Jessica86
09-20-2012, 05:02 AM
Update to a previous post.
My wife and I have been having issues for a long time. Things came to a head last Sunday, when my wife made plans for me and her to go out together (dressed). I sleep a weird schedule due to working nights. I woke up hearing my wife talking to someone. I asked her who was home, and her brother was there. I noticed there were bags and an air mattress by the door. I asked if he was spending the night (he's 21) and she says yes. I was mad because Sunday was my only day off to do something like that. We also planned it a week before. So, I let her do her thing with two more friends that came by. They stayed, partied, and I left to help my brother with his own relationship problems.
My brother, when it comes to women, finds THE worst ones. He came home to find his things on the front lawn. She locked him out. He's 31, older than I am. I'm the youngest. So, I try to talk to him, and he shuts down. Doesn't listen for nothing. So, what a day this is right now. I leave to talk to my sister (the oldest) and she is at my parents home, screaming about what is going on with my brother. I was asked if I could help, and told them I tried. My sister says "He won't leave because he does what she wants. She knows what he knows, so he's protecting someone from getting told on.". I instantly knew what this was. "So, if we find out who he is protecting, then he will leave.". So, my parents are the only family that didn't know I am a crossdresser. My brother's girlfriend was threatening to tell my family about me if he left. So, like the brother he is, he put up with crap just to save me in y parents eyes.
I smack the table and say "Alright. He's protecting me. That's what it is. He doesn't want me to be hurt. So, yall will find out this weekend when he gets his things from the house. I'm a crossdresser. Have been since I was five. I've even tried counseling people around the area in this. I can't control it, I'm pretty good (ha! Pretty....) At it. I'm sorry if you are all disappointed. Your son is a crossdressing cop!" My dad looks at me first, and has tears in his eyes. I have....NEVER seen my dad cry since my mom left him for a week when I was like 6. He looked at me, while my mom was looking at him. He tells me "Why did you hide it for so long? You still do it?" "Yes." He comes over to me, and sits next to me. "Breaks my heart you feel like you couldn't trust me." He says. "Wasn't that. I remember the day I graduated, you were proud. The day I held both my baby boys, and handed them to you, you were proud. The day you saw my badge get pinned on me, I mean. I didn't want to ruin that.". "I am proud of you! You've always been the brave one of our kids, and this is no different. Takes a lot of balls to do what you did. I support you with it. I think it's great you are supporting others like you as well." My mom says she wasn't surprised because she found women's clothing in my room while growing up. She said she approved too. So, that turned out good. We really didn't have much time to talk, as it was 11pm, and my dad needed to sleep for an early work day.
Left there, and approached my wife. We talked of seperation due to the day long argument of her cancelling our plans to have fun for herself. I finally threw all of my feelings on the table. She's a wonderful woman, and I know I'm lucky to have a supportive wife. Thing is, no person is worth being miserable. She did admit she was wrong, and cried for about an hour due to her realizing how close we were to seperating. She tells me "I don't know why you're still here. I've treated you like **** these past few weeks!" Told her I did because I love her and don't want to seperate. She says she does approve of Jessica still, and cried happily when I told her about my parents. That was our biggest fear because my dad used to be so strict. So, things are looking up and have stayed that way since Monday. I have tomorrow night off. She said she isn't answering her phone, and Jessica will come around for sure! She even said I just need to go to a bar or something at night (I'm awake at night) while she is sleeping. I'm not going to a bar (duh) but I might go out later as well. We'll see how things go. Everyone she knows works week jobs, so I doubt this one can get cancelled. She even has a baby sitter, and it's my sister. So, let's hope! I'm ready for a night. It's been ridiculous lately.
My wife and I have been having issues for a long time. Things came to a head last Sunday, when my wife made plans for me and her to go out together (dressed). I sleep a weird schedule due to working nights. I woke up hearing my wife talking to someone. I asked her who was home, and her brother was there. I noticed there were bags and an air mattress by the door. I asked if he was spending the night (he's 21) and she says yes. I was mad because Sunday was my only day off to do something like that. We also planned it a week before. So, I let her do her thing with two more friends that came by. They stayed, partied, and I left to help my brother with his own relationship problems.
My brother, when it comes to women, finds THE worst ones. He came home to find his things on the front lawn. She locked him out. He's 31, older than I am. I'm the youngest. So, I try to talk to him, and he shuts down. Doesn't listen for nothing. So, what a day this is right now. I leave to talk to my sister (the oldest) and she is at my parents home, screaming about what is going on with my brother. I was asked if I could help, and told them I tried. My sister says "He won't leave because he does what she wants. She knows what he knows, so he's protecting someone from getting told on.". I instantly knew what this was. "So, if we find out who he is protecting, then he will leave.". So, my parents are the only family that didn't know I am a crossdresser. My brother's girlfriend was threatening to tell my family about me if he left. So, like the brother he is, he put up with crap just to save me in y parents eyes.
I smack the table and say "Alright. He's protecting me. That's what it is. He doesn't want me to be hurt. So, yall will find out this weekend when he gets his things from the house. I'm a crossdresser. Have been since I was five. I've even tried counseling people around the area in this. I can't control it, I'm pretty good (ha! Pretty....) At it. I'm sorry if you are all disappointed. Your son is a crossdressing cop!" My dad looks at me first, and has tears in his eyes. I have....NEVER seen my dad cry since my mom left him for a week when I was like 6. He looked at me, while my mom was looking at him. He tells me "Why did you hide it for so long? You still do it?" "Yes." He comes over to me, and sits next to me. "Breaks my heart you feel like you couldn't trust me." He says. "Wasn't that. I remember the day I graduated, you were proud. The day I held both my baby boys, and handed them to you, you were proud. The day you saw my badge get pinned on me, I mean. I didn't want to ruin that.". "I am proud of you! You've always been the brave one of our kids, and this is no different. Takes a lot of balls to do what you did. I support you with it. I think it's great you are supporting others like you as well." My mom says she wasn't surprised because she found women's clothing in my room while growing up. She said she approved too. So, that turned out good. We really didn't have much time to talk, as it was 11pm, and my dad needed to sleep for an early work day.
Left there, and approached my wife. We talked of seperation due to the day long argument of her cancelling our plans to have fun for herself. I finally threw all of my feelings on the table. She's a wonderful woman, and I know I'm lucky to have a supportive wife. Thing is, no person is worth being miserable. She did admit she was wrong, and cried for about an hour due to her realizing how close we were to seperating. She tells me "I don't know why you're still here. I've treated you like **** these past few weeks!" Told her I did because I love her and don't want to seperate. She says she does approve of Jessica still, and cried happily when I told her about my parents. That was our biggest fear because my dad used to be so strict. So, things are looking up and have stayed that way since Monday. I have tomorrow night off. She said she isn't answering her phone, and Jessica will come around for sure! She even said I just need to go to a bar or something at night (I'm awake at night) while she is sleeping. I'm not going to a bar (duh) but I might go out later as well. We'll see how things go. Everyone she knows works week jobs, so I doubt this one can get cancelled. She even has a baby sitter, and it's my sister. So, let's hope! I'm ready for a night. It's been ridiculous lately.