myself or my sister when we were growing up, it was always all about her. Since then, she has at times acted as if she were responsible, but continues to manipulate both myself and my older sister for her own purposes. Any time the subject of my crossdressing is even touched on (I asked if I could have her 'Woman within' catalogs when she was done with them), she minimalizes the topic and moves on immediately. Clearly she doesn't want to talk about it.

[Jill Devine]

Both parents accepted it. My dad was (surprisingly) cool with the topic; my mother kind of pretends it isn't true and avoids the topic.

[Mathilda]

They don't know, It's my business and my business alone.

[kimdl93]

My dad never learned during his life, so far as I know. My mom, being a taciturn Scandinavian farm woman, just accepted it quietly and went on with life as though nothing had changed. Perhaps, nothing had changed. I was still the same person she brought into the world and she probably knew more about who I was than I did.

[DonnaT]

My dad's passed on. My mom is quite accepting and has given me clothing and earrings.

[Stephanie47]

My parents thought normal teenage boy masturbation was sinful and screamed and yelled even about uncontrollable wet dreams. They would have beat the crap out of me, if they knew I cross dressed. Sometimes I think they may have suspected, but, never really caught me in the act. Their view of gays was intolerance. You youngsters should be glad you did not live in the 1950's and 1960's, at least as far as expressing sexuality.

[reb.femme]

Hi Sarah,

Mine never knew, but as extreme homophobes anyway, it's unlikely they would have loved this weirdo!

Personally, I would never have told them........they were not the kind of people that had independent thoughts. :straightface:
Most of their world was gleamed through crap, low-end UK newspapers and similar acquaintances.

Rebecca x

[mykhelee]

If my Father had found out when I was a teen he would have beaten the **** out of me...my Mother never really cared whether or not I was breathing.

[Marleena]

Nothing....I didn't tell them either. My dad who left when I was 5 passed away. I think my mom would enjoy hearing I'm TG but in a sick sort of way. I think she'd enjoy knowing I was different from the norm. I'm not about to make her happy.

[Mistybtm]

They don't know as far as I know. I used to hide my moms stocking that i had under my matress when I was living home, they seem to disaper one day with out A word. So maybe they did.

[Sophia Claire]

I went home to visit my folks for my birthday and I told my mother that I was giving advice to a couple of transgender folks in my local area and she freaking unspooled on me. Every offensive term, prejudicial stereotype, and condescending thing she could think of to say (fortunately, my mother isn't as quick on her feet as I am), she said. She wouldn't listen to reason, wouldn't hear facts, and wouldn't let it go. I didn't want to have to do it, but the only way I could end the conversation is to question whether or not she even liked me as a person. We didn't talk much for the rest of that trip. She's lived such a sheltered life, and it's something that she's very sensitive about. She's been a home body since she was 14, so she's not had the experiences and the exposures that my father and I (both sailors) have had. He'd probably be cool with it. "Makes sense. You always did hate playing sports, dressed well, and walked funny. And let's not forget the slip we found in your room when you were 15... Yeah, I'm not really surprised when I think about it. Your mother is gonna flip, though, when I tell her."

Short answer: I will never tell them. Ever. It's not worth it.

[Brittany CD]

My parents do not know

[JeanneF]

My dad passed away when I was 21, so he never knew. I told my mom about 5 years ago. She wasn't surprised at all. She said that she had found my stash of clothes (and pot) for the first time when I was 16.

I'm open with her about it now...she's never seen me dressed, but I try to have lunch with her about once a week and she'll make off-color jokes and comments about it. We have a really good relationship, I'm glad I told her.

[Melissa.Lynn88]

I told my mom a few months ago and my dad doesn't know. My mom has been good with accepting it. She is trying hard to understand my feelings and will ask questions and try to have conversations with me about it. Though sometimes this happens a little more than I'd like.

[Amymonroe]

I will never tell my mother, not after what i had seen when my brother in law came out of the closet and started to wear my sisters cloths. he even admitted to them that he is in the process of transformation. my dad i'm still not sure about. my step sister knows and others too. my SO included.

[NathalieX66]

My parents are divorced.

They both seen this picture:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/nathalielandree/6089117350/in/photostream

My mom just thinks I'm an artsy type who does weird things.

My dad is too scared to respond, even though he is is infatuated with movies like Tootsie, Mrs Doutfire and pop musicians like Elton John. ....generational issue.

I'm going too have to have a conversation with them that I am a gender non-conformist. I am transgender. It scares me too much , but it is what it is.

[Madam Rose]

My mother still loves me but is still getting use to the idea that I'm a crossdresser however my father thinks I'm gay. But he still thinks that because I eat Chocolate mint Icecream and like anime. And so sorry for what happen to you. But you are who you are and nothing can change that. Maybe she will get use to it. If not then it's up to you if you want her in your life or not. Also on a lighter not she said your real dad was a CD. Well guess your a chip off the old block then huh?

[sierra_g]

My dad and I have emailed back and forth more since Renee outed me, than we ever have. He tells me that he loves me, but cannot accept this. He doesn't want to see me once I go full time. I am a disgrace to the family name (I am the 4th). My mom doesn't know yet.

[reb.femme]

My mother still loves me but is still getting use to the idea that I'm a crossdresser however my father thinks I'm gay. But he still thinks that because I eat Chocolate mint Icecream and like anime.

Eek! I like mint choc-chip ice cream. Does that make me partially or totally gay?
Just when I thought I'd got it all worked out and bang........I'm mint choc-chip gay! :eek:

Rebecca x

[isela]

my mother wanted me to born girl child. she used to dress me in girl clothes when i was infant . when i grew up she changed and when i used to get caught wearing my sister's clothes she used to get mad at me i will never tell her otherwise she will never talk to me

[SuzanneS]

I think I was in 5th or 6th grade when I started writing in a diary. I'm pretty certain that my Mom read it...she had to have. I remember writing in it that I "wanted to be a girl so bad" and would do "anything to be a girl". I think I was in 7th grade when I decided that it would be best if I burnt/destroyed that diary, so I did. I'm still 99% certain that my Mom read it, but she's never said a word, yet.

Suzanne

[Antoinette]

My mom and grandmother said they'd always love me no matter what. As long as I'm safe and not hurting anyone or myself then it's no problem. My father on the other hand I still don't feel comfortable telling him yet. My mom warns me not to mention it to him. So for now I won't.

[Angela Campbell]

My mother is all I have now, but I wouldn't tell her because it would be too big of a shock and would unfairly change her life too much. I love her too much to cause stress in her life needlessly. I am what I am and I have to live with it and that is fine with me, but there is no need to make others live with the possible embarrassment it may cause if I tell them. It took me 50 years to accept it, she does not have that long.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sarah, I guess that I'm lucky that that never came up while they were both still alive.

[Beverley Sims]

My stash was put in a wardrobe where I could retrieve it until next time.

[Sarah Doepner]

They may have rolled over in their graves.

[Kyndrie]

My dad doesn't know as far as I know. I had to explain to him a few times why my sister's underwear was found in my room. My Mom on the other hand has known since I was a teenager. She didn't go crazy on me, but more addressed it as a problem to purge. That approach didn't work out so well. Regardless, it's not something I make a habit of talking to them, or anyone I physically associate with about.

[molly1985]

The only thing my mom knows it that I own a bunch of women shoes and some clothing. Not sure if she thinks Im a crossdresser, but other that that she doesnt support it. I have yet to tell her or my dad the story, I dont think I ever will either. With my mom back when I lived at home she always questioned me about it and I never told her why. I want to keep it my business, my family can be too judgemental for this.

[stephanie203]

Mom's always been very liberal, had gay friends etc. but I never told her and was uncertain how she would react. Once when I was about 12 she asked if I had been going through her things because she noticed a few things slightly out of place. I denied it and suggested my sister might have been looking for something. Later on I got sloppy and put an incriminating box in my wastepaper basket. When she confronted me on it had her reaction been supportive and positive I probably would have told her the truth but when she said she could "get me help" I denied everything telling her that box must have been used just for shipping. I had long had dreams of being able to tell her, having her acceptance and them helping me but that didn't happen. I thought I did a very good job hiding my stuff but knowing her I'm sure she found it all but it's never been mentioned nor even hinted at.

[Jorja]

My parents knew from early on what I was all about. I announced to everyone at dinner (once I found out that it could be really done) that one day I would be a girl. My mother passed away well before that time came. My father knew and supported me as much as any father from the 50's- 60's could.

[Vanessa Storrs]

My parents never learned of my crossdressing. My mother was always loving and supportive and would have been OK with the idea. I do not know what my father's reaction may have been, we never discussed any kind of sex and the subject of transgender behavior was never even thought of.

[the_shark]

My mom was confused when I told her. Very confused. And then she got mean. Just catty. And then she made me get hair extensions. She's still catty. I can't wait to move out. I don't want to tell my dad.

[Heisthebride]

My cross dressing was discovered. I didn't tell my parents. This was back in the early 80s and there was no Internet to look stuff up on. They were freaked out but were still loving parents.

They made a psychiatrist appointment for me but didn't tell me about it until we were driving there in the car, which then freaked me out. I opted out of the psychiatrist after the first appointment. I didn't want to be a female, still don't. I just enjoy dressing.

My parents told me they loved me no matter what, my mom offered to buy me clothes but I could only do it in the house. I never dressed around them. Eventually it became an out of sight out of mind thing for them. They have since passed away.

I made sure to tell my wife before we were too far along in our relationship. She has been very supportive.

[Shadowgirl89]

I'm Hispanic and I live in one of the roughest ghettos in Los Angeles, in my world there is no such this as coming out to people they just find and when my mom did she was pissed, I was about 13 and beat me with a belt and told me if found out I was still doing it it would be worse. So no I didn't TELL my mom

[MaryAnn40c]

My mother has some idea but dad does not know!

[catriona36]

My father passed a few years back and my mother does not know..
Her mind would blow and she would scream then implode, dying on the spot..
Hmmmmmm maybe i should tell her ;) lol
i t hink i said b4. only one male friend knows, one female friend and a woman that woulndt leave me alone lol

[Amanda_P]

My dad is gone and I think my mom knows some but I have never told her. She just knows I'm always dressing up on halloween.

[mikiSJ]

I never told my father (gone now) and divorced my mother when I was in my teens when she tried to stab me because I joined the Navy. I think she knew, but by that time I wanted nothing to do with her.

I am amazed at how many of us made to adulthood in spite of our parents attitudes. I happy some of you found support from you family. I am just glad for my wife of 35 years.

Miki

[MindyJ]

All of my clothes come back from the laundry. Example: my black lbd was in my folded clothes today. Darn, gotta be careful.

[catriona36]

All of my clothes come back from the laundry. Example: my black lbd was in my folded clothes today. Darn, gotta be careful.

hahahaha bit late to be careful now i think. :doh:

[Maria in heels]

My father, grandmother, sisters, stepmother all knew since I was about 8 years old, and wife all knew about Maria after we were married for about 8 months