Her Idea???

[deebra]

Did anybody here get started CDing by being encouraged to do so by your wife, S.O. or a female friend. If so did they suggest you try panties, girl jeans, shoes, makeup, jewelry, unisex or fem hair style because they thought you might look better and it would be a really cool thing to do. Did it lead to more dressing and what were the results.

[STACY B]

What ? You want ME to wear What ? Hell No,,,, Well I guess if it makes YOU happy I guess I could do it just this once !!! The things I do for love ? How am I doing so far ? Does this sound Familure ? Ha,,,,Ha,, Ha,,, Pretty Sneaky ,,,, Hey dont be Hating ,, Girls gotta do what a girls gotta do ,,,, HOW ever ya get there dont matter as long as we get there . Going to the store ? Ill get my purse ,,,,

[sissystephanie]

Since I started CD'ing by wearing panties when I was 6 years old, I guess no one encouraged me! I tried on my older sisters panties and got hooked! She never did know and still doesn't!! I was in my early 20's when I got married, and my wife did know that I was a crossdresser. She supported my crossdressing completely!! We went out in public often as 2 girls, and she did my makeup and fixed my wig so that I could "pass!" She could really make me look like a female!! Something that I could never do very well.

[Sarah Doepner]

It was that girl in the mirror that made me do it.

[Leyna]

My sisters dressed me up for Halloween once. I was ten? Eleven? A high school boy whistled at me, and it's been all downhill from there.

[suchacutie]

It was a complete shock to both of us...spur of the moment.

My wife and I (married 34 years at that point) had been goofing around she had some lingerie that looked like it would fit me just after I had lost a lot of weight. She giggled and said, "try it on"! She thought my legs were terrific so I joked back saying that all I needed were stockings and heels. She's giggling and said "do it" (as in I dare you).

So ok..I bought stockings and heels.

We were away from children and she asked if I had brought the "stuff" with us? So, off I went to change....made a grand entrance...her mouth literally opened (jaw dropped) and said, without thinking, "look at those legs...we HAVE to buy you a dress".

Within 48 hours Tina was born and we never looked back. It has been an adventure for both of us that has been nothing but positive.

[SnowPrincess]

I have just come out to my wife of 35 years. At first she was mad, then in denial and now claims acceptance, but she will not let me appear dressed in front of her because she claims that it turns her off and has changed her picture of me, now, according to her, I am no longer a "man." Any suggestions? We are never apart except when I am at work so the only opportunity to dress is after she goes to bed. She did read excerpts from Rudd's book but now claims that she does not need to read any more. I have been on this journey of discovery and exploration and so badly want to have her share it with me as we have shared everything else for the last 35 years.

Snow Princess

[Connie Williams]

My sister started it when I was 4 or so. Helped me with everything until I was 19 and then she lost interest and soon moved out. I had a girlfriend for a few years that just really loved it when we both went out together as girlfriends. We did everything together and she just really loved it. She always said she had the best of all possible situations with me. I enjoyed our outings immensely.

[Beverley Sims]

I thought about it all by myself when I was ten.

[kimdl93]

There's no one else I can credit or blame. My first inklings came when I was perhaps 3 years old, and the inclination continued with the usual ebbs and flows. However, my first wife actually kicked it back into gear after a two year hiatus by encouraging me to put on her bra, panties and pantyhose as part of a little bedroom play. My enthusiasm was a bit too obvious so I ended up telling her about my earlier experiences. CDing remained a part of our lives through out our marriage and didn't contribute to the divorce. (although she did use it as a bit of a club during the divorce). I told my present wife that I CD'd while we were dating - wanted to make sure she knew what she was getting in to. It seems to have worked - we've been married almost 13 years!

[Karren H]

Only in my dreams.... Had the neighborhood girls dress me up but by then I was already into dressing...

[~Joanne~]

NO one encouraged or pushed me into where I am now. It stared with admiring sexy legs in pantyhose, to curiosity,to fetish, to where it is now though the fetish part has faded quite a bit.

[Stephanie47]

What you describe is where my wife and I went through and continue to go through to some extent. Even if you never presented yourself as a woman, you'll be seen as a man with a dress on. My wife does not want any part of my cross dressing, although there was 'bedroom play' early on in our marriage. Wearing a negligee and hosiery while 'playing' does not make one a cross dresser! It's just a part of being a little 'kinky' once in a while. However, express a desire to appear as a woman changes the outlook. My wife and I went on a panty shopping trip once, and, it was sheer torture for her. Why? I don't know. I think she thought everyone was staring at her buying panties for 'him,' although it was impossible to determine who they were for (size 8 fits both of us). As a retiree with a working wife, I do have some time for Stephanie to come out and be herself, except for summers.

I really have no desire to push my cross dressing on my wife. It makes her uncomfortable. The purpose of my cross dressing is to relieve stress, not encourage it.




I have just come out to my wife of 35 years. At first she was mad, then in denial and now claims acceptance, but she will not let me appear dressed in front of her because she claims that it turns her off and has changed her picture of me, now, according to her, I am no longer a "man." Any suggestions? We are never apart except when I am at work so the only opportunity to dress is after she goes to bed. She did read excerpts from Rudd's book but now claims that she does not need to read any more. I have been on this journey of discovery and exploration and so badly want to have her share it with me as we have shared everything else for the last 35 years.

Snow Princess

[Sallee]

I only wished that had happened. Oh so much fun it would have been or could be

[NicoleScott]

The ultimate in diplomacy is getting others to do what you want and make them think it was their idea.

To answer the question - no, not influenced or encouraged by others.