crossdressed happy but alone. Can anyone relate?

[cdtraveler]

Am ususally fine crossdressing alone but am sitting here today working from home dressed in my forms, black halter top and pencil shirt all pretty and happy but feeling an intense need to be with others while dressed. anyone else go through this?

AMANDA

[kimdl93]

I think many of us have the same feelings. We are social animals afterall. I dress every day at home and sometimes I just need to get out and interact with people. I'm not trying to shock anyone - I hope to blend in and just enjoy the day out like any other woman.

[RebeccaLynne]

Humans are social creatures, and contact with others satifies the need for interaction.

TBS, I immensely enjoy every moment spent en femme.The only activity providing an even greater level of joy is time spent en femme with my GF, which occurs much less frequently. She's accepting of my need for feminine expression, and understands my desire to spend time with her dressed accordingly; however, she isn't sexually attracted to me dressed as a woman.

That's OK with me, as long as she's willing to interact with me as her platonic girlfriend when I'm wearing a skirt and heels. Come bedtime, don't most women take off their makeup and clothing before adjourning to the boudoir? :heehee:

[Kate Simmons]

I'm usually in the club dancing with many others when I'm en femme.:)

[Erica2Sweet]

Humans are social creatures, and contact with others satifies the need for interaction...

This is exactly right. Self-imposed isolation is very hard on the mind and soul.

I would not be surprised if you are more and more compelled to reach out to become more socialized in "girl mode".

[outhiking]

I was terribly lonely until I found this forum. What a blessing it's been to be able to share and be part of a community.

[Lynn Marie]

Crossdressing and going out with others of a similar ilk is pure bliss. There is safety in numbers and the social interactions are priceless. The problem is finding a group or even another crosssdresser in your neighborhood. Thankfully, with the internet and sites like this, it's getting easier than ever. Unfortunately there are still tons of closet crossdressers out there who post stuff all the time, but are deathly afraid of any social interaction at all. All they do is post stuff! This is they're social interaction!

[Rachel05]

Amanda that is a big yes, how right you are, we dress up in all our nice clothes and spend time alone, as nice and happy as that makes me, yes I more often than not wish I had someone to share it with

[Karren H]

Kind of why I started going out enfemme..... sitting at home all dressed up go so boring... not necessarily lonely.... just friggin boring.... and as far as wanting to be with others that shared my interest.... just liking (or having) to wear the same kind of clothes isn't enough for me to forge a friendship.... there's got to be more... at least for me.... and most of the people who want to share their interests.... wanted to share way way more than I wanted to! aka... body parts and bodily fluids! lmao.....

[Jessicaa]

Yeah, I often have the same problem. even though dressing at home is great i sometimes wonder what its like on the outside.. 0.0

[audreyinalbany]

clothes are a social convention; what we wear is really determined by the culture in which we live so it's natural to want to present in the social world rather than just sit home and dress. I think most of us get to that point. Dressing at home is okay, but I think a big part of it is to interact in the outside world en femme.

[PretzelGirl]

No doubt in my mind that the social aspects are a major contributor to me getting out. But even if you don't want to interact with the general public, you might be able to satisfy your social needs by going to closed groups. It works for many.

[Antoinette]

I used to feel that way. But once all my friends were accepting of it it never became an issue to me. Recently I'be gone out a couple lot times with a TG friend of mine which is awesome of course.

[~Joanne~]

All the time unfortunately. Some days I am happy to be in the closet and enjoy my girl time as I can get it but there are a few times I just want to walk out that door. Someday I will. just not today.

[jsunic_1978]

just do it!! :) :) go to a different town with a couple friends and just go to ALL female clothing stores. ITS REALLY FUN. If your not gay, most people will recognize it and usually for the most part men just SHY away and that's what we want for throes of us who are straight. Be aware of all surroundings but don't make eye contact, which will indicate your not interested, no one will make a move and BE CONFIDENT and smile. Just smile at women, not the same way when were men of course, but comment their purse and how well it matches their shoes and compliment their hair. Next thing you know, LOTS OF INTERACTION. :) have fun and good luck.

[Carrie R]

Almost always home my myself when dressed, except for chat rooms I suppose. Did go out a few times back when I could afford to, can't even afford to get out much dressed as male these days, but very hopefull that will change soon. I've never been any good at meeting women due to my shy nature.

[NicoleScott]

I often had the choice between being with other people or staying home alone to dress. I chose being alone a lot of the times - that's the strong drive to crossdress. Now, I have more company than I want, and not enough dressup opportunities.

[jsunic_1978]

qiit being shy, thats my problem to! the more i go out as Jen, im really not shy. Just be the best you. laugh a little. You are cute..:)

[VS Fan]

I'm married with 2 kids, but since it's DADT for the most part, I feel very alone when I dress, or when I want to talk about this part of me, but don't out of deference to my wife. Funny thing is, I'm not sure i'd even feel comfortable attending an event or anything with other CD simply due to how "serious" some of us take this and how my "presentation" would pale in comparison... (a little jealous here, i'll admit it, on how good some of you look) although the camaraderie would be nice if there was a "beginner" event haha. VS Fan

[Nikki Buck]

I am totally nonpassable, but a cd friend has taken me both emfem to a great club there and I felt great. Noone even laughed or made any snide remarks It really helped my self esteem

[MicheleCooper]

That is how I feel as well, my girlfriend tolerates the femme side, but we do not talk about it. Many times I wish there was a club or bar designed for cross dressers going from beginners to 'pros(?)' to head to just to hang out with others. Not looking for pickups or anything like that but just a place to go when we need the feeling to socialize.

[Cheryl T]

I think many of us have the same feelings. We are social animals afterall. I dress every day at home and sometimes I just need to get out and interact with people. I'm not trying to shock anyone - I hope to blend in and just enjoy the day out like any other woman.

I'm in agreement with Kim. We need the interaction with others. Isolation is not something we humans tolerate well.

[simalina]

When I first started I was perfectly fine with crossdressing home alone, but with time it is just not.. enough. Too bad I live in such a small community.

[cathie pantyhose]

everytime I dress I wish I could share the experience with but I have my own hang ups to over come. I have only dressed in front of two people in my life. One a ggf who loved it and another a boy friend who also loved it. So its always been sexual. I'd love just the company.

[jsunic_1978]

I go out to all female clothing stores ans shop for women's clothes when im a man also. Believe me, women loves that. Im sure thed wish their men would shop verses just a gift card. I show pictures from my phone of me as Jen to the sales ladies they say, PLEASE.... come in dressed next time :) Start with this as well ladies. Good lick everybody/

[Sharon B.]

Living in red neck country I would love to find another crossdresser or an understanding woman to go out with that lived near by. I think it would be wonderful to be able to go out shopping as the woman I am at times.

[Monicamaryjay]

I am in the same boat. I used to live in a large city, in an area where the GLBT community was centered.
I could have simply gone out for a walk, where there were lots of others, but I now live in a smaller town where that will definetely not work out.

I do crave contact with others like me. I have found one support group 1 1/2 hours drive away, and I attended dressed in a skirt. it felt fantastic!
I stopped to pump gas on the drive back home. It went very well but it doesn't feel like enough.......
I would love some more like-minded social contact.
Monica

[Barbara Jo]

Personally, I don't go out in public at all anymore.
The main reasion is I really hate heavy makeup and I feel my beard shadow will be visible otherwise .

So,, I just dress a bit at home now.
I wear panties 24/7 and a bra daily. Most of the time when home alone, I just add a simple casual/house dress with slip or just add a silky nightgown to my bra and panties . I rarely apply makeup .

I also have my apartment decorated rather feminine as a woman might telling people that a former wife/girlfriend decorated it in case anyone might be "curious" about it.
Basically, I live as a single woman at home.

Sadly, I presently have no CD friends. Being 65 years old, just about all my friends have either died or moved away .
It would be nice to at least have a friend to share thoughts, etc. and just be a friend for non CD activities who also happens to know about my CDing .

[Maria 60]

Sometimes when i look in the mirror and say to myself, all dressed and nowhere to go.

[Eddie]

I can totally relate. I went to a halloween party a couple of years ago en femme and it was one of the best times I have ever had. Most of the girls loved it and we talked about heels and makeup and girlie things. One guys wife even asked me to sit on her husbands lap so she could take a picture. The best moment was when one of my ex'es friends asked me if she could use my lip gloss. It made me want to go out en femme all the time. ( my feet hurt for a week after from wearing my heels all night ) Sadly, that was the last time and only time I have been out dressed up. Waiting eagerly for another opportunity to do it again. In the meantime, I am also happy but alone :)

[Diversity]

While I enjoy dressing en femme at home alone, it is a bit boring at times. I am beginning to want to go out into the real world dressed en femme, but at this point in time, my preference would be to go it alone and discover my inner feelings about doing this in public. Also, if I got embarrassed for one reason or another, I would not want to be embarrassed in front of another friend. I'd rather take it on the chin alone.
I am still feeling my way around this CD'ing thing, since I came out of the closet with my wife, who is not interested or willing to participate or see me in any way shape or form. I guess I am in a 'self discovery' mode at present, and enjoying my journey in my own way and in my own time. I am not sure what the future holds, but I can say that I do not see me ever giving up dressing en femme. It's exciting and fun!
Di

[Barbara Jo]

Sometimes when i look in the mirror and say to myself, all dressed and nowhere to go.

Exactly.

Dressing as a female at home is one thing but, getting "dressed up" (iincluding makeup) is done for the benefit of others to see.
If no one will see it/you, why bother?

[Thera Home]

Its all fun no matter what you decide to do, some like me keep it a private matter and some like to go out. Just have with it for crying out loud.

Thera

[Joanne f]

I often wonder if it is to do with acceptance, it is all very well to accept yourself but sometimes there is a need to know that others accept you for what you are , hence the need to be with others while you are dressed.

[Barbara Jo]

I often wonder if it is to do with acceptance, it is all very well to accept yourself but sometimes there is a need to know that others accept you for what you are , hence the need to be with others while you are dressed.


Yeah thats' about it.... for me anyway.
It's like, "look at me, this is what I am and what I like to wear, etc" without them knowing that I'm really a male. :)

[Rachel Morley]

I don't know where you live but I strongly recommend that you find a TG support group in your area. Just Google your city name and the words "crossdressing support group" or "transgender support group" and see what comes up. I can't tell how much being part of a support group that has lots of social events has changed my life for the better concerning my CDing. Almost all of my time socializing is now done en femme. I promise you if you find the right group you will have a ball :)

[Lillyasia]

Coming out of the closet and straight into the world is a big leap. Part of us wants acceptance and another part fears rejection. The fear can be numbing especially if your confidence is not so high.

I'd like to make sure I'm passable and prepared before going out. And I'm a long way away from that. But still dreaming...

[jaanine]

i can and i am tired of it i am going out one way or another xo

[Sandy Michaels]

i'm used to being alone. i prefer it that way, in drab. but when i dress i feel alone. but i come to this site on an almost daily basis. it helps. especially if you are in areas where it isn't exactly safe to be open. i do talk to GG"s about it alot.

[Diversity]

You are actually not alone at all! There are many others who feel like you described in your post. Have you considered joining any local support groups?
This is one of the many reasons this forum is soooo good for us all! Cheer up, and enjoy your time being dressed en femme! I wish I had the opportunity right now, but unfortunately I don't. :(.
All the best,
Di