Girlfriend Insists I Wear Her Clothes

[hotpink4me]

I have been dating this girl for less than 2 weeks, and one of the first few nights I was at her house, she came in wearing a pink and black silk robe from Frederick's.

She said how comfortable it was, and said "You should try it on"! I really didn't know what to say, so I think I just blurted out OK!

I put it on and she was like "See, I told you it's so comfy!!" I really couldnt believe it was happening. To be honest, we have yet to talk about the fact that I am a cross dresser. Kinda weird, and maybe unbelievable, but a true story.

Hopefully next time we can move on to her other clothes!! :)

[linda allen]

Well, bring her to your house and tell her you have some clothes for her to try on. Then pull out your best blouse and skirt and hand them to her!

Let us know how it goes.

[Cheryl T]

You lucky gal....go with it. If she's your size then wow....what an opportunity.

[Joanne.England]

I agree go with it and encourage her. Try turning up completely wet (when it's raining) and see what happens. Soooo lucky.

[~Joanne~]

well, since you have told her about being a CD, maybe she is just trying to show you that she understands and supports it. Of coarse, this was just a robe and shouldn't be a biggie at all. Let's see if she throws you a skirt and top to wear.

[biggirlsarah]

I remember many years ago when I was a soldier a friend of mine came to me looking a little embarrassed and asked if he could ask me a question, sure I said what is it , he said that his girl friend wants him to wear her underwear , stockings suspenders , knickers and bra, he was little embarrassed by this , I said well if you really like her then hey why not if that's what she wants you to do the go for it what have you got to lose .
I then went round the corner and thought you lucky sod. Why have none of my girlfriends ever asked me to do that.

[Kelli Ca]

Sound like your gonna have a lot of fun

[Thera Home]

I'd be a little leary of this one:heehee:
Enjoy the ride and then putt along:D

Thera

[Tracii G]

I would just come out to her its still early on in the relationship.
The robe thing I would say you know this feels really nice where did you get it?

[Karren H]

Run! it's a trap! You come out of your closet and boom.... she dumps you and outs you to all your friends!

[BRANDYJ]

I remember many years ago when I was a soldier a friend of mine came to me looking a little embarrassed and asked if he could ask me a question, sure I said what is it , he said that his girl friend wants him to wear her underwear , stockings suspenders , knickers and bra, he was little embarrassed by this , I said well if you really like her then hey why not if that's what she wants you to do the go for it what have you got to lose .
I then went round the corner and thought you lucky sod. Why have none of my girlfriends ever asked me to do that.

I would be willing to bet this friend told you this story about his girlfriend wanting him to wear her clothes was a way for him to test you and where you stood on the idea of men wearing women's clothes. Anyway, it's a good way to find out how another male friend would react to the idea of wearing women's clothes.


well, since you have told her about being a CD, maybe she is just trying to show you that she understands and supports it. Of coarse, this was just a robe and shouldn't be a biggie at all. Let's see if she throws you a skirt and top to wear.

He did not tell her he was a CD.

[dallasmann]

To be honest, we have yet to talk about the fact that I am a cross dresser.

She already knew when you began dating.

[Lorileah]

She already knew when you began dating.or sometimes a cigar is just a cigar

Wishful thinking when all she did was ask you to try a robe on. It was a robe...you know, the thing you put on after a shower? It wasn't a wedding dress.

[Tracii G]

or sometimes a cigar is just a cigar

Wishful thinking when all she did was ask you to try a robe on. It was a robe...you know, the thing you put on after a shower? It wasn't a wedding dress.

Maybe thats all it was and noting more.
Then again I think she already knows.

[Angela Campbell]

I would probably compliment her on other clothes and see what her reaction is. Or ...and I have done this.....after having sex, put on her panties when going to the kitchen to get something. If she comments just laugh about it.

[kellycan27]

Good for you... Personally I would insist that you NOT wear my clothes :heehee:

[heatherdress]

As said by Lorileah - she only asked you to try on her robe. It would be quite different if it were her dress or shoes. While the robe is exciting, don't make it something more. You should focus on building a good relationship not wearing her clothes. You will also have to be honest with her. Good luck.

[sinderella]

or sometimes a cigar is just a cigar

Wishful thinking when all she did was ask you to try a robe on. It was a robe...you know, the thing you put on after a shower? It wasn't a wedding dress.

I don't know about that, it was said in the OP that the robe was from Fredericks...I shop there all the time and have never seen "just a robe" in the place. Everything in the place screams feminine. If it was from Penny's or Wally World then I would agree.

[Eryn]

The worst thing about wearing your SO's clothes is realizing that you look better in your own clothes, items that you've picked out to look good on your body. My wife and I are the same dress size but differ by a foot in height. Some of our things work for both of us, but there are also numorous items like her dresses that are minis or tunics on me! :)

[bimini1]

What the hell? Mind-boggling. Reminds of an old girl from college days who kept telling me she was gonna makeup my face.
Well, I finally let her do it and then she turned around and got concerned because I liked it so much.
Go figure.

[ReineD]

Here's a secret about women. For us, it's not just about sex, it's about intimacy and sensuality. And what is more intimately personal than sharing intimate clothing? Men who do not CD can still very much enjoy a woman's panties. In Japan, they had (although I believe it is illegal now) vending machines selling used, young women's panties, for the men who liked to ... um, buy them and have intimate thoughts about them. Women know that men get off on sexy women who wear lingerie, and so the lingerie in itself is erotic to many men, because it has touched the woman's body and now it is touching theirs ... and not because they want to put them on for the purpose of fantasizing they are women.

This girl probably just wants to turn you on, without having any idea that you are a CDer. Lots of girls enjoy getting a little kinky in the bedroom and believe me, a little kinky play with lingerie is one of the mildest forms of kink. But, lots of girls get turned off when they discover that the guy really wants to just wear the clothes. All of a sudden, it becomes just about the clothes and the girl feels left out. And when this happens, she gets turned off. There have been countless stories about gfs or wives having fun with it in the bedroom in the beginning, and then putting the brakes on when they discovered it was more than kink.

Now I don't know this girl, her last bf might have been a CDer, she might have an inkling that you are as well and she may be wanting to help draw you out. But, if this is true then it would be the exception and not the rule. If I were you, I'd be up front with her before you put on any more of her clothes. Believe me, if she thinks this is just a harmless, kinky, intimate thing, she will not be pleased when she finds out it is more, if you let it go on too long without telling her.

Good luck!



Hopefully next time we can move on to her other clothes!! :)
You really know that you're a CDer when you would prefer to wear her other clothes than the more intimate ones that have touched her body in certain places. :) To most guys, this would be the ultimate turn on and not the cute dress she has in her closet. ... and this is what many GGs don't know how to handle. They know what to do with a guy sexually, who is into the girl more than the clothes. They don't quite know how to take a guy would would forego the girl for her clothes. There's a thread going on right now about this, and it is a puzzler for most GGs (see page 2): http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?182780-Women-at-the-office....

[k lynn]

Reine I have said it before I really like your view and take on the post you comment on makes me take the time to really get in touch with my own thoughts and feelings about the matter just read the office post and had to do some hard thinking and soul searching thank you very much k lynn

[Erica Marie]

Im gonna have to go with some of the other girls on this one ***Caution***
I told my ex later in our relationship and she was all good and fine with it, even bought me cloths. Then all of a sudden it was too much for her to understand but weird thing she found a new guy first. Anyone point is be careful. It could be that u r lucky and found the right one. Or it could be a test. Also it was just a robe, if it was anything besides pink it could have been a guys robe. Let her make the first few moves and see what happens.

[Ressie]

Ask her if she has any comfortable bras! Robes are designed to be comfortable whether men's or women's, but it's a good start.

[Jenniferathome]

You really know that you're a CDer when you would prefer to wear her other clothes than the more intimate ones that have touched her body in certain places. :) To most guys, this would be the ultimate turn on and not the cute dress she has in her closet. ... and this is what many GGs don't know how to handle. They know what to do with a guy sexually, who is into the girl more than the clothes. They don't quite know how to take a guy would would forego the girl for her clothes. There's a thread going on right now about this, and it is a puzzler for most GGs (see page 2): http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?182780-Women-at-the-office....

Ok, I'll take exception to this:-). I am a crossdresser and absolutely into my wife sexually and not because of her clothes AND I like her cute dress in the closet (as well as mine). I have not and will not ever take my crossdressing into the bedroom. I think that is a dangerous territory as a woman may think, "Is it me or the clothes that turn him on?" Regarding the other thread, again, it's not that crossdressers notice the clothes more than the woman, "some" crossdressers may. When I am people watching, I do notice how women put outfits together, but that is style advice, not a sexual turn on.

[Cynthia Anne]

There are a lot of different opinions here! I wish we knew who is right!

[suit]

I hope your telling the truth! is if so have fun! wade in, I dont think jumping off the high board the next time is wise.

then my imaginatin kicked in >> and does she like you in .what does that lead to..?.....internet story sights and a thousand images of a woman dressing a man ..frilly pink dresses, eating out of a dog food bowl. old 1950's drawings ...ooh bad porn!
filter. .001 of stories = hetro warm fun loving couple that share nice fabric, good! no $$ that story!
so It does not get told.
the rest of the stories , well you do a search !
and I know sights are financed by people with there own "bent" so it is a very warped representation % wize of real peoples fanticys.

[ThisIsBob]

There are a lot of different opinions here! I wish we knew who is right!

They're all right. :). The problem here is there's just no way to know for sure what she was thinking unless you ask. Since it's a new relationship, I would just let it slide for now. If something similar happens again, then it may be time to come out to her, or at least ask her where she wants that kind of activity to lead.

[monalisa]

Why not spend a month at your girlfriend's and see what else she wants you to wear. If both of you are having a good time don't worry about it.

[Melissa Rose]

We often interpret and see things the way we want due to confirmation bias. It could also be wishful thinking or jumping to conclusions. As others have stated, her actions could have other motives and have nothing to do with wanting to see you wearing women's clothing. Just let things evolve naturally and see where it goes. A very gentle nudge on occasion would not hurt anything, but do not force it if any kind of resistance is detected.


From Wiki: Confirmation bias (also called confirmatory bias or myside bias) is a tendency of people to favor information that confirms their beliefs or hypotheses. People display this bias when they gather or remember information selectively, or when they interpret it in a biased way. The effect is stronger for emotionally charged issues and for deeply entrenched beliefs.

[Beverley Sims]

Yes move on carefully and let her take the lead as if you take the lead it may weird her out.
Whilst she has the upper hand she can imagine you in all types of clothing and will suggest things.
She has a man she can transform, dont take the advantage away from her.
Do have a good time getting to know her. She sounds like a diamond :)

[ReineD]

Ok, I'll take exception to this:-). I am a crossdresser and absolutely into my wife sexually and not because of her clothes AND I like her cute dress in the closet (as well as mine). I have not and will not ever take my crossdressing into the bedroom. I think that is a dangerous territory as a woman may think, "Is it me or the clothes that turn him on?" Regarding the other thread, again, it's not that crossdressers notice the clothes more than the woman, "some" crossdressers may. When I am people watching, I do notice how women put outfits together, but that is style advice, not a sexual turn on.

Jennifer, I may not have expressed myself clearly. I was comparing the OP's hope that this girl would let him try on her other clothes, to her desire (I'm assuming) to keep the "lingerie sharing" strictly as an intimate, bedroom activity. She wants to do this to enhance the sex and she thinks it is about the two of them having sex together. He wants to take it outside of that and try on the rest of her clothes which is an activity he would enjoy whether she is there or not.

Disclaimer: I am describing the mindset of the average woman here. Like I said, I do not know this girl. She may already have a understanding of CDers, she may have sensed that the OP is a CDer, and her feelings about the OP may have developed deeply enough in the space of two weeks to want to help him realize his crossdressing dreams. But, if this is true then it is the exception rather than the rule.

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To everyone, on the subject of knowing what this girl's motives are, I do think that I am fairly well plugged in to what an average woman is looking for from a man in the bedroom, and this is what I am attempting to describe so that the OP can possibly not get lost in a pink fog. The reverse is true ... my SO knows much better than me, what some of the very basic sexual motives are among men. You know, the Venus and Mars thing. :p

The OP does need to be honest with this girl about what he wants, and in the course of the conversation he can ask her precisely what she wants. :)




then my imaginatin kicked in >> and does she like you in .what does that lead to..?.....internet story sights and a thousand images of a woman dressing a man ..frilly pink dresses, eating out of a dog food bowl. old 1950's drawings ...ooh bad porn!

And what would the average woman who has just known a man for a few weeks, get out of this, exactly? What, in this scenario, fulfils her own desire to be wanted as a woman by a man? :p

[Joanne f]

You could have put up bit of a fight saying , " I can't wear that it is woman's clothes ,what will you think of me " but just make sure that you have hold of them in case she agrees with you , in which case you will have to do a quick U turn and say ,"OK I will do it for you just this once" and then prey to the goods it is not just once . :lol:

[hotpink4me]

WOW!! Did not expect to get this much response from everyone!

TO clarify, she does not know that I am a CD. I don't think she has a clue about it to be honest. I don't know how she could possibly know.

YES, it is just a robe and I'm trying to keep that in perspective. Not a huge deal, still exciting though.

Probably not going to admit that I enjoy dressing up. The risk is too big, plus my main focus now is building a relationship, not wearing her clothes. lol....

[angpai30]

Yeah, a little weird on the wearing my clothes bit... I would suggest buying your own if I was ever in that situation. I am very protective of my nice feminine clothing... don't touch!! LoL!

Angela