Wife wants us to go see male dancers...

[Miss Mandy]

I have always had a bit of a submissive side with regard to my CDing. Tonight my wife said I am forbidden to ever look at any pornography or attend strip clubs. I have no desire for either and happy to comply. I may also not dress without her participation as well. Also, I have become her personal cosmetologist which is a dream come true.

However, in an unexpected twist, she wants us to go to a male chippendales-style show with me fully dressed as her girlfriend. I am surprisingly excited by the prospect (not so much by the sight of male strippers, but rather going out as my wife's BFF. What am I to make of this?

[Kate Simmons]

Beats me Hon but I think it would be a lotta fun. You could act like a regular girl going ga ga over the guys and even put tips in the G-strings. Not an opportunity I would pass up for sure. ;):)

[StarrOfDelite]

Have fun slipping a dollar bill into the dancer's g string. LOL!

[Stephanie Miller]

Strip clubs are out, but male dancers in? Sounds like someone is using dressing as a leash of sorts in order to start controling. Time for a serious talk. Doesn't matter if you like it or not that she's "allowiNG" this....it's time to talk.

[Ame Anderson]

Summit. Relax. Enjoy.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Jessica, That sure sounds like a lot of fun.

[celtic.blue.eyes]

Even though I would have no interest in seeing male strippers, I would take her up on in a heartbeat. For you, the real show would be the reactions of the audience. But most of all, it could be the start of some really fun times in the future.

[Lorileah]

Have a good time. :)

[Amy R Lynn]

Its interesting that she forbids you to go to strip clubs, but yet its ok for her to go with you to a male strip club. While it does sound like it would be fun hanging with the girls, it does sound very one sided. Its ok for her, but not for you. I would be cautious, but definitely intrigued. It could be a lot of fun.

[Melissa Rose]

I would not over think it and just go and enjoy it. I've been once with some GG friends and it was a blast. Also, we also saw the movie Magic Mike. The movie sucked, but the dance scenes were fantastic so we didn't care. It does help if you like hot, cut guys though.

Keep in mind, there is a difference between men going to strip clubs and women going to one. This is an over simplification and generalization, but it tends to be more sexual for men than for women (more, not all versus none). For women, it tends to be more about having fun, letting go and getting wild, and has less of a sleazy element.

[Cynthia Anne]

I would go and enjoy it; but at the same time I would keep my graud up just in case Stephanie Miller is right!!!!!!!!

[becky77]

It would be worrying in my relationship but we are all different, if it ticks your box go along with it, have fun you can always say no if you feel its gone too far.

[Shari]

Sounds like the relationship is a bit lop sided. You do what you do.
However, I've always wondered just how raunchy women can get in an environment like that. Should be fun to watch.

[Jill Devine]

Strip clubs are out, but male dancers in? Sounds like someone is using dressing as a leash of sorts in order to start controling. Time for a serious talk. Doesn't matter if you like it or not that she's "allowiNG" this....it's time to talk.
Hmmm my thoughts exactly. Think something is brewing there but I guess time tells all.

[Rachel Lea]

Don't know what she wants either. Another thought had crossed my mine, Does she want both of you to go home with men?

[RachelDenise]

Do what you wife says. It's for the best. Enjoy being her girlfriend. It might be fun!

[STACY B]

Just go ,,, Ya need to start worrying when she wants to bring one home ! Cuz if you don't yull wind up tied to the Bed with a Red Ball in your mouth an then you WILL do what she says ,,,LOL,,,,, Have FUN !!

[Beverley Sims]

Go out, try some female interaction with your wife and maybe if it develops with a sinister plot talk to her.
Be careful in how you portray yourself in front of your wife and the male strippers.

[Cheryl T]

Sounds like it could be a fun night out...
Remember to bring lots of small bills and enjoy yourself.

[monalisa]

You should agree to go and who knows they might drag you up on stage to dance with the men. Wear your sexiest outfit.

[EllenJo]

Yes it does sound like fun and you get to go out with your wife. Just be ready for action when you get home because these shows usually get women in the mood. Not be sexist, just speaking from experinece years ago when my wife went with her friends and what a night when she got home.

[heatherdress]

I concur with all that has been said. There is a red flag here but seems like an exciting event she wants you both to participate in. Go and enjoy. Maybe the fact that you play a submissive role prompted the her to introduce the show idea with a prohibition that is meaningless because you both know that you don't go to strip show or porn sites. She seems to want to participate when you crossdress by having you, the submissive, ask permission. She also wants you to be her cosmetologist which is terrific. Hopefully you fully dress, play the role and enjoy applying her makeup. If you are both happy and respectful and loving, it's OK to have boundaries and role play. Enjoy the show.

[flatlander_48]

Strip clubs are out, but male dancers in? Sounds like someone is using dressing as a leash of sorts in order to start controling. Time for a serious talk. Doesn't matter if you like it or not that she's "allowiNG" this....it's time to talk.

Agreed. This requires an explanation. I'm not saying don't do it, but I do think the wife needs to explain this contradiction. She may not realize what she said.

[farrah60]

I think it be fun just to be one of the girls. enjoy!!!!

[larry]

You said upfront there was a submissive side when you crossdress. Sounds like heaven to me..

[Angela Campbell]

Doesn't sound odd to me at all. It looks like a dominate - submissive relationship developing. This may sound alarming to a dominate personality who is subject to the domination but to a submissive it can be just right. It sounds to me like the wife is going along well. If you trust someone...I mean really trust them, I have found being submissive to them is very comfortable for me. I tried both sides as I had a SO once who was mostly submissive and wanted me to dominate her. I did not know how so we spent time with me being submissive and her being dominant so I could see how it worked. I found I did not like being dominant at all. Different strokes.

[Miss Mandy]

My wife and I have a very vanilla relationship. We have no desire to ever cheat on each other...ever. However, when I become Miss Jessica, I do so with her support and with the understanding that I am to serve her or do whatever she wishes. In the past, this has consisted of being her housemaid or more recently, her personal make-up assistant. This is the only way we have found for my crossdressing to be a part of our relationship. Although I have multiple graduate degrees, I just love and cherish the opportunity to become her ****ty, long-nailed, heavy make-up wearing, VS 120 smoking, ditsy girlfriend. It releases a side of both of us that we never knew resided within us...

[MissTee]

If you love and trust her then go with it. My wife and I enjoy sub/dom play, but neither would be comfortable with that as a lifestyle. We have the typical husband and wife roles we enjoy, and some would say that has me naturally dom and her sub. we love, love, love swapping roles on occasion, though.

That said, as long as it's play and you keep the fantasy a fantasy then you'll be fine. If this elevates to other parties being invited into the relationship then stop immediately. That's heartbreak waiting to happen no matter how it's spun.