Does it upset you to see a woman dressed attractively?

[harley47]

When we go to live theater I see women actually wearing dresses or suits and-this time of year- sheer panty hose-not 'tights'. I feel a mixture of admiration, envy, and sadness. I admire that -despite the super grunge look everywhere-they know how to dress like ladies (in my early 1960's criteria). sensible lower heels, nylon pantyhose. a well fitting dress. Yet, I know that I have to keep my pantyhose concealed under male slacks, my breasts restrained by a bra so I don't show too much-as an outward presenting male, this will never change.
So admiration and envy collide-and momentarily, at least, I am sad.
How do others feel when they are in a similar situation?

[NathalieX66]

Yep.....happens all the time.

[Mythic]

I get upset seing women wearing cute things I can't pull off. But there are male things I can't pull off either.

[Tara D. Rose]

I admire their beauty, but I'm not jealous though. I do respect them more for putting forth the efforts it takes to go all out and and present themselves looking nice and very well dressed. So many dress, heels, skirts, florals, hair well nice and styled. I applaud them. If you can look real good then do it.
On the other hand, I wish I could do that though.

[whowhatwhen]

I'm just jealous of the fact that they don't look like men.
The clothes and makeup aren't of interest, it's interesting (and a bit sad) to look at women and see how natural they are.

[Diane Smith]

I admire a well dressed woman, but I've honestly never felt jealous -- I always use it as an opportunity to study what she does to look good. Hopefully, if I learn enough from watching others, from time to time I'll be the one other people are looking at.

- Diane

[suchacutie]

I love to view an attractively dressed woman with perfect makeup! I love figuring out what makes her outfit work, the details of her makeup, and all the rest of it that goes with a confident woman. How else to know what we should be doing then to observe the masters?!!!

[Eryn]

I have to admit that one of the worst things about going to musical or live theater performances is seeing the GGs dressed nicely and knowing that I cannot. It leaves a hollow feeling, perhaps a yearning, inside me. Wearing a nice dress makes each lady a small part of the cultural experience while wearing drab clothing makes me merely the background.

Occasionally I do get a chance to dress for one of these events and it makes me feel so good! It makes the event much more enjoyable for me.

[ArleneRaquel]

I admire elegantly attired women, I wish that I could emulate them.

[heatherdress]

I have never felt jealosy. I admire my wife's appearance and enjoy when she is dressed up.

[biggirlsarah]

Although I really admire a well dressed woman and yes it does make me feel a little empty inside because of what they have available to them , but what really does depress me is when I see a really nice looking woman who takes makes no attempt over her appearance ,I suppose they call it the grunge look , and sorry it is only an opinion but it really dosent work , even in drab i prefer to wear clean shoes,trousers and a shirt as opposed to jeans dirty trainers and a scruffy tee shirt .

[donnalee]

To me, it's unadulterated admiration. One of the things that attracted me most to my late SO was her sense of style and this was back when there WAS such a thing.

[noeleena]

Hi,

Not at all because i can wear what ever they wear & go were ever they go. I may not do the Feminine look yet that does not stop how i look as a woman ,Or being with my many women friends & we do a lot together. & that means being dressed in period wear, & normal life for me every day is being a woman.

...noeleena...

[Cheryl T]

It used to bother me that I would see someone dressed impeccably in a beautiful dress or outfit that I would love to wear, but know that I could never look that way. It's natural to feel that way as we all have dreams, but not the figure or the opportunity to live that dream.
I no longer feel like that as I finally found who I am and I dress for no one else...just me.
I wear the clothes that flatter ME. I wear the outfits that make ME feel good.

Now those I longed to be are simply guides to the styles and fashions that I CAN wear and DO wear.

[Beverley Sims]

If the clothes are clean, and the woman is sparkling, the fashion is just her taste and however messy it looks to me there are others that like what I consider untidy dressing. It takes all kinds of evening wear to make an evening out. :)

[erickka]

I love to see a sharply dressed woman. I don't feel envy at all, I just admire her and take a mental snapshot of her style, so that I may somehow use that information to improve on my own looks.

[Cynthia Anne]

I love women too much to be jealous over them! I guenn that's why I dress like them!

[Karren H]

Yes it does upset me.... alot.... that most of them are wearing ugly ass jeans and not dresses and skirts!! lol

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Harley, When I see a very well dressed lady I like to use that to help me copy that look the next time that I dress

[STACY B]

Jealous ? Maybe ? But what always fasinated me was I wanted to know WHY ? Why certain woman wore hose ,,Why they wore Heels more than Sneakers an Flats ,,Why some of them wore hose instead of socks under there clothes ? What made them different from the rest ? Why some woman wore dresses more than pants in an inopertune time other than for religion . Why ? I always wanted to know ,,You would always see that one Lady that did this ? Never knew why always wanted to ask her an the one that got me the most was the woman you an me know that can wear heels with jogging pants an make it look good ,, Envy for sure ,,,Jealous a little bit ,,But I'm making up for it now !!

[Kate Simmons]

I think it's great but by their own admission, many can't or won't maintain it for long.:)

[Joanna41]

Looking at a well dressed lady becomes a teacher without even knowing it. We all scan over every detail she has to offer. Being a cd I am able to appreciate the effort she has taken to present her appearance for us to view. My wife has been a great teacher for me. She catches me all the time looking her over as she is one who dresses attractive. She doesn't dress that way to grab attention from anyone....she just likes to look nice.

Joanna

[katie73]

what i get more envious about isnt so much the outfit they wear, its the fact that they can wear it whenever they want. like i will see girls on their way to work dressed in something id like to wear, and what would get me most is the fact they probably took like 2 seconds to decide to wear it and it was no more an important or significant thought process to them than going to the loo or making a cup of coffee is. to them its the most natural thing in the world yet to me it would mean everything to feel like i could just wear stuff like that whenever i wanted myself

[Desiree2bababe]

Usually made me want to go shopping, when I see a well dressed woman.

[Pretty in Pink!]

I have a deep appreciation for the hard work that it took them to look that good. I never think that it takes them two seconds. I think that there were hours of frustration, doubt and finally acceptance. The female inside me applauds them ... and then picks them apart. :o)

[Sarasometimes]

Being a hetero male I have that view of possible attraction first and then the envy hits. As for the question about why some women dress more femininely, we should know that answer. Women are all along that same gender expression continuum that we are on! Some have a need to never leave home without makeup on and others prefer to go natural with thier hair back in a simple pony...
One thing that helps me with that envy feeling is if I take the opportunity to learn from her outfit how I can better present myself when dressed. Or maybe I catch a glimpse of how she has her hands, or watch her get something out of her bag to learn those mannerisms.

[Tina B.]

I live is a small laid back tourist town, when I do see a well dressed lady, and that's not that often, I find it a real treat! Why would I be bothered by them, when I can watch and learn, it can be a great fashion show. But here most don't even dress for church, you have to wait to get invited to a wedding to see really nice outfits.
Tina B.

[il.dso]

Great post and very interesting comments.
I also have had these feelings of awe, respect and jealousy.
I have tried to keep my feelings under better control in these situations but I start to lose it when
I hear a woman complaining about wearing her pantyhose or high heels when that's exactly what I do, especially in public.
I guess we think they're lucky to be all dressed up while we underdress or stay in the closet in our homes.

[stephNE]

Never upset. But I do hate to see a nice looking young lady in sweat shirt and baggy jeans, unfortunately I see that look everyday. I always want to see them look feminine, never tired of seeing all the differrent looks women have.

[Cary]

I love seeing a well dressed woman. It's a rare sight these days. There is no envy. I would actually like to see more of it. Seeing women dressed up or looking good in a outfit that I like puts me in my pink fog.

[Joanne f]

Must be something wrong with me as it is pour envy and jealousy :sad:

[Alice Torn]

Good thread! I can sure agree. I feel weak, or intiidated a bit around well dressed women, but i often cannot help but tell them how nice their look is! There is a bit of sadness, because i have never been married, and have not had a SO for decades. still a virgin. I do envy them a bit , as it is not a guilt or shame thing for them to go out, looking smashing! Where, for me, it is a very scary thing to go out dresed as a well dressed lady. Sometimes, it is weeks between dress or skier sightings around here!!! I agree Karren. The masses of females in jeans, ans also, short clippe dhair, turns me almost sick to the stomach!!!

[Alice Torn]

I meant to type skirt, not skier!!! Good speller, but lousy tyoer here! Senior moment.

[May(be)]

I was going to make a post on this exact topic! I see women out and I go through that entire mixed bag of emotions, but then it morphs into anger. Not at the women, but at the world and at myself because, damnit, the world isn't fair and I will always come up short! Being an adult CD, though, is learning to accept those facts. I don't feel these pangs while dressed, though. While dressed I am far too self-conscious and self-absorbed to really notice other women.

I can totally relate to your feeling, Harley. I can't escape it and I even feel this way when I go somewhere as mundane as jury duty. That's what happens when I don't take a book to distract myself and spend all my time deconstructing my situation and women's presentations.

[Michelle V]

I truly understand why women love shopping, their clothes, accessories, make up, everything is sooooo beautiful, sometimes it just suck not to be able to openly enjoy an appreciate it all

[Melissa Rose]

Jealousy? No. Envy? Maybe for a microsecond. Why go down the negative emotion path when it is something I have absolutely no control over. They are who they are, and they dress the way they do. I have no control or say over it so why spend negative emotional energy on it. Jealousy and envy makes me focus on what I do not have instead of focusing on the great things I do have. I can only be the best that I can be and have learned to be happy with it. Trying to be someone or something else that is not obtainable is usually a journey of futility, frustration and failure.

Inspiring? Yes. Learning experience? Yes. One thing I can control is how I dress and my fashion choices. Instead of being jealous or envious, I'm thankful for having the opportunity to be inspired and improve myself.

[Ceri Anne]

I may have missed the point here. As long as you are out of the closet, there is no reason you cannot go to society events, weddings, theater (in fact the artistic community is usually the most accepting) or wherever dressed. You may get an odd glance here and there, but if your comfortable and the people your with don't have a problem, nothing to worry about.

That said, I enjoy seeing the laidies all dressed up. Its one of the things that inspire me to dress well. Its not competition, but inspiration. As was said earlier, there is no better place to get ideas and tips.

[Stephanie47]

I love viewing the female form in a pretty dress, and, yes, even if she is not wearing a dress. There are women who know they are attractive and have great poise. Even at the Y I see young women who are well dressed for the occasion, i.e., running. They have nice color coordination, etc. I see women at the mall who are attractively attired. I do not envy them because at the time my mind is in male mode. I see way too many women who could appear very attractive, but, their mind set is not there. That being said about women, the same can be said of men.

And, yes, there are time I see an attractive woman wearing a pretty dress that I would really like to have in my wardrobe.

[Jeninus]

Seeing a beautifully-dressed and made-up woman gives me a wide-ranging sense of yearning -- that women in general don't present that way, that the standards of western dress for women have collapsed, that I have only one life to live and that I can't come back as a female. Oh well, if I did have a second life as a woman, with my luck I'd probably be born in a society where I'd have to wear a black robe and head covering that would hide everything but my eyes.

[Elle1946]

No it doesn't upset me, I enjoy looking.

[Alicew]

Upsets me to see them dressing unttractively such a wasted opertunity should be frowned upon but then i have a sqewed view point of the subject i sometimes think i was born 40 years to late and would of loved growing up in the glamourous 50s sad to see almost all women now walking around in jeans and hoodies if you got it flaunt it not cover it up.

[cyndigurl45]

Never upset. But I do hate to see a nice looking young lady in sweat shirt and baggy jeans, unfortunately I see that look everyday. I always want to see them look feminine, never tired of seeing all the different looks women have.I agree 100%. I would also add besides the baggies inappropriate age fashion, lets face some women just shouldn't wear a mini......

[kellycan27]

Never upset. But I do hate to see a nice looking young lady in sweat shirt and baggy jeans, unfortunately I see that look everyday. I always want to see them look feminine, never tired of seeing all the differrent looks women have.

The rub is that most women are feminine and they don't feel the need to prove it to anyone else... even themselves. The instances of men in dresses saying that they have better fashion sense, better color coordination, or claim to be a threat to GG's is pretty amazing.... to me at least.... just saying

[Melissa Rose]

Upsets me to see them dressing unttractively such a wasted opertunity should be frowned upon....sad to see almost all women now walking around in jeans and hoodies if you got it flaunt it not cover it up.

Sloppy dress or presentation by anyone is a shame on some levels, but it is the free choice of each individual along with the resulting consequences that result from it. For a community that often voices displeasure or scorn at society for judging or ridiculing them for the way they want to dress, the same courtesy or acceptance is not given back by some members of the community. While I understand the thought and feeling, it does come across as hypocritical and judgmental at times. If we want cross dressers not to be bound by social clothing and fashion constraints, why should GGs not be given the exact same freedom? While loose jeans and a sweatshirt does not show the female form or falls under the current definition of feminine attire, why do guys get to dress just as poorly and not get slagged in the same respective way for it (it is not showing their masculine form)? Do we negatively judge all guys with decent bodies that do not wear tight shirts and pants, or do not wear a suit? Again, I get what is being said, but it is often coming from a skewed perspective driven by cross dressing desires.

If the thought is why do so many people dress so poorly then that is a completely different story. Then again, dressing poorly is fairly subjective.

[April_Ligeia]

The only thing that upsets me is that I can never look quite as long or as closely as I would like.

[Lady Catherine]

I love to see a well dressed woman. Proper ladies. I wish more women would dress nice more often. I'm a leg man and skirts on a lady really turns me on. And doing their hair all nice. Updos. I love updos on women. Love them and want to emolate them.

[CONSUELO]

I find that I just take pleasure in seeing a well dressed person who has taken the trouble to make themselves look their best. I feel the same way when I see a well dressed male. When I was a child I remember my Mother taking a lot of care with her appearance before going on a shopping trip into the nearby city. I was never a fan of casual Fridays either and always tried to dress smartly for every day in the office. I felt that I owed it to the company and to my fellow employees to always look "professional" and be prepared for any likelihood of a visitor coming from another company.

[sherib]

Does it upset you to see a woman dressed attractively? No way! I love to see women dresses up attractively. That's how you get ideas to help you dress just as attractive. Plus that's one thing I thing most of us try to be or look like.

[NicoleScott]

It seems like a silly question. WHY would I be upset because a woman looks good? Are you upset because Derek Jeter can hit a baseball better than you can?

[carhill2mn]

I do not get upset; I enjoy! I may feel a bit jealous, though.

[Lorileah]

Can't say as I do get upset unless they are fashion disasters and I ask myself "don't they have a mirror?". Do you get upset when you see someone driving a Ferrari? Ok I get jealous until I realize they really don't do well in snow and I would still have to have my SUV anyway.

Why let it bother you? Do you think they are out there trying to ruin your day? And why do you think you have to hide your hosiery? I kind of doubt they are jealous because you "get to" wear something. Being envious of an outfit is human nature, getting upset over it is a little out in left field

[Angela Campbell]

It is like hearing a song I like on the radio....beauty is beauty whether a song, a painting or the glory of gods work in a female form....no I am not jealous I am enthralled.

[harley47]

thanks for the many comments. I truly adore women who go to the trouble to look as good as possible. even a plain looking gal can look great if properly put together. I respect that it takes a bunch of effort to look this nice. I think that many women are frustrated by the current grunge look-women who perhaps want to wear a dress and sheer hose are reluctant if everyone else is in jeans, for example. Dress code pressure! Everyone is supposed to conform.
Interesting how lovely Kate Middleton has helped hosiery sales in England, from what I read--other young women see her and recognize that most legs look better with flattering hose. Thank God the dreadful white hose of a decade ago aren't in fashion today. They made women's thighs and calves seem larger-hardly the aim of most women!
I am not really upset, just reminded that, sadly, this won't be my lot in this present existence.
PS--my wife (who tries to understand) goes along with this sort of fashion review-we will agree, for example, that a pair of red pumps are pretty, go with the outfit. I don't elaborate on the inner feelings I have-what purpose would be served.
thanks for the honest, friendly remarks-no nasty jabs as some posts get.

[MaryAnn40c]

Yes it does get me upset....the other night I was shopping for food when this beautiful long legged lady walked by wearing my short shorts! Showing her great legs...I was about to tell her I have the same ones but her BF came up behind her...I have expressed to some of my other GG's how luckey they are that they can wear anything anytime! I have great legs and would like to show them off more offen but....:sad:small town people are rude.

[Missy]

i look and think yes or no will it look good on me as for as being upset not a bit but i do feel for them for it takes time to look that good and at times I am really lazy

[Alicew]

Sloppy dress or presentation by anyone is a shame on some levels, but it is the free choice of each individual along with the resulting consequences that result from it. For a community that often voices displeasure or scorn at society for judging or ridiculing them for the way they want to dress, the same courtesy or acceptance is not given back by some members of the community. While I understand the thought and feeling, it does come across as hypocritical and judgmental at times. If we want cross dressers not to be bound by social clothing and fashion constraints, why should GGs not be given the exact same freedom? While loose jeans and a sweatshirt does not show the female form or falls under the current definition of feminine attire, why do guys get to dress just as poorly and not get slagged in the same respective way for it (it is not showing their masculine form)? Do we negatively judge all guys with decent bodies that do not wear tight shirts and pants, or do not wear a suit? Again, I get what is being said, but it is often coming from a skewed perspective driven by cross dressing desires.

If the thought is why do so many people dress so poorly then that is a completely different story. Then again, dressing poorly is fairly subjective.
Ok maybe upsets wasnt the right word was intended as a pun dissapointed should of been used,and yes i realise its ironic but at the end of the day every one looks good with some effort to see a good looking women going out in grotty smelly clothes makes me ctinge tired of the sunday morning car boot routine of bumping into young lady's walking around in baggy pjamas and ugg boots class it seems is dying out.
Even i on the odd occasions i get forced to socialize atleast make the effort to become presentable and i hate what i look like,the least that could be expected for a female where dressing and attractiveness is like a competition would be some effort.

[Moxie]

It's nice to doll up sometimes and feel pretty - but everyday? I personally couldn't handle the stress. Being female means we live in real fear of unwanted male advances, and less sexy clothing gives us the opportunity to live out our lives without this fear. Until you've literally walked the walk of a girl among men, you can't understand how threatening this can feel.

Plus, try chasing a sticky, busy toddler in a mini skirt! :)

[darylinb]

I love seeing girls and ladies all dressed up nice. I love seeing them in heels and short dresses showing a little cleavage etc. I'm jealous but I love it. I take the time to look at them to get pointers on how to do makeup and and the fashion looks as well. I watch them walk and body movements, I watch to see how they look at others too. Men stare, women are more casual but they too look. I just love women and how they look and get to ndress and I try to pickup on their wmoanly actions.

[darylinb]

DoorMat, You are so right about the fear of unwanted male advances. Being dressed does not mean that we're trolling for a man. (Some may be LOL) We just want to dress how we feel but we all need to be aware of our surroundings and just be careful. Good luck with the toddler, love to see the mini skirt though...

[Alicew]

I love seeing girls and ladies all dressed up nice. I love seeing them in heels and short dresses showing a little cleavage etc. I'm jealous but I love it. I take the time to look at them to get pointers on how to do makeup and and the fashion looks as well. I watch them walk and body movements, I watch to see how they look at others too. Men stare, women are more casual but they too look. I just love women and how they look and get to ndress and I try to pickup on their wmoanly actions.


Its not entirely females only that have to watch out for male advances tho depening on how you pass even to just what sites you frequent is enough to be stalked these days , i thought it was just BS this "admirer" malarky untill i recently updated a online proflie to a little more inkeeping with my state of mind and i ca no lomger use it its spammed up yo the nines with propotisions funny thing is ive never even posted a pic of my self or even suggested i pass in the least .

Had to retire the account and make a new subtle proflie just for peace of mind was scary.

[Barbara Jo]

It does not upset me as much as it frustrates me.
I long to be able to exhiibit to the world that I m also a female who can expess her feminimity by action actions as well as letting in people know that I waer panties, bra, etc as any femal would .

It is is particularly frustrating for me because I have a fairly feminine body but, I have a somewhat heay beard stubble to deal with that requires heavy makeup which I hate and is rarely apropriate.

I wish I could just get dressed and walk out the door like any other female.

BTW my avatar is somewhat old. I have sinced , gained some weght and I'm now more shapely, due to a couple of things. :)

[Karren J]

No I admire her like I might a beautiful painting, if anything I get upset when you see an attractive GG dressed like a slob. What a waste of something I wish I could be

[Anna Abwaerts]

When I see a well dressed woman, I say in my head "yep, she does it right". There are only few ladies in my town who know how. Ad it kind of adores me- no matter what the weather is, somehow they manage again that classy look, every time I see them.
Sometimes I grab some ideas from what I saw around in town. But to answer thread title question, no, it doesnt upset me.

[JamieQ]

No I admire her like I might a beautiful painting, if anything I get upset when you see an attractive GG dressed like a slob. What a waste of something I wish I could be

Wow! You could not have said that any better!

[Rachel Morley]

No I don't get upset and I don't get jealous of GGs ..... not any more that is. I used to get jealous until I embraced my feminine side and started going out en femme to public mainstream places, including the theater. In other words, nowadays I don't get jealous because I know in a few days or maybe a week I'll be out in public dressed in something similar myself! :)