Daisy41
10-20-2012, 10:06 AM
Friday was a day of firsts for myself. I was going to Nashville with a group of friends to spend the day on the town and end the night at the Play. I was going to be en femme out in public for the first time ever. A lot of fears were setting in and I of course considered abandoning it, but I stuck in there. Of course, I noticed all of my flaws, but my wife reassured me I looked fine. We started the day with... Waffle House. I had already eaten breakfast so I declined to eat but went with friends anyways. We decided to sit right in the sun, of all places :doh: I sweat it out (no pun intended) and we made our way to Nashville.
Once we got to our first destination, I was faced with the first time of deciding on where to use the restroom. There were no family restrooms available and I decided to stay legal and use the men's room (with a friend). That went well until I walked out of the restroom where I was greeted by a younger guy who just looked surprised and greeted me with a "oh hello!" and a smile. Whew! Glad that wasn't a bad confrontation!
The day goes on without a lot happening. I tried to go in and out of my fem voice depending on the situation. The real test came when we went to the mall and walked around (those heels, ow!) Being my first time and all I was worried about being noticed or outed. Any one experienced in going out can probably guess what I realized later on: no one noticed or no one cared. I was blending. I didn't turn any heads, parents weren't hiding their kids from me, simply point: no one cared. It's one of those things that until you experience it, it doesn't really seem to make sense.
We went into several shops and I look at clothes the way I did as a guy: sorta eye something, hesitantly walk towards it. But then I realized: I look like a woman, now is the time I can look at stuff and NOT get strange looks! So I let it all go!
Long story short, we ended the day with some food and the Play. It was my first club and my first drag show. It was very entertaining and I give kudos to those who perform and really move it in those heels. That takes some serious skill that both genders have to nod their heads to.
Lessons learned: despite all of the flaws you notice, people take the whole package and no one cares as long as you don't act suspicious. It's more important to enjoy the experience than it is to focus on what other people probably aren't even thinking.
Once we got to our first destination, I was faced with the first time of deciding on where to use the restroom. There were no family restrooms available and I decided to stay legal and use the men's room (with a friend). That went well until I walked out of the restroom where I was greeted by a younger guy who just looked surprised and greeted me with a "oh hello!" and a smile. Whew! Glad that wasn't a bad confrontation!
The day goes on without a lot happening. I tried to go in and out of my fem voice depending on the situation. The real test came when we went to the mall and walked around (those heels, ow!) Being my first time and all I was worried about being noticed or outed. Any one experienced in going out can probably guess what I realized later on: no one noticed or no one cared. I was blending. I didn't turn any heads, parents weren't hiding their kids from me, simply point: no one cared. It's one of those things that until you experience it, it doesn't really seem to make sense.
We went into several shops and I look at clothes the way I did as a guy: sorta eye something, hesitantly walk towards it. But then I realized: I look like a woman, now is the time I can look at stuff and NOT get strange looks! So I let it all go!
Long story short, we ended the day with some food and the Play. It was my first club and my first drag show. It was very entertaining and I give kudos to those who perform and really move it in those heels. That takes some serious skill that both genders have to nod their heads to.
Lessons learned: despite all of the flaws you notice, people take the whole package and no one cares as long as you don't act suspicious. It's more important to enjoy the experience than it is to focus on what other people probably aren't even thinking.