Why?

[JennyCD]

Ok. We are CDers. Somehow, some way, we are wired just a little different. Some of us are split pretty much down the middle and are basically both genders. Some of us are predominantly one gender or the other. Some of us feel like we are one gender trapped in another gender's body.

Why?

Many of us suffer a great deal of anguish and turmoil in our lives due to this. Is this something we choose? Knowing the troubles it causes, I doubt that. So my question is why? Why do we suffer the trials we suffer?

Is it some kind of genetic defect? Is it some kind of genetic advancement? Is it some psychological aberration?

I know that every one of us has thought about these questions. I am curious as to what conclusions many have drawn. I don't have any answers, only questions.

[eleventhdr]

I think there is perhaps a little bit more to it then just all of that really. So maybe later we can try to explain it indeed it is worth it to try anyway!. Suzy!.

[Helana]

Everyone asks why?

Why am I not rich?
Why am I not beautiful?
Why am I short not tall?
Why was I born black not white?

The list of why's is endless. Everyone sees disadvantages in their personal lives so we all suffer trying to deal with our perceived inadequacies.

My best advice is to stop asking why and just accept you are what you are, and enjoy life. Its all about attitude. Is the glass half empty or half full?

[GypsyKaren]

Why am I right handed instead of left? Who knows. I stopped trying to figure it all out a long time ago. Instead, I have embraced it, and enjoy it for all it's worth.

GypsyKaren

[Michelle Jo]

Why I Crossdress? That is the easiest and the hardest question to answer ...

Easiest because it feels right ... I enjoy emulating the feminine gender ... I long to feel pretty, desirable, sexy ... I adore everything about the feminine gender and love to present myself as a lady.

Hardest because of the fact that I am willing to admit my masculine side is a huge part of who I am ... and with out it I would never have found the wonderful lady I am lucky enough to have been married to for over 29 years ... and I know she HATES everything about my CDing and refuses to even acknowledge that any part of me is feminine ... I love her dearly and completely .. she is not only my wife but my best friend and soul mate and knowing that my CDing upsets her and still I can not or will not quit goes against everything I believe true love is based on.

I am Bi-Gendered ... meaning I have both a strong masculine side and a softer but still well defined feminine side to my persona ... and both of them work together 24/7 to make me the person I am ... so how can I deny part of who I am? I can not change the way I am or how it makes me feel ... and so far I have not found a way to satisfy both sides without allowing my feminine side to participate in everything that the feminine world has to offer in the same degree and manner that i allow my masculine side to participate.

Confusing yes .. and I apologies for not having the words or communication skills to better state my views on this question.

Your Brother & Sister from Kansas,
Micheal & Michelle Jo

[Wendy me]

ok why's??? good question see we spend our lives asking why , abought everything ..i did too...i often worndered what would have happened to me if i got the answers to all my why's growing up... would i have understood why i was diffrent than the outhers out there??? could if i knew back the the answer to why although born a "male" did i feel like something was wrong that the wires were crossed or what ever would i have truly understood that thay could be "fixed"?? or perhaps this is as good as it gets not quite fitting in as liveing as "him" ....and not quite fitting liveing as her eather kinda like a freak show in progress......then to realy helpe me out some groupe of do gooders come up with all theise silly lables cd. tv,ts...and so on...i have wasted soooooo much time trying to fit in in eather side ,, then lables need one of them too...you know what i say the hell with the lables and the hell with what you are and what you or anyone elese thinks you should be .... just be you thats all you can ever hope to be is you ....and it's sooooo ok not to have a clue just what that is tooo most of the "normail" people out don't know eather......

[cathy b]

i have to agree with helana. don't knock youself out worringabout it. why torment yourself when you can just accept it and enjoy yourself.

[Jasmine Ellis]

Good question love. I just don't know, all I can say is at the age of 14 in my sisters room I tryed her clothes on and loved the feel of it all and been dressing ever since. I just can't think of any "WHYS"

[Raychel]

WHY?? As far as I am concerned. I have to say that I don't know the why. But for me it doesn't really matter. I know that it is who I am and I am having fun being me, and sometimes even more fun being the dressed up me:D

So WHY, Who cares. Life is to short just have fun.:Party2: :twirl:

Happy Thanksgiving

[Julia Cross]

Hi Jenny,

I too agree with Helena,

I have struggled with this for years and basically come to the conclusion, I struggle because I have doubts in who I am. If I accept myself, 100% for who I am then I can move forward and grow. I dress because it is a reflection of the real me, how it is percieved by others, well that is dictated by societies prejudices and I am not going to be controlled by that. If we, CD's, were more confident and also showed some common-sense when dressing, we would like find acceptance soonr than later. The main thing is to believe in oneself otherwise why would others believe in you.

Julia

[TGMarla]

Despite all the answers that state that instead of wondering why, just enjoy it (and they're right, by the way), it's still an interesting psychological question, and one that is worth talking about.

You mentioned "wired differently", and frankly you may not be too far off base. I was 12 when I started. Once I tried on a pair of pantyhose, I was hooked. Yet, another young boy may try on pantyhose, and never have the urge to do so again. Indeed, he may be repulsed by the thought of doing so. (His loss, not mine, by the way!) But for many of us, once we tried on some article of feminine attire, we were drawn into a lifelong (Habit? Obsession?) of crossdressing. And it rarely stopped at the clothing. Most often it included female emulation, with wigs, makeup, breastforms, foundation garments, etc.

Why do some get hooked while others don't? Our brains somehow have a succeptibility towards emulation of the other gender. For some reason, we are closer to the female gender than other males are. Put simply, we were then, and consequently are now, wired differently.

And I don't believe that this makes us any less men. It is simply another facet of who we are. Men with a gender gift.

[Nikki Dee]

I'm convinced we were just the "victims" of a wiring fault at birth...I've been TG like forever...I don't analyse it anymore..I'm too busy enjoying what I now see as a wonderful gift.....Anything that feels this good...can't be that bad.!!!
Love Nikki. xx

[Holly]

Why? Because!

[Bernadina]

Why? Because!

And why not?

After all we are all human beings and there is no such thing as normal.

[KathrynW]

I'm convinced we were just the "victims" of a wiring fault at birth...I've been TG like forever...I don't analyse it anymore..I'm too busy enjoying what I now see as a wonderful gift.....Anything that feels this good...can't be that bad.!!!
I've seen a few people proclaiming cd-ing as a "gift". Unfortunately, I just don't see my cd-ing as a "gift". I dunno...maybe I'm more warped than most.:(
I'm sure my life would be better and I'd be happier, and more emotionally healthy...IF I could somehow wrap my mind around, and embrace this concept. If I only had a dollar for every hour I've agonized over the "WHY" of all this...Donald Trump would be poor in comparison. I'm not sure if "why" will ever be answered by me, or by any of us for that matter. I guess "why" isn't really important, but I doubt many of us will stop trying to figure it out.

[Amber]

I watched this documentary. Apparently the brain has various reseptors which are stimulated by hormons (testosterone i guess). Some or all of these resepters may be defective, thus the body is influenced and becomes male and the mind is left in limbo or some femine state. cool hay.

Genetic defect - its evolution baby!

How things are panning out - soon they will be able to cancel out "bad" genetic trates in unborns, bad hearts, low iq, missing the toilet bowl etc. Im not saying transgenderism is a bad thing but it is a blessed curse which society might deem unecessary.we might be the last of our kind :)
lets enjoy it.

[erica12b]

i like to ask why is it not excepted for men to where dresses, (for the longest time we had the short ones) or makeup, why are men suppose to be strong and silent,why are some men more competitive than others, these are why questions. I am who and what i am ,because (I AM)

[gennee]

Why do I CD? I just love to wear women's clothes. Prior to this summer, I had no desire or thoughts to crossdress. One day I just had the urge and the rest is history. I love my masculine side and my feminine side, too. I am a different person and at peace with crossdressing. I am having fun.:Party2:


Gennee:)

[Julia Cross]

As I read through these posts I am also watching a program on TLC, titled The Woman With Half a Body, yes, she has nothing below her ribcage and what an uplifting program. This woman has done it all, she married, had a child against all odds, manages the entire family, crippled dad and mentally challenged brother, she's a mechanic and has restored a Mustang.

My point, be thankful for what you are and what you have. No one is perfect.

julia

[Kathleen3359]

Well i have quite asking why? And just accepted for me to be me
And if other people caint accept you then they are asking why.
So dont worry about it be you for who you are. And dont let anybody change that.. Live your life and dreams
Kathleen

[Veronica E. Scott]

WHY!!!

I can only speak for myself when I first started dressing it felt like all the pieces of the puzzle called me came togather and I was a whole person, not male nor female just me all togather at one time,It has taken some time to figure all this out and have excepted this in me and I say why not. I don't have an issue with dressing the only regret is that it has put a hugh strain on my marriage but I continue to do it any way. Life is not fair or predictable.Except who you are and enjoy life for what it offers.