crossdressing and injuries

[DeniseNJ]

Right now I am feeling BUMMED out. with Fall aproaching the pink fog falls heavly on me and I become more of a girl than in the summer. I broke my hand the other day in a temporary splint and a cast in in the cards, I see a hand specialist on Friday. I am sad, I don't even want to put on mascrea cause it will run if I cry. I had great plans too, 2 make Denise more like a girl, waxing of my legs, new wig pedicure full body shave I want it all . I want to get out to meet other CD and have fun as Denise Talk about a party pooper , any words of advise to cheer me up wil be appreciated, maybe a pink water proof cast will help. I am sad I don't even want to go get pedicures anymore.

[sissystephanie]

Sorry about the broken hand, but those things happen! You do have very pretty toes though, look pretty much just like mine!! And you do need to keep on getting pedicures!! Those toes need to always look nice!!

[Rikidee]

Hang in there Denise!! You will be healed before you know it. I know it is a bummer to have plans and then something happens to make you postpone them. Use the time to read Cosmo or some other magazines to get some ideas on different styles and the latest trends in makeup. They are always coming out with new products, I can never keep up with the next hot items! Use your time to be more prepared for when you are ready to go out, as you know the mental part is as important as the physical. Maybe do a little meditating to connect with your inner girl and spend some time practicing a more girly voice. There are still girly things you can do. Hope you are feeling better and hope you get well really really soon! Hugs Riki

[Karren H]

I broke my little toe last week and I'm more bummed out because I can't wear my ice skates than heels!

[Being Paige]

Sorry to hear about your hand, hope it heals up quick!! Even women have their ups and downs, I wouldn't let it get you down, go get that pedicure and get some new clothes to boost your spirit.

[Kate Simmons]

Just be a girl trooper Denise and you will be okay. Sometimes we just have to grin and bear these inconveniences.:)

[Danni Renee]

I am sorry you broke your hand but don't let it get you down! Of all the things you want to do this fall, I saw nothing on your list that having a cast will hinder. It may not be the way you want it, but accidents happen to both men and woman. I am sure after the initial shock wears off you will once again look forward to a great Autumn season!

Danni

[Tabitha Storm]

I have a scar across my left foot from stumbling in some high heels and the heel dragged across it
I love that scar because it reminds me of those heels.

Sorry to hear about your hand. Get better soon then show off to the world

[BLUE ORCHID]

hi Denise, the mai thing to do now is make sure the hand heals right.

[Cindy M]

Hang in there. This will be over in a little while and you can keep on with your plans

[Jeannie]

Oh Denise I am so sorry to hear about your hand. That can be so painful and just down right inconvenient to top it off. If you have to have a cast don't they have pink plaster or maybe you can cover it with a pink sock or something. I am with Danni though, I think you can still do what you want to do and after all going out to have a manicure, pedicure and shopping is always the best medicine for a girl when she is depressed and it is something I highly recommend. Put your big girl panties on and go out there anyway. Hugs!!

[AllieSF]

Please do not let the cast ruin your plans, unless you planned on doing a lot of heavy work with that hand. Just get dressed and put on makeup as you would have with no broken bones. Go out that door and enjoy life as it was meant to be enjoyed. Actually, a cast is like going someplace with a baby or a puppy. Everyone will be interested to know what happened and how. You will meet a lot of new and fun people, and you can make up a different injury story each time you go out. Just imagine all the fun you can have with that!! Real women don't let little things like that bother them, so "woman up" and get out of the house just as you planned. No excuses accepted.

[kymmieLorain]

I broke my little toe last week and I'm more bummed out because I can't wear my ice skates than heels!

Darn girl, Haven't I told you ice skating causes injuries. But now you have to go an get hurt. What will I ever do with you. LOL

Kymmie

[noeleena]

Hi.Denise.

Just so you know your not alone .

I did a fall that took out my knee right hip both shoulders all musels both sides of my neck under my left side ripcage & internal slight damage lost my strength in boith arms down to my hands that was May the 18th & ill have atleast 2 more months if not more no meds they wont work so think continuse pain not sleeping . & apart from trying to get dressed or undreessed .in my normal day wear...... a skirt tops shoes .

There is the bright side ill get better like you & we have spring with all those lovely flowers comeing out.....YES.....

Im not doing to bad, apart from going insane , so yea i know what its like just keep going dont stop doing what you like so much it will help even if you cant be bothered. i was dressed for our Edwardian group & i felt like i cant even dress my self properly what a bloody effort . i got there, just dont stop ...okay....

...noeleena...

[Katie83]

Seven years ago i broke my right femur combined with some slightly more minor injuries. I was unable to move much for a few weeks, when i could get about i was on crutches for over 3 months, then i walked with a pronounced limp for at least a year after that.
During that time i was unable to do any kind of dressing at all, all my stuff was kept in the loft. I was worried about trying to walk in heels again, and i was very very careful on that occasion. But i was ok.
My point is that you will bounce back soon enough. Keep smiling and dress as much as you are able. As soon as you're fully recovered you'll enjoy dressing even more than before.
Katie

[CINDYO]

focus on the positive, be thankful you only broke your hand. it will heal. In my line of work I see catastrophic life altering injury, and with people half your age. trust me count your blessings.

[ReillyF]

When they are ready to cast it, just ask for the PINK cast material!
Hope it feels better.

[Missy]

pink cast sounds like a good start hand will heal in time just remember to follow rehab so you do not lose any muscle or movement wear pull over bras while your arm in cast. just have fun and time will fly by

[Jenniferathome]

Women break bones on occasion too and they manage to still look and behave as women. It's temporary.

[Cheryl T]

Good time to become ambidextrous....

[Tracii G]

The hand will heal in time don't worry.

[Jamie001]

Sorry about the broken hand, but those things happen! You do have very pretty toes though, look pretty much just like mine!! And you do need to keep on getting pedicures!! Those toes need to always look nice!!

Denise, I agree with Sissystephanie. You have very pretty toes and I hope that you have them on display 24/7/365 in women's open toe sandals because they are too pretty to be hidden in closed-toe shoes. Whenever I'm not at work, my toes on on display in fem sandals in my normal feminine male-mode.

:hugs: Jamie

[NathalieX66]

Hi Denise,
Sorry about the hand. Any major injury sucks. ......get well soon!

This topic hits home for me in a big way. I was in a similar situation with a brokenm wrist. Just to preface this post, i will say that I tired to hide and suppress the fact that I was a crossdresser for several years until the stock market crash of '08....a.k.a. Black Friday. The classic denial & shame kicked in, and i purged everything.

That was when my company was faltering, and they laid off a bunch of people, while the rest of us, including me, took pay cuts. I was already suffering from mounting financial debt on top of it. I needed a way to medicate myself.

I gave up crossdressing , something that I was doing since age 6 or 7, in 1999 in order to man up, and get going with life. The reality is it never went away .

I was into playing in a rock band until the near fateful day that I was trying to saw off a tree limb with a pole pruner while on the roof of my back porch , and i stepped off and landed hands down on my concrete patio....breaking my left wrist. I had what is known as a Collier's Fracture......land palms down on a 12 ft. drop onto concrete, and figure it yourselves. I had a steel plate and 5 screws put in my wrist. It ended my musical career for several months, and i still do therapy.

Music , besides arts & illustration, is me. Now I have difficulty playing guitar.....something I have always done. it took more than a year to recover. But during all this time, I went back to my old ways, and started crossdressing again, and I felt anew. So anew. It felt great. Now I feel no shame, I've met lots of people like myself ( including bone-breakers like me) , and I am enjoying life to the fullest in my girl mode. I can play guitar, but not at the dexterity I once had. There's now some tendonitis .

[Colleen1989]

When bad things happen, that is when you most need a pick me up. Keep your plans and incorporate the cast as your personal accessory!

[giuseppina]

Sorry to hear about the fracture. The usual treatment is a cast while the bone sets and heals and physiotherapy to regain lost muscle strenght afterward.

What did the specialist say?

[Lori B]

not to worry,,that will heal faster than you know it and you'll be out and about:)

[PrettyFlowingGown]

no real injury, but i've had ulcers on foot from tight high heel straps.

[jennifer24]

Sorry to hear Denise, people hurt themselves everyday, you will be back up in no time, plus you can get a pink cast to make yourself more feminne. In your down time just try to think and plan your next outing.

[Krististeph]

Fractures are not a 'non-female' thing. So you have to slow down a little and take more time getting dressed- putting on makeup- you have to learn to do it with your other hand, or figure out a way to hold the cosmetic brushes with your fingers only maybe. This is what women do when they are injured.
Far from being tom-girl-ish, it's your feminine side adapting in a feminine way- slow down- don't hit the problem so head on like a guy might. finesse- that's what we have over guys- now is the time to try and make it work for you. So you go with a little bit simpler makeup... don't tell me you've never wanted to try a more classic- sedate style, just to see ???

Physical injuries also hurt you mind- the pain is stress, and it is a little scary. That's okay- do spend a little extra time taking care of yourself- instead of just a pedicure- get a message as well- the increased blood circulation will only help you feel better and heal faster.

Not really a bright side to look on- but be glad is was a fracture rather than a soft tissue tear- I tore out a tendon on my left thumb last year and it took 5 months before my hand was fully usable, and it is still not as strong as before. All I can do is wait and let it heal. had to learn a new way of putting on pantyhose and tights until it healed somewhat. :-/

Part of being a girl, my girl. And yes, i too shed a few tears and was quite upset about it.

hang in there- and focus on the feminine aspects- it will help you feel better!

-Kristi

[Krististeph]

I broke my little toe last week and I'm more bummed out because I can't wear my ice skates than heels!

Toes suck, you don't get a cast usually, but it still hurts like a mother! Personally, i imagine you'd look rather cute in a cast while wearing a dress...

I've had some nasty cuts and bashes on my hands (they are feeling it as i get older now)- a new clean dressing after I get all dressed up looks rather non-comment-worthy: neither feminine nor non feminine. Keeping the wound and dressing clean as possible is definitely more of a female thing in some ways- when i'm en drab- the bandages get kind of cruddy before i bother replacing them, as long as the wound is relatively clean. as Kristi- i would never let that happen.

One day teaching, a metal drawer of parts fell out and it snagged my finger- opened it to the bone - you could see a tendon too- but the tendon was still working and didn't look damaged or nicked- so I just wrapped the finger in gauze, a bit of antibiotic, clean paper towels and electrical tape, cleaned up the blood trail, and kept the class going- changing the dressing whenever it got soaked through. I have an inck long scar on the finger, but with pink nail polish- it looks kind of cute and tom-boyish...

my poor left hand though, it takes a real beating... :-/

Hope your toe heals fast- neon pink polish helps, i've heard! :-)

-Kristi

[DeniseNJ]

You girls are so sweet and have + feed back for me. It has almost been 2 weeks and the pain isn't all that bad, I just need to start theapy to start bending my hand.. I am lucky the fractures stayed in line. I am already thinking about getting my legs waxed and a full pedicure soon. You girls can really lift one's spirits Thanks a Million Denise

[Beverley Sims]

Yes take a deep breath, and remember it could be worse, it could be raining. :)
Look after the hand though.

[MicheleCooper]

I know the feeling...many many moons ago when VHS camcorders were rampant, I worked at a electronic shop. We had just received a shipment of camcorder batteries (the long slim batteries if anyone remembers), and I did what I normally did, put the 450 pound box on a two wheeler and would bring it in the store. I did not see the very small but now dangerous patch of ice behind me and slipped with this behemoth on top of me. My left leg was behind me, crushing one bone in my foot and breaking several others and leaving my foot in a very nice broken angle. The doctor popped my foot back into place (by the way I learned not to say no even when I do not understand what the doctor is saying, he kept asking if I wanted a pain killer before he popped the bone. I kept saying no because I couldn't understand him and the pain was excruciating. It wasn't until my manager took me home and told me I'm tougher than he thought. He then proceeded to tell me the doctor was offering pain killers and at first when I said no it was regular aspirin, every time I said no, he was offering shit that probably would have knocked an elephant on its ass. Anyhow, spent 3 months in a cast and 2 months in rehab and was no longer able to wear my 5 inch heels without platforms.

My foot still has a demolished bone floating inside, the cold brings an awful point of pain at times, I have a nice bulge where the break happened, and I have to wear shoes with some support - which I found wedges has become a favorite of mine.