Lorileah
09-20-2012, 12:43 PM
I am no longer closeted to virtually anyone I know.
I have been suppressing it to the majority of the veteran's club I belong to but my closest friends knew (look back about 7 months ago about going to karaoke....). This has been a subject of slight jabs and innuendos since then. All in good fun. But I still kept it quiet because there are a certain number of people in the club who I don't think would understand.
NB, yes I know we are often wrong about that but still I don't feel like rocking the boat at this time
Last night though one of my friends, a woman, was telling everyone at the bar about how I helped her find some ballroom dancing shoes and how I had such wonderful taste and...how great my legs looked in heels :eek:
I have tended bar at this club before and the main bartender is a "Guy" guy. He talks about guy things all the time. I was reticent to expose my "secret" to him (like it was a secret...the day after I walked into karaoke I am sure most people in the club knew). But now I was caught. I showed him my photos, he liked them (wasn't overly exuberant but he smiled and nodded at each one). I thought, "well that is out now, maybe I can tend bar again but wear something besides black slacks" :D
I went back to my group at the table when the bar tender came over maybe an hour later.
"Can I ask you a question?" Oh oh. I thought, well he thought about it and now would be the classics. I am willing to answer anything people ask just to clarify the TG community so...
"______ said you were a 'T'. I don't think you are a 'T'" That was new. Everyone here knows the nomenclature and we still argue it all the time (Marleena...here is a combo of the Outed thread and the Label thread).
"I am a 'T'" I told him. That confused him so I continued, "What do you think a 'T' is?"
He whispered "Transvestite." I almost laughed. In my world a Transvestite is not what I am...but we won't go there. I tried to explain the big picture of everyone under one giant umbrella with unicorns and rainbows and all is wonderful...didn't work. So I just said "what do you think I am ?"
"Crossdresser." Ok we will go with that. Glad it wasn't Drag Queen ;) I did tell him that I was a "T" as in transgender and probably on the scale...transsexual. That didn't even scare him. I said I had tried to keep it a secret from him a long time but he just smiled and said "I have known over a year." That would be 3-4 months before I ever physically came out to anyone in the club. Bartenders notice things and the good part... they keep it to themselves
I have been suppressing it to the majority of the veteran's club I belong to but my closest friends knew (look back about 7 months ago about going to karaoke....). This has been a subject of slight jabs and innuendos since then. All in good fun. But I still kept it quiet because there are a certain number of people in the club who I don't think would understand.
NB, yes I know we are often wrong about that but still I don't feel like rocking the boat at this time
Last night though one of my friends, a woman, was telling everyone at the bar about how I helped her find some ballroom dancing shoes and how I had such wonderful taste and...how great my legs looked in heels :eek:
I have tended bar at this club before and the main bartender is a "Guy" guy. He talks about guy things all the time. I was reticent to expose my "secret" to him (like it was a secret...the day after I walked into karaoke I am sure most people in the club knew). But now I was caught. I showed him my photos, he liked them (wasn't overly exuberant but he smiled and nodded at each one). I thought, "well that is out now, maybe I can tend bar again but wear something besides black slacks" :D
I went back to my group at the table when the bar tender came over maybe an hour later.
"Can I ask you a question?" Oh oh. I thought, well he thought about it and now would be the classics. I am willing to answer anything people ask just to clarify the TG community so...
"______ said you were a 'T'. I don't think you are a 'T'" That was new. Everyone here knows the nomenclature and we still argue it all the time (Marleena...here is a combo of the Outed thread and the Label thread).
"I am a 'T'" I told him. That confused him so I continued, "What do you think a 'T' is?"
He whispered "Transvestite." I almost laughed. In my world a Transvestite is not what I am...but we won't go there. I tried to explain the big picture of everyone under one giant umbrella with unicorns and rainbows and all is wonderful...didn't work. So I just said "what do you think I am ?"
"Crossdresser." Ok we will go with that. Glad it wasn't Drag Queen ;) I did tell him that I was a "T" as in transgender and probably on the scale...transsexual. That didn't even scare him. I said I had tried to keep it a secret from him a long time but he just smiled and said "I have known over a year." That would be 3-4 months before I ever physically came out to anyone in the club. Bartenders notice things and the good part... they keep it to themselves