Are you still dominate?

[Madam Rose]

Even in girl mode? I am mostly because I feel I should be strong as femal and male.

[Amy Fakley]

personally speaking, I'm not much of a "dominator" in male mode ... even less so in girl mode. Actually, I kind of like that aspect of girl mode, since it's not really who I am anyhow.

[Melissa Rose]

Are you still dominate?

From the way your question is worded, it sounds like you are assuming anyone who is strong is dominant and anyone who is not dominant is weak. Even worse is if the assumption is all males are dominant. If that is what you are saying, please walk away from that stereotype or false assumption.

Being strong does not automatically mean being dominant. Strength comes in many different forms and manifests itself in many different ways, and it is not gender specific or exclusive. Being compassionate, forgiving and able to compromise for the greater good often takes significantly more strength of spirit, mind and body than the opposite.

My answer your original question is no. I am neither dominant or submissive, and my strength does not come nor is it defined by being dominant over anyone or anything.

[linda allen]

From the way your question is worded, it sounds like you are assuming anyone who is dominate is strong and anyone who is not is weak. Even worse is if the assumption is all males are dominate. If that is what you are saying, please walk away from that stereotype or false assumption.

Being strong does not automatically mean being dominate. Strength comes in many different forms and manifests itself in many different ways, and it is not gender specific or exclusive.

What she said. :thumbsup:

[Beverley Sims]

I may be strong in personality but I am flexible in the domination stakes.
If there is a very strong willed person in the group I will circle around and then strike if need be.
No use getting into arguments over personal views is there.
Just causes angst.

[FeliciaCDSNJ]

I'm submissive as a male and shows even more when I'm dressed, but that's the way I am.

[LilSissyStevie]

I asked my wife. She just laughed.

[katie_barns]

I asked my wife. She just laughed.


If I was to ask my wife she would tell me what to say........ lol

[~Joanne~]

I don't look at my relationship as having either one of us as the dominate figure. we are equals.

[Cheryl T]

I never was dominant in any relationship so why should that change when I am dressed?

[BRANDYJ]

From the way your question is worded, it sounds like you are assuming anyone who is strong is dominate and anyone who is not dominate is weak. Even worse is if the assumption is all males are dominate. If that is what you are saying, please walk away from that stereotype or false assumption.

Being strong does not automatically mean being dominate. Strength comes in many different forms and manifests itself in many different ways, and it is not gender specific or exclusive. Being compassionate, forgiving and able to compromise for the greater good often takes significantly more strength of spirit, mind and body than the opposite.

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I think Mellisa summed it up for me. Very well thought out response.

[Lorileah]

One of the joys of being Lori is that someone else can drive the bus and I can go along for the ride

[Kate Simmons]

Well, there is right and wrong but in my world the following applies:

Rule # 1--Kate is never wrong.

Rule # 2-- If Kate is wrong, see rule # 1.

:battingeyelashes::)

[Allisa]

Does passive/agressive count?Female yet manly?
Lisa

[Lorenqt]

I like the guy to be bominate.

[STACY B]

Ha,,,,Ha,,,, Was you EVER ???

[KellyJameson]

I'm strong enough not to need to dominate or be dominated if it is a contest between two wills, I resist by flowing around them and use questions to bring
anothers motives out into the light of day.

I'm not threatened by what others do for me because I'm not dependant on it and I do not allow others to become dependant on me, there is love and than there
is fear and it is difficult to tell the difference sometimes.

They can lean on me but I will not be someones crutch or use them as one.

Weakness of will or passivity is not femininity or masculinity but escape into childhood while being in an adult body

[Miriam-J]

I need to be master of only one person - myself. I neither submit to nor dominate others, nor do I have any desire to do so - except for a little play now and then. I have the strength to be myself, despite the influence of others.

But Kelly said this so much more nicely. Beautifully done.

Miriam

[Marguarite]

Kelly, You are a very smart Lady and very secure in who you are. I feel very much the same.

I am very secure to follow someone's lead, until it conflicts with what I believe or until I am asked
to step up and assume a leadership role. This doesn't mean that I don't influence the world around me,
it just means I do it from the background. I only join the forground when needed.

I can live with that and be Happy.

[docrobbysherry]

I'm no different no matter how I dress!


Even in girl mode? I am mostly because I feel I should be strong as femal and male.
I think it's relevant to tell us if your dates or your SO is male or female, Rose!?

Personally, I've done my own thing my entire life. However, on a few occasions where I've given the woman control, I've found it could be exciting or devastating!

[sandra-leigh]

About the only thing I am at all "dominate" in is my work; otherwise I am neither dominate or submissive.

Even the domination in my work is more that people tend to defer to my solutions because of my competence. But that doesn't mean that they "follow" me. The prophet in the wilderness :)

[MsJanessa]

Yes I am dominant when dressed---not dressed I tend to be a regular guy

[ReineD]

Even in girl mode? I am mostly because I feel I should be strong as femal and male.

Good for you! You're a feminist after my own heart. :D

I become impatient with wimpy ladies. lol

[Rachel Morley]

I think Melissa nailed it :) ... but if you're asking me if I am "still" dominate when dressed? ... err no and that would be because I am not a dominate person in the first place.

[Badtranny]

Very well thought out response.

That's kinda how she rolls. ;-)

[Davena Doll]

Lilsissy, that is some funny sh** I think if I was Dom. I would not be a CDer. But that is just me. My wife said Im nothing like her BF, an X sheriff go figure.

[kellycan27]

He's the dom... until it's time for him to not be. :heehee:

[KlaireLarnia]

Even in girl mode? I am mostly because I feel I should be strong as femal and male.

I am the same mix of dominate and submissive as I always am regardless of what I am wearing. There are times I need to be in control and others when my wife takes the lead. I know which is needed and when and default accordingly - or step in if needed.

Presenting as male at all times (even with women's clothes on) does give me that ability perhaps, but even now as I am wearing 100% female clothes today I will act as I always do and nothing will change in how I act with/around my wife and family. I am after all me, so why would I change that just because I have female clothes on?

[Dana3]

In male mode? I can be and am very dominate. I intimidate most men and women ~ it would seem? Twenty year Marine Corps Gunnery Sergeant with two tours on the Drill Field, another four at Parris Island as a Primary Marksmanship Instructor, and Marksmanship coach, 0311 (Infrantry) In truth? I'm a Teddy Bear, and have a much softer side. A feminine side ~ if you were!

[LisaMallon]

Depends whether you mean sexually, intellectually or emotionally. And sexually you can split that into so many sub-types it is not funny .. poker/pokee, BDSM terms of sub/Dom ... and so on.

Me? I tend to be dominant intellectually, switch sexually (goes both ways in the BDSM terms, but being a TS a pokee .. well duh, if you not that then you are not really a TS) and empathetic emotionally (which is neither submissive or dominant rather it transcends those terms totally).

[noeleena]

Hi,

As a woman or as a person , iv had to be strong because of many things iv had to do while around people ,

meaning , as a young person because of issues that happened in our family very early on, later it proved to be a big help because i had to take the flack & take charge of many situstions that came along ,
Careing for my Mother after a major surgerys i was very young, Jos with depression many years, 37,

Of cause this is about Psychological ,Emotionally & physical if i had not been strong in those areas i would have failed, going through some of those was hard & again later on .

In many case's i would loved to have had some one else take over just was not posiable so i had to take charge,& as i look back i can say its helped me to be strong , a much more grounded person , & understand where others are who go through similer to us,

...noeleena...

[erickka]

I don't look at my relationship as having either one of us as the dominate figure. we are equals.

I find this to be a plus in our relationship.....30 years strong!

[Launa]

Put me in a locking sissy dress and I'm submissive. If I wear my short, tight black dress, black heels and my long curly wig, I can turn into a mean bitch. Especially if I get a hold of my whip! lol

[Tracii G]

Depends on the situation I would say.
I can be both so I guess I'm flexible.

[Madam Rose]

I think Mellisa summed it up for me. Very well thought out response.
Ok I'm sorry I was in bit of a hurry. I meant sexually. Not macho crap.

[Kyndrie]

As a male I'm pretty easy going but I can be very stubborn. I'm generally the quiet type who prefers to observe and will most often choose to go my own way. I don't seek to dominate others, but I do have a secret desire to be submissive to someone. When I'm dressed that desire intensifies even more (locking sissy dresses and all that). However, its more a desire to be nurtured by a soft, yet strong, hand and be led to explore more of who Kyndrie is without feeling humiliated and degraded.

[NicoleScott]

My wife forces me to be dominant. haha

[Vieja]

When my wife was still alive we shared responsibilities. She took care of all minor decisions such as should we buy a new house or car while I on the other hand made

the major decision such as should we go to war with Russia or China.


Vieja

[CassieCutie]

As a male I am typically the decision maker, but when Cassie is around, especially now that I am easing out, I have become more and more shy/submissive around others

[Elle1946]

My wife and I really don't have boss role.

[Marsha My Dear]

I have a strong personality. But with my wife, dressed or not, we both enjoy Marsha's submissive nature.

[girlyboy13]

I am always Submissive!!!! That's just me! But however,every now and then I tend to be a bit on the Dominant side. Until I'm put back in my Place! LOL

[MissTee]

That's an open ended question, so rather than respond to "dominance" I'll say I am the leader in our relationship. It's what both my wife and I want from our relationship. A skirt and pumps won't change that.

[Lady Catherine]

As aguy I'm an Alpha. Not so much dominate, as in control. As a girl I tend to go with the flow and be more forgiving.

[STACY B]

Anyone who is Married here knows the answer to that loaded question ,,,,,,,,, Hey,,, Look at that Bird ! LOL,,,,,,

[Pythos]

I'm a switch and will move with the whim of my lover, or partner. It helps when she is likewise.

[Mythic]

depends on the scenario ;)

[noeleena]

Hi,

Dominate , oh gee glad i saw that, the difference then between a male & female. cant answer as a male no idear. blank ....

All i will say is i gave of my self freely to Jos, or i gave what i had,

...noeleena...

[Rogina B]

Sexually,dominant is fun...But then again,"playing" the submissive can be as well..It is all good...life is way too short,so SWITCH!!lol

[Angela Campbell]

I am naturally submissive...up to a point. I will never let anyone take advantage of me but tend to be passive a lot. In girl mode I am more so. Would rather flee than fight unless backed into a corner. I am not afraid of defending myself I just do not unless there is a need. I generally like it when someone else takes the lead. I am not weak willed but I am a follower. I can be strong if the situation calls for it and do not panic easily. I am a bit shy and in situations of a group of people...especially if I do not know them well...I tend to sit back and watch and listen. Unless asked I usually keep my opinions to myself. Sexually I prefer the submissive side.

[Foxglove]

The problem with being dominant is that then you have to tell them what you want them to do. Can't be bothered. That's their problem.

Just stay out of my hair. That's when I can get pretty nasty--though I don't if anybody's ever been overly impressed with that.

Annabelle

[Miss Mandy]

I once tried to dominate my wife...however, we are on much more equal footing now...as Miss Jessica, I can fully identify with her struggles and concerns. In my attempt to become one with her, I had to start wearing her clothes and make-up :)

[Diane Maple]

It depends on the mood and how things are going. Both roles are fun. So long as both don't choose to be sub at the same time

[Foxglove]

I once tried to dominate my wife...

This reminded me of a joke:

As soon as they were married, he let her know who was boss. He looked her straight in the eye and said, "You're the boss!"

[kendra_gurl]

I am always in charge at my house as long as my wife is not around. Seriously I would love if my wife was far more dominate than she is

[Lynn Marie]

I'm a very dominant male in that mode. En femme, I'm a bit more submissive. I kind of like to be led, but will lead when no one else will! Somebody has to.

[Trishasubcd]

I am a manager and a dominant man but....when I dress up I am a good submissive girl.

[Michelle V]

We take turns, the most important life changing decisions we make together but I usually have the last word, or should I say she makes it seem that way, if you are married you know things ultimately work out how the wife plans thing out, as a husband we feel like the decisions are made by us but we all know it is BS. Our romantic more intimate life she seems to like to be the dominate one and who am I to complain, I really enjoy when she takes charge and let's me know what's what

[Samantha_Smile]

Ive not read any replies, this is just a direct reply to the OP

I think it's a little pre-historic to suggest that either partner in a relationship should be dominant.
As CDs and TVs we should know better than any other classification of men how it feels to be in touch with our femininity, so why then hold the ancient value that men should dominate women, or even vice versa?
Are you suggesting that women are the weaker sex? I agree that on average, their bodies are weaker, but that's where the story ends.

A relationship is about love, trust and teamwork, none of those factors require dominance.
A relationship isn't a competition, so why feel the need to dominate?

[Tina B.]

I am neither a leader nor a follower, I'm going the way I'm going, others can join me if they wish or go there own way, it's all cool. My wife is my partner, not my servant, and I'm hers, we are equal, until a threat arises, then I'm the one to watch out for, I'm very protective of the little lady. But while I am her safety shield in bad times, she is my support system when it comes to me emotionally, so our support is equal, but different.
Tina B.

[Tara D. Rose]

Well, I'm not sure either if I'm dominate over my wife. I think we may be equals in most things. But now sometimes we do like to roleplay, She is very good with that role in play. And I say yes ma'am to her for a week afterwards. I still get nervous when I hear the rattle of the hand cuffs.

[Gillian Gigs]

One of things that I have attempted to do in my life, is have a sense of consistancy of who I am in what ever role that I have to play. My CDing has been the last area of my life that a consistancy has come. Why, I do not know, but this I do know, I have to be true to myself, and my character. Are the gentler sides of my character feminine, or who knows what? The point is to accept oneself within the nature of who we really are. I can fill what ever role is necessary to get the job done. I would rather be a good "right hand" to someone than be the poorer leader. Yet, if a leader is needed, then I will gladly fill the "job" to get "it done". Within the home, my wife wants me to be the leader/dominant one, and that is regardless of whether I am in lingerie, a skirt and pantyhose or not. After all, it is only clothing... right! We have a very equal relationship, by example I hold 51% to her 49%, some one has to be the tie breaker.

How can true love be dominant? Love is sacrificing your wants and needs for the benefit of another. I only dress at home (my sacrifice), and my wife knows that I get enjoyment out of wearing lingerie, skirts and the lot. I am just a guy that has this quirk of liking to wear certain types of clothes, which are mostly found in the womens wear section of the store. She knows this and through love accepts this part of me (her sacrifice?). Within our relationship, she wants me to be the leader (dominant?), and my character allows this to happen in a loving way.

We all have "roles" to play in this life, some are easier to play than others. Within the home sometimes the roles switch, whether it is for "recreation", or to fill a temporary need. The point being that roles can and do change, but hopefully by mutual agreement of both parties.

PS. I always get the last word in, It is usually, "yes dear". LOL

[Thera Home]

My kids are dominant around these parts

:Party2:

Thera

[Desiree2bababe]

Not with men, I'm not. Always the submissive. With the wife, I tried to be but that didn't work out so well.

[karusiskaru]

I am submissive in general , even as a guy I usually can't assert and dominate much and I find myself excited by situations where I follow orders , guess I like serving.. as a CD this tendency is amplified...