michelleinktown
09-01-2012, 07:24 AM
Hello all.
It's been a while since I have been on this site and I just wanted to share with all you ladies my thoughts on coming out. I do realize that for everyone of us it is a different and your own individual journey that is personaql to you.
For me the idea of first "coming out" was scarey. What would my friends think? What would my family think? What would work think? What would society think?
I planned my transition to what I thought was good for me and for me it worked well. I came to a point in my life where I realized that I don't have a problem! I was born this way. This is the way god wanted me otherwise he would have made me something else. So now that that I understand that I don't have a problem it is everybody else who has the problem.
I told my family and some where not accepting this and others, in fact most were ok with this. Hmmmmm
I told a few co-workers, they were ok with this and were very happy that I would share this with them. I brought a picture of Michelle with me so I could show people. my co-workers were ok with this. Hmmmmm
I told some very close friends and they were ok with this, hmmmmm
Ok now I live a double life still. Michael at work but as soon as I am done work I am Michelle, and if anybody sees me who cares, I already told the important people in my life. I didn't tell everybody in one day, it took weeks. One day I would tell someone and they were ok with it. A few days or maybe a week later I woulld tell someone else.
With everybody informed of who I really am and that load lifted off of my shoulders I decided to go public with my story in a big way. So now my story goes out announcing that I am living my life as Michael for the last time and that the following week I will be showing up as Michelle.
I'm commited now. I was scared to death of what people would think the first time I presented myself as Michelle. I was very toned down, fem tee shirt, jeans, flat shoes. I wore that for the first two weeks at work and now I feel comfortable, somewhat. Next step is putting on some bling to work. I did that for a week. Now that everybody has gotten used to who the new me is and I am more comfortable with me as well I can wear what I want to work now because I aqm accepted now at the transgendered person at work and she isn't any different and still does a good job. (also she got a huge set of balls to be working in Canada's toughest prison and be mixed in with all those lifers)
Last week I got my legal name change, all documents switched from a M to a F and from Michael Kurt to Michelle Angela, it is all official now.
I have never been so content in all my life. I never have to live a double life and be afraid of who is going to find out. I am me. I am a beautiful trans woman. I had a friend ask me shortly after I went to work as Michelle ask me if I needed to change before I went out that evening and I replied "I don't have to change my clothes anymore from male to female" hmmmm
I hope that some of you reading this will gather some strength and be who you are and who cares what people think. They don't pay my bills, or have any other part of my life. My friends, co-workers and most of my family are ok with me and still love me. It really was more the fears in my head that kept me locked up for so long and nothing else.
I love each of you and hold a place in my heart for all of you.
big HUG Michelle
It's been a while since I have been on this site and I just wanted to share with all you ladies my thoughts on coming out. I do realize that for everyone of us it is a different and your own individual journey that is personaql to you.
For me the idea of first "coming out" was scarey. What would my friends think? What would my family think? What would work think? What would society think?
I planned my transition to what I thought was good for me and for me it worked well. I came to a point in my life where I realized that I don't have a problem! I was born this way. This is the way god wanted me otherwise he would have made me something else. So now that that I understand that I don't have a problem it is everybody else who has the problem.
I told my family and some where not accepting this and others, in fact most were ok with this. Hmmmmm
I told a few co-workers, they were ok with this and were very happy that I would share this with them. I brought a picture of Michelle with me so I could show people. my co-workers were ok with this. Hmmmmm
I told some very close friends and they were ok with this, hmmmmm
Ok now I live a double life still. Michael at work but as soon as I am done work I am Michelle, and if anybody sees me who cares, I already told the important people in my life. I didn't tell everybody in one day, it took weeks. One day I would tell someone and they were ok with it. A few days or maybe a week later I woulld tell someone else.
With everybody informed of who I really am and that load lifted off of my shoulders I decided to go public with my story in a big way. So now my story goes out announcing that I am living my life as Michael for the last time and that the following week I will be showing up as Michelle.
I'm commited now. I was scared to death of what people would think the first time I presented myself as Michelle. I was very toned down, fem tee shirt, jeans, flat shoes. I wore that for the first two weeks at work and now I feel comfortable, somewhat. Next step is putting on some bling to work. I did that for a week. Now that everybody has gotten used to who the new me is and I am more comfortable with me as well I can wear what I want to work now because I aqm accepted now at the transgendered person at work and she isn't any different and still does a good job. (also she got a huge set of balls to be working in Canada's toughest prison and be mixed in with all those lifers)
Last week I got my legal name change, all documents switched from a M to a F and from Michael Kurt to Michelle Angela, it is all official now.
I have never been so content in all my life. I never have to live a double life and be afraid of who is going to find out. I am me. I am a beautiful trans woman. I had a friend ask me shortly after I went to work as Michelle ask me if I needed to change before I went out that evening and I replied "I don't have to change my clothes anymore from male to female" hmmmm
I hope that some of you reading this will gather some strength and be who you are and who cares what people think. They don't pay my bills, or have any other part of my life. My friends, co-workers and most of my family are ok with me and still love me. It really was more the fears in my head that kept me locked up for so long and nothing else.
I love each of you and hold a place in my heart for all of you.
big HUG Michelle