From Russia with Love

[darcyann]

Hello

I have been using the internet since 1994... Wow that is a really long time. A couple of months ago I got to talking to this lady from Russia and she is really a nice lady. She also know what I do as in crossdressing. We have talked many times through email and know she wants to take your friendship deeper, though the internet at least. I know I have only known her for a few months through the Internet. The feelings I am having for her are feelings I have never felt before. What should I do. Is this danerous to do or is this just a nice person who just wants to talk. I am not use to someone emailing me all these months.

Any one have any websites on Russia, love to check it out.


Love

Darcy Ann

[Kim E]

Hi Darcy Ann ~
Nothing wrong with developing internet friendships. I've had 2 internet friends from overseas for years. Found them to be very honest and genuine people. We have even exchanged cards and gifts, back and forth.

But I'm sure you realize than anyone can say or be anyone they choose, when they sit behind a computer. I'd just exercise caution and common sense. On the other hand, this lady may be entirely on the up and up.

There are many Russian women, and very beautiful by the way, who will do anything to come to America. Marriage is a good way to get citizenship, but many times the marriage doesn't last much longer, past that point. Once their citizens, its much easier for them to get family members over here. Brighton Beach in Brooklyn is almost totally Russian. There are a large number of divorced Russian women there, who had American husbands. So, just be careful.

Just my $.02

Kim

[Adrianne]

Hello Darcyann, I got to agree with Kim, just be careful.

[DanaJ]

Be very very careful, and read this for a cautionary tale:

http://home.hamptonroads.com/stories/story.cfm?story=86802&ran=148555&tref=y

And check out this link to see if she is on it.

http://www.womenrussia.com/blacklist.htm

[Lacy75]

I have written to two russian women.I still write to one,have been for a couple few months.She seems to be sincere,but,i will never trust her completely over the internet.Even if she comes here to meet me,it will take time for me to trust her.She will have to earn it.Especially because the other woman i was writing to was definately trying to scam me.When she got around to asking me for money to help her get here,she gave me her first and last name,which was Anna Lohanova.So,i went to google,and searched her name,and BAM!There she was,a few things about her being a scam artist.And some letters she had written to other men trying to scam them.And all the same pictures of her that i had got!It made me sick because i had shared many personal feeling with her,or whoever it was.I never went looking for russians,they came to me.And i would say many are desparate to get out of there.I have accepted the risk,and continue to write to the other woman who has done me no wrong so far.I told her what had happened with the other woman,and she promises that she only wants to find love.Well,i hate to call a person a liar,when i am not sure if they are.So,i will continue to know her,as long as she doesnt do me wrong.So,just follow your heart,do what you gotta do!But be cautious!Never send money especially!Bye!
Lacy

[darcyann]

Hello

Thanks all I will take the advice and will be careful.


Love

Darcy Ann

[Sam-antha]

I would never have thought of Google as an insurance agency.

[Sharon]

Russian women 100% sincere beautiful trustworthy. We are what you say A-OK!!!!!

Love,
Svetlana

wait!!!.... which ID did I use to sign in this morning??????:D

[darcyann]

Hello

I have talked to her again since I was last on here and she wants to come over here which I do not have a problem with. She says she will pay for the tickets and the visas. So maybe this one is for reall what you all think. I mean if she was going to use me wouldn't she have asked me to pay for it.


Love


Darcy Ann

[Helana]

Darcy Ann

You need to be sensible about this. The one and only reason Russian women go on the internet is to find Western husbands. That does not necessarily make them insincere but you have to keep that in mind at all times. Also if she is paying for the tickets herself then she will expect a return on her investment. She will introduce the idea of marriage for sure.

Revealing that you are a CD and that you are looking for a woman who accepts you, is handing an insincere person a golden key into your life. An insincere woman knows she just has to pretend she likes you and accepts you and she has you hooked. Her next step will be to invite you over to Russia to met her family for the final seal of approval!

You should resolve yourself that you will not shortcut any of the normal checks you would have if you were dating a local girl. Resolve yourself now that under no circumstances will you entertain any ideas of marriage no matter how much she throws herself at you. You can be sure that during her trip she will be the sweetest thing you have ever met. Do you think realistically that is how it will be if you were to marry? International partnerships are more complicated and difficult to sustain at the best of times so even if she is sincere the chances of a successful marriage is low.

Do take these warnings seriously and be realistic. Don't let your emotions carry you away. Good luck!

[DanaJ]

OK, I said my piece earlier, but I am back again if you are serious. Please contact me via PM, I have more personal advice here than I care to share on the forum. Just let me say, my next door neighbor and a very good friend did this, and I will share their experiences with you.

[darcyann]

Hello

Update now she needs 450 dollars oh well it was too good to be true and probably would have never laste I thank you all for the advice and I thank God I did not fall into the trap. Guess I was a sucker for a pretty face lol. Thanks all.


Love

Darcy Ann

[Sharon]

Hello

Update now she needs 450 dollars oh well it was too good to be true and probably would have never laste I thank you all for the advice and I thank God I did not fall into the trap. Guess I was a sucker for a pretty face lol. Thanks all.

And don't forget, it may not have even been her face you were looking at.

From what I have heard -- many times -- these people start out requesting a relatively small amount of money, but then they begin to ask for more and more and the victim feels obligated because they have already invested some of their savings and don't want to admit they fell victim to a con.

I'm glad you found out the truth before this went any further, Darcy Ann, and I'm so sorry that you had to go through it. I'm glad you posted this thread though, as it may help prevent similar occurances from happening to others.

:hugs:

[Christina Nicole]

I know a woman from Russia. She's a very nice lady, but the stories that she tells about her former life there are something you can't believe. She says that many women would do anything to be able to leave. She was married to a generous, but abusive man for many years. She was faithful to him until he died of a heart attack several years ago. One other thing that you have to remember, life in the USSR was hard for people who were not connected with high party officials. That means they used whatever means necessary to survive. You don't stay alive under circumstances such as those that existed in the USSR, and mostly still exist, without being tough, shrewd, and willing to step over bodies to stay alive. Harsh words, but that's reality. These ladies know more about survival under hostile conditions than most Green Berets.

I won't say, "don't" nor will I say that they all are crooked. Many probably are sincere. But you have to go there to actually meet the lady.

I think that finding a foreign woman is hard, and expensive. Local woman are less complicated, dinner, movies, a few baubles of precious stones (that you may someday be able to borrow) are a heck of a lot easier than the same plus thousands of miles of travel across a dozen time zones, cultural and language barriers...

Warm regards,
Christina Nicole

P.S.
I've been on the 'net since the days when you needed UNIX, source code, and a good C compiler before you could even think about getting on-line. Everytime I think that I have seen darned near everything, something new pops up. Human creativity is just mind boggling. Too bad it's not all used "for good."
-- C. N.

[Kaye_martin]

Girls:

Hands up, who on here amongst us 'non Russians' has ever been to the Soviet Union in the old days or Russia these days? Sure there are scam artists out there but I can tell you that Russian women are warm, friendly, sexy, great fun, and good home makers. Dang, they even iron socks!

kaye_martin