Does your character change when you dress?

[Andrea J]

I'm curious about this. I have heard people talking about how their character changes when they dress and I was wondering how common this was. Particularly, do you 'deliberately' change or does it happen without you really intending it? Do you find you naturally move more femininely? I've heard there are people that change the sex they are attracted to. Or are you permanently feminine however you're dressed? Any interesting stories? I'd love to hear them.

EDIT:

Thanks for all the interesting answers everyone! Just one thing, a number of people are missing an important point in their answers: Are the changes put on deliberately or do they just happen naturally?

[StephanieJ]

I get all chatty and talkative when I'm dressed. In contrast, I'm usually pretty quiet and shy in boy mode. Probably has more to do with feeling comfortable than it does with trying to be feminine...

[RADER]

Not relay, I just stay the same; I just enjoy the moments that I can dress.
Rader

[Karren H]

Nope..... only thing that changes with my clothes are my looks.....

[Cynthia Anne]

My male side is hateful and ugly and inconsiderate to others! My fem side is just the oppersite! That is one of the reasons I am trying to leave my male side behind!

[Engendered]

In small ways, yes. Actually, I'm just noticing that when I'm typing right now, I'm reading the words in a female voice in my mind. I often wonder if there really is a difference between the way I speak here, and how I speak (as a male) on other forums. A lot of the real life changes are deliberate though. I try to remove male mannerisms like I try to remove my facial hair. It's not really a core-being change, but more of a change in expression. :)

[Laura912]

Yeah, Karren will body block with the sweetest smile. I do change...more relaxed, smile more, peaceful.

[suchacutie]

It appears that I'm bi-gendered. It took my wife and I no time at all to realize that Tina has her own characteristics and personality. It was that realization that drove us to an intense curiosity about what role Tina had played in my life to that point (unidentified) and how she might now affect our lives that we know she exists. Therefore, the obvious answer was to engage in the adventure to "make a life for Tina"! My wife always engages Tina in conversation to see how she feels about one topic or another, and just loves it when the he and she of me don't agree!

Oh, and although I'm predominantly right-handed as a male, Tina is strikingly left handed!

That's why it's an adventure!

[flic]

I agree with Stephanie, i've been told that i come out of my shell a lot more, i'm more chatty, more communicative and generally a lot more comfortable when Flic is around, contrasted with being very shy and awkward in male mode. I put that down to being an awful lot more comfortable as my true self, which can only be a good thing, quite honestly though, i think the boundaries between my two worlds are blurring hugely these days.

x Flic x

[Brianna612]

In my early days of dressing I was defiantly two separate personalities. My male being was always mad always getting into trouble. I think my male personality was trying to show up my female personality and always failed which just became more frustrating. My female side was fun loving and care free like a dress blowing in the wind. I really enjoyed that side when I could, which wasn’t enough.

As I have aged my male side has been able to accept my female side and vise versa. They have come together as one being both male and female comingled and of one mind. I am much more content being one and am probably more female than male. I enjoy both sides of me and wouldn’t want to change a thing.

[Lorileah]

Since the female side of me is what makes me feel "normal", yes I do change. I am more gregarious, more friendly, I smile a lot, I truly attract more people who just want to talk. I am calmer. Little things bother me less.

[Andrea J]

It appears that I'm bi-gendered. It took my wife and I no time at all to realize that Tina has her own characteristics and personality. It was that realization that drove us to an intense curiosity about what role Tina had played in my life to that point (unidentified) and how she might now affect our lives that we know she exists. Therefore, the obvious answer was to engage in the adventure to "make a life for Tina"! My wife always engages Tina in conversation to see how she feels about one topic or another, and just loves it when the he and she of me don't agree!

Oh, and although I'm predominantly right-handed as a male, Tina is strikingly left handed!

That's why it's an adventure!

I love to hear it when wives are supportive. And the changing of handedness is very interesting. So what do you two disagree about... I mean what do you 'one' disagree about? :) Is it like what music you prefer, political ideas or what? Hmm, if you disagree about politics then which of you gets to vote? LOL.

Here's an interesting idea, when you are in boy mode you can write a note to Tina about something you disagree about. When you're Tina you can read it and write a reply. You could have a slow conversation between your two sides. Wonder what would happen. (Or perhaps you can do it by switching back and forth in your head but that wouldn't have been so entertaining.)

[xdressed]

I'm definitely more calm in girl mode. I certainly swear less and think about alcohol and sex a lot less, all of which are things I tend to do or think about quite a bit in male mode. I also move in a more feminine manner when I'm dressed, it just naturally happens.

[Aloha Jayne]

I too consider myself to be bi-gendered. Meaning, I have personality traits from both teams. While I've known about loving to CD my whole life, I wasn't aware until about a year ago of this other personality. I am still searching for who Jayne is, and want to experience life through her eyes now. She is more creative, outgoing, friendly, artistic. And at the same time a conniving psycho b####! But I can be her with only my nails done, or while dancing around in nothin' but an attitude. I sometimes wonder if I had been born with girl parts instead of boy's, if I would be a different person, and then wish I knew what is was to be male.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Andrea, the only thing that changes is that i am better looking for a while.

[Kate Simmons]

Not really but Rich kind of knows enough not to get in Kate's way.:battingeyelashes::)

[Josie M]

I've recently come to realize that there was more fragmentation between my male and female expressions than I'd thought. I think it was a defense mechanism. I learned to present very well as male when I was younger to avoid being harassed. I'd emphasis what was accepted as male and de-emphasize or distract from what didn't. All of those personality traits I had to suppress showed up as Josie. Neither was complete so, I suppose I wound up "filling in the blanks" over time and my personas fragmented.

These days, I'm trying to realize that I am who I am regardless of what gender I'm presenting and I'm becoming less concerned about anyone who can't or won't accept me for who I am. It's been working. I find myself in male mode seeing things through Josie's eyes.....it's both fascinating and a little disconcerting to see how much I was shaped by societal expectations....

[Leah Lynn]

I am two very different people. Sweet little(?) Leah vs. Jungle Warrior.

[Missy]

I am more relaxed and wife said I am more confident when I am wearing bra and panties

[Candice Mae]

Candice is more spontaneous and out going. But besides that she still listens to the same music and does things that I would normally do. Nothing really changes...

[Kimberlyfaye]

My mannerisms do change. I still do the same things I like but I move, sit and act more feminine. I just feel more confortable en femme. I'm more relaxed and at ease. I'm still working on a voice but it's proving to be difficult.

[Cheryl T]

Of course... my mannerisms, speech patterns and such change as does my attitude.
My wife and I were out one night and she made the comment that I "acted very feminine". I told her, "I'm not acting". When I am allowed to be me that's just what I am.

[noeleena]

Hi,

My name reflects my maleness & femaleness no-el ,noel or noeleena. pretty much too intertwined to seperate one from the other. When i was younger it was there , just i did not express all of who i was. call it supressed locked down little difference i just did not show much ether way. yet it was seen by a few people my difference unbeknown to me of cause.

Now i express my self in the way i could not before, so yes a very big difference in who i am now. many lovely changes & hard as it may sound Im so much better to be around & asking Jos she would say very very different & a different person.

so from percived noel to noeleena totaly different,& for the better,
A female / woman in the making just had to grow in to myself,

...noeleena...

[Shari]

I certainly feel more feminine when I dress, but never realized that my personality and mannerisms change too. That is, until my wife brought it up to me.
She told me that my actions become markedly feminine and that my voice becomes softer. The heels certainly make me walk differently too.
I'm okay with that. It's sort of what I'm trying to accomplish by dressing to begin with.

[STACY B]

Hell yea I change ?? You can understand what I say ,,Cuz Im not DRUNK ,,, Now I can see the world threw the right set of eyes ,,Not the Beer Goggles ,, Free at last,,, How Sweet it is to be Free at last ,,,LOL,,,, PS. Save Alot of money to ,,, Buy more clothes ,,,LOL,,,

[Dakota.ftl]

I've noticed subtle differences, but my character is mostly consistant. I'm a bit more open and talkative enfemme.

[Beverley Sims]

Mine definitely changes, I usually have a better interaction with women when dressed.

[sometimes_miss]

Nope, I'm the same person no matter what I'm wearing.

[Gena Gurl]

Funny thing happened when I was out this week end. We where at a lesbian Club there where about 12 of us Gurls and when the dancing started I found my self dancing in a very femenine way, I moved my hips and moved with some of the same sexy moves the real women where doing. I have never tried to imulate this side of my femenine side. I actualy had a couple of girls that kinda joined in with me. Very cool I might ad.

[becky77]

I would say no I am the same except more confident. My wife would disagree, she says that I change.

[GrayGirl83]

I definitely get more girly and femme. More than a bit sassy, too

[NicoleScott]

I can't play the guitar when en femme (long fake nails make it impossible).
So I guess I'm Less Paul, More Paula. haha

[Thera Home]

Thanks for all the interesting answers everyone! Just one thing, a number of people are missing an important point in their answers: Are the changes are put on deliberately or do they just happen naturally?

Hi Andrea
My character most definitly changes, I feel less stressed, highly euphoric as if Im walking on air. My attitude changes along with having different feelings about everything. I enjoy it tremendously:)

Thera

[ArleneRaquel]

I'm more human when I'm Arlene.

[suchacutie]

Andrea, the fact is that my two gendered selves can get a little unnerving at times. My wife has actually become a bit concerned at times when Tina sends notes making fun of my male self (all in fun but it wasn't clear that was the case). Tina enjoys chickflicks and my male self can't even be in the same room!!! Tina is fastidious and there have been times when my male self just couldn't get motivated to do some intricate work that was simply busy work and needed to be done. My wife suggested that Tina might be more inclined to get it done, and after transforming she made short work of it. It's the Tina part of me that can concentrate and focus to the exclusion of almost any outside "bother". She really doesn't like it when the male me is not tidy.

It certainly makes life interesting when my wife can talk with each of us about the other! Transgendered life is certainly not boring!

[Badtranny]

This is an incredibly bizarre thread.

[michellecd9999]

Yes, I definitely change when dressed. My mannerisms and voice and maybe even the way I think........

[JohannaSophia]

Do I purr like a kitten when I wear underwear or costume up? No, but I do when I am tucked and especially with a pretty bra or corset on and a wig. That spontaneous heat, no deliberation needed.

But just when I think I am looking good my dear wife who helps me with grooming and dressing and photography reminds me how unladylike my posture and body language are. I try to follow her instruction, deliberately! I don't even want to think about my voice when it comes to deliberation.

[PetiteDuality]

Maybe you can feel more at ease with yourself. But wouldn't a big change make me kind of schizophrenic or bipolar?

[Kate T]

Short answer, no. I'm still the same. In fact my wife comments that that is one of the things that is "reassuring" is that I don't suddenly change. Although she does say that it would be nice if I didn't keep all the gross male habits!