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IMkrystal
09-29-2012, 10:43 PM
This past Monday during my therapy session the therapist used the term “escaping from reality” after I told him that during the past weekend because of my depression, I just lie in bed and watch TV all day and night. As I was leaving the session I poised this question to myself “Is escaping from reality the reason for my crossdressing?”

On Thursday I met with my psychiatrist and mentioned to her my infatuation with this phrase (I have told my therapist about crossdressing but not my psychiatrist) She said “people escape from reality all the time I.e. watching a movie or reading a book, because it alleviates stresses we face in the real world, but lying in bed watching TV all day is not the best way to escape. You need to get out and do things and just try to talk to people.”

Today went out lunch, did some shopping, called inquiring about a new car, talked with my mother, washed dishes, and picked up around my apt. I also went on line and Google “escaping from reality” and found songs, books, and forums dealing with this topic.

Returning to my original question “Is escaping from reality the reason for my crossdressing?” My answer would be yes. Right now I am escaping by writing about it. I feel the Crossdresser forum serve as a way for many of use to escape by reading about individuals like ourselves, sharing their problems, questions, advice, and comments which the real world has no connection with. Over the forty plus years I have identified with crossdressing, the excitements and urges have waned. In its placed the realization of loneliness has set in because of the crossdresser label I have given myself. I wish more people, especially women, could understand this, but that is not reality.:daydreaming:

outhiking
09-29-2012, 11:24 PM
Funny, but when I dress, I feel like I'm accepting reality as I am doing something that feels natural and very real to me. But, I usually do work when dressed, so I guess I'm already deep into reality to begin with.

FrillyShelly
09-29-2012, 11:30 PM
I have to admit I do the same. I love to be able to dress-up and escape the world for a while.

I think it would be great if it was so much more in my life than that though......

Angela Campbell
09-29-2012, 11:49 PM
I do not escape from reality...reality avoids me sometimes. My invisible friend told me.

docrobbysherry
09-30-2012, 12:32 AM
The LAST THING I want to see when I dress is me! I've had plenty of reality the rest of my life and it's OVER RATED! Sherry rejects ANYTHING that has to do with THAT!

How many other 60 year old's do u know that r having this much fun?

Kate Simmons
09-30-2012, 04:39 AM
It depends on how you define "reality" really. Every one's version of reality is somewhat different. I would say the right version is the one that works for you.:)

Celeste
09-30-2012, 05:22 AM
I feel different about "reality",I mean there isn't a broad shift for me when I dress and it doesn't feel like a form of escapism.Its more like an activity that I enjoy that just sends me.Think of a wonderful vacation where you can control the entire itinerary and then come home when you please..it feels a lot like that for me.

I also feel it changing all the time,meaning its changed into something I don't have to do all the time,but,thats ok too.I'm pretty interested in how many see it as a form "escapism". Doesn't escapism imply that we are leaving something less desirable behind?Do we have jump to this quick label always?I don't think so...its just another way of attaching a stigma to something that is great fun for me.I'm thankful to have found a comfortable balance in all the activities in my life,cding included.That balance translates into it hurting no one else,and that's paramount for me.

Shari
09-30-2012, 05:31 AM
Nothing else comes into my world when I have the fineries on. It's sort of like a drug and yes, you can become addicted too, as you all well know.
Escape from reality? Yep, I'll accept that definition too.

DAVIDA
09-30-2012, 05:49 AM
To me, this IS my reality.:)

noeleena
09-30-2012, 05:53 AM
Hi,

My reality for now is or my real life is being in pain extreme as iv said a little about elsewere, no meds will help .so its get through the day & try to be as cheefull as i can,
So would i like to excape you can say that again.....YES....

Other wise, my life is compleat as itll ever be ,, family time, to do what i love doing being with my lovely women friends just hanging out like to day, enjoy doing things i like ....no... i dont wont to excape to where, a mind blank iv been there before 6 to 7 years no thats not for me, once is enough,

I have a life i love & every moment is precious, to excape my life is like saying iv nothing to live for or enjoy.

...noeleena...

Beverley Sims
09-30-2012, 08:28 AM
Get out of the doldrums of depression by getting out more.
I think I would also share your problem with your psychiatrist.