So, what's YOUR excuse?

[docrobbysherry]

For all the CD/TG/TS things you're NOT doing, hmmm?:straightface:

I don't go out in vanilla public dressed because I get totally freaked out seeing how homely and male I look in the mirror!:doh:

Hey! I didn't say they don't have to be GOOD excuses! Simply ANY excuses u use to stop yourself from DOING WHAT YOU'D REALLY LIKE TO DO as a dresser!:brolleyes:

U can blame it on your SO, your boss, the weather, where u live, your pet parrot, ANYTHING U CHOOSE! But, now it's time to FESS UP and tell us about it RITE HERE!:heehee:

PS: This thread is NOT JUST ABOUT GOING OUT DRESSED! But, about EVERYTHING U wish u could do/be/ have as a dresser BUT DON'T!

[STACY B]

My main problem is no where to go ,,I meen hell ya dont always wanna go shopping , How bout have some friend that likes the same things you like an is married an you all can sit around talking about normal stuff . An just wear what ever ,,Not l like going over for a fashion show just what ever ,,Like if some of my friends on here lived close enough to visit ,,Like me an Tracy G would surly hang out if we lived close by . But ya just get tired of going to the same place or doing the same thing when your in limbo waiting for your next laser treatment so you will look better . I know dam good an well there are thousands of folks just like me close by Pissed off at the world cuz they lived there life hidding an cant be there self for some fear or another . I just wish someone that was kinda like me would come along an we could make funny videos of us doing all kinds of Crazy stuff out in public an see how much fun we could have together just doing what ever we wanted . Some Nut like me ,,, Just dreaming I guess ?

[kellycan27]

My dog ate my car keys? :heehee:

[Thera Home]

For all the CD/TG/TS things you're NOT doing, hmmm?:straightface:

I don't go out in vanilla public dressed because I get totally freaked out seeing how I look in the mirror!:doh:

Hey! I didn't say they don't have to be GOOD excuses! Simply ANY excuses u use to stop yourself from DOING WHAT YOU'D REALLY LIKE TO DO as a dresser!:brolleyes:

U can blame it on your SO, your boss, the weather, where u live, your pet parrot, ANYTHING U CHOOSE! But, now it's time to FESS UP and tell us about it RITE HERE!:heehee:

OK...OK.......Ill come clean.Because kids will throw rocks at me:heehee:and they hurt.
And.......folks will creep out at me:confused2:
And.......Im lazy and getting all prettied up takes a long time :doh:
and....and.....and.....:heehee:

Thera

[Marleena]

I have a million of 'em.:) Mostly not getting outed locally, that's the biggie!

[outhiking]

I would never pass, but mostly because it's a private part of me that I like keeping private.

[Alice Torn]

Because back in 2005, i had the pink fog, and went out or three days straight. Some teen girls freaked out, some guys yelled lewd remarks, one guy came out of his cafe, to watch me strut by, got stopped by a cop the second night, and a guy asked me "Sir, can you give my car a jump?" He them told his kids in his car to not look! I fear the finger pointing, OMG's, making a scene, and spectacle of being the six foot six guy in a dress and heels, when read. But, i almost pulled it off last Tuesday, but chickened out and went underdressed.

[Diana Bain]

Got drunk last night...thought my breast forms were egg's sunnyside up....I ate'em:D

[whowhatwhen]

I have enough money to pay my rent, bills, a little food, and my therapy.
Financially drab!

Could be worse though...
:P

[Allisa]

The sun was in my eyes,I tripped on a rock,no wait that was little league,I broke a nail,I washed my hair and can't do a thing with it,I have nothing to wear,I can't find my keys,feels good to FESS UP.
Lisa

[Ashley D.]

I fill like I go out. Crossdressed evey day I dress like a guy and I hate it
Lol

[PretzelGirl]

I need days with 48 hours in them to do more. Haven't found one yet.

[lexie89]

my only fear is getting beat up xD other then that i do not care if people freak out of stare at me " please do stare at me your gaze is so wonderfully warming " :D if i knew i wold not like get beat up by some group of gypsies or some wanna be gangsta kids around i swear id go out like a girl every single freaking time

[sometimes_miss]

I couldn't pass during a solar eclipse at midnight during a power outage, and having been the class scapegoat throughout my childhood, I will never subject myself to public ridicule again, ever. I can't be bothered to shave my legs regularly, I'm too lazy, besides I have light hair so it really doesn't make a difference since there's no one to notice. I don't wear makeup, it would be like putting lipstick on a pig. I no longer wear heels, not because of the pain in my feet (I finally found heels that don't hurt until wearing them for a long time) but because they change the way I walk, and it hurts the knees. I don't wear 'age appropriate' female clothing, because when I was growing, up, I thought god was going to fix me and make me into a female (hips, breasts, etc) when puberty came. So psychologically I'm kind of stuck at that age, forever waiting for the change to come.

[JenniferR771]

I don't like to pay 7 dollars to park in a ramp and then have to walk 3 blocks on dark streets to get to our local gay club. And besides, my wife is very uncooperative...its difficult to sneak out of the house. Near neighbors, too.

[Jorja]

I am doing everything I want to do no matter what what I am doing. :)

[imonline326]

I don't feel like i'm ready to expose my cd self to the world yet. I feel a bit untrained in this art. Maybe after a while but for now i'm scared of failing (being yelled at, people giving me dirty looks, or even people hurting me).

[Intertwined]

Why I have not done Anything feminine in over 2 weeks.

At my last therapy session with my counselor, I came to the realization, I have become what I swore all my life I would not become, and that which I despised growing up. My Father was an alcoholic, it destroyed our family, and eventually killed him. I have become EXACTLY like him, but, instead of alcohol, it's my crossdressing. I still want to crossdress, but have been to afraid to. I've not worn any women's clothing, not even worn any of my mail cloths that even remotely appear feminine, like my flowered shirts or pink pullover.*

[Cynthia Anne]

I don't have an excuse! 'Cause I'm out EVERY DAY!

[Kylie4]

I am one to care a lot about what people think about me. I want everyone to like me and no one to hate me. I hate conflict and choose to keep things as simple as possible.

[Silmaril]

I feel fairly certain that once I get far enough from my car, I will be encircled by a previously unnoticed news crew, have a microphone shoved in my face, and be asked, "Please tell our viewing audience what it's like to be a pervert." The tape will be run at 6, 9, and 10. The scene of me bursting into tears and trying to run back to my car will be shown as background footage as they roll the weather forecast. I'd like to avoid that scenario, so that's my excuse. ;-)

[Leah Lynn]

I live in a small town, where everyone knows ya! I don't have a garage to sneak into the car and drive elsewhere. Besides, my wife won't let me. Not to mention she borrows my clothes. (Seriously, she does!)

[Candice Mae]

Candice does go out for the odd late night stroll, but for the most part she stays in my apartment or relaxes on the balcony. She would like to go out and explore in day light but, after getting too much attention for her liking while out on the balcony. She stays in doors in fear of what would happen when they find out she is not a GG.

[weekend woman]

It's the rule of 2's. 2 tired, 2 lazy, takes 2 long 2 dress and 2 concerned about the neighbors seeing me.

[Raychel]

Pretty simple, Ridiculed and made fun of my whole time in school,
Scared sh!tless that will happen again if I am seen in public actually dressed the way I prefer to dress,

[xdressed]

Errrm...girl me is a vampire?

[Erica Marie]

First off all my dresses make my butt look big. Lol just kidding.
They real reason, be it an excuse or not. And Im sure many of us gurls are plagued by this is we just dont want anyone we know to find out. My family doesnt know nor does anyone in my small town. Not sure if Ill ever be strong enough to come out and let everyone know.

[Mollyanne]

My clothes don't fit anymore, one heel is always broken, my lipstick was thrown away and I have a missing front tooth!!!!!! Hows' that!!!!!!!

Molly

[Samantha Jane]

Small neighbourhood, where some people seem spend most of their time looking out of the window, waiting to catch someone like me sneaking out dressed, when I am really hoping not to be noticed

[Cheryl T]

Not being able to come out to family and friends in respect for how my wife feels. Still feels sometimes as if I'm hiding even though I do go out anywhere and everywhere.

Also, I agree with Stacy B...it would be so nice to have friends close by and just go visit. Hang out and watch a chick flick, have a cocktail, joke, wear whatever and not be "all dolled up", just be able to be an average gal with average gal friends doing average gal stuff.

[kimdl93]

I've pretty much conquered my own fears. Now if I could just get my wif to go out with me!

[Michelle 2]

There is only really one issue. I need to expand my everyday wardrobe and I am working on that.

Michelle

[BRANDYJ]

Good thread Doc! My reasons or excuses however you want to look at it are to me very real and important to me on how I see myself and how others see me.
First, I don't think I'd blend or pass to at least 90% of people I'd come in contact with.
I care how others perceive me. I don't like the idea that most would view me as weird, sick, strange or perverted.
I care what effect of my being known as a CD might have on my family, SO, friends and co-workers.
As much as I might like to go out dressed, it is not worth the price I'd have to pay for the above listed reasons. So my venturing out has only been to places where we are very accepted and known to go.
I had a nephew that was on the local police force. He died in the line of duty. He was highly respected and well known by all local law enforcement agencies. I would not want to dishonor his good name. So I am ultra careful about who knows me and what I do. It's plan and simple common sense to me.

[Rachel Rage]

I don't get to dress as often as I like. I work in construction and several of the guys I work with live in my neighborhood so I'm afraid to even just step outside dressed. My landlord lives upstairs from me and is often outside as well while he wouldn't have a problem with it his wife might also his father knows a lot of the people I work with and he is over a lot. I am lucky in that my wife is very supportive and when we have time I hang out in the house dressed.

[Beverley Sims]

Most of my horizons are expanded.
Except the ones around family and local friends.

[Xrys]

ah, where to start. My waist is too big and I cant afford a corset. my hair is too short, and I cant afford a wig. my stubble grows back too quick, and I cant afford laser. my makeup skills are too poor, and I cant afford plastic surgery. my breasts are too small (not there at all), and I cant afford forms. my ass is too flat, and I cant afford padding. And that list is just off the top of my head.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Even if it were a perfect world where there would be no repurcusions at all I still would not want to go out in public just I'm not ready by my own standards and expectations. I still need a few more years of training consisting of fem walking drills, seating drills, stance drills, voice drills, manerism drills etc. Also I need to get over my obssessive I must pass fallacy.:o

[Sarah Doepner]

I used to worry about how the discovery of my crossdressing would impact my career working in the criminal justice system. It seems the retirement system just doesn't care what I choose to wear on any particular day and send my check right on schedule. The neighbors don't know but what could they do? I don't see them except when we are in the yards at the same time, I don't go to their church (or any church for that matter) so that's not really an issue.

This is the excuse. My wife has set limits on what she is comfortable with me doing in public. So, I must want her to be happy more than I want to spend time as Sarah, so going to occasional support group meetings and dressing at home is fine. Going out when we travel is fine. Doing anything that would expose Sarah to her elderly parents or our grandkids is verboten. I'd probably do more but we live next door to her folks and the grandkids are only a couple of miles away. That's the situation for now, thanks for asking.

[Leah Lynn]

I hereby promise to go outside within a month! Yesterday is gone, tomorrow may not come. I'm getting old, so I gotta do it soon, or the chance may pass, and I could too. It might be a short walk in the late evening, or a weekend getaway in a city, but I vow to go out. Anyone else care to take the dare?

[Pexetta]

Because kids will throw rocks at meand they hurt.

Basically that's my excuse. If I had an infallible magic talisman that suppressed people's hostility, I'd be getting dressed to go out right now.

[Mickitv]

My excuse is I just can't find the time or the money. Does that sound familiar to everyone

[Inna]

I remember it like yesterday....tirly looo, tirly loo, tirly loo...................................

[jessicapaige]

I need more clothes! Only been at this for two weeks, and I just don't have a whole ensemble for going out yet.

I think I'll probably find a night club or something with a bit of a fetish side to it. I'm not going to totally transition on a 24/7 basis, so I figure if I'm going to go somewhere I may as well find a place where people will hopefully celebrate my style. I live in a big diverse city, I'm sure it's out there.

[Davena Doll]

Aside from the kids, wife, job and being an alcoholic I don't have alot of time.

[docrobbysherry]

My OP WAS NOT all about going out dressed or passing! :straightface:
Yet nearly ALL the posts above concern those!:eek:

So, does EVERYONE have every item they've ever wanted for dressing? And, everyone has the PERFECT figure for dressing? Everyone has TOLD everyone they've wanted to tell? Every TS out there is on hormones and has her surgery scheduled?

I feel you're HIDING THINGS FROM US, Ladies!?


I don't have an excuse! 'Cause I'm out EVERY DAY!

Good for u, Cynthia! And, you've accomplished every OTHER thing in your dressing life you've ever wanted, too?:)

[STACY B]

Even if it were a perfect world where there would be no repurcusions at all I still would not want to go out in public just I'm not ready by my own standards and expectations. I still need a few more years of training consisting of fem walking drills, seating drills, stance drills, voice drills, manerism drills etc. Also I need to get over my obssessive I must pass fallacy.:o



Gotta get over your drill fetish to ,,,LOL,,, Stop your giving out to much info ,, On your first life !

[whowhatwhen]

My OP WAS NOT all about going out dressed or passing! :straightface:
Yet nearly ALL the posts above concern those!:eek:

So, does EVERYONE have every item they've ever wanted for dressing? And, everyone has the PERFECT figure for dressing? Everyone has TOLD everyone they've wanted to tell? Every TS out there is on hormones and has her surgery scheduled?

I feel you're HIDING THINGS FROM US, Ladies!?



Good for u, Cynthia! And, you've accomplished every OTHER thing in your dressing life you've ever wanted, too?:)

I'm not going to pass, but before my clothes change genders I'd like to look as far away from a man as possible and unfortunately it's not in my budget.
:(

[Janine cd]

My excuse is pretty much the same as my other "sisters". I can"t really pass as a woman when dressed and I live in a small town where I'm sure to be recognized.
Maybe I'll be brave enough to try a long drive in the countryside some day.

[Princess_Andria]

everytime i go to leave the door suddenly my my bottom half falls off and then runs around the house..... it's hard keeping up when all i can do is crawl.

[sissystephanie]

Having been a crossdresser as long as I have, and done all the different things that I have done there isn't anything left to tell! I go out dressed enfemme almost every day, but looking just like the man that I am. My late wife always did my makeup and fixed my wig so I could pass. When she died I decided to just forget about doing that stuff, and just wear the feminine clothes. Nobody has ever said anything about me wearing feminine things!!

[Davena Doll]

Did someone say drills. Is there a crossdressing boot camp. I mite need that.

[Davena Doll]

Well docrobbysherry. My anwer is no, kind of, yes, I'm not one and no.

[Mistybtm]

I have a million of 'em.:) Mostly not getting outed locally, that's the biggie!

That is A great answer and I am very shy. maybe some day I will go out of town where no one knows me and with A group of ladies and see what it is all about.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Gotta get over your drill fetish to ,,,LOL,,, Stop your giving out to much info ,, On your first life !

LOL! It's my femme side trying to overcome and adapt to certain shortcomings as best as possilbe! Wait over come and adapt, :o I'll shut up while I'm ahead! The sad part is I'm not prior military, I blame all of the drills on football, (sprint drills=sprinting in high heel drills, I should have begged to do ballet instead!:eek:

[krissy]

im all alone ,noone cares about this part of me.no wheres to go no freinds cant PASS dont have enough clothes wife cant stand this part of me

[Stephanie47]

I don't have an excuse to justify to anymore why I don't go out. I have a reason. I choose to cross dress strictly for the stress relief it brings me. I'm content. My cross dressing is a private affair between Stephanie and me.

[Thera Home]

MY own kids and my wife would throw rocks at me:eek:

Thera

[Chickhe]

Not really an excuse... I tend to do what I want, but more like a frustration. Its just inconvenient sometimes to come and go from home and it takes a lot of effort to get ready. I really wish there was a place to go to change and wash-up that was accessible 24 hours a day and some place fun where people who are interested in this thing can hang out...

[RebeccaLynne]

Simply ANY excuses u use to stop yourself from DOING WHAT YOU'D REALLY LIKE TO DO as a dresser!:brolleyes:

Already doin' it... I'm perfectly content to CD in the comfort of my own residence. As for interaction with the general population, I don't need it. I do this for me.

[bimini1]

Gotta stop reading this stuff it's depressing.

[STACY B]

LOL! It's my femme side trying to overcome and adapt to certain shortcomings as best as possilbe! Wait over come and adapt, :o I'll shut up while I'm ahead! The sad part is I'm not prior military, I blame all of the drills on football, (sprint drills=sprinting in high heel drills, I should have begged to do ballet instead!:eek:


Football Drills ? Ha,,,Ha,,, More like Cheer leader drills ,,,,LOL,,,,

[Michaela42]

For me it is a combination of factors, but the main one is that I am 5'10" and just over 350 lbs :( A combination of lingering depression and self-doubt prevent me from making any headway on the issue though.

[Thera Home]

and I have a missing front tooth!!!!!! Hows' that!!!!!!!
Molly

Hi Mollyanne
Im missing one too,but I got a fakey,sometimes Ill pull it out and chase my wife around the house, she says I look like a mental.:heehee:
Thats fun.

Thera

[NicolaF]

Don't have any of the clothes, make-up, accessories I would like/need.
Haven't confided in any friends and don't have the confidence to do so any time soon.

Most importantly I am still far too afraid of what my close friends and family would think about me.

[Kristyn Hill]

scared to buy make up...still. I have lost 125 lbs and def trying to get my figure in check. When I get the pieces, I will be out in Dallas where girls hang out. We have a strong gathering of girls in Dallas from what I hear.

[Mikaela]

Combination of things for me:
1. I want to be perfect (body shaved, etc) and don't want to go out half-done. That takes time and not something I want to do the second I get home from a 40 mile ride on a motorcycle through Los Angeles.
2. Fear. Not of the neighbors or the girlfriend or anything, just people in the mainstream. No clue why it matters to me, but it does. I care what people think and I'm stupid for it. Going to the TG club is easy (although we rarely do that any more. Getting a sitter for the kid, motivation, etc weighs on you), but just going to dinner or somewhere gives me the heebie jeebies.

[Roni Lynn 68]

Even though my wife is accepting and I dress around the house I still feel I am being looked down apon by not only my wife but society in general. I am so scared my world would come to an end. Maybe that is selfish and how dare I think that the world revolves around me, but I would feel the world was watching everything I do.

[Krystalina]

Because I live in a Southeastern US City overan by "The System", where "boys are boys" and "girls are girls", and being a minority(African-American), it is three-times worse. Where even wearing clear fingernail polish, not liking sports, not wearing sagging pants label you "gay". In said city, narrowmindness is the name of the game...anything unmanly is wrong. Also work for one of the city's biggest employers, so co-workers and co-workers of co-workers are a danger.

However, working on wardrobe, learning about makeup, etc, and getting into shape. Hoping to find places in the surburbs that will be...well, a little more forward-thinking.

[Marlana]

I would love to sit around with my friends on here sipping some drinks and talking about whatever. I'd never pass in public, and I'm not out to anyone. Wish I could do more, but meh.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Sherry, It is my wife's wishes that I don't go out dressed.

[NathalieX66]

In my case, it's chest hair....something that I vow to rectify for good in year 2013 via laser & electro. I want to wear tanks and anything low 24/7/365, wear neck jewelry , and look smooth as silk every day.

Going out for one night anywhere/anytime is easy cake for me. Too bad the hair follicles don't cooperate beyond one day. I am officially at war with body hair.