Mortified!

[AmberDay]

So, this is the first week of school for my kids. After a LONG summer of only being able to dress three times in the last three months there was no doubt in my mind I was getting dressed and going out! I normally only go out wearing jeans, sneakers, and a nice blouse, but I had to celebrate and wear a skirt, pantyhose, and heels. Things started off great! Went to a local mega shopping store and walked around checking out some possible toys for the kids, picked up some grocery items, tried on some shoes etc. While looking at the snacks section for my kids school, I caught a guy checking out my legs. LOVED it! Of course though when it came time to check out there were long lines. While waiting one of the cashiers called me 'miss' to let me know she is opening up her lane. That was a huge compliment to me. Then went and dropped off a movie at another store, then to the post office where a guy opened the door for me, then another guy held the door for me when I left! Then I decided to check one more thing off my 'achievement list' I always wanted to go inside a restaurant and order and eat there. I always went through the drive thru, but not today. I went inside Wendy's. No matter how hard I try, I can't speak in a femme voice. So what. I order, and the cashier calls me sweetie and is very kind to me. I know she can tell I'm Trans, but she treats me no different. She gives me my food and I grabbed the tray, step out, and it slips off my fingers and crashes to the floor! Everybody in the restaurant stares at me and I turn red in embarrassment. I was tempted to just run out the door. The cashier told me it is okay and to stay calm and she will take care of everything. I had tears in my eyes. But she remade my order and let the manager know that a mop was needed. Everybody stared at me as I took my seat. I pulled out my kindle and started reading; trying not to cry. I finished eating and made a hasty retreat. I told my wife about all that happened and she is an amazing woman. She tried to tell me all the positive stuff I experienced today and that it happens to everybody; straight, gay, or trans. Also she was proud that I stayed and didn't run away. It sucks to have a really good day to be ruined at the last second.
Amber

[Jamie Christopher]

So sorry for you; keep your chin up, things will get better! You were out there, and practice makes perfect.

[Dana921]

I can so understand the feeling and frustration! But your wife is absolutely right to focus on the success of the day and the wonderful way you were treated, even while in distress! This really is a huge win for you! You presented as you feel and no negative remarks were made! Congratulations!

Hugs,
Dana

[Jorja]

Chalk your experience up to Sh*% happens. It could have been you or a GG that had the accident. Today it was your turn. Everything else was a positive experience for you. So do it again at a later date but hold on to your tray. :)

[Melissa Rose]

It sucks to have a really good day to be ruined at the last second.
I'm sorry it happened and feel for you, but the day will be ruined only if you allow it to be ruined.

Your wife gave you excellent advice and has the right attitude. Why let one incident ruin everything? Guess what? Poop happens. Something less than perfect or not according to plan is going to happen nearly every time you go out. When you only expect and accept perfection, you will be let down most of the time. You survived this mishap with the only real scars being embarrassment which fades. Instead of letting it ruin your day, use it as a building point for future trips out. You can say "I survived dropping my tray in Wendy's so I can survive anything else bad that will happen". Don't let that slippery tray win.

[Karren H]

The thought of a spilt frosty just about brought tears to my eyes.... now I'm hungry.... I've done that in drab and it wasn't a lot fun then.... but you did good......

[Marleena]

Amber you had so many positives to build on from that day. Spilling the tray can happen to anybody. It doesn't sound like it outed you. It just made you a centershot for a couple of minutes. I get embarrased easily so I know what a sinking feeling it is.

[bridget thronton]

Well done a lady can rise above any mishap (and you did)

[Cynthia Anne]

Oh you poor dear! I know that feeling because of the many mishaps that has occured in my life! Tomorow is another day and no one will remember it So smile about it today and remember it could of been worse! Hugs!

[RADER]

I say you had a great experience, Accidents can happen to anyone. The phrase I like to use
is that "I use the eraser on my pencil".
You should be very proud of yourself, you accomplish a lot today.
Rader

[linda allen]

...... She gives me my food and I grabbed the tray, step out, and it slips off my fingers and crashes to the floor! Everybody in the restaurant stares at me and I turn red in embarrassment. ........... It sucks to have a really good day to be ruined at the last second.

I did that once in a Burger King (not dressed), but it was a salad from the salad bar and I had piled my salad high with garbanzo beans (chick peas). If you don't know what garbanzo beans look like, they are round, hard, and about the size of marbles. They rolled everywhere. Under the salad bar, under the tables where customers were eating, everywhere! :eek:

Back to your post, it's great your wife was so supportive and she's right, stuff happens to everybody at one time or another. If you've got the balls (pardon the expression) to go out in public and into a restaurant dressed, you can handle something like this. Hold your boobs up high and move on! :hugs:

[Persephone]

Oh, do I feel for you, Amber!

Any woman gets flustered and embarrassed when things like that happen. Your feeling that you wanted to cry is the natural reaction for a woman in that situation! Certainly not what "a guy" would experience!

Part two: you fought down the fight-or-flight response and you maintained your cool!

Bottom line: You scored! Now you can not only check fast food restaurant off of your achievement list, you can check off "embarrassing situation"! And I'll bet you'd never even thought to have that particular "achievement" on your list. But it would be a normal possibility in any woman's life, when she would feel as bad as you did, and you made it through -- en femme!

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Angelofsomekind]

It could happen to anyone! And most of the day was great.
You ever think about calling the store and telling them how great the cashier was? Don't have to go into details, but it would be good for her.

[Missy]

You had a lot of good things, and a lot of people saying a lot of good things to you. Ok so a tray slides out of your hand things like this happens to a lot of people in all kinds of places that have trays. I have had this happen to me both in male mode and dressed. I felt more uneasy in male mode then in female mode, go figure. lol
have fun and enjoy life

[Nikki A.]

Well after that experience anything else is a piece of cake. The tough part is that you feel like everyone is looking at you (and they are), but you gt through it and that is an achievement, Congrats

[Tracii G]

Just a small battle scar my dear nothing to worry about. :hugs:
Think of the line from the movie Predator when the guy says You're bleeding and Jesse Ventura says I ain't got time to bleed!!!:)

[bimini1]

Still a dammed good outing.

[TxKimberly]

Awe . . . Bad things happen and it sounds like you handled it well. :)

[Chickhe]

Its funny... something like that wouldn't really phase me unless it was the last of the bad events in my day, just to top it all off. If the other parts of my day were good, it would not matter...in fact, it depends how you look at it, you ate and people looked at you, so what? You still made it through the day with lots to show for it (even learned how to handle such a situation).

[AngelaMichelle]

I think overall it was a good day for you. You handled it amazingly. I only hope to have the strength and courage to go out in public and spend the day shopping. I'm scared to death to even go out in the dark. Thank you for proving that it can be done.

Angela

[linda allen]

Amber, it seems you are well on your way towards your "feminine side", because a 100% "dude" would not have been "mortified" he would have been "pissed"! :heehee:

[Claire Cook]

You survived this mishap with the only real scars being embarrassment which fades. Instead of letting it ruin your day, use it as a building point for future trips out. You can say "I survived dropping my tray in Wendy's so I can survive anything else bad that will happen". Don't let that slippery tray win.

Hi Amber,

Great that you handled it the way you did. Melissa and others have made the point here -- if we can get through mishaps like this, we can handle most anything! I've never dropped a tray in Wendy's, but done a number of other dumb blonde things and somehow got through them .. and each time gives more more confidence for the next time! Now I need to let myself cry when the need arises ...

[Beverley Sims]

Focus on the advancements of the day and leave all the negatives out.
More progress you see.

[Joanna41]

Doesn't sound to me like anything got ruined....you had a great day out being dressed had a minor accident at lunch. You were able to go home and actually share your experience with your wife. Most here can't do that. Life happens regardless of you being dressed as a her or a him.

Joanna

[AmberDay]

The one thing that I do love about this site is that we can share our adventures and misadventures together. Granted I don't post often, and do go months at a time without logging in, but it is amazing how much better I feel after all the encouragement that I received from my wife and you gals; complete strangers. I want to thank everybody for raising my spirits! Many of you have pointed out that I was focusing so much on the negative that I failed to relish in the positive experiences of actually being called miss, having the door opened for me for a change, and actually getting checked out! You gals are right, the good far outweighs the bad. Although next time, I will hold the tray tighter:)

Love you all :hugs:

Amber

[Jorja]

My dear, some of us might be strange but we are not strangers!

[Vanessa Storrs]

Congratulations Amber! You went out dressed, had a good time, interacted with many people and did well. The only negative thing that happened had nothing to do with being dressed. We all have embarrasing moments and you handled yours well.

[5150 Girl]

Yea, they stared, but they likey were not staring at "the boy in a dress" as they were staring at "The clumsy person who dropped somthing".... I mean com on, you have to admit, dressed fem or drab, it could have happed to anybody, and besides, were you on the ohter side of that, would you not have stared at the cumsyness? It's only natural.