Worries over wearing femme clothes in drab

[Tracii G]

This gets discussed by quite a few new CD's here so I thought I would relate some reactions today.
Took my SUV to the dealer to get new belts installed and was wearing American Eagle jeans low cut, stripped girls top that ends at the belt line.No belt to detract from the femme figure LOL
Padded panty ,hip and butt pads BTW no forms. Nice short suede jacket and suede boots.
Anyway one mid 40's man,one mid 30's woman and a man and wife mid 20's were in the waiting room
I was gauging the looks I got sort of a study in public behavior if you will.
The 20 somethings didn't seem to react to my attire when we chatted.The 30 something woman just smiled but I could tell she was looking at what I was wearing and scoping my sense of fashion LOL.She did say I love those ankle boots really cute.I said thanks I like your wedge boots too.
The 40's man just gave me a disgusted look for the most part as I walked out to the showroom to look at the new all electric car they had on display.
He came out there a few minutes later while I was looking at the brochure.
He looked stressed to me and I wasn't going to push any buttons to set him off.
He went to sit in the car and said wow I'm way too tall for this car I can't get in it.
I said its an ugly car why would you want to drive it? He laughed and said yeah you have a good point.
He was as nice as could be after that.
So my point is once you interact with people the TG/CD stigma seems to go away 99% of the time.
Once they get over their fear its all good!

[joandher]

And what happened ???????????????????????

[STACY B]

Yea tell us Bubble But ,,,What happen ?

[UNDERDRESSER]

Which all electric car was it?

[Sandra1746]

I wear 'plain fem' clothing nearly every day and with my long hair and jewelery it is anything but 'drab'. At first I was worried about reactions, and so was my wife, but after months of this the general reaction from people is boredom. They either don't notice or don't care about my mode of dress. I act polite (no reason not to) and smile a lot too and I have friendly chats with all sorts of salespersons and sometimes other shoppers as well.

Most other people are fine as long as you are polite, I've never had any negative comments or reactions.

Be yourself,
Sandra1746

[Tracii G]

One made by Nissan not sure what its called now.
Now Stacy who are you calling bubble but? Not me I hope?
Joandler I did notice several sales people and office types walking past the waiting room looking then turning around or going in the bathroom or getting coffee.
I'm sure the word spread around there is some man dressed in womens clothes in the waiting room LOL.
I love being different and it doesn't bother me at all.Hope they got a good look if thats what they were after.
I was minding my own business and spending money so why should they care about some tranny in the waiting room.
So true Sandra I have been doing this for a while now so its old hat to me.

[Wildaboutheels]

"The 40's man just gave me a disgusted look for the most part as..."

Often, what might "appear" as a disgusted look, is merely a look of aprehension. My guess is he wasn't quite sure of your sexual identity especially if you might not have a feminine voice? Looks to me, like he used the car as a reason to satisfy his curiosity and open a dialog with you. By backing up his "negativity" on the car, with your own comment, you mighta won him over. Maybe.

At the very least he now knows "different people" are not a threat to himself or Humanity.

Good Job!

The car is a Leaf with an approximate range of 100 miles. On paper at least.

[Lori B]

"I said its an ugly car why would you want to drive it? He laughed and said yeah you have a good point.
He was as nice as could be after that."...........I don't suppose you started chatting to him about muscle cars??:brolleyes::heehee:

[Tracii G]

No I kept my distance Lori ha ha.
@ Wild you make a good point at least he wasn't the homophobic type like I figured he was.
The service guy was nice too he never seemed put off by me.Very respectful.

[Lorileah]

what are you thinking wearing suede in a car repair place? you could have got oil on them! Really!

[Tracii G]

what are you thinking wearing suede in a car repair place? you could have got oil on them! Really!

Oh I know Lori but I wasn't any where near the service bay so I figured I was safe!!

[Wildaboutheels]

I believe it it is within ALL Humans, regardless of age, gender or Nationality to want to be "accepting" to/with others different than themselves, but the burden is on ANYone who "stands out from the crowd" in any way, shape or form to "win them over" somehow, perhaps with nothing but a nod or smile or kind word or comment or ... opening/holding a door for them... Most anything that allows THEM an opportunity to see the clothes or "presentation" are ONLY the wrapper and may not have anything at all to do with what's within.

Too bad so many here are unable/unwilling to see it.

[ReineD]

So my point is once you interact with people the TG/CD stigma seems to go away 99% of the time.
Once they get over their fear its all good!

This has been precisely my SO's experience! As soon as there is friendly human interaction where some sort of rapport is established, the focus turns to the shared experience rather than on the differences in presentation. And then, people relax. Almost never fails! :)

[Tracii G]

This has been precisely my SO's experience! As soon as there is friendly human interaction where some sort of rapport is established, the focus turns to the shared experience rather than on the differences in presentation. And then, people relax. Almost never fails! :)

That has been my experience so far.

[connie23]

I just started wearing skinny jeans and flat but knee length boots with women's sweatshirts. Almost no one notices. I think I saw someone look me over in Starbucks but maybe they were just checking out my Latte. I was surprised and pleased.
I think I will continue to push the envelope and feel like me.
Thanks for sharing, I feel mor sane.
Connie