Another first for me!

[confusedinheels]

Well, since opening up to my wife about my desire to dress, things have been moving slowly, but in a healthy direction. She's still kind of iffy on the subject, but doing her best to be supportive, while I do my best not to overwhelm her.

BIG step today, at least for me. :D My wife had some shopping to do anyways so I went along and we did some shopping for my feminine self! With plans to go OUT for the first time in a couple weeks, I needed a few things. Makeup for one (shes offered to help with that lol ) and purse, and a couple other small items. It was certainly a new feeling to be standing in the store aisle discussing what color eye makeup and nail polish I would like. :heehee:

[bridget thronton]

It is a very big step and your wife was there to support it

[Megan Briana]

This sounds great! I hope all of it is every bit as fun as you want it to be. I have a GG friend that knows I cd, and I am hoping to do some shopping with her. Shopping with someone has got to be fun, so on that note, I am happy for you and just a lil jealous. lol

[Tracii G]

Baby steps dear have fun with it!

[Alice B]

I also agree that that was a big step. Not only for you, but especailly for your wife. Well done.

[Leah Lynn]

Just make sure she is the better looking lady. It can have a damaging effect if you outshine her.

[JenniferR771]

I recently talked to a cd wife. She commented that it "...felt like a third person had entered her marriage." Her husband had an intense interest or hobby that was ignoring her.
Never ignore your wife's feelings. Don't be self-centered. Pay careful attention to her moods and body language.

[confusedinheels]

Thank you all for the kind words! Supportive group as usual. ;)


I recently talked to a cd wife. She commented that it "...felt like a third person had entered her marriage." Her husband had an intense interest or hobby that was ignoring her.
Never ignore your wife's feelings. Don't be self-centered. Pay careful attention to her moods and body language.

Thats makes sense, though my wife seems to be more worried about losing her masculine husband. lol I have a tendency to get carried away and dive head first into anything I do. I have kind of had to "rein myself in" just to make sure Im not moving too fast for her. Like I said, shes still quite unsure how she feels, but is being very supportive. Actually....since I have been putting extra effort into communication and keeping things open, our relationship seems to have improved.

Baby steps for sure....but each one is more fun that the ones before!

[sweetgal]

confused....you are so luck you have that worked out with your wife.

[heatherdress]

Good for you - opening up to your wife. Good for your wife - her understanding. But - it seems like a big jump to be already planning to go out together. Seems way too fast for your wife's sake. Maybe you should slow down a bit and make sure she is comfortable being alone with you dressed first before you go out and she has to worry about what other people think. Take it slow and make sure she is comfortable when you are both alone. Enjoy learning together, have fun, be sensitive, communicate, assure, show your appreciation. Going out together is less important than understanding, communicating, accepting, becoming comfortable. Good luck.

[Eryn]

Shopping is one of the most enjoyable things my wife and I do together. Be careful that your wife is getting the attention that she deserves. It's easy to slip into the fog and forget that you're partners in this.

One other thing, while it is wonderful that your wife is offering to help you with your makeup you should realize that GGs sometimes don't know everything that is needed to get a femme look from a male face. Do some research on your own (the Janet's Closet videos are a good start) and learn how to pull your own weight at the makeup mirror!

Above all, you and your wife have fun!

[linda allen]

Shopping is one of the most enjoyable things my wife and I do together. Be careful that your wife is getting the attention that she deserves. It's easy to slip into the fog and forget that you're partners in this.!

Yes, my wife and I shop together now. Usually, she gets more than I do, but that's fine. That's part of the "getting the attention that she deserves".

For confusedinheels, take it slow and easy. Feel her out and don't move any faster than what she is comfortable with. In some respects, you are ahead of me because I haven't gotten to the point of makeup or nails yet. As for going out, I'm working on it for Halloween (dressed as a normal female), but if I sense any uneasyness, I'll pull back and wait for another time.

[kimdl93]

I think you're taking a wise course...both by involving your wife and taking it at a mutually comfortable pace.

[suchacutie]

"together" is really the key, I think, so that there is never an uncertainty or miscommunication. After all, that is really what most of us are looking for!

Your story made me remember that first time, standing in a drugstore, and my wife turned to me with mascara and eyeliner without worrying about what anyone around us heard and as she hands them to me said, "you'll need these now".

These little milestones are just fabulous!

[Beverley Sims]

Well good for you, these days I generally do not discuss makeup, jewellery and lingerie in store lineups whilst dressed.
I will carry an armfull of lingerie, jewellery and makeup to the cashier whilst in drab tho.
The eavesdroppers and curious will take more notice of a conversation than what you are carrying.

[linda allen]

Well good for you, these days I generally do not discuss makeup, jewellery and lingerie in store lineups whilst dressed.
I will carry an armfull of lingerie, jewellery and makeup to the cashier whilst in drab tho.
The eavesdroppers and curious will take more notice of a conversation than what you are carrying.

It's hard to find women's braceletts to fit a man's wrist, even if you're relatively small boned. So last week my wife and I were in a resort town for a festival and she was trying bracelets on me to see if they fit. She was a little cautious about anyone watching, but she did it. I got a few but had to put back many more.

I don't worry about what strangers might hear or see. I don't know them and they don't know me.