What a let down!

[Marsha Riley]

I normally only totaly dress in the fall, winter and early spring. Weather and family related. Well, this weekend was it! Went by myself - well my dog went along - to my condo in Branso, Mo. This is not the hot bed of our type of activities. Unpacked, shaved every hair on the body. Dressed - looked good for an older women, I thought. Went to the store, got supplies for the weekend. No problem. Monday got up and dressed, went to the outlet mall. Walked around for an couple hours, then back to the condo. Cooked an early supper, and spent the evening by myself. Bored to death! I have reached the point I want to be around others - as Mary! I want to be in a group as a female. Treated as one of the girls. Getting dressed is no longer enough. I am wanting to be out and about. I have never been much on bars. I just want to go shopping, eat lunch out, drink a glass of wine with friends as Mary!!!!! I want to go to a tupperware party! Hope this makes sense.

[ChristineReid]

I know exactly what you mean! I just went out to a restaurant on my own - which was a great experience - but who goes to a restaurant on their own?? I contemplated putting apost on here ot ask if anyone else was in Basel (Switzerland) today to go out with for company. But thought it was a waste of time - what are the chances? My wife has said that she would go out with me - but I still can't get to grips with that - and anyway the only chance I get to dress really is when I am away on business (in Switzerland). Cx

[Marsha Riley]

I look around at all the groups of girls, guys and girls, and couples. So just so want that. I want to look like, be treated like, feel like a WOMEN!!! I want to do it all before I am to old.

[Erica2Sweet]

It's a pretty common step in the process that many of us go through to get to a place where we express ourselves in ways that makes us feel balanced, as opposed to feeling isolated. The trick now is to find ways to get out and socialize with others that work for you and your lifestyle.

[Dawn cd]

Mary, I hear some undertones of "poor little me" in your post, as if you expected people to fawn all over you just because you wore a dress in public. Nobody owes you (or me) anything. We have to make our lives! To make contact with others and be accepted "as Mary" you have to risk a little more than you're presently doing...either that or lower your expectations. I understand that the Mary part of you wants validation—and that's a good thing. But it sounds to me as if your Mary is just hanging around the edges of life.

[lingerieLiz]

What did you do to meet people and more importantly have them meet you. Don't feel bad I've seen a lot of people that don't know anyone, but they sit home by themselves.

I've gone shoping with a lot of women. They know me because we have a lot of similar interestes. The same goes for guys and couples.

[Leah Lynn]

This past weekend I worked up the nerve to go to a bar in a nearby town. Okay, the lights were low and the crowd had a headstart but I talked to a few people, and danced with a man. I'm straight, but it was exciting to dance as a woman. I didn't stay long, but it was exciting enough for one evening. Hopefully I'll do more of this in the near future and become part of a group. Just go to a public place and mingle.

[Barbara Ella]

Mary dear. Just checked your age, and you have a lot of years before you get too old. And I know a lot of older women who go out in groups. Now, if it really isn't just age, but the fading looks that girls of a certain age (65 here) must endure, I understand. I never had the luxury of being a young dresser so have no idea what I looked like, and am just enjoying the hell out of what I am right now. i suspect you will be doing the same girl.

Barbara

[jjjjohanne]

I have contemplated going to a blood bank or somewhere that accepts volunteer workers and doing volunteer work while dressed.

[Erica Marie]

Mary I know the feelings 110%. I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and things are not always accepted with open minds. I too would luv to have a group of friends to hang out with. To be able to be myself and get out and have fun without the fear of being looked at weird. Its nice that you at least have an escape place to go. I wish you the best in finding your way.

[Nikki A.]

THere are places and groups where you can meet people. Sometimes it takes work to find them, but if you do it will be worth it. it's nice being out with others.

[Marsha Marsh]

Yeah, Being in a smallish tow in the South is not the easiest place to meet other girls like me. I have thought about visiting meet up group in another city, but I just do not have the time as I am not out of the closet yet.
Mary, I hope you find some friends to hang out with soon.
Marsha

[Cheryl T]

Tupper Ware?? Wouldn't a lingerie party be so much more fun??

[MsRenee]

Hink you need to get in touch with some local groups girl Its always nice to have a few girlfriends you can hang out with and hit the shops.
Renee

[Beverley Sims]

One of the next progressive steps is yearning for company.
Try a support group or volunteer work where you may be accepted for who you are.

[Chickhe]

I know exactly what you mean... look at it this way, if you were not dressed up, would you be bored? So the challenge is finding something to do. If you can incorporate a hobby or sport you like then you make it out as a female photographer or female cyclist...., for example. Personally, I hate shopping and going to a bar or restaurant alone on any occasion.

[Diane Smith]

I keep regular appointments with my two nail technicians (one does fingers, one does toes), hair stylist, massage therapist and tattoo studio and always go en femme. These get me out and about and interacting with others, but in a safe environment, about once or twice a week on average. Although I also go out at other times, these regular events at least put a kind of base under my dressing and keep me in the game during the otherwise dry spells between parties, outings with friends and so on.

Shopping -- even window shopping -- is also a good outlet when you're a little stir crazy, and can be done solo without seeming out of place.

- Diane

[stacycd24]

Mary, I know exactly what you mean. I usually go out when I travel and that mean alone. Stacy

[Tracii G]

I have an idea my TG friend joined a local ladies club and they go out all the time,shopping ,dinner and the movies as a group.
All she did was call them and ask if was OK for a MtF transgender to join and they said sure we would love to have you.

[Renee]

Mary I know the feeling. I have done the same thing on many ocassions. Dressed up only to just sit around or maybe venture out alone. I have done the club thing a few times, but would be so much better in a group or with a couple of gal friends.

[sterling12]

And where does Mary Live? Are you in Kansas City, or St.Louis, Little Rock, or at least close to those towns? There are some great Support Groups that are located in those cities!

Want to "get out," meet The Gurls? Cool....Logical first step is to join a Group! There won't be any drinking at The Meetings, but if your new friends offer to take you out after The Meeting? I'd advise you go along and see what you might be missing. I always drink Diet Cokes, but I'm not fond of a DUI! Nothing says you have to drink.

After you get acquainted, you gain "access" to many other activities that are going on inside The Community. I just missed a large B-B-Q and get-together last weekend. I'm sure your area offers at least as many activities.....BUT, you have to seek them out! Don't whine about a lack of opportunities, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

And I'm sorry about always harping on this subject. More Experienced Gals around here have heard These Recommend's at least a hundred times. They all know this is true! But, we have Newbies coming here every day. Sometimes we have to "retell The Story."

Peace and Love, Joanie

[Marsha Riley]

Hi Sterling12!! I would love to join a group, but have had no luck finding one in Kansas City. I have done checks on line. There were a couple, but not around anymore that I can tell.

[Momarie]

I cannot think of a more rigid, prejudice place to be than in Branson, MO.

IT'S GOD AWFUL!

I adore my home state (it's so very beautiful) but come live at Lake of the Ozarks instead.

Very few billboards to mar the gorgeous views and shy on the Country Cornpone Commercialism found in Branson.

We have great restaurants, bars, attractions, State Parks, shopping, fishing, hunting and it's the known (Nationwide) as the Midwest Swingers Capitol!

Good Lord,
No wonder you are feeling let down girl!
It's not you hun....