Being Pretty!?

[Stephanie Kay]

My wife goes bonkers when I tell her I want to be pretty! She thinks only women can be pretty. What do you think?

I like being pretty and would love to be called pretty. How about you.

[TGMarla]

I'll leave the asthetic ratings to others, but I like being pretty, too. Whether others think so or not doesn't stop me from feeling pretty, though. And when others tell me I'm pretty, I absolutely LOVE it. It just makes me feel good. And you can't beat that. One of the reasons I dress up is to feel good.

[ronni]

I think everyone's entitled to feel pretty, Stephanie, and if making yourself look pretty makes you feel pretty, then that's exactly what you should do!
BTW, you're prettier than many women who no amount of makeup will help!

[GypsyKaren]

I know it really makes my day when my wife tells me that I look pretty, and of course I always make sure that I tell her that too.

GypsyKaren

[Wendy me]

being pretty ,looking pretty every one wants too look and feel pretty , and thats a good thingy....

[Kimberly]

Everyone can be pretty!

Be whatever you want to be. :)

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

I think everyone (male and female) wants to be attractive. Unfortunately, male beauty was/is often unacknowledged, so I'm convinced the desire to look good and feel sexy is one the big motivators to dress. And yes, I'm a compliment *****. Flattery will get you everyhere. :D

[Leilani68]

It's natural to be pretty, considering we are who we are.
My Wife tell's me I look pretty all the time, and I feel pretty too..:c9:

[Paula Rae]

Hey, thats my song
"I Feel Pretty" from "West Side Story"

Ricki B

[Helana]

I think wanting to feel pretty is a major reason why we became transgendered in the first place. Anyone who says men should not feel pretty is just prejudiced. She needs to think about this issue a bit more for herself.

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

I think wanting to feel pretty is a major reason why we became transgendered in the first place. Anyone who says men should not feel pretty is just prejudiced. She needs to think about this issue a bit more for herself.

To be fair to Stephanie's SO, she may believe that men can be handsome. Being "pretty" does imply being feminine to most people.

[Melissa Ryan]

Pretty is a word normally associated with girls/women. So it would stand to reason, that any one of us would strive to fit within that word, to any close enough to us to tell us that we Are pretty...........I like it too! :)

[DawnRodgers]

Yes, yes, yes! I can't think of any time I have heard a man all dressed up in a suit and tie sais "I feel pretty". When I am all dressed in a dress, heels, make up and a wig I always say to myself I feel pretty and have also been told that I am pretty. Most girls do like to feel pretty.
Dawn

[Helana]

To be fair to Stephanie's SO, she may believe that men can be handsome. Being "pretty" does imply being feminine to most people.

True enough, but I think that is what I meant when I suggested she think more about it - I mean the way words and images are used to define gender. If you say I am handsome then images of rugged looks, square jaw, suit and tie etc come to mind. Pretty refers to delicate facial features, soft lines, bright clothes etc. Some men could easily fit into the term "pretty" while wearing male clothes.

It is just another example of labelling. Anyone who thought about it for two minutes should realize there is nothing in a word like pretty to be offended about. "Pretty" is, after all, a positive attribute, those who find a negative connotation are acting on social prejudices.

[Shannon]

I love to feel pretty, look pretty, and do pretty things -- like perfumed bubble baths and being pampered (e.g., facials, manicures). I was getting a facial last week (along with a brow waxing) and the gal mentioned to me that she doesn't understand why more men don't get facials simply because men have bigger pores. That's exactly why I need a facial! (besides simply wanting to be pampered).

As lots of us have commented before, confidence and attitude means so much -- and I truly believe that if you feel pretty on the inside, you will project that to others.

[Marla GG]

Hi Stephanie,

It's only natural to feel pretty when you're wearing a dress! And of course if you feel pretty, you want to be told by others that you are.

The reason you like the word "pretty" so much is the same reason your wife goes bonkers: it is a word normally reserved for girls and women. You want to be called pretty because it validates your feminine feelings, and she refuses to call you pretty because she doesn't wish to acknowledge them.

She might also feel silly and awkward applying that word to you, when (in her mind) you are just her husband in women's clothes. Little girls learn early that it is not okay to say "you look pretty" to a boy because it makes everyone all upset! I guess I never learned that lesson very well......;)

[Andrea's Lynne]

I think Marla GG brings up a great point (as always).

I try to look at things from my wife's perspective. If she came to me today and said, "I want to look masculine and feel handsome!"...........how would I honestly feel? I know that I would be as supportive as I possibly could............but how would it make me feel, as a man, to have her want to be homme?:confused:

I don't have any answers, but just wanted to raise another point of view.